Carreon/Milton Being an upstander by Courtney Carreon https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2 Discussion panel for advisory en-us 2021-11-02 02:08:27 UTC 2021-11-02 02:32:58 UTC hello@padlet.com 24michelsw3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860368277 I would feel a little bit nervous to ask them what their pronouns are, but I would ask them in a respectful manner, and make them feel comfortable with telling me.]]> 2021-11-02 02:21:45 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860368277 24singhid3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860369810 comfortable because I'm sure they would appreciate it and it's better than misgendering someone and offending them.

]]> 2021-11-02 02:22:26 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860369810 24michelsw3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860369890 After class, I would ask the teacher why they were doing this, and try to help them understand what they are doing wrong.]]> 2021-11-02 02:22:27 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860369890 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860369980 I would ask someone else first and then ask the person if I can’t find out. Or use deductive reasoning.]]> 2021-11-02 02:22:29 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860369980 24oginoa3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370138 I think asking for someone's pronouns is completely normal now a days. I remember asking for each other's pronouns during introductions at the beginning of the school year and it's become common to put it in our instagram bios too. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:22:33 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370138 24murakamimosesm3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370388 I would ask them but i would be a bit scared to offend them ]]> 2021-11-02 02:22:39 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370388 I personally have no problem with asking this question as it should be as common as asking what one's name is (even if you are pretty sure what their sexual identity is). I don't feel like this question is rude or invasive as long as asked in a respectful way, it could help make someone feel more comfortable. 24yangi3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370667 2021-11-02 02:22:47 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370667 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370766 I think telling the teacher privately so that neither the teacher nor the student feels embarrassed. You should stand up because so that no one feels uncomfortable. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:22:49 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370766 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370832 Personally I feel as though I don’t use pronouns that often, but I think I would if they seemed uncomfortable from me using a pronoun accidentally.]]> 2021-11-02 02:22:50 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860370832 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860371297 I feel like it's not something you need to be embarrassed about to ask. I would probably ask them directly if I'm really not sure. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:01 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860371297 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860371357 I would simply tell the teacher that they're misgendering the classmate. I would stand up for this person because the classmate is feeling uncomfortable.]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:02 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860371357 i think it's important to let the person know that what they're saying is offensive as it could make others feel uncomfortable. https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860371392 2021-11-02 02:23:03 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860371392 tell teacher privately https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372027 2021-11-02 02:23:20 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372027 24michelsw3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372133 i would make them feel comfortable and loved, and not pressure them to come out to anyone, and support their decisions along the way.]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:22 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372133 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372429 I would feel nervous and awkward but would try and ask politely. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:30 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372429 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372648 Just ask the teacher after class to correct themselves next time and apologize to the student.]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:36 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372648 24singhid3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372754 Talk to the person who was being misgendered first to see if they are ok with me talking to the teacher for them because they might be uncomfortable with you standing up for them, and then talk to the teacher]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:39 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372754 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372824 I would be unsure of how to ask them because I don’t want to offend them but I think that if show that you are genuinely curious and just wondering I think you won’t come off as offensive]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:40 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860372824 24kruegerma3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373304 I would feel ok asking them. I also feel like recently in school, teachers are asking  students to put  their pronouns on name tags or like announcing it to the class, so maybe you wouldn't need to ask. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:54 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373304 24murakamimosesm3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373356 I would tell the teacher what they’re doing wrong in private so the student doesn’t get embarrassed ]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:56 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373356 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373486 I would feel completely fine with asking them what their preferred pronouns are. It's nothing that you should be embarassed or worried about.]]> 2021-11-02 02:23:59 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373486 24michelsw3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373843 I would tell them that what they are doing is very disrespectful and hurtful to many people, and make sure that they know what they are doing wrong, and why it is wrong.


