https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq Post a response to this prompt: In our country, divorce has become more prevalent. Why do so many marriages fail? Conversely, what are some qualities of a healthy relationship? Do you hope to marry someday? Why or why not? Feel free to amp up your entry with a symbolic image and/or link to an "on point" resource for your peers to check out. ALSO, please make the effort to comment on some of your peers' responses. en-us 2021-10-24 21:17:17 UTC 2022-12-04 21:10:59 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2363521725 I believe many marriages fail as peoples morals are changing, in other words, chivalry is rare these days, if not dead. In the 1900s, before technology, many more marriages were successful, there were less factors actively working against relationships. Now with technology, it is easier to find flaws in your partner, or things you find unfavorable; things to pick a fight over. For example, if they text other people, if they don't post you on social media, or if they don't answer you every second of every day. In another sense, the use of technology also makes it easier to find a new partner, through things like dating apps, making people's current relationship more disposable and less valuable. I believe in order for a relationship, a marriage specifically, to be successful, both people must have similar, if not identical values and morals. Both people must see eye to eye, and agree on most things. They must be able to communicate effectively with each other, and be each others priority. With this in mind, I do hope to marry someday, however I have high standards, as I would like to avoid divorce by any chance possible. Being in a relationship is comforting and reassuring, ideally, I plan to spend the rest of my life with one person. ]]> 2022-10-31 15:34:50 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2363521725 23castorea https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2365642835 Several marriages fail due to issues that can come about in the marriage, such as infidelity, arguing/conflict, and lack of communication. Some marriages are not able to sustain said issues because it is not morally right, or there is too much of something going on within the relationship. Marriage was extremely different in the past as certain factors did not come into play then. Such as, technology, cheating, or busy schedules from both ends of the relationship. Cheating was never considered a thing within a marriage, and of course technology was not in existence.  Connections today are much harder to form as everyone is much more busy within their individual lives.  Additionally, the existence of dating apps has limited personal connections to people, preventing a strong relationship to occur from the beginning. Qualities of a healthy relationship include strong communication, teamwork, admiration and respect for your spouse, as well as commitment. A couple must be kind to each other, as well as patient. Also, a couple should not rush into marriage, and truly get to know each other to form a more personable bond with each other. It is extremely important for a couple to also have time to themselves, ultimately strengthening the marriage all together. Considering all of this, I hope one day I, myself, will be married, however, to someone that considers all of these things important. Although no marriage is perfect, I do have high standards and hope to marry one person who I will spend the rest of my life with. I also do not want to rush into anything as well, and will spend my time finding the person I wish to marry. ]]> 2022-11-01 21:26:19 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2365642835 boylejulie https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366459786 BY Mrs. Boyle

I feel so bad that so many marriages nowadays do not make it.  I believe there are many causes of divorce.  I wonder if technology and the internet makes it easier for people to cheat?  I also wonder if society is changing and there isn't as much of a focus on family.  Two of my three brothers have gotten divorced and the ones who hurt the most are the kids that can get caught in the middle.  

I know that I am very lucky to have found a great man to spend my life with.  Shawn and I have been married now for nineteen years.  Keeping a healthy relationship definitely takes patience, laughter, and a dedication to keep the lines of communication open.  A relationship cannot survive when trust and honesty are not part of it.  Sadly, many couples get divorced.  My husband and I plan to never be part of that statistic.  


