https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387 Which of the five principles can you use to work with others and not get so defensive? en-us 2021-09-25 19:27:34 UTC 2021-10-12 12:27:36 UTC hello@padlet.com amosenson https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1767710977 I need to work on listening more and not thinking of what I am going to say next. I miss important details and nuances of the person speaking when I do this. I feel active listening is such an essential skill to learn and practice. I plan to focus more on this. ]]> 2021-09-25 19:32:39 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1767710977 hsherner https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1791114014 I recognize that coming from a different country, with different norms, history and culture, my context for certain subjects that I feel passionately about differs greatly from those around me. I have to remember that my context is not necessarily the most important or more relevant than others ]]> 2021-10-05 00:01:20 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1791114014 https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1798068293 I chose #3 - pay attention to context. I'm currently working on listening to context and not getting so defensive. I co-teach with several different teachers and sometimes I take things too seriously. During the years once we got to get to know one another the less defensive I have become. ]]> 2021-10-07 00:09:56 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1798068293 kirstenbonner https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1801372451 I think by recognizing that when a disagreement arrises in a group setting, there comes vulnerability. Being vulnerable can mean not being afraid to differ from what the rest of the team thinks and having the courage to support why without arguing. I think I can benefit from sympathizing with opposing views. We as a team can embrace the vulnerability of that individual by listening to what they have to say without judgement. Instead of being defensive the person does not agree, it is important to take a step back and appreciate their ideas/beliefs.]]> 2021-10-08 01:48:52 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1801372451 mknap1 https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1806368039 I recognize that I am building relationships with colleagues, students, and all of you. However, I feel as though I'm not listening as attentively as I should. If I'm not attentive I cannot be listening passionately. I will definitely be focusing on being in the moment and learning about others around me and the topics we are covering instead of being in my head about everything I need to accomplish in the near future. 
I'm sure I am defensive due to a lack of listening passionately. Reacting defensively is something I have been working on for a long time due to past trauma. Recognizing my defensiveness has helped in listening to my students when they share. I am working on not reacting defensively when feeling vulnerable. ]]> 2021-10-11 01:29:08 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1806368039 https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1808211379 Entering into a discussion, on any topic, I feel there needs to be opportunities for growth and change. I can't say I know everything about something, and neither can someone else. I hope that with any discussion, I can learn something new - even if I have a strong opinion or belief. I am open to hearing someone else's 'stand', and even if I challenge or question them, or they me, I would want to make sure there is enough respect in the conversation for both our opinions to be heard. I think with such a science-focused background, I tend to stick to more logical 'arguments' and don't get too emotionally charged, so I am ok with being proven wrong if there is actual data or facts to support. When there isn't and someone is factually incorrect, I don't take it personally, I feel like I have just learned something new :) ]]> 2021-10-11 16:35:10 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1808211379 https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1808398593 I believe that much of the conflict we see and hear comes from people's need to be right. Our society places a strong emphasis on winning and being the best. This mentality has created a divide among us. Many people are not able to converse or share their ideas or opinions because others feel the need to negate those ideas or opinions because they want to win or be better or feel more important. When that principle or idea of winning is removed from the conversation or argument, we are able to listen better and actually hear what others are saying versu.s creating our own narrative over their words. Engaging with others without the need to win allow for open diaglogue and meaningful conversation. It isn't always easy to do, however, I have found it to be much more important in the long run]]> 2021-10-11 17:50:43 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1808398593 https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1808443123 For me, in fear of there being an argument I might pretend things are fine or not speak my full mind. I think for there to be effective communication and effective collaboration, you need to be comfortable with being vulnerable and confident enough to be able to speak what is on your mind as well as having the skills to discuss calmly whatever the topic may be. ]]> 2021-10-11 18:09:53 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1808443123 https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1810510090 Often times it is hard to express and show vulnerability. I think I'm afraid to be vulnerable because I don't want to come off as weak. After this video I started to understand how it opens windows for more in depth conversation with truth, and passion. When in arguments, it is okay to have disagreements and express your way of thinking even if it does not match what others think. You shouldn't be afraid of people judging you or having something else to say. Personally, in arguments I try not to be as vulnerable because I don't want to come off that I care as much as I actually do. I realize this is stubborn and will not benefit any conversation. I want to be able to work on listening to others and opening my ideas and expanding on them with others thoughts/beliefs. ]]> 2021-10-12 12:23:46 UTC https://padlet.com/amosenson/rhs128rimpz6b387/wish/1810510090