Responsibility-Centered Discipline

Students need to be able to regulate themselves so that wherever they are, with what every teacher they’re with, they’ll be successful!

Difference between the perspective kids can’t do it and can’t get themselves to do it!

Mastering the challenging moment

Students make themselves the top of the student/Admin/teacher pyramid because they know they can play the two against each other.  This breaks trust and relationships between admin/teachers.

Pyramid of responsibility looks like intentionally putting the brain in the right place so the students can choose the correct behavior for themselves.

Self-control is a muscle and grown-ups need to coach the kids to grow the self-discipline muscles for themselves.

Non-engaging lessons are NOT the reason for behaviors!

Autonomy, Mastery's and purpose not being met will cause resistance.

Figuring out who you are through autonomous activities gives students mastery of their behaviors and then, they can find purpose.

Purpose is the best of what you've been given to give to others.

When you can come up with a way that you can... then, you can go back to.... Until then, you can walk with me, stay in for recess, (consequence).

Allow the student to come up with a way that they can autonomously master their behavior! Choice and chance to choose for themselves.

Theory of Motivation

Motivation theory is the study of understanding what drives a person to work towards a particular goal or outcome.

Think beyond what you've "always done"!

Punishment and reward both challenge kids from getting them to master their own behaviors.

If a consequence solves the problem and not the child's brain, there will be no growth!!!

When the brain feels differently than someone else, their brain will ask why it is different. CONSISTENCY!!!!

What makes kids feel strong in the classroom/building?

Meeting or not meeting the goal?

What's the benefit ratio that drives the student? Kids need to see the benefit in order to be invested. Identify the struggle that will grow the brain. emotional control, perseverance, reaching goals.

Use PBIS for skills NOT rules! What SKILLS do you want kids to learn?

I will...

The Learning Lab instead of the Turn Around Room- SOLVE the problem (kids need to come up with the solutions)

Make the plan with the kids not for the kids.

Traditional school vs Responsibility Centered School-measure these skills. We've been great at responsibility let's focus on integrity. Spiral review the PBIS agreements!

3 levels of intensity

1-Redirected quickly

2-Coaching -The ability to work through the problem.

3-They won't be redirected with all the things they've learned. They need more than the class can give.

This session taught us strategies to allow students to do the “heavy lifting” in group work, discussions, and have the teacher guide, not lead!

It reminded me of Maria Montessori who said “if the children are working as if I do not exist, I’ve done my job”.

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A feeling is your brain is taking in info and processing it. The way our brain and body make sense of what is happening in our environment. Feeling itself provides information. Feelings have a purpose. A behavior will continue because it is being reinforced.

You teach kids the 5 feeling responses- then they determine WHERE they are feeling it. Once they can determine that, they gauge on a scale from 1-10 how much of that emotion are you feeling? Rage 10- Mad- 5, 6- Frustrated 3,4- Sarcastic or Irritated 2,3

This will move them away from their all or nothing thinking. It establishes a scale

Shame and judgement about emotions.

Anxiety is fear.

5 main feeling groups- Scared, Anger, Excited, Sad, relaxed "where are you feeling that emotion?¨"turns on regulatory response

( My feelings workbook )

Teachers are being second hand traumatized- we need training and education on how to deal with our students effectively. Teachers must establish healthy authority and we are in charge. Intense with voice tone- make your point and then lower your voice to show you care.

When kids feel anger they want to feel control and power. Circumstances that they live in takes away that power and control. Anger is fear. Best self defense is your mind. "Make your wizard mind meet your lizard brain. ¨ chime and breathing technique. raise your hand when you can ´ t hear the chime anymore. Until they find the truth about anger and channel it in a positive way, they won´t get it right the 1st way. They have to make the decision to want to change but it will change their life. Have to get them to the belief of never giving up. We have to give them the hope and the information as to what anger is. Kids can become addicted to the adrenaline of the anger.

Kids watch your emotions and physical responses. They watch for survival.

Watch the language and shift it- is the feeling good or bad to is it uncomfortable and\or comfortable. Are people expressing their feelings or are they expressing their thoughts. Separate the feeling from the choice. I can have an uncomfortable feeling and make a right choice. Compare it to walking up a big hill. You may slip and fall but the more you walk the easier it will get and you will succeed.

