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Maria Duarte,

joaoinvestiga1 — 2017-10-16 12:20:12 UTC

Portugal
Fortunatly I have only good experiences with parental help.

Joana Almeida, Portugal

2017-10-16 12:55:26 UTC

One of the negative experiences I had to deal with was the parent's refusal to consent to participation in a scholar's school activity. After sending a written authorization notice, where I mentioned the pertinence of the activity, as well as learning objectives and goals, the activity contained in the activity plan, I contacted a telephone and scheduled a face-to-face meeting, where I clarified all doubts as well as I perceived the reasons that led parents not to authorize their child's participation (these were related to legal custody and parental power, which was under discussion).

Miriam, Italy

2017-10-16 13:05:06 UTC

I haven't negative experiences with parents

Selma Rego, Portugal

selma_rego — 2017-10-16 13:07:28 UTC

One of the negative experiences I had do deal with was a mother who refused a disciplinary measure applied to her son and made me and school principal several threats. At that moment we had no choice but to call for the police intervention.

Rosy

rositone73 — 2017-10-16 13:12:22 UTC

It is difficult for many parents to face up with their childrens' difficulties at school.
There are many that prefer to say it is teachers' fault.
The teachers have to jusificate themselves when they try to give rules.
These situation are not so unbelieveble

Vasiliki Psaridou/Greece

psaridou — 2017-10-16 13:14:54 UTC

I had negative experiences in my early years of career. One of my students' mother complained that her daughter's grade were very low, even though she studied a lot. I explained that she failed at almost every test and someone had signed her tests. So, they must have known that. She left without saying anything else.

Paulo, Portugal

2017-10-16 13:15:39 UTC

I have very good experiences working with parents and students.

Dora_Greece

ntanouth — 2017-10-16 13:31:47 UTC

In the past I dealt with indifferent parents who were always absent from school events and obligations.

Edmundo, Portugal

edmundo_ramos — 2017-10-16 14:04:00 UTC

One of the negative experiences I had was during a school activity (soccer tournament) in which a father went to school, very unnerved and aggressive, because his son was punished by the school, bad behavior and not being able to participate in the tournament. The father only went to school because his son called him that he was not allowed to play in the tournament, but his father did not go to school when the teacher called him to know why his son was being punished.

Paola, Italy

2017-10-16 14:09:13 UTC

Unkuckily I ha e mani negative experiences. What helps is to clearly define roles and point out our common goal: the best for their children.

Laura Pagnozzi,Italy

2017-10-16 14:10:45 UTC

In my school career, I met both parents who wanted to collaborate with me to get positive results from my son, while sometimes I found parents too polemic, ready to argue and criticize any method they would propose to their son.

Teresa Maia, Portugal

mariateresalcobia — 2017-10-16 14:43:38 UTC

I have already done some experiments in the sense of encouraging small research work on local history, in which the collaboration of parents and other relatives is required.

In these situations I had two kinds of bad experiences:

• Some (fortunately few) parents did not collaborate with their children in the work, but rather they did it instead of them.

• On the other hand, there was always a small group of students who had no collaboration from parents or other relatives.

Regarding the first case, I tried to alert parents that when they are doing the work instead of their children they were denying them the learning process, because more important wasn’t the end result but the whole process of doing the work. In addition, I have tried to monitor more the process of carrying out the proposed work to students and their families.

In the second case, I tried to collaborate in carrying out the work with the students who did not have the family support or I requested the collaboration of other teachers.

Matilde, Portugal

matildecasaca — 2017-10-16 14:46:07 UTC

Some years ago I experienced a very negative experience with a family. I gave permission to a father to see his daughter at school. Parents were divorced. The girl`s mother didn`t accept my decision, she went to school to talk with me, she was very rude. However, according to Portuguese law, all parents can go to school to know everything about their children except in those cases that a judge sends to school an order establishing the parents`visit. I behaved correctly according to our law but the girl`s mother didn`t like at all.

Maria Carmela, Italia

2017-10-16 15:09:08 UTC

In my years of experience I have always tried to encourage parents' collaboration.
From the different experiences it has occurred that in some cases the parents did not cooperate with their children in the work, not assisting them in carrying out the homework assignments, in this case I tried to explain to them that their home help was needed in the improvement and in growth.
In other cases, I tried to work together with students who did not have family support and I required the collaboration of other teachers.

Roberto, Italia

ginisari — 2017-10-16 15:10:41 UTC

Every year I live the reality that more or less students are not supported by parents' collaboration.
In these situations I had two kinds of bad experiences:
• Some (fortunately few) parents did not collaborate with their children in the work.
• On the other hand, there was always a small group of students who did not have parental collaboration.
As for the first case, I tried to alert parents to cooperate more because their role was important in the child's educational growth.
In the second case, I tried to work together with students who did not have family support or I required the collaboration of other teachers.

