Tough Guise by ruth martin https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71 Are men really socialized to be tough? en-us 2020-09-03 00:35:00 UTC 2026-01-15 14:50:12 UTC hello@padlet.com Tough Guise richard_evans11 https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/801480219 1) I believe that both masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. I use the example of my late Grandmother. She was part Metis and therefore had a deep love for and appreciation of the land. She imparted to my aunt pretty much everything she knew that had been passed down to her from several generations of women in her family. My fathers lessons were entirely provided by his father and included nothing of what my grandmother shared with my aunt. My father had to learn to cook much later in life due to the lack of instruction from his mother. Interestingly, a certain gift my father bought me for Christmas one year when I was 10 I will never forget. It was a cook book and he and I prepared every recipe in the book. To this day I still make certain dishes I learned to cook at that early age. He had broken the cycle. 
 
2) I remember a school yard fight I witnessed when I was in grade 6. This sticks out in my mind because the boy that got beaten badly in this fight was my best friend. Paul was one of the very few Asian kids that went to my almost entirely white elementary school. Paul had been born with a serious medical condition which did not allow him to properly control his bowels. He was teased and bullied mercilessly and I being a small child could not defend him as I had desperately wanted to. What sticks out most about this incident, is that when he got home his father berated him for not "being a man" and made it seem as though the beating he took was his own fault. I remember being very sad and confused by his father's reaction and I never fully forgave him. I don't know where Paul is now but I can't help but wonder how this affected his relationship with his father as his life progressed. 
 
3) The pressures that kids feel today are definitely different than those I experienced as a young man. Social media with it's 24/7 immediacy is a prime culprit in todays age. I was shocked to have read a number of studies recently outlining the pervasiveness of online bullying and "shaming". I have seen posts and tweets where complete strangers have said horrible things about another via social media and get away with it. It's more important now than ever that we not just have casual conversations about these things, but we have to put entire programs into place. Kids today have got to understand that just because cyber bullying and "real time" bullying seem to be everywhere, this does not make it at all right. 
]]> 2020-10-05 00:49:06 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/801480219 Tough Guise eeuwesnick https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/807770912 1) Yes . I do believe that both masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. I will use my Oma and Opa as an example. Growing up, My cousins and I would go and hang out with my Oma and Opa on Sundays  after church. My female cousins would help my Oma in the kitchen with preparing food for lunch, and my male cousins and I would help Opa outside with home maintenance work, anything really that required physical labour. It is something that to this day my family keeps as a part of "tradition" almost. Males hang outside in the garageand drink beer, look at tools, while the females stay inside the kitchen , prepare dinner, and drink wine. Personally, I love cooking. I also would rather drink a nice red wine over a nasty dark beer.  But, intergenerational tradition kind of "forces" me to go into the garage and talk about tools, I know nothing about. 

2)Absolutely not.  These days, their are so many different ways to settle an argument , other than fighting. Culture systems, and environments play a big role when it comes to not only boys, but men. Unfortunately, without any mediator,  boys will always go the Alpha male route, and choose violence. I don't feel like young men are taught enough about this growing up, that there are alternate ways to solve issues. I also believe that the media doesn't help this. Young men these days have way more access to social media and technology than ever, and the exposure to this drives these young boys to do what they see on tv.  I remember growing up, I wasn't allowed to watch violent shows, or watch shows with offensive language. now, It's almost a given that kids have access to a lot of media, that will drive home  toxic masculinity.