Managing Emotions- Children who experience trauma have a lower ability to manage their emotions. less cortisol, etc. Every one of us has an emotional reservoir. Children with trauma have less of a reservoir. "Healing Hand Template.¨ Children remember a symbol more than words. ( Hand symbol ) They can remember their hand and remember to make good choices. Template to plan out trigger responses. ( Get a book of mazes for angry kids ) ( If their heart rate isn´t up have them run sprints and then do the maze )

Kids in general are being put into adult roles. Children are becoming the center of the universe before they are mentally ready. We are breeding entitled humans. Our culture has flipped it. We changed the role formation. As they get older they will start to determine who they want to be. Putting kids into inappropriate roles. Kids need boredom and downtime. Parents are over scheduling to control. It is impeding children´s development.

How do you grow empathy? You never know when your "seeds" will hit and benefit them.

1. Be authentic

2. Plant seeds- (show Nick Vujicic 4:17)-Inside out empathy scene- Bing Bong loses his rocket- sadness validates his feelings- listens and didn´t try to fix it like Joy

3. Seize powerful moments

4. Use tech relevant real life videos/ movies

5. Remember the base of every person

   
   

We are all seeking love and acceptance. Grows with human connection. We are connecting less in person- gamers, social media, etc. You need to feel all emotions- ( goody bags at birthday- ribbons at competitions ) We are teaching kids to avoid feelings. Pain is necessary for human functioning. Its a hard or uncomfortable feeling.

Interventions and Ideas:

-Angry Soda bottle- two plastic soda bottles- sprite- when anger happens its energy- it builds- if you dont do something with it you explode or boil over- tell me something that bothers you. Shake the soda bottle up and then you say now open the bottle without it exploding. Did you know there is a way to open it up without it exploding? You have to open it right away. Open it slowly and close it, and do it repeatedly. Let your anger out in a healthy way slowly and hold it. let it out slowly and hold it until it is gone.

Grounding statement- regulate a human being when you realize they are becoming dysregulated. For some kids when kids get hyper aroused- their nervous system is active ( tapping foot and anxious ) maybe before a big assignment or an amusement park. Overwhelming things. They are unable to self regulate. Between rides or transitions- I need you to give them a task or statement. ¨Johnny I need you to pick that up.¨ Establishes healthy authority in a non demanding way. We are asking too much and not telling. Healthy authority figures. It calms them down. You are grounding them. They need healthy structure .

One Minute Scolding- It ´ s not in anger . Its passion. Teaching a human being another angle in life. ( Guy talking about a girl in a sexualized way- what if that girl goes home and is molested. You have no idea what other people are going through. )

If I can just build a strong relationship for my kid

If I can just get the right consequence

Behavior change is a function of the brain.

Self control is a muscle- it needs to be worked in order to grow.

Mastery moments happen when you choose what you´re doing. Allows for a sense of purpose- a sense of who you are.

If the brain feels threatened in any way it shuts down. Physical proximity can be threatening. ( standing too close to someone) you lose the messaging. Embarassment and fear feel the same. Go into fight or flight. If teachers don ´ t have the tools they will mirror the student.

PBIS- Make them skills and not rule

Step in with your reaction rather than stepping out so sending a kid out.

Make ISS about In School Solutions- not suspensions. ¨Learning Lab¨ go experiment on yourself. ISP- ¨I solve problems. ¨

1. Use students names-nicknames they usually go by especially when talking to them

2. Protect students bubble-give them space. Be respectful with students physical boundaries.

3. Be in a learning position-work with students to come with a solution to help them succeed. Learn from them on what they might need to help their situation

4. Be aware of your voice volume- embarrassed students can’t process. When you talk quietly, students escalate in their brain. They will be curious in what you’re saying and it will deescalate their heightened emotions. Practice the skill of voice volume so that you aren’t mirroring students voice level.

• Prizes don’t give as much mastery and internalize change. Students even kindergartners, can tell when you’re using prizes to control their behavior

• Behavior isn’t all on the teacher, you need to make a system out of it. Teachers are only one part of it.

• Learn to persevere even when your brain telling you to quit

  ex)a student is defiant in learning algebra and asks when they will ever use these skills. You may never learn the algebra but you will learn the act of trying something hard even when you have no want to learn it.

• PBIS- morph into skills instead of rules

• Leading the moment- instead of reacting on impulse, use skills in those moments of students behavior

• Come back after emotions are not heightened anymore and devise a plan to fix the problem. Not effective to suspend a student and then just put them back into the classroom thinking that the time away will fix the problem.

