https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh Please type your QS paragraph here: en-us 2017-11-09 13:38:24 UTC 2026-01-12 20:50:05 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256478 This magazine article discusses the not-so-popular views of having an affair. It talks about cheating being an "okay" thing in relationships. Many people firmly believe that cheating is always wrong, no matter what. However, therapist Esther Perel argues, "Satisfying one's sexual hungers- even at great cost to a loved one- is understandable and advances the notion of a no-fault affair" (2017, Luscombe, pg. 17). I highly disagree with this statement because if you cannot be committed to one person, then you should not even be in a relationship. It isn't "understandable" at all because the point of a relationship is to only be with that one person.]]> 2017-11-09 13:41:43 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256478 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256506 In this article, it stated how cheating on your significant other okay and there isn't a problem with it. One of the quotes in this article stated a short little phrase such as this, " no fault affair". Therefore, the people who wrote this article have no problem with you cheating or having an affair with your husband or wife. People]]> 2017-11-09 13:41:46 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256506 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256514 This article is about adultery; the author supports adultery to help in people's marriages. Although that is true, she also shows some of the problems and damages it causes in a relationship. An article written like this, supporting adultery, is a direct product of the lack of determination and moral compasses found in the newer generations in America. In the article  the author quoted Francois Truffant saying, " Monogamy is impossible, but anything else is worse." (2017, Luscombe, 17). If you look at the generations past, baby boomers and the generation X, it is very clear that they not only show monogamy is possible but it is the best path to follow. The newer generation on the other hand are too lazy to work through a relationship's problems and work together to figure it out, and then they cheat as an escape from those problems due to the lack of true moral compass showing them the moral path of staying true to a commitment you made to another person for the rest of your life. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:41:47 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256514 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256527 In the article it makes an argument that cheating needs to be looked upon not as something bad, but a way for someone to chanell there physical needs. It Argues the fact that cheating may be neccesary for some relationships to stay alive. I Belive cheating is wrong. I think that when you marry someone you are agreeing to be faithful to that person for as long as your married. however in the Article, Parell says ," love is but an atempt.".(2017,luscombe,pg.17) When she says this she is saying that when you love someone you atempt to remain faithfull until you can no longer refrain. However I believe that when you love someone no matter what it takes you remain faithful to them.]]> 2017-11-09 13:41:49 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256527 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256565 The Argument is about how we shouldn't judge people's affairs so harshly, and the affairs people have are not always a bad thing. The article also showed a different approach to lovers counselling where distance and seeing through the partner's eyes is the most beneficial. The author, on the other hand, does have some quarry with this opinion, she says, "above all lovers, like doctors, should do no harm," (2017, Luscombe, Pg. 18). What the author is trying to say here is a partner that has pledged their whole life to someone should never hurt this someone. This is where the author contradicts some of the information from Perel, because distancing themselves or having another lover can hurt the other partner. This is why I can agree with author and only agree with Perel partially because I believe you should never try to hurt someone whether physically or mentally. That is why I believe if there are problems in the relationship the best thing you can do is keep your partner's well being in mind, and do what's best for the both of the lovers.]]> 2017-11-09 13:41:53 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256565 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256570 Overall, this article is about why people cheat in marriages or relationships. The author believes that when you cheat, you are not only hurting those around you, but you're also hurting yourself. "Sometimes we seek the gaze of others. It's not our partner we are turning away from, but the person we have become" (2017, Luscombe, 18). Moreover, when you cheat you are going against not only your partner, but also yourself.]]> 2017-11-09 13:41:53 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256570 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256615 The argument is about whether or not cheating is okay. In the article, it also describes how therapy would help put a stop to it. "Whether you hit your friend by accident or deliberately, it still stings pretty much the same." As a result, whether you plan to cheat or you don't, it will still hurt and upset the feelings of the other person in the relationship. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:41:58 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256615 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256652 Cheating on a significant other happens quite often in today's society. According to Belinda Luscombe, Non-monogamous relationships could be way to help cope with cheating. "Satisfying one's sexual hungers- even at a great cost to a loved one- is understandable..." (2017, Luscombe, 17). This is basically saying that cheating on a lover is necessary and acceptable behavior. Therefore adultery is justifiable and non-punishable. However, this behavior is very unacceptable, and should not be encouraged.]