3) Absolutely ! The more that we talk about the pressures that men have in society, and the labels such as tough guise some of us carry, we can all learn something about ourselves. Not only that, we can all contribute to helping build a less violent society by having men know that they don't need to be tough guise. What we want is for men to be themselves without the fear of being judged, mocked, bullied, etc. Although, things like social media do not help with this. I believe that a lot more than just talking about the pressures that men have in society, will have to be done in order to make change.  ]]> 2020-10-06 17:45:49 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/807770912 eeuwesnick https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/807839941 2020-10-06 18:01:06 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/807839941 Tough Guise-Nicole Rocca https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/813754051 1) I do believe that both masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. My example will be growing up my nonna, my mom and I would be in the kitchen from time to time cooking or cleaning and my Nonno, dad and brother would be outside with the chickens and working on the tractor. My mothers side was different as we had no set place that we had to be I could be out doing what the boys do and it wasn't an issue however, my fathers side they had traits that would passed down that had man and women set a certain way and to act/do things a certain way. As I got older my parents and grandparents on both sides started to each, my dad had learned how to cook due to my mother always working long shifts at the hospital, my brother and I would still help at point but we mostly played outside, did yard work like cutting the grass, gardening etc.   I personally am more of a tom boy I would say, yes I like shopping and getting girly however I will never wear a dress unless it's for my wedding or to graduate. I love trucks, mudding, drinking beer, fishing, going out on my dirt bike etc. I do love to clean and cook and I believe that both genders can do that no matter what the intergenerational tradition says. I believe that we can be who we are, but yes it is a lot harder in family's that have set traditions and ways. Intergenerational tradition to me has also, "Focused" me to talk about more girly things that I really don't care for. 
2) I don't believe that fighting can settle anything. There are so many other ways so settle an argument and fighting isn't one of them, it just makes it worse and the consequences can be worse! Unfortunately, culture systems and society boys and man tent to be more violent due to going the alpha male way to proof they are boss/stronger. I will say that nowadays there are more and more young age groups going towards violence such as fighting or weapons' it is very scary and upsetting seeing this as it should be taught to them that violence isn't the answer.  I remember in gr.9 that there was theses two kids maybe 13 years of age fighting and screaming at one other than it gradually worsened when they started to use objects luckily a teacher came out before it got worse. But my point there is that 13 year old's think it is okay to use objects and violence to better things when they are wrong, and need to be taught  what is right from wrong. 
3) Absolutely, I think that the more we talk and educated yourself on the pressures that man go through on a daily basis as society label's a lot of things. Social media plays a big role into days world as everyone is using it 24/7 for different reasons, however it can become dangerous leading to negative actions or thoughts. There is so much body shaming and online bullying now than back than because of media and phones! They can be used to help us but some people into days world use it to pick on others and to crate a negative atmosphere and I think we need to talk about theses issues at place. I believe that the more we talk and bring theses issues up 24/7 maybe people will realize that it impacts us an a society. It's sad that man have different labels and pressures on them whether it is to be tough don't show emotions, violence is the best solution etc. Society is tough on man and how man grow up. ]]> 2020-10-08 13:44:20 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/813754051 Tough Guise jaydeezy23 https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/818933781 Many would argue that masculinity and femininity are in fact intergenerational, but I believe it depends solely on the person. For example, my dad was a big sports guy while he was growing up. Some would call my dad a “Jock” in high school and college. This type of masculinity definitely rubbed off on me. I played sports my whole life growing up just like my father did. However, I cannot say the same thing about my brother. My little brother is currently 20 years old and has never showed any interest in sports or anything the media would consider “manly.” It may be the day and age we are in, but my little brother just enjoys being on his video games all day and not engaging in real life social activities. I believe that this personal example backs up my point on which I do not believe masculinity or femininity are intergenerational.

No, I do not believe “just beating up another boy” is  just being boys. I think if you are going out of your way to cause harm to somebody then you have a problem, no matter the age. However, we are going off personal experiences here and I personally believe that those fights I had in elementary school and high school made react better in certain situations I deal with today. I would never start a fight, but I always wanted to have the ability to end one. I have been a hospital security guard for a few years now and I can say that I did not expect the chaos that would happen at a hospital. I personally am happy that I have been in fights before because it had made me much more confident when it happened to me on the job. My fourth shift at the hospital I was attack by a 24-year-old man who was overdosing on meth. He has stabbed me in my leg and started biting my arm. My partner was nowhere near me at the time, which resulted in me having to handle this man all alone for about 3-5 minutes. I know some security guards who have never even been punched before, I doubt somebody like that would be ready to have a full-on fight with an overdosing meth addict.