Carol (Italy)

carol_f — 2017-10-16 15:21:48 UTC

I’m a teacherfor special needs students. I always meet the parents before starting school in order to have information of students’ needs and start a positive relationship with them. My strategy is usually successful, anyway a few years ago my student’s mother didn’t appreciate my method. My student used to work alone, without any relationship with his class. I didn’t like this method and I started to organize laboratory activities for him and his classmates. We had great experiences and parents started to collaborate to my projects. This way students started to consider their classmate in a different way.

Laura

2017-10-16 15:56:13 UTC

I'm teaching special needs students and the collaboration with the parents is very important. We have meeting at school and with the psycologist. Sometimes it is difficult to have a good colaboration and the right support because the parent can't realiza and undestand the diversity of their child and this represent the biggest problem.

Vicky Archondi, Greece

vicky_archondi — 2017-10-16 16:11:28 UTC

In my first year of appointment in the State sector I came across a student who was totally indifferent towards the english class not to mention deprecative towards me and my work. Even more he gave the impression that he knew nothing but the english alphabet although he was a C2 holder!!!!!! At the end of the semester I assigned a 10 out of 20. At the parents' meeting , I received a verbal attack by his mother who insisted on the genius mind of her child especially in the English language! I calmly counter-argued on her kid's performance simultaneously presenting all the necessary documentation. She was looking at them spellbound! She apologised for her behaviour and everything ran smoothly in our collaboration from that moment onwards. However, I'll never forget the moment where my professional status and my assessment abilities were so unfairly questioned

Angela Metallinou, Athens/Greece

gelametal — 2017-10-16 16:59:04 UTC

Some years ago, while pregnant in one of my children, I had a bad quarrel with a mother, who wanted a better grade for her son. She already had met all the other teachers, got dis-appointed from everyone, because her son wasn't studying enough, and came at last to me. All her anger and misery came out to me. As my school is a private one she forced me to the principal. She tried to calm her down, but she wanted just revenge by humiliating me. I starred at her, seeing just a human being without manners, but only with wealthy, something she thought it gave her the power to be so rude. Some years after her husband, famous politician at that time, was in the news, for corruption. I felt realy very sorry of her...

Christina, Greece

crest_lou — 2017-10-16 17:13:19 UTC

I think there is a general disappointment about parents behavior in Greece. Some of them talk in a derogatory way about teachers to their children and they believe that they have rights to education that they don't really have! Sometimes they demand high grades, they demand to dismiss a teacher because they don't like him/her etc..

Helena Pires, Portugal

hcpires — 2017-10-16 17:34:45 UTC

In my professional experience there have never been any direct problems with the parents. A few years ago as head of class had to solve small issues where the parents gave complaint of professors colleagues. It is not very pleasant because then we have to go and deal with this with colleagues.

Jenny (Evgenia) Karoumpali, Greece.

jennykaroumpali — 2017-10-16 18:05:45 UTC

Most of my negative experiences I have had from working with parents come from primary education.

In primary education I have experienced few parents who complained in a very rude way about my work in class (why I taught the x,y or z song whereas I should have taught another song instead. I asked them to put arguments on their opinion based on the current curriculum and the science of music education. They answered nothing and then I explained them (in a very strict way) the aims etc of my teaching according to the current curriculum and the science of music education.

I have also experienced parents who complain about their children’s grade in music both in primary (more often) and in secondary education (more rarely).

Loredana Italy

loredana_mangano — 2017-10-16 18:08:32 UTC

There have been negative experiences during my school life, always caused by ways of making little consonants, such as controversial people, or who did not accept that the child had poor school performance.

Adriana. Romania

2017-10-16 18:38:59 UTC

I always tried to make parents to be happy with the school experience and I have succeed most of the time. Definitely there are some bad experiences in professional life of every teacher, but it can be overpassed with a good communication.

Maja Hadžić, Serbia

2017-10-16 18:40:05 UTC

In 18 years as a teacher I've only had several bad experiences with parents related to their demands for higher grades, dissatisfaction with the curriculum or their child's misbehaviour which they didn't recognize. I try to behave in a professional manner. The moment they raise their voice I stop the conversation and refer them to the school headmaster. Many parents meddle too much with school and teachers' performance in a negative way.

Cecilia Italy

2017-10-16 19:00:19 UTC

In my work experience with students with special needs I did not have serious negative experiences with the parents. once the problem was from an excessive involvement of parents on school goals.

Renata

2017-10-16 19:16:46 UTC

I have only one negative experience when the father of a student who was often aggressive to others accused me of not loving his child because he was from the village.

Patrick UK

patrick_carroll — 2017-10-16 19:27:04 UTC

A parent accused me of not listening to their child and always taking the side of other children which made her child a victim of both myself and the other children. I argued and showed through an evidence portfolio of meetings and support procedures that I had done a whole manner of interventions to try and resolve the situation but the parent didn't believe me.

