In conclusion, parents must certainly be present for their children and be empathetic after a failure, but they must still give space to the children to feel negative emotions. Be present for them and really teach them what failure is once children are ready to hear it. This will allow them to learn from failure and then succeed.

In this video, Dr. Alan Goldberg explains the importance of failure in child-athletes. He describes the mechanisms involved in this process.

He begins by saying that this is a key issue in particular for parents. The aim is to help the child through this failure, while maintaining the motivation to achieve future success. Their role is to help their children cope better with this event.

Parents have to let their children go through this feeling, even though it's one of the worst things for a parent to see their children suffer. They often tend to want to erase this moment. That's why parents need to understand that when they take their children to an activity, there's a kind of unwritten contract that there will be good times, but also harder times. Parents should therefore aim to be present at all these moments.

This allows the child to get the perspective of what it's like to lose, and to understand that it's a game, even though it can seem like the end of the world at the moment.

The real key is timing. Parents need to give the child time to get through this feeling, and then to gain this perspective. It's all a question of time to learn the value of failure. To achieve success, you have to know how to lose.

You can't go from amateur to expert without failing to master a field. That's the learning process. Learning to walk is a prime example. The body learns by falling countless times.

When they fail, children simply need to be empathized with, listened to, understood and supported, rather than given a distant perspective. Failure is an opportunity to lead to success. Failure is feedback, and feedback is the breakfast of champions.

It’s important that children keep the game in perspective because a failure is not the end of the world and they do sports to have some fun. The main point is that children must get the value of failure : it’s an opportunity to know what works and doesn’t.

Feedback is the key to overcoming failure because it allows you to understand how to succeed the next time. The parents' role is to support them and not to say what the child did wrong. (Maybe add something here about how children need space to digest failure and how important failure is in reaching success).

The video talks about children's sporting failures.

The aim is to raise parents' awareness so that they can support their children in their failures. 

Children can quickly give up and dramatize the situation.

 Parents need to be there to lift their children's spirits and explain to them that this failure is a learning experience. 

They need to motivate their children so that they start again.

 It's the way to success when you fail. When you're a beginner, you have to fail to become better.

In this video, there is a man speaking about child failure in sport and the best way to deal with it when you’re a parent. He’s saying that some parents think they are helping their children when they give them advice or feedback. They try to help their kid with giving their opinion about the failure that just happened, but that is not their role, not what they have to do, that is not what kids need from their parents. Kids have already a coach for that and need something else from parents. They need support and presence, they just want their parents to be there with them.

In the opinion of the man who’s speaking, as a parent, you need to let your kids have their feelings. It’s good for children to learn about failure, how it can hurt, how it can be painful, and to experience disappointment from a result and learn how to deal with it. Children grow up after experiments fail. When they understand that is not the end of the world if they lose a competition, they unlock new abilities to deal with failure. Failure sometimes can be a good thing and can be an important step in the progress process. Kids can learn from failure and evolve from these experiences.

It is important for a young athlete to accept failing, feel all the emotions that comes with it. It’s the parents job to let them feel those feelings, to support them and to help them keep a perspective of failing.

To remind them that failing is not the end of the world, it’s part of the learning process and they should learn the value of failing in order to become expert.

When they decided to enter a team they both need to be aware of the fact that in this journey, there will be good times and sad times, and to accept it.

Parents also need to understand that there is a key timing for them to intervene because after a failure children will be sad and angry, but you have to let them cool down and digest before you can talk to them.

They should not give them all the answers on why they failed and how to overcome the failing. In order to succeed next time, children will need to find the answers by themselves. They also won’t hear it and it might create a breach in the relationship, let them find answers by themselves.

To finish with he says that in order to become an expert you have to fail enough time and it’s an opportunity to be successful. Failure is feedback from what you’ve done and it will be the beginning of your champion journey: “failure is feedback and feedback is the breakfast of champions.”

According to the author, the first thing that parents need to do is to let their child have feelings. Failure is a part of the unwritten contract of sport : “There is going to be good times, happy times and sad times”. The parent’s job is when a kid is sad, to be there for them, to be empathic and to allow them to have disappointed feelings. Even if the child thinks that it’s the end of the world, it’s not and parents can help them to keep perspective on what the failure really means. And it takes time. Parents need to help their child understand the value of failing. They must teach them how to fail. The author says that you can’t go from beginner to expert without failing. Kids must understand that it is an integral part of being successful. Failure is a learning process. After the failure, there is feedback and it helps the child-athlete to point them in the direction of what they need to do differently next time. Failure is an opportunity for the athlete and for the parents to teach the athlete howto be successful. Kids just need their parents' support.

“Failure is feedback and feedback is the breakfast of champions”.

Timing is also important. He says parents need to understand that there's a time for everything. You don't always have to rush. Feedback is very important after allowing time for reflection.

Failure helps progress. Failure is feedback and feedback is the breakfast of champions.