I do understand that in todays society men are much more likely to be surfing online during their days. For example, Instagram, twitter, snapchat and Facebook. I think this has a really big effect on the pressures society places on men. Men are consistently seeing beautiful perfect sculpted bodies on everything nowadays. This puts an imagine in certain men’s heads which are physically unobtainable. However, I personally believe that it also depends on the person. I am the type of person who you can try to bully, but there is nothing you can say to bother me enough to not ignore you. For me I would not like to talk more about any pressures men face in society because I personally do not care what society thinks about me. All I need from my life is a good job, a house, 2 dogs and my family.

Jayden James

]]> 2020-10-10 21:24:58 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/818933781 Tough Guise torjohnson https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819156005
1.  Yes. I believe that both masculinity and femininity intergenerational.  Growing up as a child, both my parents worked. Both of parents also knew how to cook. Although, my mother was always the one to cook and my father would always be in kitchen but working on work. My father was also very big into sports, so even sometimes after work my dad would get to come home and watch the game and my mother would be cooking in the kitchen. I never really understood back then what was going on, but looking back on it now, i realized that gender roles had a pretty big role in there. Now, although my parents are not together anymore, my mother does have a male friend who will always come over to help work on little jobs around the house. While he will be outside doing the work, sometimes my mother will help or she will be cooking in the kitchen so that once he is done, he could eat. I feel as back even when my mother was growing up, her father would always do the "muscle work" while her mother probably did most of work in the house. To this day, I still see a lot of men doing work outside their houses, while their wife's will be inside most likely cooking or cleaning up the house.

2. Yes. I do believe one boy beating another boy up is just being boys. In most cases, males will always want to prove their dominance, wether it is for another female or literally just because. Boys often try to provoke you to see if you will really fight back. Growing up with my brother, he would always beat me up any chance he got. That is just him being an older brother trying to tuff me up. One of my little cousins, who does not have any brothers, is always trying to fight me when I am with him. I do not believe he is really trying to hurt me but it is just him being little boy just wanting to fight just because he thinks that is what is right for a boy. This is why I believe a boy beating up another boy, "is just being boys."

3.  Yes, I think that could be a really interesting discussion. I think that men have a lot of pressures to live up to in society but getting a chance to discuss it with you and other classmates would help me get a better and another understanding of the pressures men go through. Men are supposed to be at least six feet, with a six pack, muscles, provide for their families etc... This is just what I am thinking, but I would really want to know your thoughts on this Ruth, as well as some of my other classmates. ]]> 2020-10-11 04:42:36 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819156005 Tough Guise zacharykingston200 https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819552113 Yes masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. When I was younger my grandparents had a cottage. At the cottage the men and boys always seemed to do the physical outside work such a moving bulky things or building things and the woman always seemed to be inside cooking and or cleaning whenever their were jobs that needed to be done. I never really understood why the men and boys did curtain jobs and the woman and girls did other jobs and why the jobs couldn't have a mix of both genders complete them. However I came to realize that this had to do with gender roles and perceived gender stereo types. I don't believe that these stereo types and gender roles were carried out and or assigned intentionally to create gender roles and or stereo types. However I believe that the roles were carried out or assigned subconsciously as that is what has occurred for generations. This is why I believe masculinity and femininity are intergenerational.  

No I do not believe that one boy beating another boy is boys being boys. I believe that a boy beating another boy is boys trying to show that they are strong and that they have the qualities of stereotypical boy or man. It's like boys believe they have to prove there masculinity and show that they are strong and not weak. No boy or man should have to prove their masculinity and violence is not the answer to resolving conflict. Boys and men should be themselves and not feel pressured and or feel obligated to prove their masculinity through violence or other means. Boys are not born with the stereotype strong guise and nor should they feel obligated to be one or act like one. Respected men or boys should be all men and or boys based on their character and actions not based on proving that they are strong and masculine through violence and or other means. At the end of the day a boy is boy and a man is a man and they should be aloud to define their own actions and character how they choose with in the law not based on a stereo type. The reasons above are why I do not believe that one boy beating up another boy is boys being boys.