Maria, Volos, Greece

makias17 — 2017-10-16 19:27:54 UTC

Lots of problems in the communication between EFL teachers in Greece and parents arise due to the parents' belief that private language schools (that are very common in our country) provide the children with the kind of teaching they need, so state school teachers of English are not really doing sth to develop their children's skills in the foreign language. As a result, kids become indifferent to our lesson at school and parents often question the way we teach or organize the curriculum or even their kids' marks, which in turn leads to arguments and lack of understanding on both sides.

Adriana

adryanaanton — 2017-10-16 19:55:37 UTC

Some parents do not recognize the mistakes of their children, blaming the teacher

Adriana Miranda - Oiã, Aveiro, Portugal

2017-10-16 19:56:27 UTC

Certain day, a had to call attention of a very bad-behaved student for deliberate disobedience and insubordination. But by the end of my speech, I knew that a different story would work its way home. So, in that very same afternoon the boy's mother, called me at school to demand an immediate meeting. The next day, I went to the director office and after sitting, I attempted to share my side of the story, but the mother raised her right hand and stopped my speech. "No!" she said. "You listen to me now; then I'll listen to you!" The woman had my full attention. I let her talk. I listened as she spouted a litany of perceived injustices perpetrated against her son. When the mother was finished, true to her word, she listened to me as I explained what had happened. Her boy had been deliberately disobedient. He had refused to turn in his test at the prescribed time. When I challenged him after a casual warning, the boy became insolent. Forcefully, he thrust his test into my face. By the end of our meeting, the mother was able to manage a smile as she shook my hand. She guaranteed me that her son would not get out of line in the future.

Michela, Italy

2017-10-16 21:30:11 UTC

Sad enough, some parents don't care about their children's learning progress; what interests them most is the mark, and they make unpleasant comparisons with other students.

George Kyriakopoulos

2017-10-16 21:38:10 UTC

I totally sympathise with MAria from Volos. I'm a french teacher in public schools with more than 200 students to attend to and another 4 schools to visit at a regular basis plus the administation work that needs to be done. Working conditions cant improve when parents are judgemental towards the teacher's intentions.

Maria Fernanda, Portugal

2017-10-16 21:51:50 UTC

I have already had negative experiences with parents. Mostly when they simply keep on delaying a meeting under fake pretexts, forcing my persistence over and over, and even making me wait for them beyond my schedule time.

Occasionally, I must deal with parents´ accusations of lack of psychological support towards their children. Once I had an SOS situation and I saw the student in consultation. Since I knew she was another psychologist patient, I did not keep the counselling. Instead I share the information and recent events with my colleague. I was later accused by the father of not having provided the necessary support to the student. In these cases, I try to explain about ethical and deontological code that I must obey as a professional and that are different approaches to work on and solve problems (not always understood by others). I also emphasize that the available time is too short for all the requests and so it must be managed accordingly.

Lúcia, Portugal

lucia_paulino — 2017-10-16 22:39:35 UTC

One of the bad experiences I had with parents happened many years ago, when a mother refused to accept the disciplinary measures applied to her daughter for misbehaviour. She started threatening me and the school principal instead of aknowledging her daughter's innapropriate behaviour

Ispir Iuliana, Romania

ispiriuliana — 2017-10-17 04:50:57 UTC

I had little trouble with a girl's parents because she did not want to participate in the activities. She always says: I work at home with my mom, so my sister draws and I do not want to draw, etc. It was not easy, because the parents were always on the argument. After all, we've solved the problem. I told my parents that I would not involve her in the classroom until she wanted to participate. Seeing himself abandoned, he came alone to his colleagues.

José António Carvalho, Guarda, Portugal

2017-10-17 10:07:17 UTC

Fortunately I do not have bad experiences to report from my work with parents. In the contacts I make, parents are always available to collaborate. I believe that an understandable, student-centered, factual, non-judgmental dialogue is essential. Our role is to help the student. He is the center of all our action.

The bad experiences i had with parents are when they do not colaborate or don't accept aour suggestions, because whrn we work with children at school it is necessary that parents work at home too, if we want to have results.

2017-10-17 11:21:04 UTC

Márcio, Portugal

2017-10-17 12:57:09 UTC

I haven’t had, yet, any bad or problematic outcome to a meeting with parents. Sometimes a parent may disagree my professional opinion, but it is virtually always worked out based on an assertive communication and a common principle on what’s best to the student/child. The majority of problems happen after the meetings, because at school we acknowledge that parents have a lot of difficulties changing their educational practices and frequently aren’t supportive of their children’s school work neither in building a positive image of academic success.

Natasa, Serbia

NatasaHerweg — 2017-10-17 13:28:03 UTC

The problem has always been and will be even more so since it is not possible for parents to understand that their child is not the same as our pupil. All problems are essentially the same - the parent does not want to hear criticism because it perceives it as a personal failure. If parents accept the fact that their child behaves differently in the group and beyond their control, then together we can work on the solution.

