What do we say to ourselves? What do we say to our close friends? by Kate Tapper

2023-11-16 10:45:49 UTC

Harsh words when I make a mistake and nothing kind when I do something well

2023-11-16 10:46:07 UTC

I tend to try to reduce their anxiety and help them find solutions and resources for their problems

2023-11-16 10:46:43 UTC

Sometimes we can be so caught up in the cycle, that it just becomes habitual to keep working and skipping lunch etc. Not even saying critical things to ourselves anymore, as it is a given as to how we will respond.

2023-11-16 10:47:16 UTC

Supportive, kind words regardless of what they're doing or going through. I meet them where they're at and offer them what they need/are looking for

We tend to reassure our friends and look for the positives, but focus on the negatives for ourselves

2023-11-16 10:47:26 UTC

2023-11-16 10:47:32 UTC

Remind them to take time for themselves, be less critical, have more kindness...the world will keep spinning.

2023-11-16 10:47:39 UTC

I would tell myself: Just finish it, get out of it, and don't make a big deal out of it. There is no time for this!

I think the reason behind this is probably not stepping out of the situation and figuring out what was the cause of it.

2023-11-16 10:49:18 UTC

Set unrealistic expectations on myself, that can be accomplished but with more time or resources and then stress out and burnout, thinking that it will come to an end, but then there is always something new to accomplish

2023-11-16 10:49:39 UTC

It is ok, we can find help, I am here to support you.

in my perspective this is due to that fact, I am out of the situation and I can see the solution better. and I know my friend did their best. Or just this is life and things don't workout the way we plan for.