1. Visionary leadership-helps EVERYONE get better

2. PLC- Professional Learning Communities

3. Culture of Connections-students are heard, seen, and valued

-The best day of a child’s life is the first day, make it fun so they have something to reflect about the next day and look forward to coming back. It doesn’t need to always be rules

regulations yet.

Nice bike- compliment specifically to them Create schools where people feel like they belong. Acknowledge , Honor and Connect.

need to connect with EVERY child. Use stickers to show which kids ur connection with. Make connections with the kids who dont have a sticker.

Making connections improves test scores, engagement rates, attendance rates.

• Engagement

• Climate and Culture

• Engagement

• Content Connections

• Differentiation

• Assessment

Providing experiences allows for students to be immersed in learning.

Experiences provide opportunities to learn build vocabulary, access background knowledge, allows all types of learners to be involved, students can take risks, soft skills(problem solving, regulation).

You can use experiences as pre and post test, so students can demonstrate what they've learned.

If you are asking students to provide sensory details in their writing, you can have them "blindly" feel a bowl with something you chose in it (shaving cream) and have the description words prove that adding those sensory details make the item/content more interesting. Allow this launching activity to springboard the curriculum lesson. It takes a 5 min experience to create an opportunity to set a foundation for learning.

Kids feel successful and they then, feel motivated, and invested.

Integrated framework

confronting the norm/challenging the norm/disrupting the norm

Challenge what your classroom could look like (delivery) of the same required content. Pair reading/writing and another content area (Describing extreme settings is a WW objectives, but using a social studies text like geography (desert in the West).

As educators we operate based on what we see rather than what we know. Do I have the time and space to curate a conversation.

Restorative approach. We can't fix them.

Restorative practices should be implemented in each class. It builds a strong sense of community and interpersonal skills. It will repair harm when conflict occurs and it will meet students needs.

Track how students are feeling. If you´re afraid of the results you need to resign from your position. Do you feel safe? Do you feel seen? Do you feel valued?

We need restorative spaces for children to connect with themselves- each other and staff.

Start restorative circles for morning advisory. Every teacher was responsible for sharing something vulnerable to their kids.

Prioritize connection over correction. Why are the students handling it the way that they are?

We grade our students without giving them the ability to grade themselves.

5 pillars:

1. Listen- Ask thoughtful questions. Let´s check in sheet- weekly check in sheet.

2. Learning- Learn about our students

3. Empathy- check in once a day.

4. Living Values- We had high expectations exceed the development of our students. Our core values need to align with the school.

5. Lead by example- Lead with purpose.

Jeremiah Brown

Closed hearts don’t get fed. Open your heart.

Restorative Practices must be a norm/proactive approach. Prioritize connection over correction.

Students are not broken! They don't feel safe, seen, or valued.

Listening, Learning, Loving (empathy), Living values (core values and alignment), and Leading with Purpose.

When we think about the at risk students we serve each day we need to look further than what we see on the exterior. Ask more questions to connect with kids about what we can't see on the inside!

What we see is an indicator, but we don't see warrants a conversation/connection to expose more of what we don't see. the student we don't know without our biases and external facts.

Do we have a space to have these conversations in an attempt to connect?

Morning circles for morning advisory- but they have to be done properly.

Purposefully scheduled, check ins- set goals and give tools. All student driven! Who are your students (beyond academics)?

We as educators focus so much on the outcome, that we forget the process! We pass this down to our students.

Do our expectations exceed the development that the school provides for our students?

High expectations on admin equals low teachers. Everyone needs to be in an alignment!

Storage area in the classroom for back packs.

Have affirmations in the hallway made by the kids, let the kids paint their own bathrooms.

Post where teachers went to college to inspire kids to see all the different types of schools.

Build connections with parents!

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You must see the children for who they are.

How can I help this child who is hurting? The work starts with you.

Macro Self Care- Whole body, 20 mins, its preventative and responsive. Give yourself credit for the things you´re accomplishing that uses your whole body.

Micro Self Care- A few mins a day- be mindful- preventative and it is responsive

People don´t need to look at you to pay attention. Auditory processing- allow children to color.

Know your ACE score-PD We need to recognize what this does to your brain. There is shock trauma, developmental trauma, other experiences. Limbic system is the most affected part of their brain.

It´s not letting them get away with their behavior. We need to be swift and immediate. We cannot do something TO them. We have to respond to them.

Give them the survey

Redulation tools- coloring, lighting,

Daytime DJ voice for recognition in a positive way. Nighttime DJ Day voice is for correction. Mindset shift- from a compliance mindset to a commitment.