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:02 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256652 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256674 Over the years, the majority of people have agreed that you should never cheat on your spouse no matter what. Esther Perel, who is a coupes therapist, agrees with that for the most part, however, some of her solutions to cheating are a little bizarre. "In 2016, 3/4 of Americas believed that it is always wrong to have sex with someone other than your marriage partner." (2016, Luscombe, pg.17) I 100% believe in this as well, as I am a firm believer in honesty. I believe that honesty is one of the most important qualities to have as a person, as well as in a relationship]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:05 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256674 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256688 This argument is about whether or not cheating is okay and explains how therapy would help prevent it. "whether you hit your friend by accident or deliberately, it still stings pretty much the same". Therefore, I agree with the quotewhether you plan on cheating before you do it or not, it still hurt the other person just as much. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:06 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256688 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256699 Cheating on a spouse can be used to get attention. They don't try to betray their spouse but they do in the process. "Sometimes when we seek the gaze of another...its not our partner we are turning away from, but the person we have become". This is ridiculous, when you cheat it involves everyone in the affair. If a man cheats on his wife and continues, he can leave his mistress and move one while a woman having an affair is shunned by everyone for it. Form what I gathered this article is about how cheating on a spouse isn't so black and white. Some people cheat to "let off steam" , they aren't attracted to their spouse or they want attention. This is very true but this article is off the rails with explaining the author's opinion. I can't tell if this person is for cheating or not. Their opinion changes the more I read it. My opinion however is that if you aren't attracted to your spouse then you need to decided whether this relationship will last. Never cheat because that never solves anything. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:08 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256699 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256727 The argument was that affairs and on your husband/wife is alright to do. I do not agree with this because I don't think its right to cheat on your husband or wife. I disagree with Luscombe in her quote ''no-fault affair"(2017,Luscombe, pg.17). I disagree with this because they're saying that its fine that you can have an affair on your life partner. I disagree with this article because I don't agree with what they're trying to argue.]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:11 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256727 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256730 In America cheating is almost like a norm. Cheating is when one spouse finds another person to be with while they are still married. This article was about how affairs can be considered good and bad. According to Francois Truffaut, "Monogamy is impossible" (2017, Belinda Luscombe, pg. 18). Some people may not be able to commit to one certain person, therefore they should not get married. When you stand at the alter and recite your vows that should mean that you have found the one and only person that you are going to be with for the rest of your life. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:11 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256730 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256807 The argument was about having an affair while being married. I do not agree or believe cheating is ever acceptable no matter the situation. In the article, Parell says "love is to make an attempt." This shows that he has the wrong mentality with marriage and he is giving off the wrong mindset to others who read this article. Loyalty is harder to find in today's day and age due to the mindset of marriage such as the authors in the article.]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:20 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256807 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256815 In exert from "The View" is making an argument in favor of affairs in marriages. By suggesting that it is merely human nature. "She ventures that it might be worth trying some form of "consensual non monogamy"" (2017, Belinda Luscombe, 18). In such saying that a couple should be with others while they a married. This is why I disagree with this article not only because it differs from my religion, but also because I find it morally wrong to do such a thing after you pledged your love to someone under an oath.]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:21 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256815 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256914 The majority of Americans believe cheating/affairs are not morally right or acceptable. Even though we feel this way we seem to come up with excuses on why it should be okay. According to the article, "Some couples find that jealousy provokes desire and use others for a libidinal reboot" (2017 Luscombe 17). They said by cheating it would cause your spouse to become jealous which would lead to them wanting you more. Cheating is morally wrong and if you love your partner you should not do it. People that also believe this way were probably brought up the same way as me. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:30 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205256914 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257058 An affair is when you are with someone and you have a relationship with someone else. Most Americans find it wrong to have an affair while a few think its okay. In this article I have learned the women thinks of all of this happening. The woman who had wrote the book, The State of Affairs  had made a comment stating " that one wife build an altar to her husband paramour to remind  her how the other woman reinvigorated her marriage." (2007,Belinda Luscombe, 18). I agree with this because with most affairs it hurts the women knowing that her husband made a vow at the alter and now he is breaking his promise so if he sees the alter to always remind him what he vowed to. I think if someone wants to have another relationship with someone else they should end the relationship that they currently in so they don't hurt their loved one and make the problem even bigger than what it should be. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:48 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257058 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257087 This article was based on cheating and why it happens, it also explains what cheating is. They had brought in a couple therapists to tell her side of cheating. According to Francois Truffaut, "Monogamy is impossible" (2017, Belinda Luscombe, 18). They are saying that being married to one person is impossible. I do not agree with this statement, I think that if two people get married and are in love with each other they will not cheat on any circumstances. If you feel problems within a relationship you should go to counseling or find help for it. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:42:51 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257087 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257344 The union of marriage between a man and a woman is sacred and adultery, no matter the circumstance, is wrong. According to Belinda Luscombe, "... satisfying one's sexual hungers - even at a great cost to a loved one - is understandable and advance the notion of a "no-fault affair" (Luscombe, 2017, p.17). This claim by Luscombe states that adultery is acceptable as long as the spouse of the adulterer is approving of it and that being with one person is not natural. Luscombe's thoughts are not those of typical Americans. If you are having relations with someone other than your spouse, you should not be with them in the first place.]]> 2017-11-09 13:43:19 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257344 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257403 In this article attempts, Belinda Luscombe attempts to justify affairs within a relationship. However, partaking in an affair is selfish. Putting someone's needs ahead of your own can often be a grueling and difficult task. As humans, we tend to put ourselves first. When it comes to love, we need to do just the opposite. "The simple question at the heart of committing to somebody until death is whether you can value that person's needs ahead of your own" (Luscombe, 2017, p.18). Luscombe's claim is that putting someone before yourself is true love. This statement is justifiable, and contradicts her original statement. Committing to someone until death is forever. In order to maintain a healthy relationship with your significant other, it is important to make an effort to value their needs ahead of your own. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:43:25 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257403 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257613 Of Americans the majority believe cheating or having an affair are not morally right or acceptable. Even though we feel its wrong, some this come up with excuses on why it would be alright. According to the article," some couples find that jealousy provokes desire and use others for a libidinal reboot "(2017 Luscombe 17). By cheating it would cause the other significant to become jealous which would lead them to want to cheat more. Personally  , I believe that cheating or having affairs are wrong because of what its does to ones relationship. ]]> 2017-11-09 13:43:50 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205257613 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205258203 In Belinda Luscombe's article "Affairs Are Only Human, Which Is No Excuse to Have One," Luscombe discusses the humanity behind infidelity. She discusses Esther Perel's claims that while monogamy is morally correct, people should not judge one who has cheated on another if they are putting the effort in to save the relationship. According to Luscombe, "The simple question at the heart of committing to somebody till death is whether you can value that person's needs ahead of your own. The answer is often no, because we're only human. But to love is to attempt."  (2017, Luscombe, 18.) In her mind, maybe monogamy is unrealistic for some. All of us need to think of ourselves and our own needs in our lives. But if one person truly loved another, they would put the effort in to stay committed. Nobody is perfect, but her statement, "But to love is to attempt," stands out. Mistakes are always forgivable, but it's the effort you put in after the mistake that matters.]]> 2017-11-09 13:45:07 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205258203 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205258617     The article's author Belinda Luscombe argues that how we view cheating on a spouse should be changed. Luscombe says, “satisfying one's sexual hungers- even at a great cost of a loved one- is understandable”(2017,Belinda Luscombe,17). This statement means that someone should view their own wants and desires above the happiness of their partner. I however, completely disagree with this statement. Doing this is very selfish. If you are unhappy with your partner or sexually unsatisfied you should not resort to cheating on them, rather you should talk the them or maybe try consoling. 

]]> 2017-11-09 13:45:57 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205258617 18cordca https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205259934 This article discusses both monogamy and infidelity. The article also suggest that through their research, three-quarters of America believed that the adulterer is always wrong. In fact, according to Perel, "people who love their partners and still cheat don't just betray their families. They often find they've betrayed themselves'" This quote shows that if someone cheat on his partner, he betray himself because if he does that he doesn't love his partner like he' has to do. It seems make sense that if someone loves his partner he doesn't need to try an other one.]]> 2017-11-09 13:48:36 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/205259934 https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/206412851 Having one partner in a relationship is impossible for people. "Monogamy is impossible, but anything else is worse." (2017 Truffaut 18) Monogamy is not impossible. Communication is key in a relationship, and if one partner is not communicating with the other, it could cause cheating. People in relationships need to tell their partner if they are getting bored of the relationship. This can help prevent cheating and keep monogamy alive. ]]> 2017-11-13 18:34:57 UTC https://padlet.com/cwarner/xo8voyyiijkh/wish/206412851