Helen, Ireland

helen_p_english — 2017-10-17 13:40:09 UTC

I've been teaching EAL to international students for quite a few years and have never had a bad experience with any parent. They are for the most part very appreciative of the help and support to their children.
In the past, working as a language teacher with mainstream classes, there have been a few isolated incidents with parents, always querying exam/test results. When you have corroborating evidence to vindicate your professional judgement, the parents are then usually reasonable enough to accept the results.

Stathis,Greece

slikidis — 2017-10-17 15:35:23 UTC

I haven't had yet any negative experiences of working with parents. Actually, the opposite holds true. Parents always encourage me to work harder and harder with their children as to get the finest results. Support my work on everything that has to do with their children behavior, something that makes my job easier in my class

Rute Parente, Portugal

2017-10-17 16:19:12 UTC

I haven't had any problem working with parents and my relationship with them it's always been good, but sometimes parents' relationship with other parents are a king of rivalry when it comes to the point where they want to show their work or participation is better and that's where I have to work as a mediator

Antonietta, Italy

miaaba — 2017-10-17 17:19:37 UTC

I can't say to have had bad experiences but only that some relationships are more complex than others. So in some cases I needed a greater amount of kindness and empathy.

Andreas, Athens-Greece

2017-10-17 17:36:53 UTC

The main problem with the parents is that they aren't ready to deal with their children's problem. That's the kind of problem I had once, but when the parents realised that they couldn't avoid the problem they started talking to me. That was the begining for solving the problem.

Fulvia, Italy

leardini — 2017-10-17 17:48:19 UTC

I teach in a high school and I usually have a good relationships with parents but I remember when years ago I had a class where at the begining parents were to much anxious for the low results of their children and I had to work hard to keep their trust to wait improvements. I remembar not all of them understood the difficulties but at last parents recognoised that my strategies were good when the students appreciated my lessons.

Céu, Portugal

2017-10-17 18:15:55 UTC

I think that everyone, at some point in their career, faced difficulties with parents and our experience has shown that treating parents with respect, listening to them and showing that we care helped us to solve the problems. My teaching experience has already shown me that a good communication strategy works. With this training, we will improve our communication to achieve more goals.

Giorgia, Romania

giorgiagroza — 2017-10-17 18:22:42 UTC

Some of the parents are not interested at all in theirs children problems or issues or succesec from school. When I tried to get in touch with them they told me that they are very busy at work and they cant involve in their child school life.

Christos, GREECE

christos_chachoudis — 2017-10-17 19:19:36 UTC

I teach in a High School in Alonnisos Island and the main problem i've seen already is that the parents are not much interested in their children's education. They all want just their children graduated and nothing more. In big towns parents are more interested and envolved in school education and life of their children.

Carolina,Italy

carolinapaglia — 2017-10-18 06:52:47 UTC

I had long experience in school but above all in evening class.
I remember , however, even many years ago, parents defended their children too much.

Patrizia Giorgi. Italy

2017-10-18 10:30:29 UTC

I had bad experience because i meet guess Parents that think they will work better than their teachers. They are inable to put themselves in the shoes of the teachers. And they invade their roles.

Irene Confalone-Italy

confalone — 2017-10-18 15:27:21 UTC

Last year, I had a bad experience with a mother who did not accept any advice and did not respect my classroom methodology. It caused problems throughout the year, even though she knew her son was hypercinetic .In June the boy changed school.

Paula, Portugal

paulacarvalhosilva — 2017-10-18 16:46:40 UTC

In attending a mother, when she mentioned that her son was having breakfast in the cafe and I proposed that he should do it at home, demonstrating the economic and nutritional advantages of doing it, he accuses me of being at home. to go on matters that did not concern me "come now to rule my house".

Laura

2017-10-18 18:23:13 UTC

actually in our school system it is not allowed to have "home visits". usually a too close involvement is not suggested. some times I had the possibility to advice parents solving problematic matters. just once a mother forbid me to have any more contacts than required in class with is son. he had a problem with alcool and drugs, but his mother pretended that everything was under control. unfortunately I had to obey ...he is still in my thoughts!

Rosa Medeiros, Portugal

rosa_medeiros1 — 2017-10-18 18:34:37 UTC

My class is students with deep special educational needs. During the" health week I invited specialized technicians to talk to parents about how to deal with their children's sexual manifestations. Many were absent from the meeting, but those who came did love it and got the nurses' contact. I invite these parents to tell what they had learned in a meeting with all the class parents.

Maria Susana Fernandes, Lisbon, Portugal

maria_susana_fernandes — 2017-10-18 19:05:56 UTC

Just today, at school, I answered a phone call from a mother who wanted to know what happened in my class in the morning because her son said I had treated him badly and accused him unjustly. She was pretty agressive at first and I had to tell her that she must listen first and not believe everything the boy says, she hadn't thought that he might be telling only what was favourable to him. After explaining what had happenned she agreed she had to talk to him again and she apoligised., but I would never go to their house, it is not a teacher's atribution to do house calls, the risk of ending up in risky situations is huge. We are not social workers, we do have an important social role but there are limits. Unfortunatly not all parents are civil and many needed to go to school themselves.

