Emotional abusers focus on controlling which has the victim always having the controller in their head.

they also can both lead to different trauma for the victim causing them to cope in different forms or having different repeating patterns when suffering from the trauma.

When people in a relationship are respected and listened to, despite any differences.

When people talk respectfully to each other when there are disagreements.

Being able to communicate with trust

Unhealthy: When a person’s feelings or needs are ignored and disrespected.

When disagreements often turn into fights.

Not having the opportunity or comfort to explore or communicate feelings within the relationship.

Planning out strategies to get out of the relationship safely with one of those people.

if you were living with the person make sure you have a safe place to go to that he/she wouldn't be able to find you and guilt trip or threaten to get back with them.

-Having emotinal connection

-Having equal shares

-be able to communicate feelings, opinions, and beliefs.

When communicating, consider tone and phrasing. Boundaries are physical, emotional, and mental limits or guidelines a person sets for themselves which others need to respect. You and your partners or friends should feel comfortable in the activities you are doing together. Consent is important in all relationships. Consent is uncoerced permission to interact with the body or the life of another person.Honesty is important for communication. Each person within the relationship or friendship should have the opportunity to express their feelings and concerns.

When having a competer and an avoider in the relationship its not gonna work that well. you will have one person trying to win an argument while the other doesn't care and will just walk away. or one person will try and communicate trying to get you to be on "their side" but the other tries to avoid the conversation. this will affect the relationship by having mis communication and not listening to each other. it could also lead to a non-trusting relationship. aka unhealthy.

one more example is having a Collaborating and an avoider would not work well causing issues in the relationship. One problem would be is not fixing an issue in the relationship. the avoider would ignore the issue and just try to move on and forget about it when the collaborater would do everything they can to fix the issue and make sure there's no more problems. this could lead to lots of arguments and no communication.

-Being there for them

-Keeping trusts the main part of the relationship.

-Not letting other people get involved/start problems in your relationship

that's a few but there's way more to it then just those. Relationships are obviously going to have their ups and downs but you both have to agree to work through them and not let the arguments and mis communication effect your relationship negatively. if you both really want it you need to work out what eachothers needs are and work out things together and do things to help each other feel loved.