Dealing with Difficult People by Lisa Coates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5 Made with a curious mind en-us 2017-06-15 02:01:40 UTC 2023-08-21 06:40:07 UTC hello@padlet.com Characteristics of The Sniper lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176483672 -Very strong sense of what others should do and think
-Have to prove they're right
-Take cover under humor and sarcasm
-Count in victim not wanting to make sense]]> 2017-06-15 02:02:17 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176483672 The Sniper lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176483716 The Sniper targets you when you're most vulnerable.  ]]> 2017-06-15 02:02:44 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176483716 Challenges of Dealing w/ The Sniper lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176483908 -Bringing the sniper our of hiding
-Finding what's the intent or relevancy of their statements
Uncomfortable interactions


]]> 2017-06-15 02:05:06 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176483908 Behaviors of the Sniper lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176484608 -Make rude comments
-Make you look foolish
-Take shots at you to make you look bad of try to undermine you 


]]> 2017-06-15 02:11:53 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176484608 Understanding Motives lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176484744 2017-06-15 02:13:10 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176484744 Action Plan lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176538460
  • Stop, look, backtrack. Zero in on the Sniper. If it seems like someone is taking shots at you, stop – even in the middle of a sentence or word. Bring all your activity to a standstill. Scan for the Sniper and backtrack.
  • Use searchlight questions. Use two questions to expose the Sniper’s behavior: 1) Intent – "When you say that, what are you really trying to say?" and 2) Relevancy – "What does that have to do with this?"
  • Use tank strategy if needed. Hold your ground, interrupt the interruption, backtrack the main accusation, and aim at your own bottom line.
  • Go on a grievance patrol. If you suspect someone is holding a grudge against you, but you’re not certain, go on patrol and see what you can scout out.
  • Suggest a civil future. Finish the interaction by suggesting an alternative behavior for the future.

    • ]]>     2017-06-15 12:20:24 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176538460     References lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176572791 Gallagher, D. & Bagin, D. (2012). The school and community relations (10 th. ed.).Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson.

    Gulyani, G. (2013). Dealing with people you can’t stand. Retrieved from http://gulyani.com/review-notes-dealing-with-people-you-cant-stand-by-dr-rick-brinkman-and-dr-rick-kirschner/

    Harris,S. (2016). Bravo Principal! Building Relationships with Actions that Value Others. Second Edition. New York: Routledge. Moore, E., .]]>     2017-06-15 16:05:02 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176572791     Teflon Responses to a Sniper lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176572983 Gulyani provides examples of responding to Snipers:

    • Stop, Look, Backtrack. "So, I heard you say that I have ‘nothing to say but you have to wait a long time to hear it." (Backtracking)
    • Use searchlight questions. "Susan, when you say ‘Can’t take a joke?,’ I’m still wondering what are you really trying to say?" (Searchlight question, probing for the grievance)
    ]]>     2017-06-15 16:06:28 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176572983     Speaker Notes lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176709414 2017-06-17 04:01:52 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176709414 "I was only Joking!" lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176758235 A personal experience with a sniper...an administrator stated in front of the entire staff at a meeting, "Look at Ms. Coates, all dressed up today! She must have an interview or a court appearance." 
    On the inside, I wanted to say something so nasty back in response. Instead, I calmly made eye contact and stated, " I am glad you noticed my new dress and like it!" All while, keeping sarcasm out of my voice. ]]>     2017-06-18 11:42:37 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176758235     TEDTalk lmcoates https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176758457 2017-06-18 11:48:58 UTC https://padlet.com/lmcoates/wbkrczxab4n5/wish/176758457