Maria Susana Fernandes

maria_susana_fernandes — 2017-10-18 19:19:56 UTC

Most parents of the class I'm responsible for (Diretora de turma) don't care if their kids have breakfast before coming to school, if they bring the needed materials like a simple notebook and pencil or bother to inform they changed their phone number and are uncontactable. So, engaging parents in actual class activities seem really farfetched.

Maria Stafilakou

stafilakou67 — 2017-10-18 19:27:21 UTC

Well, my experience is that parents take it for granted that their kids are excellent english speakers because they have english lessons outside school and my job should be to give high marks regardless of their performance and knowledge of the language.Therefore they almost always complain about marks.They are rarely interested in the way and quality of knowledge the receive.
Only few of them are willing to establish a strong cooperative relationship and try to be involved in their kids' learning.

Inês, Portugal

2017-10-18 20:43:38 UTC

Some parents talk with everyperson in teh school with different stories trying to profite the most they can... it is important to organize together meeting so they can understand that everyone is at the same level of knowledge...

Jurate, Lithuania

jurateorloviene — 2017-10-18 20:44:32 UTC

The biggest challenge for my is communication with parents of problematic families. They avoid contact with school, did not attended into class meetings. The collaboration with social worker of the school mostly helps my to deal with the problems

Vilija, Lithuania

2017-10-19 05:38:11 UTC

If we encounter any issues with the parents, we can get support from a social worker or school administration while meeting with the parents.

Betty-Greece

bettyaggeletaki — 2017-10-19 12:02:18 UTC

When the expectation of parents from teachers are not clear and parents believed that they know better how the lesson should teach the results should be conflicts between parents and teachers. The role and the expectation of both parties from my point of view needed to be clear from the beginning and the open communication should underline the cooperation as both parties are in the same boat .

Lígia, Portugal

ligiasantos_pt — 2017-10-19 12:18:52 UTC

Sometimes when I try to involve parents in students' learning, I
realise that some of them don't understand how important can be their support for the well being and progress of their child. In some cases, it's clear that
some parents pay someone to “take care” of the student , and they are not interested in worries and
aditional work. It's frustrating... specially when we know that an
extra help can make the difference in students' learning.

Chiara Sabatini - Italy

chisab72 — 2017-10-19 16:08:53 UTC

The worst experience I had was when I was the teacher coordinator of a class where another teacher didn't have a nice behaviour to students. Some parents came to talk to me and told me they would have gone to complain to the headmaster. I talked with them a lot and convinced them to talk with the teacher first and I did it too. It was really hard to discuss about this kind of topic with a colleague but at last all went well.

laura brazzabeni

laura_brazzabeni1 — 2017-10-19 16:55:56 UTC

a lot of negative experiences occur. once a parent came wanting to teach to the Teachers and school staff. the headmaster sent this parent away and organised a meeting with every parent of that class and the Teachers of that class.

Ida, Italy

2017-10-19 18:09:11 UTC

I'm not able to say to have had bad experiences with parents, but I think the relation such times can be not so collaborative.

Maria Calà, Italy

ilacrisere — 2017-10-19 19:07:07 UTC

I happened to have misunderstandings with my parents, which led to a profound inclination and a mistrust on my part. It was not easy. I have put aside my own resentment for the good of my students and give them the best of my work

Maria, Portugal

2017-10-19 20:31:37 UTC

I can't say that I have had negative experiences, but I've had some difficult situations though. These are usually related to my being strict in what concerns respect, class rules, being polite, etc. Usually, with younger students I give them extra work when they are being noisy or I write to the parents in their notebooks highlighting the need of parents to help changing students' behavior. This year, some parents came to school really angry with the teacher, demanding talking with me because I "was no one to ground their children". They were really aggressive, verbally, I mean. I had to use the same weapons, talked and clarified school's rules with determination and authority to quiet them down. Then I changed and addressed them in a more assertive way to get some empathy. After 10 minutes, parents had cooled down, were acting in an understanding way, allowing me even to beat their kids if needed! I'd never do that of course! They are problematic children, born in neighborhoods where drugs, violence is everywhere. Parents don't know what to do with their children, who live mainly on the streets. School is compulsory, nothing else. Prospects for the future are very low
We have a good relationship now. Classroom is peaceful and we have a good learning environment. Parents and I, we change smiles at the school entrance... but they still don't see much point in studying.

Silvia Patrizia RUGGERI, Italy

silviap_ruggeri — 2017-10-20 11:26:37 UTC

It happened that a mother meeting me during a walk stopped me to talk about my student. I answered her that I prefer talk about my students not in the street, but at school for all my students, because if there is a problem it's better talk in an appropriate place. What do you think about this case?

Adriana T

adritoderic — 2017-10-20 11:58:41 UTC

Parents refuse to accept that their chil is a mediocre one.