]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:09 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860373843 i think you should support the friend and make them feel as comfortable as possible https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374191 2021-11-02 02:24:19 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374191 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374259 I would support them and tell them to do what they're comfortable with]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:21 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374259 24singhid3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374351 thank them for telling me and support them. Also don't pressure them into coming out but ease their worries ]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:23 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374351 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374473 I would talk to the student about it and see what they want to do about ur]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:26 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374473 24yangi3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374973 Privately and respectfully remind the teacher of the mistake. This is important as students should feel comfortable and safe in the school environment. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:39 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860374973 24bregeona3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375049 I would be fine with asking them. I don't want to misgender them.]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:41 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375049 24murakamimosesm3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375425 I would make sure they feel comfortable and support them as much as i can. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:52 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375425 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375559 You should make sure that you won’t tell anyone without permission. You should also let them know how others might react by asking around peoples views on lgbtq+]]> 2021-11-02 02:24:55 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375559 24seltzero3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375791 I would be a little afraid of asking because I don't want to put them in an uncomfortable position or be offended. Asking them yourself is probably better than asking their friends.]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:02 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860375791 I would support them by telling them that there is no rush to tell people if you don't feel comfortable and supporting their decisions on what they do. https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376418 2021-11-02 02:25:18 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376418 24murakamimosesm3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376450 let the person know that’s saying these comments that it’s not okay ]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:19 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376450 24sobajimah3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376872 I would tell the teacher in private that they had made a mistake in gendering the classmate. I would stand up for this person if it is clear that they are uncomfortable because they should be able to feel relaxed or welcome in a classroom environment. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:30 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376872 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376874 Call them out. Tell them it's disrespectful. I should do this because it's important to make everyone feel safe and welcomed. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:30 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376874 24singhid3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376909 Letting them know that what they're saying is hurtful and trying to reason with them]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:31 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376909 24kruegerma3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376987 I would talk to the teacher privately, so I wouldn't embarrass the teacher or the student. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:33 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860376987 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377193 I would first talk to the student before to make sure they're comfortable with me talking to the teacher. If they say yes, I would then let the teacher know in private to make sure no one gets embarrassed.]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:39 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377193 I would tell them to stop and make sure they are aware of what they are saying is wrong. https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377235 2021-11-02 02:25:40 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377235 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377404 For guys just go and tell them to shut up and stop. Do it enough and they’ll stop. Or tell on them]]> 2021-11-02 02:25:44 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377404 You can become friends with them and if you become close with them they will probably be comfortable with telling you. 24chien2 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377655 2021-11-02 02:25:51 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860377655 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860378351 I would support them and I probably won't pressure or make them say that they're gay. I would make sure that they're comfortable with what they're doing.]]> 2021-11-02 02:26:09 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860378351 24bregeona3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860379232 I would tell the teacher after class that they are misgendering them. It is important that they feel comfortable in class.]]> 2021-11-02 02:26:34 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860379232 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860380124 I wouldn't pressure them to tell everyone, and I wouldn't tell them not tell anyone either. I think I would just be there for them and support them in any way possible, and wait for them to be ready and comfortable to let everyone know.]]> 2021-11-02 02:26:57 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860380124 24kruegerma3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860380735 I would support them, and say if they're not comfortable yet they can wait to tell other, until they feel more comfortable about it. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:27:13 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860380735 I would privately discuss with the teacher about how they were misgendered so that going forward they won't make the mistake. I would also tell the student after class that you noticed them and going forward the teacher won't make the same mistake. https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860380833 2021-11-02 02:27:16 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860380833 24yangi3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860381379 I would reassure the friend that they shouldn't be ashamed and let them know they are loved and appreciated. In terms of telling other, I wouldn't want to pressure them into telling but would again reassure that theres nothing to be ashamed of. As well as let them know that if others don't support them, then they should reconsider the relationship between those friends. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:27:30 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860381379 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860382234 I would just kindly tell them what they're saying should not be said.]]> 2021-11-02 02:27:53 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860382234 Let them make their own choice. It is not in your control. https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860382274 2021-11-02 02:27:54 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860382274 24seltzero3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860383271 Talk to the teacher after class and tell them the student is uncomfortable. They might not know the student's pronouns yet so don't assume that they do. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:28:22 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860383271 24sobajimah3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860383699 I would try to get to know them better and find out over time, or possibly ask in a very subtle manner and not pressure them or make a big deal out of it. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:28:34 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860383699 Tell them to cut it out and explain why what they are doing is offensive, even if they are not directing it at anyone. If the problem persists, you can take it up with someone higher. https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860383815 2021-11-02 02:28:37 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860383815 24yangi3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860385915 Frankly, I would probably get annoyed and shocked at the comments my peers were making. My ideal reaction would be to approach the person by telling them that they were being ignorant and disrespectful. If they were unaware of their actions' consequences, then I would try my best to educate them on the matter. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:29:32 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860385915 24bregeona3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860386042 I will let them decide if they will tell others because it is their choice. I would try to make them feel comfortable and safe and support them in any way I can.]]> 2021-11-02 02:29:35 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860386042 24seltzero3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860386061 I would make sure that coming out is their decision only. Whenever they are ready you should support them until then.]]> 2021-11-02 02:29:35 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860386061 24kruegerma3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860387082 I would tell them that what they're saying could harm someones feeling and ask them how they would feel if people were making fun of them because of the gender they like / or their sexuality. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:30:03 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860387082 24sobajimah3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860387713 I would do what the friend wishes me to do, whether they would want me to tell everyone or keep it to myself. By doing what they wish, I think that would be the best way to support them. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:30:18 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860387713 24bregeona3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860388473 Explain to them that the things they are saying is offensive and disrespectful to other people and make them stop.]]> 2021-11-02 02:30:38 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860388473 24seltzero3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860390491 Make them understand that what they're saying is actually offending people. Don't force it too hard though because they might not be aware.]]> 2021-11-02 02:31:31 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860390491 24sobajimah3 https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860393901 I would try to tell them gently that they are saying wrongful things but definitely say it repeatedly to let them know clearly. ]]> 2021-11-02 02:32:58 UTC https://padlet.com/mscarreon1/wz4q3tq0wlgoigm2/wish/1860393901