Yes we should have a discussion about the pressures that men have in society and the label such as tough guise have on them. We should have a discussion about this because I believe this a discussion that is not had enough or at all. Having a discussion about this I believe would change the behaviour and actions of men and boys who believe that they have to prove or feel pressured to prove their masculinity.Yes the pressures felt today are different then those of our parents and grandparents generation. However the tough guise stereo type still exists in society today, while less than it might have at one time. Social media plays a role that I believe does not fix and or solve this stereo type however makes it worse just in a different form than it once was. All humans are born free and should be able to act how they so choose with in the the law. The reasons I have listed above are why this discussion need to happen.            ]]> 2020-10-11 11:13:42 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819552113 Tough Guise laurenmillar21 https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819760142
I do not believe that masculinity and femininity are intergenerational, the generational influence is more on traditions and gender roles.  Masculinity and Femininity are concepts created by modern society, created as a way to help describe, or label persons. In our life, the generations before us do have influences on our lifestyle and beliefs, but those influences stem more from traditions, beliefs, and their own lifestyles, rather than directly based off masculinity and femininity. Every person is different in what traits they pick up, even if they are influenced by the same person. For example, many older generations are skilled in woodworking, or sewing, currently woodworking and sewing are not very popular, but seeing someone with such a passion and skill may influence you to find a passion and work on your skills, if you were fascinated by their sewing you may be influenced to explore fashion, or woodworking can influence you to become an artist, or even a carpenter, it's all about how it personally motivates you. 

I do not believe that beating up another boy is "just boys being boys". I also do not believe much in the saying itself, "Boys will be boys" has been used to explain actions done by many males. The saying has been used as an excuse for inappropriate behaviour of males of all ages.  
Beating up another boy, is seen by many as "boys being boys", or just boys trying to prove who is the most dominate, or the "alpha". I believe displays of violence, especially by school age children is an effect of the toxic masculinity that society has normalized. The popular media has influenced many young males to think that the way to truly be a real man is to be as big, strong, and intimidating as possible, and do prove it whenever needed vs other males. Males being the "alpha" is a very primitive idea, that is intertwined within our human evolution, but it is a thought process that is logical on its own, but can be toxic if taken too far.

Yes, I believe that it is a very important discussion to have. A lot of discussion about societal pressure is related to woman and the idea of "real beauty" shown in the media, which is far from the average woman. Society knows and acknowledged the influence media has on women but rarely speaks about the very real, and very similar influence on men. Men  in media are often 6+ft, muscular but thin, and expected to "bring home the bacon". This expectation adds added pressure to the average male, as this is often in the back of their head, even if they seem to be confident with who they are.

]]> 2020-10-11 15:45:51 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819760142 Tough guise https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819858885 1. Yes, I do believe that masculinity and femininity are intergenerational because I feel it since my childhood.  I want to explain it from example of my personal experience - I lived in joint family where all male members are used to do mainly physical work like farming and all outside work and all female members used to work in kitchen and all household work like sweeping ,mopping  and many more. Me and my cousin brother also go in our field and farms where our all  male member work and try to help them.  On the other hand my sister used to stay at home helping my mother in kitchen that’s why I think this is intergenerational.
2. I don’t believe that "just beating up another boy", just being boys because fight isn’t a solution for a problem or a dispute we can solve it by many other ways. Violence is increased day by day because mostly boys are influenced by watching weapons and lifestyle of a gangster in movies or songs. When I was in school one of my friend is beaten by our seniors because he refuse to wash there clothes when we were in school hostel that totally changed him. He used to be  very innocent and shy nature but after that incident he turned into a very short tempered and brutal person. Fight never been a solution of anything but it will affect physically ,mentally and social life. 