Helena, Portugal

helenagpaixao — 2017-10-20 12:43:04 UTC

I have had some negative experiences with parents that belive in everything their kids say. Sometimes these kids tell a diferent story about something that has hapened in class and parents don´t want the true, they just protect the student and they can be really agressive.

Elona albania

elonagremi — 2017-10-20 14:35:43 UTC

I can't say that I had bad experiences with my parents but only some difficult situations.Parents usually refuse to accept responsibilities and sometimes are not as collaborative as I need them to be.when this happens i try to talk with them and to explain,and usually i collaborate with the social worker of my school for a better result.

Daniele - Italy

danvir — 2017-10-20 15:10:17 UTC

I had some bad experiences, when parents do not trust school or teachers. Some times a parent does not trust the teacher and dos not support his educative action. Some of them want only good marks and no problems. Not all are interested in solving problems of their children and think that we should care about it.

Barbara, Italy

barbara_galavotti — 2017-10-20 19:14:41 UTC

I have had some bad experience with parents. Last year, for father's Day, we didn't anything, no poems, no draws because we had a lot of very difficult situation in classes about fathers. One family called me and my collegues like a people with no heart and write an bad article on a newspaper. I was very disappointed because we had explain the reasons of this.

Elsa, Portugal

2017-10-20 20:13:50 UTC

Fortunately, I have never had serious problems with my parents, but I find it very difficult when they do not accept that their children have difficulties and believe that at home they do the work well and alone ... when at school they do not even understand small texts  or task instructions . I often have to let the parents talk to the other students to make sure I'm not lying.

Paulo Dionisio, Portugal

paulo_dionisio — 2017-10-20 22:00:49 UTC

So far I've never had negative experiences with parents. I have an excellent relationship with students, I have respect for them in and out of the classroom. Parents are the first to recognize the excellent relationship between teacher and students, I have never had behavior problems in the classroom. However, in conversation with other fellow teachers, I know of some situations in which parents do not believe in their child's posture and behavior in the classroom since the same at home does not behave in the same way.

Vlad Alexandra-Anamaria, Romania

vladalexandraanamaria — 2017-10-21 06:13:47 UTC

Actually I didn't faced real problems with parents, I haven't lived negative experiences when dealing with parents.

Adérito, Portugal Throughout my professional life I have witnessed attitudes of (very) unpleasant parents to teachers, usually associated with evaluation acts or decisions about the indiscipline of the children, but I have also witnessed other pleasant ones. As a teacher I am also, I have had both types of attitude. I have never given much thought to offenses, and I intend to continue not to give, unless it is obliged by the gravity of the circumstances.

2017-10-21 16:19:20 UTC

Anisa,Albania

2017-10-21 17:49:45 UTC

Hi all,
I am teaching English language in a primary level right now and some parents complain that they kids have too much homework and some of them say the opposite(the homework that I assign it is not enough for leaning the language). The only way to deal with them is keep calm and do you job. It is impossible to make them realize how are you working.

Marina Gurina (Ukraine)

2017-10-21 18:11:52 UTC

Hello!
Actually, I have not so many problems, but some parents didn't want to help their little children. It was so pity! But in general, all my parents are open-minded and want to try something interesting with their children.

Iulia, Romania

2017-10-22 06:01:30 UTC

In the first grade there is a problem kid with severe sickness. His mother wanted to participate in one of my class to see with her own eyes how her son copes with it because the class teacher told her that he disturbed the activities. Unfortunately she thought she could interfere in other students activity too. Besides paying attention to her son (he is always moving around) I also had to keep an eye on her and let her know she wasn't the teacher.

Loredana

rubaloredana — 2017-10-22 12:11:14 UTC

Romania
One of my targets lately as a teacher is to make parents feel confortable with their mistakes as parents and not guilty telling them about my mistakes as a parent and i keep repeating noone is perfect and this is the hardest job ever-beeing parent. They become more opened to collaboration and follow my advise.

Paola. Italy

paola_tona — 2017-10-22 14:43:20 UTC

I have not worked with families yet. I think there are no negatives if the activities are well structured. Any negative aspects may be due to the character of some parents, but these aspects can be bypassed where there is great collaboration from other parents

Enid, Malta

eebonello — 2017-10-22 17:24:09 UTC

we do not have that culture in our country.

Athina, Greece

aginoudi — 2017-10-22 18:07:05 UTC

Some parents don't like school activities because in their opinion pupils learn only in the typical classroom. On the other hand, some other parents want more school activities.

Margherita

2017-10-23 10:48:13 UTC

Last year I tried to Call the parents of an Indian student, also with cultural mediators, but they never came to School.

Luisa

2017-10-23 13:21:27 UTC

One of the main problems with parents is that they tend to overprotect their children even when it is obvious they made something wrong. Some parents always find a good excuse for their children's misbehaving.

Silvia, taly

silvietta_68 — 2017-10-23 14:46:43 UTC

Communicating with parents is not always easy.
In fact, parents are often prevented with teachers and see them as enemies.