Integrity- what you say and do when EVERYONE is looking. Beliefs and values other people can depend on. Keep your promises. Speak out about what you believe in. Be fair with your decisions.

Share your originality with others.

Positive affirmations and teaching how to successfully use self talk to motivation helps with culture and climate.

Climate is an emotional feeling people get when they walk into a space.

Culture-multiple traditions that make up that culture. Operational and Behavioral.

Positive good behaviors happen when culture is in alignment with values, then climate is also less erratic.

What do you repeat and value?Move towards a place where everyone knows and everyone values those ideals.

1. Recognize-VERBAL (specifically note how what you comment on aligns with your values).

   Tone of voice matters! Energetic, excited voice for the things they do well. Calm, low voice for redirection!

   Yelling for safety ONLY!

2. Compliance commitment- Rules are lower level of accomplishment.

   If you have a sense of commitment (to your aligned values) to what you value, then compliance will take care of its self!

   3. Relationships- share who you are with kids, so they share with you!

      
      

Teacher Name outside of door- college and hobby

Dress down Monday- random instead of Friday

Coupon book-

Staffulty Pain Party-

Custodial Staff Recognition- This hallway is professionally maintained by__________

BYOB- Ice cream sundaes

Room Service Room towards the end of the year.

Substitutes- recognize them if they are there for 20 days- give them a shirt 30 days in staff picture.

Gerry Brooks

Personal climate and culture

The Choice is YOURS!

Education is not understood by others because they link their experiences and feel like it’s the same as they remember; IT IS NOT!!!

Develop relationships with these people and remember the people who don’t have a team (specials teachers). Network with people outside of your school to connect with.

Object lessons- An object lesson is a teaching method that consists of using a physical object or visual aid as a discussion piece for a lesson. Object lesson teaching assumes that material things have the potential to convey information.

Guard your heart from P&J (professional jealousy). Call the schools around you who are doing well and ask them to collaborate!!!! Making excuses and shutting others accomplishments down  will not cause growth!

Be an Ant- Educators NEED to carry others when they are having a hard time. Colleagues need other colleagues. You will carry parents.

Pacifier-represents someone’s baby. All students are someone’s baby.

Light switch- moving on from one thing to another. Turn off today! In order to be ready for today, turn off today!

Crowns-Princesses struggle!

             -The audacity to believe-

1. All students can and will learn, which is a reflection of the teacher.  Believe ALL your kids can learn. What are your expectations of your students? No expectations, it will not work. Have prestigious expectations-expect more of them. Expectations without systems amount to nothing but noise in this environment. What are your beliefs, what are your expectations and what’s your system to keep it in place

2. Professional learning correlates into student learning. An organization without dedicated individuals to maintain the systems will ultimately fail. Get used to change. Use AI to your advantage. Ex) you can use Pika labs to make videos, magic school. If you don’t take change by the hand, it will take you by the throat

3. Appropriate instruction enables students to succeed. Instead of being jealous, better yourself and learn. Kill. Your. Pride. Some people are envious about what they should be inspired by. If you teach in a powerful way, your kids will benefit and working with other teachers will help your children grow

It’s easier to give teachers professional development, it’s harder to make teachers a better human being. Expect opposition. Your willingness to grow is connected to your pain tolerance. Ignore the opposition. Sometimes the light in you will frustrate the demons in others. Be the change for your students.

This all stops educators from believing that children can learn.

Standard Expectations need to be raised to prestigious expectations. ex.

Complete the assignment and agree to be a classroom tutor.

Expectations without systems are just noise.

Professional Learning correlates to student success.

Podcast Ideas- NPR- Up First- Hidden Brain- Science of Reading

• All Sides website- We can't expect them to be global leaders if they don't know what is currently happening.

• Pika Labs- put a prompt in and they will put a video to it.

• Magic School website

If you don't take change by the hand, it will take you by the throat.

"It's easy to give teachers professional development its harder to make teachers a better human being. "

Expect opposition.

Part 2- Use the story map as the flow for your lesson. You will pose 2 big and engaging questions out of the lesson and frame your lesson around those two questions.

Scholarship Jacket

Peer feedback- allows for classroom engagement and for the teacher to properly evaluate each statement.

Pass the convo- ( clap , clap, clap, GO ) ( 3 claps- we got you

)

Allow the students to talk about the question that is presented to the class.

