https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu Think back to a time when you received messages about race. How old were you? Who said it? What did they say? Was the message +/-/~? en-us 2020-06-25 20:42:18 UTC 2020-06-25 22:30:37 UTC hello@padlet.com rebbykern https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640416708 The entire time I was growing up there was only 1 back family in our town, and they weren't there for long. I felt afraid for them because I didn't think that they would be accepted. The 2 boys were fantastic athletes, so they were accepted. Would they have been anyway? Maybe, but I can't say for sure...]]> 2020-06-25 20:44:55 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640416708 rebbykern https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640416911 My sister had a dark-skinned baby doll when we were growing up and she carried it everywhere with her. I vividly remember my grandmother and mom getting in a huge fight over the fact that she would buy that baby doll for my sister.]]> 2020-06-25 20:45:08 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640416911 rebbykern https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640417090 When I was in 8th grade I fell in love with a black boy. My parents were very supportive but I remember them warning me that others would see me differently. It broke my heart that others would see me differently but I didn't change my love. ]]> 2020-06-25 20:45:20 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640417090 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461225 2020-06-25 21:44:14 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461225 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461336 My sister was with a black man. Years into their relationship, she got pregnant. I remember my parents, my father specifically, shunning her because she was carrying a black child. I was 10. This created so much confusion to me because before that I didn't understand why the color of the baby mattered. 

]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:22 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461336 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461355 grew up in a very small, very white town in the northern US--learned that the Civil War was a matter of the good white people in the north trying to save the slaves from the evil southerners and that's all there was to it, when in reality it was an economic war and Lincoln wouldn't have freed anyone if he could've gotten away with it]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:24 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461355 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461381 I'm from the south and my family is all very conservative. I remember being a young child and my grandfather telling us jokes specifically about black people, and always very demeaning jokes. Now that I'm grown up, I realize how horrible that is, but as a kid that was the norm in our family. ]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:26 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461381 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461442 I moved a lot growing up and I remember looking at a house and my mother and father talking to another adult (everyone in the room was white) about how they wanted my brothers and I do go to a white based/dominate school. I never understood much as a child but I do remember the odd feeling it gave me. Wondering why they were so concerned about placing "me into a new culture" when now I see it has them hiding me from a culture that they should have never been scared of.]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:32 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461442 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461444 When I was in high school I dated an Indian girl. My parents did not mind but my grandparents were very bothered and would make jokes constantly. They would talk about how it was just a phase and that i would "get my head straight" eventually.]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:32 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461444 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461451 2020-06-25 21:44:33 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461451 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461506 When I was little my Aunt and Uncle adopted my cousin from China. Any time my grandfather talked about her or to her he used a racial slur. I didn't understand it and my parents had to explain but I still don't really understand it. I don't get how he could use that language on family, even if he grew up "in a different time".]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:38 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461506 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461530 My elementary school was in a very rural area and there were very few people of color in the whole school. My classes were primarily white and it was very noticeable when I saw other classes that had a child that wasn't white in it. I didn't notice that this was off until I switched to a school within city limits in middle school.]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:40 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461530 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461586 I grew up in a low income area, attending an elementary school which was largely black. I remember building great relationships and I didn't receive any messaging about racial bias. I do remember being the only student in the 'gifted' program and being bussed to another school to participate, a mostly white school. I wonder if there were less black children in the program because they had been overlooked for the testing.]]> 2020-06-25 21:44:44 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461586 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461893 We loved going to the library in downtown growing up. My mom never let us go anywhere other than the library because "that part of town" wasn't safe. Looking back now it was a predominately black and poor neighborhood. ]]> 2020-06-25 21:45:14 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461893 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461928 Going to my one black friend's house for the first time in middle school. Noticing the difference in income, social situations, and the way his parents spoke to him. I felt uncomfortable seeing the differences in my mind and making assumptions based on circumstantial differences.]]> 2020-06-25 21:45:18 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640461928 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463235 When I was in first grade, I made friends with a black classmate. He came to school one day with Nike checks in his sideburns. I went home and asked my mom for the same haircut, and she told me white boys don’t get that kind of haircut. ]]> 2020-06-25 21:46:57 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463235 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463254 When I was maybe five or so, I vividly remember going to Walmart with my white grandmother. She saw a beautiful black baby and used a slur for the child. I didn’t know what it meant, so I asked her.My mother immediately corrected her, but it was then that I first heard a negative term for a person of color.]]> 2020-06-25 21:46:58 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463254 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463701 I remember hearing my grandma making comments about black people being dirtier than “us” and not understanding where that came from. It seemed so evil and I never understood why she felt that way. ]]> 2020-06-25 21:47:35 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463701 https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463894 Growing up some people in my family would use derogatory terms in reference to people of color and even sing along to songs that said it. Although I knew it was wrong socially I felt that I couldn’t correct them. And although it hurt to listen I let it happen because it was my family.]]> 2020-06-25 21:47:54 UTC https://padlet.com/rebbykern/tmmzrkk40mn8fgiu/wish/640463894