3.yes, we have discussions about the pressures that men have in society and the label such as tough guise  have on them because when we share our views and what we have in our mind or inside of us we can feel relax and get suggestions for solving any problem. But, if we don’t discuss our problem or what is going inside us may lead us to take wrong step. For example- if someone bully us]]> 2020-10-11 17:38:05 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819858885 Tough Guise https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819885809 I feel as though masculinity and femininity are to some extent intergenerational.  Growing up we are taught and learn by example from our parents.  In these case’s their views and ideas on masculinity and femininity are passed down through the generations. We also have some outside influences such as media and school that can influence us. Growing up I was always seen as a true girly girl and always dressed up and did what was perceived to be girly stuff.  Played dress up, wore make up, wanted to wear heals and lots of jewellery.  Always had a baby with me and cared for that doll like she was real. I hated to get dirty and even to this day despise getting my hands dirty. This being said if you were an outsider looking in you would think I was raised to believe that girls need to dress and act a certain way and men another.  In actual fact I was raised in a home with an open lens of teaching.  I have been taught that there is no such thing as man’s work or a women’s role.  We are all equal and can be and do what ever we want.  
 
Growing up you always hear “boys will be boys” or “just let them get it out of their system” implying that the behaviour is acceptable. I feel that this is a societal view which is used as an excuse to make boys beating up boys and acceptable behaviour. It also shows the deep roots that have been ingrained on societies brain that boys are meant to act this way and act differently. Would it be just acceptable to see two girls beating each other up and acting violent? Probably not. I think that this attitude that boys are just boys needs to change as it can put too much pressure on men’s mental health to the ideal of what a mean should be and look like. We need to focus more on gender equality rather than continue to teach the older school stereotypes. 
 
Yes, I think that society as a whole needs to have more discussions about the pressures and labels placed on men. Having these such discussions can change societies outlook on what a real man should be, act and look like. Having these discussions more openly I think can help to reduce the stigma on men in society which in turn can potentially reduce the physical and mental effects that men face as many men suffer in silence due to these societal stigmas. Being that I was raised in a manner that taught me to be all inclusive in what is perceived to be gender specific roles, I feel that I am more open to the ever changing societal dynamic. I would love to see a society where everyone is equal and treated as an equal however, I realize that this will need a lot of change by a lot of people and will not be easy. 
 
Brooke Buller 
]]> 2020-10-11 18:09:13 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819885809 Tough Guise - Daniel E.B https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819889825 1. Is masculinity and femininity intergenerational? Provide a personal example that supports your claim.

 I believe masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. For example, society often likes to over categorize particular interactions and socialize us to believe that men are non-emotional and women are overemotional. In my opinion both sexes can act “emotional”: emotion can be processed with several different outcomes. Furthermore, when a man or women cries this does not mean they are not strong and are weak...this is just a example of someone processing their feelings. Estrogen can influence and play a factor in such reactions but it is equivalent as men being more prone to aggression due to testosterone (which is an emotion as well...). Strength is shown in many ways between both sexes. For example my father going to work and providing for my family is just as important as my Mother being there for us and taking care of the home. To often we do not connect these parallels and neglect the crucial role women play in even traditional standards. 


2. Is "just beating up another boy", just being boys? Develop and explain your answer.


 Throughout the generations it seems like masculinity has been linked with a primal/alpha male ideology which includes domination and authoritarian behaviour. The phrase “just beating up another boy” as in the context of regular behaviour seems to place an excuse for bad behaviour and can lead to mentally damaging outcomes. Being beaten up is not only belittling but can be scarring for many men especially during early stages of life such as secondary/elementary school. Acts like these gives young boys the one-sided defined meaning of strength and it makes them question there own manhood. This kind of intellect belongs to the idea of toxic masculinity as it further insinuates aggressive behaviour (Tough Guise) in man-hood. 


3. Should we have discussions about the pressures that men have in society and the label such as tough guise  have on them?


Yes we should defiantly have more discussions about these pressures. If not, These toxic ideas will pass down throughout the generations and we will see a constant cycle. I would not want my child to see the one-sided view on masculinity as I find its important to embrace a balance of both sides of the spectrum. Self control nowadays is an essential skill to have. With the media and technology pushing out there views on manhood, we have to find the “cut-off line” and adjust ourselves in a balanced manner.