]]> 2022-11-02 11:01:56 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366459786 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366512381 marriages nowadays fails because of how much more arguing occurs, not being able to effectively communicate and people change more everyday. People are always are attached to their phones the increase in the amount of cheating that occurs has sky-rocketed. I think if people started to communicate their feelings and thoughts and not be scared to talk if something is wrong, if they were able to separate themselves from their phones and really go out and do something to connect as people really used to it would help. I think if you were able to feel comfortable with talking about what is bothering you it would decrease the amount of arguments. I do hope to marry one day and be able to experience a type of love that will last a lifetime, I want to be able to be in love and have a family that I can give all of this love I have to and make happy every single day. ]]> 2022-11-02 11:48:51 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366512381 23fontainez https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366515458 In our country and around the world, more than fifty percent of marriages will or have failed. This is mostly due to a lack of communication between two partners. In order to have a happy marriage, there has to be a line of open communication. Along with communication, there needs to be a sense of unity. Being married, you are still your own person, however, you and your spouse need to work together as a team to balance the complicated dynamics of life. In marriage, compromises and sacrifices play a big role in the dynamic of married life. Partners who refuse to think about how their actions will effect their spouse, often fail, as well as partners who focus so much of their life thinking about their spouse and their feelings, rather than their own self and well being. It's all about balance, and some people have trouble finding it. Instead of fighting to keep a happy marriage, people get frustrated, and give up. I hope to find my partner who will work with me, to love and support me and vice versa. Marriage isn't easy, but it's a war I'm willing to fight for. It just feels comforting to have that companionship that so many of us earn to have. ]]> 2022-11-02 11:51:24 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366515458 23salasn https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366536200 Nowadays divorce has become common worldwide, this has led society to believe that marriage is not a big deal and is often not taken seriously. This has destroyed the idea that marriage is spending the rest of your life with your spouse. Though, in older days divorce was not common and marriages were said to be successful it is most likely not true. Divorce was simply not supported, often the women having to deal with their abusive husband for their rest of their life. It is why, people should not get married so early in their relationship, before being sure you love, trust and want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Which leads to the fact that many marriages fail cause they never got to build that trust between each other, many blaming technology for its temptation to be unfaithful. The key to a successful marriage and healthy relationship, is as easy as communication. With 75% of divorces being initialized for lack of commitment. I do wish to get married one day, and be with someone who I can fully trust, love and spend the rest of my life with. ]]> 2022-11-02 12:07:58 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366536200 23goncalvesb https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366550732 To put it bluntly, people in this society show fake love. They aren't sincere and cannot be trusted. I'm an optimistic person and I do have hope but at the same time, I can't change the truth of how things are these days. Marriages don't last anymore because of numerous reasons. Some of those reasons are social media, it's easy to communicate with and check out other people on there, insecurities can surface due to social media, a lack of communication in the relationship, and a lack of trust. Children of divorced parents may be affected by their parents (role models of relationships) and how they define it, they may not believe in true love (they don't know what that looks like) therefore they may not even try to fight for their relationship to work or last. Marriage is hard but people have to have balance and overall be a team. I am grateful to grow up with both parents together so I know what qualities are good and bad in marriage. It's cliche but communication is key in a relationship. If people don't communicate conflicts, confusion, or their feelings then that will be their downfall. Trusting your partner is important as well, if someone's partner doesn't give them a reason to not trust them then there's no reason to make it a problem. A person needs to love themselves before they love someone else otherwise insecurities will have an impact on how things go in the relationship. It will be exhausting and stressful for a person to always have to reassure their partner and feel like they have a target on their back. A relationship shouldn't be too stressful. Partners should have fun and lift each other up instead of down. I've been told I think like the "old world" instead of the "new". This means I value marriage and purity. I'm genuine and don't play games like people these days. If I ever marry someone I went them to be my endgame. I won't marry someone unless I feel like we'll make it 110%. They'll need to be my best friend and understand me as a person, as well as laugh at my dumb jokes (deal breaker right there lol). Will I marry someone? Well, if it happens it happens if it doesn't then I'll still be living my best life regardless. ]]> 2022-11-02 12:18:00 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366550732 