I think that "communication without violence" could improve my interpersonal communication in my daily life. I find that I can communicate with other people without violence. But when I was 18 or 19, I could not do that. I always used emotion to show what I wanted to say. Obviously, the communication situation is not good. Emotions would receive emotions. My request was still ungratified, and the question was also unsolved. In other words, I gave the bad feedforward messages, then I got the bad feedback messages.

I failed in some work relationships. I made some mistakes, but I learned how to communicate with other people. In another way, life is like a course in interpersonal communication. I still feel fortunate about that because my family gave me a chance to make mistakes. For now, I feel lucky to be learning on this course, and I think I could improve my communication skills more by learning English.

I will keep going to study English by using my leisure time. Typing these words is simple but accomplishing them is more difficult. I have the motivation to get excellent IELTS scores. I will achieve that in the future.

Regarding our study area, it is crucial to establish positive nonverbal communication. Considering the multi-ethnic background, we should respect others first, and we should also utilise nonverbal communication and motivate our ability to promote our study.

For example, we should keep friendly eye contact with our friends. A good attitude and active emotions could aid us in being impressed by knowledge during our learning in the classroom. After our classmates end their speeches, we should applaud and encourage them to improve their confidence, and we should also express our gratitude to our lecturer because of their conscientious teaching.

Therefore, positive directions for nonverbal communication could lead to an active future, which will facilitate our learning eventually.

 

On the other hand, independent thinking has to point out that it was developed after people left their families’ influence. People think and rethink their lives and the whole world. Everyone have the worldview, but there are also a lot people following the public opinion, and they won’t criticize the opinion which surrounding in their life. For instance, most Chinese men won’t consider whether they need children before getting married. They follow the values in society that are advocated by the government. Accordingly, most people have never analyzed their lives, including a lot of women in China. The female was civilized by the romance drama, and most of them expect the romance and they overlook the development of their career. For instance, a lot of females ignore the periods of pregnancy and lactation. My cousin spent three years taking care of children without the ability to earn money. In her experience, I believe that I could never give up my career. In addition, the other concept of self-character is invisible and unquantifiable. It was established by the experience of people and the knowledge that was learned. I always believe that the memories is the crucial part of the characters. If one person lost his memories, his character would disappear even though he was still alive.  

2. Stephen Covey: The Inside-Out approach to personal and interpersonal effectiveness means to start first with self; even more fundamentally, to start with the most inside part of self -- with your paradigms, your character, and your motives. The inside-out approach says that private victories precede public victories, that making and keeping promises to ourselves recedes making and keeping promises to others. It says it is futile to put personality ahead of character, to try to improve relationships with others before improving ourselves.

3. Benjamin Franklin: Do good to your friends to keep them, to your enemies to win them.

4. Tony Robbins: When people are like each other they tend to like each other.

5. Albert Camus: Human relationships always help us to carry on because they always presuppose further developments, a future --and also because we live as if our only task was precisely to have relationships with other people.

6. Luigi Pirandello: I present myself to you in a form suitable to the relationship I wish to achieve with you.

7. Anthony J. D'Angelo: Treasure your relationships, not your possessions.

8. Arthur Schopenhauer: Almost all of our sorrows spring out of our relations with other people.

9. Brian Tracy: Relationships are the hallmark of the mature person.

10. Walter Benjamin: The only way of knowing a person is to love them without hope.