Social Toxicity at School Reflection by Farima Pour-Khorshid

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

The ignorant fear that I held in relationship to Black communities having grown up in a largely homogeneous rural community is something that I am still ashamed of today.

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

Sex education was ALWAYS hetero, never queer and never liberatory

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

being afraid to bring my delicious cultural foods to lunch because other kids would bully me

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

Having to take personal days for my most holy holidays or my kids having to choose between exams and religious practice.

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

Primarily white community refusing to change a school Mascot even if it clearly offends Indigenous People (Washington High School in SF). I also see so many kids playing Cowboy-Indians in front of adults who never intervene

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

In our district the staff are 97% white.

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

Not being allowed to try out for the foot ball team because I was a girl

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

"you're too young to understand"

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

At one of the public elementary schools I attended, the staff would publicly punish the students for speaking Mandarin on the playground with one another--even though the student body was predominantly Chinese.

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

I have often witnessed teachers punish kids for their hidden disability (for example, ADHD)

fpourkhorshid — 2023-03-18 03:45:18 UTC

There was no LGBTQ clubs or support groups or resources at all at my high school and the admin would not allow students to start their own on campus

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-07 00:50:53 UTC

poor students not being able to go on field trips or join sports at school because they couldn't afford the cost

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-07 00:52:28 UTC

I always notice when darker skinned students are disciplined very differently than white-passing students.

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-07 00:53:28 UTC

always being told that if a boy hit me or bullied me it was because he liked me..."boys will be boys".

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-07 00:54:17 UTC

Being told that I could never be a cheerleader because I was too fat.

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-07 00:54:56 UTC

witnessing boys cat calling girls and teachers and no one ever intervening.

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-07 00:55:23 UTC

I saw a trans girl at my school be bullied to the point that she had to transfer schools.

History

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History is taught from a European standpoint due to colonization. History is taught from the winners perspective and makes the OTHER lesser thus dehumanizing them, and the learners

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-08 02:36:25 UTC

being forced to present to the class even though I knew a peer had severe presentation anxiety--no accommodations were made.

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Poor students never seeing snow, or the beach

spangner1 — 2025-01-08 02:37:01 UTC

very few teachers above 50

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Students come to school with no/very little school supplies due to costs.

Teaching Slavery

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Teaching Slavery from a victimizing standpoint and not talking about the revolts and other points of pride.

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-08 02:37:51 UTC

I used to hate when school would do a line for boys and line for girls or boys vs girls in games because I knew a peer that was nonbinary and felt so uncomfortable in these moment

boys and girls bathrooms, no gender neutral bathrooms

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-08 02:38:09 UTC

only students with prior sport experience getting chosen for school team

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Very few young teachers

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students in communities that can't afford to go on one or more than one field trip in a school year. students not having enough supplies or clothes ( even uniform ) for school.

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-08 02:39:21 UTC

boys being inappropriate with younger female teachers and not showing respect but always listened to and respected male teachers

students not getting challenged at their levels

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Sports for Boys and dance or art for girls. In high school was always like that

students throwing the word "gay" around as an insult.

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Jokes were made of my lack of technical abilities. The younger generation is all tech, but that wasn't around when I was young.

devoting less time to teach anti-black readings

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Teaching a narrative that excludes the LGBTQ community

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when white staff is more respected than the staff of color and does not hold them to the standard of those of color ( a lot more wiggle room ) and recieve more praise than the others

male student shouting sexist comments aloud in class about the girl students making them feel less then and making himself superior.

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spangner1 — 2025-01-08 02:41:44 UTC

extreme difference in district resources where I substitute depending on zip code

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People that claim that MLK should not be a holiday

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My child's school has sports tryouts for the whole school, yet they are planning to have only 2 spots open for the younger grades and the rest for the upper grades because they are more experienced players.

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Men are not allowed to do the dishes

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some parents have biased opinions on whether or not they want their child to learn from LGBTQ + teachers

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Schools not having/supplying bilingual resources for parents

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-08 02:43:35 UTC

white supremacy culture characteristics: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1JsN6tqnzoedOwUZ2jCdysSjpnXsS36U1/view?usp=sharing

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Refusing to use pronouns

schools having to bus students to different school district because of fewer students in a school-- mostly students from lower economic class being sent to that particular school

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Talking about how the new generation uses too much technology and are to soft of students.

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High school was catholic based so there was no such thing as talking about LGBTQ. It was prohibited to bring the topic in the class

spangner1 — 2025-01-08 02:44:14 UTC

historical and literary texts often highlight male achievements primarily

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-08 02:44:17 UTC

students and teachers being punished for wearing or protesting for a free Palestine and calling Palestinians terrorists

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Not being allowed to try out at soccer team because i was shorter than other players

refusing to wear the mandatory class pink backpack because the color pink is for girls and parent will not allow student to use it for school.

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documents that ask for head of the house or man of the house

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Basketball " You can't teach height"

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Not allowing girls to use car toys or boys to play to dolls

boys can not wear pink

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the phrase " I dont see color " being thrown around a lot when discussing race

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Being afraid even to say the word "Black" because what will others say when I use it.

Still observing Columbus Day and/or teaching about Chrisopher Columbus as some sort of pioneer and hero rather than a rapist, murderer and colonizer

fpourkhorshid — 2025-01-08 02:45:44 UTC

students choosing to make friends with other students matching their own color

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Basing reduced or free breakfast on a family's financial income.

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Just for being white they get better salary and they get more respect.

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Refusing to speak a different language even when you know how to, simply because of it being a burden to you

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First-generation college students can't afford to get a higher education.

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Kids with rich parents get custom football helmets to keep while other players get hand me downs for the season

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Which public school you attend based on geography that is inherently racist and classist

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Undervalued as a teacher / not taken as serious due to being younger than other teachers. Admin holds you to the standard that they had for themselves

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Not being latinx enough>

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Being an immigrant and people knowing that you are

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Teachers not allowed to talk about trans people

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Boys don't cry and have to be strong.