Socratic Circle- Wit and Wisdom uses this

resource- CommonLit

Harkness Circle and Annotations-

What question or piece of content can you have the students leaning on their edge wanting for more.

ChatGPT- use to create a story

Padlet- Kids can give live reactions to the story. You must post a comment and comment one one other person.

GIMKIT- one way out- forced to work together

How do you wrap up your lesson?

Town Hall- The 2-3 method

2 negative things

3 positive things

Always kids- the good kids

Sometimes kids-most kids fall into this category

Never kids

each year 200,000 teachers leave profession

• Lack of support

• Challenging working conditions

Different teaching styles:

• authoritarian

• Permissive

• Authoritative- strive for this style

Problem behavior is captivating in nature. Your classroom management will take you wherever you CHOOSE to go

Address behaviors while they are low so they don’t get worse later on. Self control on the teacher: “smart R” Response. Student mood AND rapid teacher response. Sometimes we lose it and the kid notices and might remark. We trigger kids sometimes as well with our behavior

Do what you say you are going to do. You have to be consistent and follow through.

Personal space, body language.

Diffusers:

I understand. Nevertheless. Probably so. I’m sorry. Say these and keep teaching.

Prioritize learning. All about time.

Teach TOS:

Good behavior has to be taught not told. I do (model) we do (lead) you do (test)

Teaching classroom expectations (teach)

looking for expectations (monitor)

Consequenting positive and behavior behavior (follow through)

Classroom arrangement;

Visual aid

Instruction (direct)

Exits and traffic patterns

Window

Can I teach? Can they learn? Can he/she learn?

If yea-keep teaching. If no-refocus

Use verbal prompts. A few seconds of wait time to allow student to do it. If they still don’t correct their behavior- have them refocus physically in a different place in the room and then come back.

Attention and rewards are what kids are most looking for. Engagement=attention+reward

Make ur class fun. Make it worth their wild.

• Attentive Focus

• Self Management

• Healthy Decision Making

  
  

Thrivers can think straight and put brakes on impulses.

1-2 breathing calm down, calm down. Breathe in for 1 minute and Breathe out for 2

Quiet Time- 5 minutes in the morning scores went up and discipline went down. Happens in the morning and after lunch.

Friendship Greeter- peer counselors- big kids teach little kids. These are not student council kids- they are kids that are "thrivers" they have the drive

Kids book clubs- take notes and give to advisors.

Pair up with another colleague to teach this. Older grade paired with a younger grade?

Cheers Theme Song

Quote of the day of kindness- what does it mean?

Jigsaw learning ( look it up )- Who shows this trait of integrity?

Kids saw examples in their life of someone with integrity. You have to expose them to exemplars. when they can't find someone. have a box of articles that showcases people who are exemplars.

Martin Hoffman- ´ I am disappointed in that behavior because ______________ . How do you think it made them feel?)

Step into Time- what is 1 time period that you find drawn to? Fine one event and a song that was attached to that time period.

Self regulation- yoga as a PE requirement for self regulation

SEL





IQ, test scores,and zip codes do not make or break a child. It’s not in the cumulative folder, their grades, or their test scores!!

It’s the teachers!!!

Thrivers are made not born!



What’s one simple thing we can commit to doing on 1-3 min max in our classrooms that allow kids thrive?

Resilient kids have three things. People (a champion), a place (schools are safe packed switch alternative mirrors) protective buffers (life skills).



Simple rituals and routines are what kids remember even years later.

Greet and praise kids on their character! Kids don’t get praised enough on their character.

Have a motto- Is that helpful or hurtful? What are you going to do to make it helpful?

Schools need mottos

Walk through the school and can you see, RISE respect? Inclusion? Is school safe? Are they engaged?

Douglas Fisher- 10 min staff meeting.

Who are you overlooking at school who can be caring champions?!

Grandmas are used in Zimbabwe to simply sit and listen to kids on benches.

Focusing on the kid’s strength rather than their weakness is an opportunity to champion them. What are their strengths?



Pass this on to all teachers and especially the next year teacher in the building.

Kids need social competence.





The baby is the teacher and she asked “How does the baby feel today”? Builds inclusive environment.

Empathy is a verb.



Practice must be used to attain skills.

Implement quiet time

What is quiet time? This is a structured and meaningful downtime scheduled into your school schedule, most typically after a time of high energy. I know many teachers implement quiet time after PE class or lunch/recess… or both!

Studies have shown that behavioral referrals went down, attendance and test scores went up! MUST make time.

