Alejandra L

I used to be a person who accepted everything teachers said even if they were rude or unfair to me. I was very submissive and all I did was to start crying after that.

When I was in 9th grade I started to change. When teachers told me things that were not true, I started to question and say: "with all due respect, that's not true"; "I don't agree"; "I must not excuse, because it was not my fault"; "Why do I have to excuse?". Teachers started to say that I was rude, and I had problems in high school, but I didn't care. I felt better being like that, saying my opinion.

Sometimes teachers think that they are right, and we (the students) must accept even if/when they are unfair, and it's not allowed to give your opinion or question them.

But one day, I wasn’t feeling good physically or mentally. My brother told me to do exercise and everything changed. At first, it was hard, but in a 1 month I started feeling stronger and more energetic. Now, I can’t imagine my life without it.

Now, she has a job, she used to leave work at 5 pm and... (ellipsis)

I am a student and live in a house with my family. My neighbor is a nice guy, but he has a problem with noise. He is always listening to loud music, watching movies with loud sound or just talking loudly with his friends.

The problem is that I have to study and do work at home, and the noise makes me very uncomfortable. I find it hard to concentrate and feel stressed when I try to do my homework with all that noise in the background.

A few days ago, after a sleepless night because of the noise, I decided to talk to my neighbor about the problem. I explained that I understood that we all need to relax and have fun, but that the noise was affecting my ability to study and do my homework.

My neighbor was a little uncomfortable and told me that he didn't realize the noise was so loud. He promised me that he would try to keep the noise to a minimum, but not much has changed.

Now I'm wondering if I should make a formal complaint to the building management. I feel bad that I have to, but I need a quiet environment to study and do my homework.

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Sarah is a huge fan of a popular band, and they’re coming to our city next month. The problem is, the tickets are expensive, and Sarah doesn’t have enough money to buy them. She asked me to lend her $350.000 so she could get a ticket. Now, I have the money, but I’ve been saving up for a new laptop for University, and I’m not sure I can afford to lend her that much right now.

When I told her I couldn’t lend her the money, she got really upset. She said I was being selfish and that I don’t care about her interests. She even accused me of not being a true friend. I feel bad because I know how much this concert means to her, but at the same time, I don’t think it’s fair for her to expect me to give up my savings for something that’s not essential.

So, classmates , AITA for refusing to lend my friend money for concert tickets?

My family always expected me to choose a traditional mayor, like law, accounting, etc., but I realized that was not what I really wanted. I decided to change to something that I am really passionate about and even though I have a solid plan my family doesn't agree.

One day, my father call me on my cell phone because he want told that the weekend was his was his wedding, but I don't answer.

Next week, we were able to talk but, he just told me that he was mad at me because I never had time for him.

Weeks later, I didn't understand why he wasn't mad at me for answering him at the time. Until one day I was watching Instagram stories, and I saw a post from my cousin where there was a family reunion, and my dad and my stepmom were in wedding outfits. My family never said anything to me.

Am I the asshole for not answering his call and being mad that he didn't invite me?