Maria Antonietta Italy

mariaantonietta_caravelli — 2017-10-23 15:15:29 UTC

I teach in primary school, I like my work so much, I try to involve my parents. I communicate alerts, programs, events, webinars, projects to which I participated and those I intend to participate in the portals: Etwinning, EMMA, SOFIA example: coding, gamification, inclusion, C.L.I.L., school projects and projects in my city. It is necessary to mediate. There are some parents who, unfortunately, think that school is the last of their thoughts, their interests. They don't ask their children, "How did your day go to school?" They do not they see their diaries, they do not see their notebooks. All this is very sad to me, kids are our future. So I think: I have to motivate, interest the children, promote their learning, so I'm motivated, I'm also interested in the parentsIt is in these situations that I try to find the strength within me to talk to them to convey to them their enthusiasm and enthusiasm for their children to find meeting points to point out their path of learning.We never planned home visits, I and colleagues always planned to meet at school

João Adelino Santos

joao_santos2 — 2017-10-23 16:32:38 UTC

Communicating with parents is not always easy, especially when they only see the individual interests of their children in school.

Natavan Badalova,Azerbaijan

natavanbadalova — 2017-10-23 17:38:18 UTC

Communicating with parents is the main part of students success as I have never been engaged with negative experience with parents but I have read some of my peers comments and I think I have to be mor attentive and ready for such cases, because noone is guaranteed from bad cases

Marco, Italy

2017-10-23 19:15:54 UTC

I have not worked yet with parents. I have just only speaked about the school situation on subjects.

Cristina.

cristina_floriddia — 2017-10-23 19:17:05 UTC

I think that if we work with a parent in a limitated topic, where he or she could be teacher evrerything is ok.
In other situation they are eniqual

Roberto, Italy

ginisari — 2017-10-23 19:51:55 UTC

I have not worked with families yet, but I think there is no problem with doing business with them. Any criticism I think is easily overcome, where there is the collaboration of all project participants ...

Maria Carmela, Italy

2017-10-23 19:54:22 UTC

I have not worked with families yet, but I think there are no negative aspects, but I think it is a positive aspect that brings benefits to the pupils. Any criticism can be overcome if there is a collaboration with all parents on the project.

Laskarina, Greece

laspolemi — 2017-10-23 20:13:05 UTC

Parents are sometimes reluctant to accept that their offspring could need help; they are often entrapped in their own problems, making it hard to accept the need for a change.

Vesna, Serbia

2017-10-23 21:22:03 UTC

I can't say I've had negative experiences with parents. There were difficulties but it was always a happy ending.

Isabel Quirino, Portugal

isabelquirino — 2017-10-24 08:18:50 UTC

Most of my negative experiences with parents were situations of lack of understanding and different expectation; when we have the opportunity to communicate and discust our differents points of view, this kind os difficulties disappear.

Tiziana, Italy

Tizianateacher — 2017-10-24 10:34:07 UTC

I've been teaching for over 20 years now and I have seen parents who are interested in what we do in class. Some parents do not work with us and I feel that they are responsible for the failures of the children I teach. I have found difficulties when dealing with some families as they wanted to protect them and they did not trust us as a team of teachers that is responsible for the students' success. In some cases they do not meet us when we ask them to come to school and this is bad as they do not work with us. The role of teacher is often under discussion as the general attitude is to focus on what is wrong at school. On the contrary, there are good teachers who work hard and take care. Families should work with us as the aim is to support all the students, in particular we would like to help the less able or the ones that have difficulties.

Konstantina, Greece

2017-10-24 20:06:52 UTC

A common problem I have to deal with is that some parents misunderstand the messages we want to transmit them.

Ana Linhares, Portugal

2017-10-24 21:31:34 UTC

I liked very much the video examples, but, in my country do not exist home visits.
I bilieve it´s very important engage parents in projects. The constant communication between teachers and parents it´s an important resource for success.
It will be nice to invite parents at school for 'Family Literacy Night'.
Difficult, but not impossible to put them into practice!
Thank you very much for the amazing ideas!

Rasma, Lithuania

rasmastuokiene — 2017-10-25 09:56:10 UTC

From my own experience, all problems can be overcome whenever a constructive dialog takes place. Sometimes you can feel that parents tend to be hostile, but if you explain the situation in a respectful way and together with parents you decide on the solution, they change their attitude.

Fernanda Cunha, Portugal

fernanda_mcunha58 — 2017-10-25 15:17:49 UTC

In Portugal there is no culture of involving parents in their children's learning activities or their participation in the classroom. I wanted to participate in this MOOC, precisely because I think to be fundamental parental involvement to do that: I’ve already reaped numerous ideas and I will use some of them!

There will be Difficulties when lacks dialogue, trust or when arrogance prevails the two sides. If we can overcome these situations, we will have a real and effective involvement of parents in teaching/learning process of their children.