]]> 2020-10-11 18:14:04 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819889825 Tough Guise https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819969768 1: At some extend I feel that masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. Because, people views on the masculinity and femininity has been changed by time to time. It could be believe that media or starts are playing crucial roles in that . To exemplify this, the guys in 90's are considered to be handy man and doing farm works, driving big truck or in to constructions works. on the other side, girls are being showed mainly doing households. There so many hollywood movies which represents this. But, in the 21 century it seemed to changed. Girls were shown participate in other profession. I'd add marvel series as my example they shown girls character in different way.  The number of girls in front of guys are very less.

2:  "just beating up another boy" I'd never be agree with this statement. You can't show your power to beat somebody. Moreover, I'm not into statements which classify someone strength. This statement shows if you're able to beat a guy then you've right to called yourself a guy. This is not justify, everyone have their own quality their strengths. Someone is good in mental health someone is good in physical. But, these kind of statements and dialogues in movies let down people who are not able to do that. 

3: I believe that, we should have discussion about pressure of men. There are more way of social media and entertainment media to influencing peoples. There is usually a stud image in web series or in movies. that guy has perfect body have nice six pack he is always get around with girls. There kind of incidents in person life put pressure on. Nowadays, people taking a social media ad God. Like: Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook so on. People believe what they see in this. Some famous personally or people to get famous they use so many filter or photoshop to look good. But this think bad influences on our teen or youth generation.

Gurdeep Singh]]> 2020-10-11 19:46:57 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/819969768 Tough Guise - Marcus McCalla https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820065303 1. I believe masculinity and femininity is intergenerational because we are first introduced to these gender constructions through our parents and other immediate family members. From a young age, males and females are taught how to think and behave in accordance with these constructions, and respectively, how not to. For example, my understanding of “being a man” was instilled on me by my father from a very young age, which meant suppressing pain and sadness on many occasions so that I would never express these emotions overtly out of fear of being seen as less masculine.

2. At its core, I believe the “just being boys” claim to be very problematic, as it perpetuates different elements of toxic masculinity where males are allowed to inflict violence and escape accountability for poor behaviour, simply because they are male. For this reason, I would agree that a young boy beating up another boy can fall within this overarching claim, but I would also argue that this sentiment should be abolished.

3. I think that a conversation of this nature is necessary, if we are to unpack the benefits that males reap at a societal level through the construction of their gender and their performance of masculinity. It is important, I believe, to understand that how one practices masculinity is not a singular, all-encompassing approach, which all men should adhere to but instead varies from male to male. As gender-based discourse and scholarly research has grown, I believe (North American) society has gradually gravitated to the former option, but is still highly influenced by labels such as “tough guys”. These labels can be harmful to males, who in turn feel pressured to adhere to these strict guidelines of what is understood to be a “man”. Therefore, I think such a conversation is very necessary.
]]> 2020-10-11 21:46:49 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820065303 Tough Guise - Ushaya Govender https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820156611 1. I believe that both masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. Each generation designates a specified set of norms and values that are highlighted within that time in society. I have been to South Africa many times, and the concept of intergenerational was thoroughly shown within the genders. I found that the men of the family were the ones to provide physically and financially for their families. For example, my father left high school in grade 10 to advance in the South African Navy to make a substantial amount of money which would soon provide for his family. I found that the women of the family were the ones to provide emotionally and to be mentally prepared for anything. An example, my mother carried on high school and graduated leading to graduating with Honours from university soon becoming a teacher in Canada. I always had an idea of why men carried themselves the way they do, and why women present themselves the way they do. It is simply because of the generation they have been brought up. My parents came from a very traditional and conservative culture and set of norms, which they have raised me with. Moving to Canada, they have adapted to a new culture and set of norms as well as a new generation. When I reached teenagehood, I became to find myself more and start to show my parent's different norms and a new culture that had been born. I would especially try to convey to my father, that females can have arised and are have geared into something more due to generations. As I grew older, I started to drift away from the pink nail polish and preppy t-shirts to the combat boots and band shirts. That indicated to my parents that new culture and norms comes within generations.

