Carney Bonner Case by https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y en-us 2021-09-01 05:40:06 UTC 2025-10-07 02:03:37 UTC hello@padlet.com "You should go and kill yourself because you don't mean anything to anyone." irinemaria02 https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709219559 When 14-year-old Carney Bonner read this Facebook message he was so distressed that he began to self-harm.
The cyber-bullying continued for a year.
Carney started receiving abusive messages on Facebook by a bully who he believes created an account under a false name.
]]> 2021-09-01 06:12:52 UTC https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709219559 "It started eating into my self-confidence, it all started going downhill," he said. irinemaria02 https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709225549 The bullying began with messages such as "you're nothing" and "no-one cares about you". But Carney, who described himself as "loud" and "always outgoing", was initially unfazed. At first he thought it was all a joke. But then the messages became more abusive. When he read the message stating that he should kill himself he finally broke.]]> 2021-09-01 06:15:54 UTC https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709225549 'I slit my wrists because I was cyber-bullied' irinemaria02 https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709259982 To cope with these negative consequences, he resorted to self-harming behaviors like cutting his wrists. It got to the point where it was from his wrists up to most of his arm. Engaging in self-harm is almost always a sign of emotional distress. Many times, teens who are self-harming may be using these hurtful behaviors as a coping mechanism for uncomfortable emotions and painful memories. And because cutting or burning can leave scars and are often noticeable to others, self-harm can cause intense feelings of shame, which in some cases may keep teens stuck in a cycle of harming themselves over and over again.]]> 2021-09-01 06:35:17 UTC https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709259982 irinemaria02 https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709278371 One of his friends saw his wrist injuries and took him to the school counsellor, who helped him overcome the bullying. Carney eventually found out who the bully was and confronted him six months ago. He turned out to be someone Carney had regarded as a friend.
Carney has now recently qualified as a 'cyber mentor' for charity Beatbullying and helps other victims of cyber-bullying. 
]]> 2021-09-01 06:45:31 UTC https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709278371 irinemaria02 https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709288254 2021-09-01 06:51:17 UTC https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709288254 irinemaria02 https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709319962 Cyberbullies generally have the intention of creating harm when they engage in online bullying. However, bullying can still take place without intention if a victim perceives actions to be harmful. 

]]> 2021-09-01 07:09:52 UTC https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709319962 Reflections irinemaria02 https://padlet.com/irinemaria02/usaykgz5kdjb1h1y/wish/1709327091 It is not enough for victims of cyberbullying to deal with their bullies and try to find solutions. Often times, these victims are emotionally distraught and unable to find help.
It is our job as a community to work toward establishing systems that prevent cyberbullying from taking place at all.
Kids and teens who are cyberbullied are still learning how to regulate emotions and deal with social situations. Cyberbullying at this age could have lasting permanent effects. Mental health resources should be put in place to help victims of cyberbullying manage their mental health.
Cyberbullying thrives on status and approval. Cyberbullies will stop when social rejection of cyberbullying becomes so widespread and prevalent that they no longer have anything to gain. This means that every instance of online bullying that is witnessed (especially in the case of troll comments) should be ignored. In addition, there should be awareness campaigns that online bullying is not only not acceptable, but that it is a sign of weak social status.
Schools are the point of contact for parents trying to help their children who are being cyberbullied. For this reason, schools should have programs and protocols in place to immediately and swiftly deal with cyberbullying. Parents should not have to ask multiple times for help without receiving it
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