23settubaj https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366556019 I believe many marriages fail due to problems with prioritizing and unfaithfulness. In a marriage, two people who are committed to one another should strive for great communication and make sure to treat the other with respect and love. Your partner should come before priorities like work, and the two should always make sure to spend quality time together since family comes first. When business begins to take first priority instead, the two can become distant and distracted. For some, this causes them to become tempted to be unfaithful and seek this connection somewhere else, and leads to the marriages downfall. However, I hope to marry someday as I believe it's an irreplaceable connection with your person that really shows your commitment and loyalty to them. As long as my partner and I have the same strong morals, we'll be able to have great communication and a successful, happy marriage. ]]> 2022-11-02 12:21:48 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366556019 23chaveso https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366559814 I believe that many marriages fail because of lack of communication and the fact that many couples marry young. There are big decisions made in collaboration between husbands and wives. If big factors are not discussed before marriage it could cause fights and resentment. For example, if a wife and husband have different opinions on having children and they never had the discussion beforehand, this could result in a divorce because of the huge disagreement that change the course of their life and purpose. A healthy relationship is well communicated and also doesn't rush into marriage knowing they are young. Some people may not communicate that the want to wait a few more years to marry because they don't want the other person to have hurt feeling or make them feel they don't believe in their love for each other. I want to marry one day because I want a family and I value the symbolism of a ring and vows. Although I want to marry some day, I do not judge the people who don't due to the percentage of divorce rate increasing. Divorce is something no one wants to go through and avoiding it may be a great decision for many people. Not getting married doesn't mean you cant start a family or grow old with someone and have a beautiful and healthy relationship.]]> 2022-11-02 12:24:16 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366559814 23mccuea https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366576985 Marriages now fall apart for a lot of different reasons. Some couples get married too young and find out later they just weren't a good fit, unfortunately a lot of the time when this happens cheating is involved and really ruins the marriage. Another issue now is how much technology there is. Technology makes it easier for partners to cheat and sneak around as it makes it easier to fake and make someone believe a lie. There are also lots of problems with the ideas of love now and what it means to be in a relationship; people are more shallow and more about whats on the surface. 
A healthy relationship requires heart, communication, trust, and loyalty. Without these something will go wrong and someone will get hurt; but having these a relationship can grow and prosper as long as an open mind is always kept and both sides are willing to compromise and grow together.
In the future I may get married I may not. It is not a priority for me but with the right person maybe it could happen. I feel with the way things are now it is more important to grow by yourself before you choose to grow with a person. ]]> 2022-11-02 12:35:39 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366576985 23langtond https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366580651 To start with the first point, I believe that the rate of failed marriages has increased due to a multitude of different reasons, with the main one being that marriage isn't as necessary as it once was. For example, from basically the start of American history to the 2000's, there were strict social standards that people generally had to abide by, such as men being the main "bread-winners," while women were expected to stay at home for household chores and other related things. However, nowadays, these norms don't really exist in the same magnitude that they once did, which allows people to remain unmarried or without a relationship for longer, or just in general. This would also cause the rate of divorce to increase because the people in the relationship don't have to fear the idea of struggling without their current partner and are able to live by themselves. Another reason that the rates of divorce have probably increased is due to the new social norm of being able to vent about your problems and stand up for yourself. Back when marriage was essentially mandatory, even if the person you were in a relationship with was abusive, you typically just stayed quiet out of fear of public ridicule. On the other hand, people in the 2000's aren't nearly as scared to come out about abusive relationships, and have much more social comfort in trying to break off such a relationship. I suppose that this leads to my next points about healthy aspects of a relationship, which I believe is proper communication and the ability to vent problems to each other with out fear of the opposite party. If you ever feel scared of the other person, there are obviously problems in the relationship that need fixing if the relationship is wanted to be kept alive. Another big thing is trust, and how it is often one of the hardest to keep. This is because once trust is broken by someone in the relationship, it is often hard to gain it back as the person that was affected will always have that thought in the back of their mind that the other person is trying to deceive them in some way. A final thing that I believe is able to keep a relationship healthy is that of doing activities that both of you enjoy and have positive experiences. If you are able to form a lot of positive memories between each other while also keeping the relationship unique, it is bound to survive for a long amount of time. Finally, as for if I would ever get married or not, I believe that it is too early in life to begin thinking about things like this, and how it would be irresponsible of me to form a strong relationship with someone when I don't even know where my life is going to end up. As of right now, I could see myself getting married, or not getting married, but it is really something that I can't predict as of right now.]]