2. One boy beating up another boy is not “identified” as just being boys in today’s generation. For some, it could be, but for many, it is not. In my opinion, I believe that boys should know right and wrong in today’s society. Today is not yesterday. In other words, times have changed and societies cultures, values and norms have changed. Boys need to acknowledge that you can’t just throw a fist if you don’t agree with something or if something makes you upset. It is crucial that in today’s day and age boys understand that societal values have differed and some behaviours are not tolerated. Being born in the mid-nineties, being a “man” was important in my day and age. I remember going to elementary school and the boys teasing another boy because he was more flamboyant than others. I remember being emotional when I saw him start to cry. This stuck with me because it was different for me seeing a boy cry.
 
3. Regardless if there are discussions about the pressures that men have in society, and if they are labelled as tough guise - men will always originate from the root of manhood. I say this because men are classified as something in society (just like women are) so they want to live up to that societal standard. Although there can be a backlash, and negative impacts men will strive to become known as tough which they believe is critical in the lens of society. It would be a superior idea to hold discussions about this topic because it will allow men to look at this from a new view, new societal standards and a new lens. This can result in less crime and negative impacts that were displayed at the beginning of the video.  

]]> 2020-10-11 23:40:33 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820156611 Tough Guise https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820278110 1.  Yes, I do believe that masculinity and femininity are intergenerational. Growing up, my parents have been always on the move working. While my Dad would have a night job, my mom had 2-3 jobs when I younger as well as always cook, clean, etc... My Dad would always do the laundry and somewhat techie. While I was growing up i've always heard the saying women are better at the cleaning and cooking while men deal with more of the muscles type stuff. Looking back at it compared to now, I can see why my dad never did any of the cooking things. My mom since she was young, has been taught to do all the things around the house. Whether it be cooking, fixing anything around the house (sink, tech, etc...). Now she applies all that to today and because of her my dad has picked up a few things from her too.

2. No, I don't believe that "just beating up another boy", is just being boys. I believe that there can be other ways to just be boys. I don't have any brothers but I would always hear stories from my friends who had brothers, that brothers would beat them up all the time to toughen them up. I somewhat understand the concept of it but I believe that there can be other ways to toughen someone up. When I hear the words "it's just boys being boys" I think it's a lazy excuse that some come up with so they don't look bad. Boys can be boys but when it comes to beating up another boy, that is where I will claim that to be just bullying.

3. I absolutely believe that we should have discussions about the pressures that men have in society. I personally would like to discuss and try to understand why men feel like they should have to do this and do that in order to be successful in life or why they have to look a certain way. Who in the world said that "in order for you to be a man, you have to be tall, muscular, and have abs, etc..."). I think discussing things like these together in class, would make men realize that they don't need to be a certain why or have to set specific standards in order to fit in with society.

Lynden Jones]]> 2020-10-12 01:06:04 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820278110 Tough Guise- Sujay Rambajue https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820334650 2020-10-12 01:38:09 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820334650 Tough Guise- Shubham https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820370403 1. Is masculinity and femininity intergenerational? Provide a personal example that supports your claim.

In my opinion, masculinity and femininity is intergenerational. We can see for last dew decades, we used to compare the both genders. In my back home India, Society think that men should lead the family. They think that women can't lead the family because she is weak and emotional, however now a particular proportion of the reality dramas shows that women is the leader of the family and she is taken care of all the things and expenses related to the family equally. In my conclusion, I would like to say that both men and women are equal and they have their own values. For examples, In my home, my mom and dad both are doing things equally, In some places my mom takes decision however at some places my dad, so they both are taking care of our family.

2. Is "just beating up another boy", just being boys? Develop and explain your answer.

I am completely disagree with the statement. BY beating someone we can't prove that we are powerful and strong. Because everyone has their own strength and weakness. For example, some are good in physical heath however few people has own learning strength and mental abilities.
On the flip side, we can use our strengths by helping others are not able to do things. 

