https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou Breaking generational trauma en-us 2020-11-06 01:57:58 UTC 2023-03-03 18:49:42 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-uploads.storage.googleapis.com/805139067/516aecad7d6a1952fbf25b1561538316/FhbJ.gif bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896493910 She is coming back home with her daughter and a husband who cheated on her to find her father dead and her mother addicted to drugs still.]]> 2020-11-06 01:59:05 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896493910 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896496139 Ivy is the daughter who stayed. But once Barbara arrives, she is the one who solves everything. Barbara is not in a good place in her particular life but she takes all the emotional labor of the situation. ]]> 2020-11-06 02:00:32 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896496139 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896499176 Barbara opened the door to the Sheriff, she tried to get her mom, who was so drugged that couldn't even talk. The Sherif tells Barbara they found her father's body. She goes down on her knees, she just got the news about her father's death and she is in distress, but 9 lines later that is her reaction. She doesn't give herself time because she knows she is the first responder of the family. She can't be "weak" having her moment to process it. ]]> 2020-11-06 02:02:23 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896499176 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896507494 That's one of the most powerful moments of Barbara. She is the one running things since she arrived anyway. She is the one who is trying to talk about her relationship with her husband. She is the one who is recognizing the body of her dead father. She is the only one who shows concern and confronts her mother about her drug addiction. This line is Barbara saying to everybody, "if you are going to rely on me for everything, you are also going to respect me."  ]]> 2020-11-06 02:07:47 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896507494 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896520175 This happens dinner after the funeral. After saying men are in a cockfight, Violet requests Barbara to say grace. Violet doesn't do it herself or ask another daughter. Maybe not conscious but Barbara is already the head of the family, she is in charge of the house and Violet proves that with this request. ]]> 2020-11-06 02:15:19 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896520175 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896531932 2020-11-06 02:22:34 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896531932 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896542853 Although she is a strong character, and a woman who speaks for herself, Barbara has low self-esteem. Bill and Violet bullying her reinforces that. ]]> 2020-11-06 02:28:52 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896542853 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896552948 Violet shows the audience that Barbara had already problems with her self-esteem before being cheated on by Bill. Her father believed in her potential as a writer and she didn't. She gets feisty not just because she is being accused of making the wrong decision, but at this point in his life, she is also questioning the decision of going away with Bill. The "I can do whatever I want" attitude is also a similarity between Barbara and Violet.]]> 2020-11-06 02:35:01 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896552948 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896578227 But Bill did crush her self-esteem at once. Barbara is not the young version of herself who was in love and decided to move with Bill. He got to be a professor and she is the one who the husband is cheating on with a student. She has to be the responsible pain in the ass one because he is the one playing teenager having an affair with a kid. In this phrase, she shows that she wonders and blames herself for Bill's betrayal. Even when she talks about teenage pussy, she is blaming herself for aging. ]]> 2020-11-06 02:51:37 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896578227 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896587480 2020-11-06 02:57:38 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896587480 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896594033 Barbara is always calling Bill up on this bullshit. Maybe if he was more responsible and mature, she didn't need to be a pain in the ass. This phrase is even confuse to me, how someone good, decent, funny and wonderful can be considered a pain? What kind of expectative he has? No wonder Barbara is questioning her value.]]> 2020-11-06 03:01:47 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896594033 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896606852 2020-11-06 03:09:33 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/896606852 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899396073   ]]> 2020-11-06 23:15:06 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899396073 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899407600 Violet knows that Barbara was not Bev's favorite, but she knows Barbara liked her father better than her, and she is jealous of that. In my opinion, all the good things that Violet says Bev thought about Barbara, are actually Violet's opinion. ]]> 2020-11-06 23:25:10 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899407600 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899412622 Ivy has a reason to think that Violet prefers Barbara. Besides the addiction, in a close look, they are both strong women who speak their minds and make decisions for their own lives. They are/were also pursuing relationships that failed. As Violet says to Barbara in one of their last conversations, she is the one stronger, she is the one who stays. And Barbara, in some sense, does as well (stays with Bill, comes back to her mom, stay with Jeanne,etc)]]> 2020-11-06 23:29:35 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899412622 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899421178 First, one could think Violet wants Barbara to stay because she doesn't want to be alone, and that's also true. But after calling Ivy and Bev, Barbara is the name that she goes back to it. Barbara is the person that she wanted to stay with her. Barbara, for example, was the only one who tried to stop with the pills. She cares and Violet trusts her. ]]> 2020-11-06 23:37:28 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899421178 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899430689 Barbara is fed up. She is an enduring female. Barbara had potential as a writer until she got married and gave up on herself to build a family. She still has Bill by her side after he cheated on her. The main male of her family just killed himself leaving all the women behind. In Barbara's life experience, women support everything while men just let them down. ]]> 2020-11-06 23:46:42 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899430689 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899441469 That's a response for Bill saying he was there for her. Barbara feels abandoned for Bill. What is contradictory is that he is actually of one the few people who does try to help her, but she always push him away for being too hurt by the betrayal. ]]> 2020-11-06 23:57:06 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899441469 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899445581 She doesn't take into consideration that she was the only one trying to do something, that's why she failed. The others were just waiting for her to act, so there was no way for them to fail.]]> 2020-11-07 00:01:30 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899445581 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899470632 She is again asking Bill to show up as a whole, not just occasionally. He cannot be always the nice one, because he is also responsible for Jeanne's education. Barbara has to be a mom full-time while Bill has time to have a girlfriend, for example. ]]> 2020-11-07 00:26:09 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899470632 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899488386 2020-11-07 00:45:06 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899488386 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899499205 2020-11-07 00:56:55 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/899499205 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900631462 Barbara is the character that most challenges old American norms and values. Sometimes she speaks direct to it, other times she teaches the other characters in a less openly way. ]]> 2020-11-08 00:37:32 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900631462 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900633845 Barbara argues with her mom about calling Johnna an Indian. She tries to use reason, saying that Johnna, in fact, is more native than Violet. But after no results, she shows a humanitarian version of herself, that just thinks people should choose how they identify and how they want to be called. This also reveals the generational gap between Barbara and Violet values.  ]]> 2020-11-08 00:40:45 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900633845 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900637529 2020-11-08 00:46:38 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900637529 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900639416 Barbara is criticizing the generation that lived trough World War II. I have a sense that she is saying that they are living in the past, because nowadays everybody in good conscience hate Nazis. Her mom's generation cannot hide behind what they did or they were. The new generation also has a lot to teach, and if the old one doesn't look to some aspects of itself and change, they are not so great anymore. ]]> 2020-11-08 00:49:43 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900639416 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900641769 2020-11-08 00:53:44 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900641769 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900647385 2020-11-08 01:03:35 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900647385 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900649874 2020-11-08 01:07:53 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900649874 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900656431 2020-11-08 01:18:50 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900656431 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900657039 2020-11-08 01:19:54 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900657039 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900660809 This is the moment she decided to break complete with this decadent generation that has lots of traumas. She leave her mother behind. ]]> 2020-11-08 01:26:10 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900660809 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900662706 2020-11-08 01:29:37 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900662706 bdeoliveira01 https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900663355 2020-11-08 01:30:47 UTC https://padlet.com/bdeoliveira01/xlbnagw5mmjsaaou/wish/900663355