Class mantras



Share good news to model optimism

Part 2 with Michele Borba Empathy



Collaborative learning.

Jigsaw learning.

Rise. Respected included safe and encouraged.

10 minute standing meetings. Talk about how ur doing with problem kids with admin

Empathy skills-grandmothers bench. We are forgetting people that can show and express empathy in our communities. This experiment proved to decrease mental health issues.

1. Self awareness 2. Strength 3. 4. Purpose

Tenacity

Attention.

Learning

Eagerness

N

Tone

Look at students strength not their weaknesses and compliment that

Find the strength of a student and ask their past teacher what this strength is so you have a head start for the year.

“Here’s what ur good at and here’s how u can shine and be resilient. “

Be talent scouts: find strengths

Kids thrive when they have social confidence

Use baby for empathy. She becomes the teacher. Builds inclusive environments , more engagement, bullying goes down.  Has to be repetitive. Every month. They need to see it and use it.

SOLER. SIT SQUARE open (no judging) listen, lean in. Eye to eye. Repeat reflect

You teach skills but u need to have them practice the skills more often

five minute “quiet time” everyday

Calmer kids. Test scores went up.

Kids are losing face to face connection because kids r on technology too much

Puppies in prison

Empathy habit #1

Find what works for the student

Facts and feelings log

Students need to develop a moral identify

We not Me

Images are more powerful for empathy because it puts you in their shoes

Step in their shoes to feel how they feel. Moral imagination. The right books activate our hearts.

The books that activate your heart with empathy become the most popular for students. They want to relate to character

Yoga for stress management.

What makes me stressed vs what manages my stress have kids reflect.

Visual Art and mechanical (graphic design, photography,working with animals,skilled trades)

Spatial thinking- patterns-music, engineering, chemistry, Math (data)

Verbal thinking  teachers, lawyers, finance (banking)

Continuous need to gradually stretch skills. Teach life skills!!!

Early intervention is key in successfully assisting growth in divergent thinkers.

Speech, turn taking, life skills.

Categories are the formation of concepts!! Allow kids to form categories that are meaningful to them.

• Give every student especially students who are autistic, opportunities to broaden their interests. They have to have exposure to things. Minds are different but can excel in the skill that works for them. Offer programs to kids that are hands on so they get experience to explore future job opportunity’s and trades they will enjoy

• Gradual approach. Practice Driving in open fields. Slow transitions and gradual release

• Do not overprotect or over accommodate

• Find mentors and teachers

• If a child is scared of a noise, let them control it. Earphones will make sensory work. Child needs to be with you all the time.

• Careers gives you purpose and satisfaction

• Push the kid without sensory overload

• Teach them to take turns

• Use tasks with a sequence of stepson

• Do not load working memory

-Every interaction matters because every interaction could be the one they talk about for the rest of their lives.

-The thing we have to remember about school is take a moment- don't walk pass it all.

-Lean in- be proud

-Being proud and defending something are two different things

-People will fill in the gaps based on what happened 25 years ago. How do we change the narrative?

We build culture 30 seconds at a time

Text some and say thank you for helping you, someone that means something to you. Someone that helped you get to where you are in your life.

Recognize

Acknowledge

Extend

Which of these things bring you joy

Where are they? Beginning of the list/end

The first 8 things that you do when you get home

-Parent patrol- train them on aspects that everyone needs to know and then they share

-Home visits as admin in the summer or meet at a local place

-see screen shots

-grant for t-shirts for family event

-paint and sip for teacher/parent mixer

-love the idea of a circle for parent meet vs sitting at a table with a whole team

communication 5 ways 5 times

Asking what do you love about the child. Focus on person not just the data and scores

financial literacy event for parents-tap into the couple

look for grants

Use parent talents

Parent of the month

Mom supports oxytocin in her child. When this goes up, cortisol goes down. You get oxytocin with every bonding experience.

Stimuli and crisis

Temperament. You become a stabilizer to the student that is dysregulated.

1. Build relationship

2. Build routines- when your emotional brain and predict a pattern- your brain calms down

3. New information will make the kid anxious because of how their brain is wired. You have to connect the new information quickly. You need to find out what the child knows. Now you have time to build a relationship and teach the skill

*their environment does not support homeostasis

Information gets to your brain through your senses.

Your amygdala is your emotional brain. We process emotionally before process. It can take over your body.

Amygdala and Emotion: Early filter of the human brain

The cortex- logic and reasoning

Promote Social