https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78 Respond to each question once initially, and then respond to at least 3 other people's posts. en-us 2021-02-11 13:44:12 UTC 2021-02-12 02:45:37 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/26a1.png gracelyn_howes https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1182366443 Instead of "yes, me too" feelings, I just felt (after I read this chapter -- and the rest of the book) that I understood the emotional lives of men and boys in my life on a whole new level. I've noticed, as a teacher, that we're conditioned (and this is my experience) to be harder on boys in the classroom emotionally. Not in grading practices, but in personal interactions. Like, I'm more likely to use sarcasm or more "mean" banter with my male students because "they can take it". However, in my experience, all students need positive nurture, and I realized ways that I was withholding that from my male students. I've noticed other teachers doing that as well. This book made me feel very called out as I learned the deeper workings of mens' emotional lives!]]> 2021-02-09 14:35:15 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1182366443 kalen_morrison https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192416976 2021-02-11 14:25:56 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192416976 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192417541 I thought it was interesting how she took the approach of saying toxic masculinity is the birth of not creating "safe havens" for men to take part in and be able to focus on themselves not what others think of them. It surprised me when she really breaks down how much men have had their emotional lives subdued yet they tend to need to express themselves more to live in a healthy manner. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:26:02 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192417541 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192417588 When I first read this chapter of Bell Hook's book I found myself dissagreeing with what she was saying but as i got further into it I started to understand it more. How personal the anecdotes felt in this reading really suprised and stood out to me. I would be curious to hear more anecotes about toxic masculinity from others.]]> 2021-02-11 14:26:03 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192417588 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192418066 I really enjoyed this text. I really liked the way she made sure to criticize the patriarchy, but also some types of feminism. I had not fully realized the magnitude of the emotional damage that our society does to boys.]]> 2021-02-11 14:26:08 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192418066 victoriarosefitch https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192418729 My immediate thoughts were that men shouldnt feel the need to hide their emotions. I am curious about "the war against boys" I kind of want to read it and learn more about it. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:26:15 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192418729 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192419261 2021-02-11 14:26:20 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192419261 albertgrider https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192420165 2021-02-11 14:26:30 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192420165 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192420348 When I first read the text, I was surprised that these issues were being discussed by someone in such detail and with accuracy. What stood out to me was the very logical backing to Hooks' whole argument as they constantly cited research-based information. I would be curious to see how this issue will change in the next decades.  ]]> 2021-02-11 14:26:31 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192420348 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192422059 My initial reaction to this text was interest. I find it interesting yet not surprising that parents will treat their boy babies differently than their girl babies. Gender norms is something that I am curious in learning more about and how we have been able to grow out of them as a society.]]> 2021-02-11 14:26:48 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192422059 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192422143 My immediate thought when I first started reading was I was shocked because I didn't expect the article to approach the situation like she did. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:26:49 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192422143 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192422188 2021-02-11 14:26:50 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192422188 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192424745 I have honestly been really enjoying the text so far. It is great to see more indepth looks into the problems faced by women in today's society as well as some of the other effects this has on men. What stood out to me the most was the discussion on how this has an impact on identity for many men and way it's important we don't set these incredible expectations so they don't end up becoming someone they are not.]]> 2021-02-11 14:27:16 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192424745 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192431232 My initial thoughts about the text were that it seemed genuine and that she really was trying to get a message across. Allowing men to be able to become more complex emotionally could have an amazing impact]]> 2021-02-11 14:28:24 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192431232 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192439352 I don't myself deal with feeling of toxic masculinity but I definitely have seen it, and when she gave examples of happens in society, I definitely understood it more]]> 2021-02-11 14:29:47 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192439352 victoriarosefitch https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192441503 One connection that I was able to make is about how men dont show emotions. Obviously I am not a male but I have two brothers who rarely show emotion and Id like to think that it is because of the patriarchy trying to show them that emotion is bad or not good for men to show. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:30:06 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192441503 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192444329 this text was well put together and i’ve learned a lot of things i did not know. what stood out was the tone of the text.]]> 2021-02-11 14:30:34 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192444329 kalen_morrison https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192445050 2021-02-11 14:30:41 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192445050 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192452732 For me I feel that anger can be displayed as a hiding place for fear and pain, however I also feel that it usually the case for many people I know. Most people I know who have gotten angry usually aren't hiding fear and pain behind it, however if someone was angry all the time then I feel that would be a big tip off that they weren't feeling ok and were accidentally lashing out because of stress.]]> 2021-02-11 14:31:56 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192452732 evansethluker https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192455035 My initial thoughts on the text were that it was a good perspective on feminism. What surprised me is that the author didn't blame men for everything. What stood out to me was the part about the parents impact on the boys' lives.

]]> 2021-02-11 14:32:17 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192455035 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192457605 I don't agree with anger with anger feeling better I think that even though it causes more action its not the type of action anyone would want. Many times it just suppresses the feelings and causes terrible actions to happen that are later regretted but with numbness nothing really happens until time has passed to be able to reflect on it.]]> 2021-02-11 14:32:42 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192457605 victoriarosefitch https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192458736 I find that my brothers do display anger more than other emotions. my older brother especially tends to get easily angered. I would say that emotions that are most accepted are anger because if you think about it the saying "boys will be boys" after a male does something totally wrong out of anger, is almost always used. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:32:53 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192458736 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192459150 I have a yes and no answer to this question. In my life, specifically my famiy, men are not afraid to show emotion. Although, men that i have seen in the media such as politics have been brought up to hide their emotions and often show anger because of it. I think that for a lot of boys who grow up in concervative families, being tought to 'toughin up' and to 'be manly' gives the false idea that anger is a manly behavior and is excepted as so. For women, the most accepted emotion by society is happiness.]]> 2021-02-11 14:32:58 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192459150 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192461024 I do find this to be true for my male family members, especially when watching them grow up, but I see this even more in media. It is acceptable for women to experience compassion, fear, pain, and just be more openly emotional in general.]]> 2021-02-11 14:33:17 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192461024 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192464669 I like how Hooks approaches this complex topic without too much bias towards women or men.]]> 2021-02-11 14:33:52 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192464669 evansethluker https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192465323 I feel like its not as normal for men to show emotion outside of the home because its just become a norm. I've seen this happen before with my peers.

