Like, last time, she shared that someone asked her why she’s single. She got annoyed and was like, If I wanted to, I could be with your husband. I could steal your husband. …HMM i was thinking, Was that really necessary??

Dealing with members who have these kinds of weird takes is tough, maybe it’s their culture, upbringing, or just how they communicate.

This whole situation made me realise that sometimes, we don’t even need to engage or challenge these kinds of comments. Instead, we can just acknowledge, redirect, or move on instead of giving them more attention than necessary.

1. Member being rude by throwing paper on the table. Being judgy

2. Members mentioned that they are feeling helpless

3. Members being bossy for small things...

Feelings:

1. Annoyed

2. I FEEL LIKE I WANT TO CRY

3. Anxious

4. Helpless

5. ANGERRRRRR

6. Sad

Actions:

1. Deep breathing

2. Slowing my actions to decrease anxiety

3. Maintaining my calmness

4. Talked to colleagues afterwards to get support

5. CHAT-gpt/ talk to people or someone who's good in the field to know what actions I can do to help

6. Reminding that I am human as well and my feelings are valid

Also annoyed at some members who complains about many people but doesnt seem to realise (or want to realise) that they might be the problem too with the way they're behaving 🫠

Or members who never/rarely talks with Nani but when they come, the only thing they say is just complaining about Naluri rudely. Okay 👍🏻

When facing these kind of members I usually release my emotions to ChatGPT or a team member before answering hahaha but then I take a deep breath and sometimes consult ChatGPT to give a neutral response.

For onsite members, the most annoying thing is when the male workers are flirting with me instead of asking about Naluri. I use that opportunity to try to engage them with Naluri and ask them to do the specific task for that day but yea sometimes annoying jugak!!! Or is this an opportunity to get sugar daddy, I could use the money 💸 HAHAHAH JK

But I always end up with istighfar, talk to myself like angry, stay in silence for 10 minutes, then back to work.