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Americans are now spending more time alone than ever. It’s changing our personalities, our politics, and even our relationship to reality.

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:36:33 UTC

The Bar Is Closed

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:37:16 UTC

Rise of takeout/delivery culture: 74% of restaurant traffic is off-premises (up from 61% pre-COVID)
Less communal dining = more eating alone
Solo dining up 29% in 2 years (OpenTable data)
Example quote: “There’s an isolationist dynamic that’s taking place in the restaurant business” -- Steve Salis

The End of the Social Century

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:38:40 UTC

From 1900–1960: surging church, union, and civic memberships
Since 1970s: decline in community institutions (libraries, gyms, union halls)
Causes: automobiles, television, and individualism

Phonebound

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:40:09 UTC

Smartphones dominate 30%+ of waking hours for teens
Decline in hanging out daily with friends (down 50% since early 1990s)
TikTok trend: joy when friends cancel plans which reflects comfort in solitude

Homebound

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:40:48 UTC

Adults spend +99 more minutes at home daily (2003 → 2022)
Homes built for screen time (TVs, streaming)
Hosting/attending social events declined 32% since 2000s

Secular Monks

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:41:12 UTC

New masculinity: self-optimization, isolation (cold plunges, fasting, meditation)
Viral “morning routine” videos: protagonists alone, no family/friends
Men’s “neededness” (community role) is vanishing, replaced by despair & opioids

Politics on Solitude

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:42:12 UTC

Stronger inner circle (family) and outer circle (tribes online)
Collapse of the middle ring (neighbors/community)
Leads to polarization, intolerance, and the rise of “all-tribe, no-village” politics
Connection to Trump’s appeal

The Introversion Delusion

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:43:02 UTC

People predict solitude will make them happier but experiments show talking to strangers boosts mood
Acting extroverted = more positive emotions whereas introverted week = more negative

The AI Century

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:43:33 UTC

AI companions (e.g., Character.ai) attracting tens of millions of users, avg. 93 mins/day
AI can provide constant validation, but undermines ability to deal with real human conflict
Tragically has already lead to the death of 16 year old, Adam Raine https://www.nytimes.com/2025/08/26/technology/chatgpt-openai-suicide.html?smid=url-share

The Solutions

burner66767 — 2025-09-26 23:44:41 UTC

The decline of social infrastructure (libraries, parks, gyms) worsens solitude. Introducing new social infrastructure can help mitigate the issue.
The Amish model: adopt technology selectively, aligned with values
Positive trends:
- Independent bookstores up 50% since 2009
- Board-game cafés doubling by 2030
Quote: “The way we spend our minutes is the way we spend our decades.”

Convenience has built what Thompson calls an anti-social century. Suburbs, streaming, delivery, and remote life make social interaction optional, which leads to a “social recession”

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:20:02 UTC

Data also shows loneliness rates are not rising in the same way. Gallup found loneliness actually declined slightly after the pandemic. So solitude may be up, but not always harmful.

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:20:44 UTC

With 74% of meals now off-premises, eating has shifted from a communal act to a solo convenience

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:21:35 UTC

Dining alone doesn’t always mean disconnection. People may still connect digitally or simply enjoy independence as solo dining is often about “me time”

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:22:56 UTC

Supports Thompson’s idea that decline predates Gen Z and phones with the convenience and suburbanization hollowed out institutions

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:23:45 UTC

Newer communities (online networks, global fandoms) have replaced older forms. Just because institutions changed doesn’t mean people stopped connecting

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:24:15 UTC

Teens spend 30% of waking hours on screens, and daily hangouts dropped 50% since the 1990s

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:24:46 UTC

Not all phone use is anti-social with FaceTime, group chats, and shared memes being used to maintain relationships, even if not face-to-face

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:27:28 UTC

Adults spend 99 more minutes/day at home than in 2003, with events like hosting friends down 32%

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:27:51 UTC

Homes have also become multi-functional hubs where work, fitness, and community events can still happen virtually from home

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:28:25 UTC

The “luxury monastic” lifestyle where cold plunges, fasting, and supplements removes people from family and civic ties

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:29:12 UTC

Personal discipline doesn’t always mean anti-social behavior. Self-improvement can build healthier individuals who later strengthen their communities

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:29:31 UTC

Without local ties, people see opponents only online, where disagreement becomes toxic. This feeds “all-tribe, no-village” politics

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:29:50 UTC

Polarization has multiple causes such as economic inequality, media fragmentation, and partisan strategy so it's not just solitude

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:30:17 UTC

Research (Epley, Lyubomirsky) shows people feel better after social interaction, even with strangers

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:30:41 UTC

Some genuinely thrive in solitude (artists, introverts) where not all solitude is maladaptive, and labeling it a “delusion” may oversimplify

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:31:05 UTC

AI can give constant validation, but this undermines learning how to deal with conflict and disappointment

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:31:23 UTC

For some (grief, disability, isolation), AI companions may provide comfort and reduce loneliness, at least as a supplement

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:31:43 UTC

Independent bookstores (+50% since 2009) and board-game cafés show people will return to in-person rituals when given options

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:32:05 UTC

These fixes may only reach privileged groups. Without systemic changes (work schedules, inequality, affordable housing), many won’t have time or resources to join

burner66767 — 2025-10-03 07:32:22 UTC