https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir en-us 2022-10-28 05:17:20 UTC 2022-10-28 13:06:15 UTC hello@padlet.com alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360271538 I am Alysa Dien A. Bentor. Mostly known as Aldine. I was born on the 22nd of December 2002. Having friends after our move out of my father's compound lot was one of my childhood struggles. I was used to being surrounded by my cousins whom I play with every day. Since we moved out, I had a difficult time fitting in with our neighbors because they are older than me.  When I am allowed to go out, I don't know what they're playing since my parents don't let me leave the house that much. Another struggle was having a little brother. The first 10 years of my life were spent as an only child. It was hard for me to adjust. Growing up, I was pampered. I always get what I want and have no responsibilities. Everything changed when my brother was born. There wasn't a day my mother didn't scold me. As an older sister, I had responsibilities like helping take care of my brother and helping around the house. It was really hard for me because I used to be pampered. 

]]> 2022-10-28 07:18:44 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360271538 alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360396055 This is my family. My family is not affectionate. We show our love for each other with service. My parents gives my brother and I everything we wanted and fully support us with everything. We are not used to being showy or bond at all that's why I get uncomfortable every time we go out to eat with only the four of us. This impacted me in a lot of ways, especially in my relationships with other people. I am not expressive. I don't show too much emotion and will not help unless someone asks for it. I constantly seek validation from other people to feel accepted or loved. ]]> 2022-10-28 09:40:02 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360396055 alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360421642 2022-10-28 10:11:47 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360421642 alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360424601 One of my talents and skills is singing. It is my hobby. I love to sing all the time. I have a great passion for music. I write songs as well. It became my outlet and way of expressing how I feel. Most of the songs I wrote are intimate and personal that's why I don't share them much with other people. I can also play instruments like guitar and ukulele. Dancing is also one of the skills I have. I've been dancing ever since I can remember. ]]> 2022-10-28 10:15:49 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360424601 alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360448499 My relationship with my father definitely defined my fear of being in a romantic relationship. My relationship with my churchmates back home defined how I live my life now. It defined how I decide things and how I give importance to myself now. That relationship made me realize that I must be better than what they expect of me, that I must not live up to their expectations, and that what's important is what I want for myself. God taught me to be simple, to not complicate things. Simplicity is not marking down rather it is not complicating. This is a lesson that I am living right now and how I would define how I live my life as a young adult. I started schooling at 3 years old. I spent 3 years in preschool. I finished 6 years of primary education, 4 years in high school, and 2 years in senior high school. Now, I am currently in my 2nd year of college. ]]> 2022-10-28 10:47:30 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360448499 alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360543766 At my age, I think I achieved many achievements in life. I celebrate small wins and appreciate every progress I make. One of these achievements is being able to say "no". I am a people pleaser and I would do anything to please people. I don't like arguments or having conflicts with other people. As much as I would like to help others, prioritizing their needs over my own is not healthy for my mental health. At first, I found it difficult to reject a favor that would put my mental health at risk and would conflict with my schedule. I overthink and get anxious when I think they will be upset with me, but I was able to stand firm in my decision to prioritize myself over other demands. Now I give mental health a higher priority and say no more easily. To compromise, I would help them get help from other people. Another achievement going out of my comfort zone. All my life I felt restricted. I am afraid of taking risks and doing what I actually love. The feeling of restriction persists even after I have moved to Cebu. Initially, I'm worried that I'll be judged or recognized for doing something that was not "perfect". I started doing something out of my comfort zone that I would love to try and felt guilty but it didn't stop me. Of course, it'll be uncomfortable for me but I need to loosen up to be able to unbox other potentials I have. ]]> 2022-10-28 12:31:57 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360543766 alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360568560 I think what separates me from others is having a gift of discernment. I am grateful for this because it is something that I use to help other people and help myself in understanding people. When I went to Manila last year for a lock-in taping, I did expect to learn so much from it. I only went there with the expectation to just compete and for the experience. I meet and socialize with other contestants and workers in the industry and after hearing their different stories, I learned so much from their experiences in life. I learned so much about how people lived differently than in the community I grew up with. That taught me not to be judgemental because all of their stories are shocking to me. I was so naive when I went there but those people were an eye-opener for me and taught me to be more emphatic. ]]> 2022-10-28 12:52:09 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360568560 alysadienbentor https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360581485 The trips I've taken to add to my autobiography are to Cebu, Bataan, Legazpi, and Naga. On every one of these trips, there are a lot of experiences and lessons I learned that I cherish and that adds to how I live my life now and in the future. ]]> 2022-10-28 13:02:41 UTC https://padlet.com/alysadienbentor/rtx229s0232wilir/wish/2360581485