Cinzia, Italy

attasonitabas — 2017-10-25 17:30:59 UTC

As some other colleagues have already written my negative experience were when some parents took part in activities (particularly trips) and influenced negatively on their kids' behaviour ...their children did not want to respect any class rule, did not listen to the teachers ...

Damla, Turkey

dml — 2017-10-25 20:21:11 UTC

Parents sometimes want teachers to do what they want, but it's not possible everytime. They don't like to hear bad news about their children. They don't want criticism. My problems with parents usually about it.

Sónia Leão, Portugal

sonialeao — 2017-10-25 20:28:54 UTC

Once, a parent acuse me of his children cry, even after the boy tell her mother it wasn't nothing to do with me,and even so she didn't apologise....

Vanessa, Portugal

vanessalgarvio — 2017-10-26 05:46:10 UTC

I have had some negative experiences, but I think they were mainly caused by the lack of communication between the actors. When we finally got to hear each other, the problems dissipated.

Azize Ozcan,Turkiye

shiningforthelife — 2017-10-28 08:48:38 UTC

I have been teaching for 9 years but I rarely experience negative things related to parents,which makes me lucky.But of course I have encountered with few problematic parents which tries to monitor you.These parents want special care for their students because they believe that their child is unique.Sometimes they try to give you advice.Like, It is better to give this worksheet or that story to students, which annoys me a lot.

mihaela, romania

salistemihaela — 2017-10-30 14:48:58 UTC

The parent of a child did not want to accept the child's problems for a year and only at the end of kindergarten realized that their help was needed speech therapy

João, Portugal

2017-10-30 15:51:48 UTC

I do not remember having had bad experiences with parents, although they often do not like to take on children when they screw up.

Isaura Ventura, Portugal

2017-10-30 16:46:52 UTC

Many parents find it hard to aknowledge, accept and even believe that their children have learning difficulties or misbehave. Whenever they get good results, its because they are "intelligent" as they say; in face of bad results, it's the teacher's fault because he/she can't handle it. This is terribly frustrating because you feel your work and the effort you put into it aren't recognized. The examples of such attitude aren't many, but they are enough to put you down. It demands great investment, time, tolerance and patience to make these parents do what is necessary to solve problems, Furthermore, in Portugal, although the assessment criteria are truly criterious and meticulously defined, there is always that degree of subjectivity deriving from comparison that you are unable to explain. We have more and more tools and spreadsheets and records, making it a very long and arduous process, but some parents don't seem ever to be satisfied. So you see yourself involved in time-consuming explanations, meetings because of complaints, just to come to the conclusion that the teacher was right after all.
I believe this mistrust can be overcome if parents come into the classroom and see for themselves. Of course in secondary education this isn't easy to accomplish as there are many teachers in a class and not everyone is willing to try it. Besides, parents in my area work away and cannot be present at school time.
Important is to insist until things change. The more parents are present inside the school the trustworthier will teachers seem to them.

Paola, Italy

paola_oggi — 2017-10-30 17:05:39 UTC

Some parents are too "intrusive" and instead of being helpful they end up with the disturbance. It has often happened in educational trips.

Ülfet Ç, Turke

2017-10-30 17:15:16 UTC

Luckily I had no problems with my parents, even they became my friends and family abroad.

Maria Michael Kollyfa

2017-10-31 04:29:44 UTC

Some parents do not accept that their child has learning difficulties or behavior problems. For both situations I use evidences, I am polite and patient, give them space and time to work it out, make their own understanding and explained to them that WE are partners for their child benefit.

Pietro-Italy

idiotshater — 2017-10-31 18:37:46 UTC

I have been teaching 18 years now and generally I did not have problems with my students' parents, neverthless I have experienced some troubles with parents who do not accept that their children have a troublesome attitude during classes and disturb the ordinary progression of the lesson. They blame it on the teacher when their kids are not attentive and do not follow the classroom rules.

Nicoleta, Martin

mercur_mercur — 2017-11-01 12:04:59 UTC

An experience with turbulance was that in which parents felt guilty for their lack of envolvment and asked very little from their child.

Alina Romania

saftaalina — 2017-11-01 16:26:29 UTC

Patent e do not come to school at Patent e meeting and do not repari student damages

Teuta, Albania

2017-11-22 18:42:59 UTC

We try to bring parents together in students behavior, but not progress. It seems that parents are busy and not capable to come to school.

Hümeyra,TURKEY

hs_yener — 2018-07-31 15:24:56 UTC

I'm lucky that I haven't had negative experiences with parents. I work at a rural school so many of parents haven't come to school meetings. As a result home visits make us learn their living conditions. Some parents don't want to host us at their houses. In such circumstances we as teachers really have difficulty to get in touch with families.

Ipermahia Christodoulou,

2018-08-28 00:41:46 UTC

Many parents do not come to ask about their children. They do not come to school meetings or my "hour " to meet them.I do not allow any negative behaviour.

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2021-12-03 15:24:09 UTC

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