Barriers and enablers to listening well at home and at work by Claire Rafferty https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my en-us 2022-03-01 01:28:42 UTC 2022-03-04 23:27:51 UTC hello@padlet.com From personal experience - what are some of the barriers you experience to listening well and what are some of the enabling factors that help you listen well? crafferty17 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2070569946 2022-03-01 01:31:17 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2070569946 Phone/computer in front of me https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727205 If my phone or computer are near me I find myself looking to check my phone/email or find myself thinking about checking my phone email. 

I have to put my phone face down and turn away from my computer if someone comes to my desk to speak to me at work.

]]> 2022-03-04 23:20:13 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727205 zixliu7 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727627 Barriers: being in a stressed and overwhelmed state, holding an existing grudge towards the speaker, being distracted by another urgent task.

Enabler: reciprocal care and positive relationship between me and the speaker, being able to relate to the situation (eg having experienced similar things myself, being face to face]]> 2022-03-04 23:21:08 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727627 heyo https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727677 barriers
- being busy with something else (on your end)
- disinterest in the topic (just humouring the person speaking to you)
- your mind being on something else (distracted listening)

enablers
- making the effort to prioritise the speaker
- getting rid of distractions, perhaps in this day and age simply putting down your phone / ipad
- not jumping in too quickly - let the person finish his/her story]]> 2022-03-04 23:21:14 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727677 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727726 Barriers: 
- my own capacity (might not in a good state to deal with other's problems)
- no experience on the particular problem

Factors enable me listen well: 
- close relationship with the story teller
- have experience on the problem]]> 2022-03-04 23:21:20 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078727726 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728026 When I have other urgent tasks to do, I find it difficult to listen. When I am feeling stressed or exhausted it is hard to listen.

A quiet space without distractions helps me to listen well.


]]> 2022-03-04 23:21:59 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728026 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728325 barriers- can't see the person's face therefore I am not able to read the body language and the person's attitude. sometimes my mood can affect my ability to listen.

enablers- trust relationship, welcoming environment]]> 2022-03-04 23:22:37 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728325 Smart watches cwilken2 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728540 It is very frustrating when I am in the middle of a conversation and someone looks down at their watch because it has vibrated. I can immediately tell that they have disengaged/stopped listening and focused on what has come through on their watch.  

Self-discipline- make a conscious effort not to look at your watch or even phone while you are talking to someone. ]]> 2022-03-04 23:23:03 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728540 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728758 distracted by technologies, especially with my phone next to me, will be the biggest barrier.

]]> 2022-03-04 23:23:30 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728758 Barriers: When I see my friend crying, my immediate reaction is to freeze and become anxious about how best to comfort them, rather than listening to what they want to say. nil21 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728817 2022-03-04 23:23:37 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728817 yuanruis https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728910 Barriers: Some noise, such as cars coming from outside the window

Enablers: A state of getting enough sleep



]]> 2022-03-04 23:23:49 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078728910 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729043 when I am busy with other stuff, I feel I am disrupted and cannot listen well or talk.]]> 2022-03-04 23:24:07 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729043 Time zijliu https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729052 when I want to talk to somebody, I preferred to ask whether he/she is free cause sometime it is not the listener's fault to behaving impatient. And also, when someone come to me, I would like to make sure I am ready to be a listener.]]> 2022-03-04 23:24:09 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729052 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729066 barriers
I give my judgment prematurely when listening
I can't think from other people's perspective when listening
enablers
try to trust relationship

]]> 2022-03-04 23:24:11 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729066 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729501 culture difference and language barrier may also be barriers in global context]]> 2022-03-04 23:25:00 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078729501 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/vfb0onhg6lqsu7my/wish/2078730852 The barrier to listening encountered at home was that family members were willing to speak their minds and seldom listened to others. Family roles can also be barrier to listen. The things that help me listen I think are respect and patience.

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