]]> 2021-02-11 14:33:58 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192465323 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192470038 I feel that this is not true in my experience. While I do tend to keep things bottled up, I have an encouraging family that can help me to share my emotions and prevent me from only using anger to show what I am feeling.]]> 2021-02-11 14:34:46 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192470038 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192471839 I had a part like that happen when the text went on to talk about identity. I have never usually been one to speak up about my own desires as for a long time I thought that life was just decided for you and that was your identity. But as I have been growing older I've started to speak more about the person I want to be and the identity I want to have and it has changed my perspective on a lot of stuff and allowed me to try things that I thought I was never allowed to try.]]> 2021-02-11 14:35:05 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192471839 evansethluker https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192473445 One connection I made was that I did notice that a lot of times men just prefer to not show as much emotion in public.]]> 2021-02-11 14:35:22 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192473445 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192474800 i think this text is good and interesting to me, however im not surpised that the patriarchy affects both men and women]]> 2021-02-11 14:35:36 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192474800 gsloyack17 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192475390 I liked how the text explained parental neglect and how it shapes who we become as adults]]> 2021-02-11 14:35:40 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192475390 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192477365 This passage definitely made me question and analyze some behaviors I have observed in men, but written off as normal or natural. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:36:00 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192477365 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192478060 I do find that for me I have been very emotionless at times or only letting out "positive" emotions and bottling all my other emotions in. However I do not feel as if this has ever lead me to violence as she states. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:36:06 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192478060 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192481261 I do think that letting go of some anger does feel better than being scared or fearful, but most times women aren't allowed to be angry. If i even walk down the street with a straight it's always "smile," We need to allow people to have their own emotions when they're feeling them and never invalidate them. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:36:39 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192481261 johnjoyner1 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192482388 My immediate thoughts were about how i've never heard much about the topic of males and their emotions. This gave me a whole new outlook and perspective on us boys being held to a certain standard when it comes to emotions and how it starts at such a young age. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:36:51 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192482388 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192484945 When I read about boys being raised as very masculine while growing up I connected with that and really had a me too moment. I grew up in a blue room with lots of action figures and other masculine things surrounding me so I always had that feeling of just agreeing with whatever my parents told me.]]> 2021-02-11 14:37:14 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192484945 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192489481 i got “i get feeling” vibes about men not showing emotions because i have witness that and when she provided examples i could really understand where she was coming from]]> 2021-02-11 14:38:01 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192489481 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192489759 I did get a feeling where I could really connect with the passage and what she was saying. I don't remember where exactly it was in the reading but it was one of the anecdotes which I felt really connected with my life and what I have experienced.]]> 2021-02-11 14:38:04 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192489759 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192505729 i feel anger feels better than expressing pain and fear but anger is not considered socially acceptable for women, I feel society looks at a man who has alot of anger and rage and says " hes stressed j needs to blow off some steam" but as a women society would say " she has anger managment issues or shes crazy" Women are expected to cry when matched with obstacles while men are expected to yell and hit things. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:40:51 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192505729 johnjoyner1 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192506022 I feel like for many people anger is a hiding place. I also feel like anger is kinda shows that you are tough or something like that which makes people think that you arent sensitive or sad.]]> 2021-02-11 14:40:54 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192506022 kalen_morrison https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192513554 2021-02-11 14:42:14 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192513554 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192517382 I understood and could mostly relate to what she was saying, but the main thing that I related to was that men should show apathy towards most things in their lives. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:42:52 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192517382 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192522738 I had a lot of "I get the feeling" moments while reading this chapter. On page 37, the author talks about tradition and how boys view social and political systems. This was something that I definitely have seen happen before and have gotten the feeling that young boys would compare their emotions to the stoic and rigid behaviors of the ones they see on the news.]]> 2021-02-11 14:43:47 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192522738 johnjoyner1 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192528930 I feel like from a young age I was kinda taught to be a tough guy from my dad and I guess that has made me to the guy I am today so the text helped me understand that im not the only one]]> 2021-02-11 14:44:51 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192528930 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192533706 I feel as if as a society we've been trained to believe that men can't feel emotions like happy or sad, and can only feel aggressive emotions. Which makes men tend to bottle up their emotions which only leads to more aggression. Where as women can't be aggressive about anything and can only feel happy. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:45:39 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192533706 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192550922 this text helped me connect why certain ways men carry out emotion resonated from their upbringing ]]> 2021-02-11 14:48:32 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192550922 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192553936 The reading made me reevaluate some of my friends and families emotions around me. It made me think and they truly mad or is this a cover up for deeper emotions. ]]> 2021-02-11 14:49:03 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1192553936 https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1195205398 This reading helped me to realized some emotions that I may have experienced and it has shown me why these may have happened.]]> 2021-02-12 02:45:05 UTC https://padlet.com/gracelyn_howes/zkllz0mevxjbpy78/wish/1195205398