> 2022-11-02 12:38:16 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366580651 23desimonea https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366588277 Growing up, every marriage that I've seen has failed. Whether it be from abuse or mental exhaustion, things just never seem to work out. I've noticed that communication and listening skills have become merely an option in marriage. For example, when speaking it is important to remain calm and informative. When listening, you must truly "shut off" your brain in order to retain and absorb your partners information. In my house, that concept flew right out the window. I assume that the inability to properly communicate and listen is common in most marriages worldwide. Although we are all taught those skills at a young age, sometimes it is hard to remember important foundations. In addition to this, patience is key. Without patience, there is no room to grow in a relationship. Both partners must show patience and validation in a relationship. Validation is important when it comes to feelings. No one wants to feel as though they aren't being heard, so it is important to reassure throughout arguments. While you shouldn't be codependent on your partner, it is important to help the other person's emotional health by validating their feelings in arguments. It isn't to say that you can't disagree, but you need to do your best to hear the other person with an open mind. Communication, patience, and time are all important factors in a relationship. Marriages need time to prosper, which is why the relationship stage is so important. I think that most marriages fail due to lack of communication, patience, and perseverance. You need time to grow with your partner, and most couples leave when things get too complicated. Personally, marriage isn't something I need. If it happens, that's beautiful. If not, then I believe that there is true beauty in independence. I don't think that marriage is necessary to show your love for your partner. It puts an unwanted pressure on a couple, and it takes away a piece of your independence. Personally, I could take it or leave it. ]]> 2022-11-02 12:43:36 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366588277 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366592759 Multitudes of marriages fail every year, and the rate appears to only be on the rise. I think this has been seen more frequently lately as the social standards regarding marriage have changed. I think marriage has almost lost its "seriousness" as many appear to jump into marriage quickly nowadays. People still seem to aspire to marriage, however not for love but rather for benefit or status. Social media I feel has also hindered our view of marriage, as many seem to prioritize keeping up the aesthetic of a happy marriage rather than actually working towards a happy marriage. Social media also affects communication as it can put a barrier between two partners, but also open up opportunities for cheating in a more secret way than ever seen before. I think standards within marriage are also contributing to the problem. Although society has changed, there is still a notion of "wife" and "husband" duties within a marriage. These set roles can create more problems without balancing responsibility, which can hurt both spouses. Overall I do think marriage can be important and beautiful. However I don't think it has to be for everybody and it can be different for everybody. ]]> 2022-11-02 12:46:38 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366592759 23soaress https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366607898 I believe that so many marriages are failing because they don't truly know themselves first. Many people get into relationships when they aren't ready, and even though they may end up falling in love, if they don't work on themselves, then their relationships are more likely to fail sooner or later. Often, once people marry they feel as though they are done with searching/putting in 100% effort to keep the other person, and feel that they don't need to work on self-growth anymore. If they decided to continue working on themselves, while nurturing their relationship, they could even grow with their partner, instead of ignoring the gap that may eventually form between them. In a healthy relationship, communication is key. If thoughts and boundaries are properly/honestly communicated, it prevents so many problems from forming. It leads to a deeper connection through honesty, respect, and love. One partner should never be considered above the other, whether in authority or respect. There shouldn't be any fear involving your partner, as that only leads to toxicity and resentment. By having a mutual respect for each other's autonomy, and being mindful of thoughts and feelings, a relationship can prosper and bring happiness. I hope to marry some day in the far future, so that I can be sure of myself and what I want in a relationship. I want my marriage to last, so I know that personally I should wait to marry, and make that permanent commitment, until I am comfortably stable in my own life.  ]]> 2022-11-02 12:56:21 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366607898 IanJacobs https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366728737 I personally believe marriages fail for a variety of reasons. Conflicts of interests, differing viewpoints or worldviews, cheating, or just general disagreement upon different things are among the many ways to which a marriage can end. Ultimately though I think a lot of issues come down to communication just because properly expressing yourself and communicating well is a difficult thing. I think there are 4 massive factors when it comes to a successful relationship. They are, in no particular order, general attraction / shared interest in your partner ( meaning you like them and what they like and agree with them on worldview a majority of the time ), trust in them and in your relationship, willingness by both parties to commit themselves fully and put 100% of their effort into making things work, and good communication even when its a hard thing to do. I think I hope to marry but definitely going to wait a while until I know I've found my better half.]]> 2022-11-02 14:03:02 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366728737 23patenaudem https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366738931 All around the world marriage has become a very widely accepted tradition. The expression of love through vows and a large celebration is what most people believe to be 2 people being bonded forever. This is not the case in most situations. A lot of marriages fail, and most of the ones that fail could have been prevented. There are many aspects to a marriage that can help and hurt it. One of the largest contributing factors in my opinion is communication. Communication between the people can show what needs to be worked on and what is already one of the helping factors. 65% of marriages fail due to lack of just speaking to one another about things that they feel are problems. Another large factor can be understanding. When a fight occurs in a relationship most marriages will fight about the problem and only ruin relations with each other. Fighting with each other instead of fighting the problem leads to many divorces or a marriage between 2 people that hate each other, which can ruin the rest of their lives. Married couples who can do these things well may see their marriage prosper and may live a better life than they ever had. Being able to express yourself to your significant other without a fear of them judging you or starting a fight is a feat that most marriages have not been able to accomplish. I do hope to marry, although society has put almost a bad outlook on marriage, most of the marriages and relationships you hear about are one that failed due to a multitude of these reasons. I don't think that if I marry it will fail but the stereotypes that people have stuck onto marriage have made the thought a little undecided. ]]> 2022-11-02 14:08:16 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2366738931 23quiniob https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2370029296 Marriage fails so often nowadays due to a plethora of reasons. Conflicting morals and values, adultery, communication issues, lack of foresight, the increased independence of women, rise of social media, etc. Many people jump to marriage early nowadays and tend to ignore red flags their partner has because they are blinded by love. People also have communication issues and have trouble conveying their feelings and ideals to the other person that when they enter a marriage and finally start to communicate they find that they have differing values or irritable habits that bother each other. I also feel as though people are less willing to change a little just for their partner. Like a bad habit could be remedied in a relationship but people seem to be less than likely to do that nowadays. People also tend to overcompensate changing for their significant other that they just end up being someone else in general and when they get married their partner finds out that they are not that person. Divorce is also more favorable towards women in modern society than it is decades ago as most women in the past were financially dependent on their husband, so if stuck in a bad situation they can leave more freely now. I also feel social media and online dating have forced people to put up a facade and a golden standard of relationships are and the need to appear perfect seems to be plaguing the world as no one is truly perfect. A quality relationship would contain good communication, honesty, loyalty, respect towards each other, and most importantly love. I hope to marry someday, but that day won't be for a while because I want to know that I will have found my other half that completes me. I want to know I have found someone that will stick with me through thick and thin and that will stay by my side as I would do for them. I want to be financially stable enough to provide for them. Most importantly I want genuine love, but again that will have to wait. ]]> 2022-11-04 12:43:40 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2370029296 https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2408268743 To me many marriages fail because of a few aspects. Some marriages fail due to lack of communication, lack of trust and honesty, divided interests and opinions. Some qualities of a good and healthy marriage is that communication and trust, communication is a huge part of being in a relation either that is with friends or someone more than friends to you. Trust and loyalty is important because if you go on with your day worried that your partner is doing something they shouldn't its good to communicate with that person to solve that problem that might lead you or them to think that. Lastly, knowing that there are going to be disagreements and different interests its good to show support to what they like and know how to properly handle arguments. Though while far away, I do hope to marry someone, I think that there are ways to meet someone that will truly be there for you along the way of life. ]]> 2022-12-04 21:05:31 UTC https://padlet.com/boylejulie/rtumeeap2buw6aiq/wish/2408268743