https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack en-us 2023-02-28 15:57:21 UTC 2023-03-02 15:05:25 UTC hello@padlet.com pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498206104 stage 1: trust vs mistrust
stage 2: autonomy vs shame and doubt
stage 3: initiative vs guilt
stage 4: industry vs inferiority
stage 5: identity vs confusion
stage 6: intimacy vs isolation
stage 7: generativity vs stagnation
stage 8: integrity vs despair]]> 2023-02-28 16:10:27 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498206104 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498227017 "Person seeks to make commitments to others or may suffer from isolation and self-absorption," (page 13, Child 3e). This stage is met typically between ages 18 to 40. This stage of life is centered around building intimate relationships with people. 
I think I hit this one a little early. In seventh grade, I had critical things happen in my life that I believe caused me to fall into isolation over intimacy. Having two great grandparents and a three-year-old cousin die all within five months is insanely hard. It is not something people that young typically go through. My family always said I handled it well, but that's because I didn't really handle, I just bottled it up. Because of this, it was hard for me to get close to people outside my tight circle. I didn't want to let anybody in long enough for them to hurt me. I do think over time (now that I am 18) I have grown more and can be more open now, but at that point in my life I kept everyone out. 
The picture is of my cousin, the one who passed away at three, when he was a baby. ]]> 2023-02-28 16:22:11 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498227017 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498227400 "Baby develops sense of whether world is a good and safe place," (page 13, Child 3e). This stage is typically between infancy and eighteen months. This stage is all about learning to trust people or mistrust them. It's important that a baby's caregivers provide a safe environment. They need to meet the infant's needs the majority of the time. This way, the baby will have a better sense of how to trust.
I was born into a huge, loving family. I grew up on a farm with chickens and pigs. I was surrounded by great people who influenced me to trust them, especially my mom.
The picture I chose is of me on my first birthday.

]]> 2023-02-28 16:22:28 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498227400 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498227899 "Childe develops a balance of independence and self-sufficiency over shame and doubt," (page 13, Childe 3e). This stage is typically from eighteen months to three years old. This stage is about letting a child get a sense of their independence. This will help them establish a sense of self control and grasp some basic confidence in their own abilities.
By the time a knew I had to wear clothes, my mom let me start picking out my outfits. She first started by laying out three different outfits on the bed and I got to choose one. Then she would lay three different shirts in a row and pants in a row that all kind of matched, and I would make my own outfit. Eventually, I was able to pick out my own outfits without her laying anything out or helping.
The picture I chose is of my uncle and I driving out boat when I was three.]]> 2023-02-28 16:22:46 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498227899 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498228411 "Child develops initiative when trying new activities and is not overwhelmed by guilt," (page 13, Child 3e). This stage is typically between ages three and five. This is when children start to assert power and control over play. Developing initiative promotes the want to try new things without an overwhelming fear of life. Through trying things on their own they can develop ambition and direction. It is important you don't make the child feel embarrassed for trying something new, that can cause guilt.
When I was young, I always wanted to do new things. Whether it be riding a bike, ride a four-wheeler, or learning to swim I was always up for something new. My family helped be become this way by always encouraging me to gain new experiences, they made sure I did it safely obviously, but they were always there cheering me on.
The picture I chose is my uncle and I riding his four-wheeler when I was five.]]> 2023-02-28 16:23:04 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498228411 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498229204 "Child must learn skills of the culture or face feelings of incompetence," (page 13, Child 3e). This stage typically occurs ages six to eleven. During this stage, children learn new skills. This helps them feel useful and promotes a sense of self-worth. 
I think an important part of this stage for me was volleyball. From 4th grade to freshman year, I played volleyball all year round. Playing a sport on a team with my friends made me feel important and useful. I was an asset and my skills, and their skills fit together like a puzzle. This really helped me to fall into industry rather than inferiority.
The picture I chose is of my friends and I from our last volleyball game (this was eight-grade because I don't have any earlier ones). ]]> 2023-02-28 16:23:30 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498229204 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498229654 "Adolescent must determine sense of 'Who am I?' or experience confusion about roles," (page 13, Child 3e). This stage is typically from ages twelve to eighteen. During this stage teens are trying to figure out how they fit in this society. While trying to establish a sense of self, they may experiment with different activities and behaviors. 
I think this stage was a battle for me. I grew up in a split family since birth. I was at my mom's during the week and my dad's on weekends. Both sides of my family have very opposing beliefs in all aspects of life. I struggled a lot with figuring out who I really was vs who I was pretending to be for them. Eventually I started to be two different people depending on who I was around. Finally, by age sixteen, I figured out who I was and stood firm in that. I, thankfully, fell into identity rather than isolation. 
The picture I chose is of me after I found my identity.]]> 2023-02-28 16:23:48 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498229654 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498230271 This stage typically occurs at ages forty to sixty-five. At this stage, adults try to nurture things that will outlast them, usually by parenting children. 
I have not lived through this stage yet, but I plan on having kids and raising a big family. I was raised in a big family, I didn't have sibling, but I had a bunch of cousins. I can't see my future without a bunch of kids. I can see myself having a sense of generativity by then.
I chose this picture of my great grandma, all my cousins, and me. It represents what I hope to create some day.]]> 2023-02-28 16:24:12 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498230271 pvanderkleed https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498230704 This stage is typically from age sixty-five to death. They key conflict of this stage is whether or not you've lived a meaningful and satisfying life.
Again, I have not been through this yet. But I intend to live a fulfilling life, full of great memories and experiences. I can easily see myself having integrity during my last years. But there is potentially a slight possibility that if my husband were to die before me, I could see myself fall into despair. I am a very social person, so if my main companion were to pass before I do, I honestly don't know what I'd do. Hopefully if this happens, I will find a way to enjoy life with his memory.
The picture I chose is a few of my favorite memories I've made so far. ]]> 2023-02-28 16:24:29 UTC https://padlet.com/pvanderkleed/u7z8e08ha7ifvack/wish/2498230704