3. I think, this is a very debatable issue that men having pressure to proof themselves. From childhood, men get to know about ideal set up by societies for the perfect men. We always learn that we have to do study hard so that we can get good grades and then get a nice job. Apart from that, we have pressure to maintain our physical strength. ]]> 2020-10-12 01:58:12 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820370403 Tough Guise - Harkunwar Sachdeva https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820408636 1.  Yes, I do believe that masculinity and femininity is intergenerational. Growing up I saw that my mom would cook food for the family and would clean the house. Even though my dad knew how to cook he would very rarely cook for us. I saw him do things like shovel snow, cut grass, and BBQ. Because of this I grew up doing chores such as taking out the trash, mowing the law, and shoveling the driveway. On the other hand, my sister got the chores to clean up around the house.

2. “Just beating up another boy”, just being boys. This statement shows toxic masculinity and I do not agree with this statement. Growing up I knew that violence does not solve any problems. I never picked on other guys to show that I am alpha. A boy should not be able to hurt other boy for no reason and it be chalked up to boys being boys. 

3. Yes, I believe its about time we discuss about the pressure that men have in society and the label such as guise have on them. Times have changed, we as society have made a great progression. The idea of being “man” comes from era where sexism, and racism were normal.  Now the times have changed, if a man want to show emotion, he should be able to show it. 

]]> 2020-10-12 02:21:47 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820408636 Tough Guise - kristen Defreitas https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820506274 1.   I believe that masculinity and femininity is intergenerational.  When I was growing up at my grandmothers; house, I often stayed in the kitchen with her while she cooked dinner. My dad, brother and grandfather would always be in the backyard taking care of the garden and any work that needed to be done. In addition, my dad would be the person to cut the grass, shovel snow, paint the deck and put things together. Whereas, my mother would cook dinner and clean around the house. Growing up, I did more of the things my mother does such as cleaning around the house and doing the dishes. I realized that these had to do with gender roles and stereotypes. I believe that these roles that were assigned were subconsciously given out and learned through generations. 
 
2.     No, I do not believe a boy beating another boy is boys just being boys. Boys shouldn’t have to fight other boys to prove their masculinity. Violence and fighting are not the answer to proving masculinity. Men and boys should not feel like they have to fight or act tough to prove a point. This stereotype is taught and portrayed through the media and other people as well. A lot of boys in today’s society will use weapons to defend themselves which isn’t good and is not the answer. 
 
3.     I think that we should have a discussion based on the pressure’s men have in society. Having a discussion on this topic would allow men to realize that they don’t have to prove their masculinity. I believe that this would introduce new mind sets and less violence in society. Social media is highly influential and doesn’t set a good image regarding this topic. However, by spreading awareness about making change can make a difference in society. 


]]> 2020-10-12 03:24:29 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820506274 Touch Guise - Taliyah Barham https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820514469 1. Is masculinity and femininity intergenerational? Provide a personal example that supports your claim.
- Yes I believe that masculinity and femininity is intergenerational because you often see mothers or grandmothers teaching the girls how to cook and clean and they are more lenient with the boys in the kitchen they more so go help with the cars are taking out the garbage. Girls are more so brought up to cook and clean while the boys are more likely to be brought up to take care of more of the handy work and garbage. Another example would be you see the boys or dads shovel the snow, cut the grass, paint the house. While decorating, doing the dishes cleaning is what the girls or moms do. I feel like because this is how past generations were brought up it was passed on to recent generations. 

2. Is "just beating up another boy", just being boys? Develop and explain your answer.
- No I do not believe that "just beating up another boy", is being boys. I feel like this is toxic masculinity because it representing mean having to beat on each other it to show their dominance. This is taught to little boys from a young age from when they are told boys are not allowed to cry. So I do not agree with this statement. 

3. Should we have discussions about the pressures that men have in society and the label such as tough guise  have on them? 
- Yes, I do believe that we should have a discussion about the pressures that mean face in the society. Having this conversation of a topic will allow men to see they do not have to prove their masculinity or that violence is the answer to solve everything. This will spread awareness and hopefully help men in the long run. As well as change the societies viewpoint and make a change ]]> 2020-10-12 03:29:37 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820514469 1.Is masculinity and femininity intergenerational? I do believe masculinity and femininity is intergenerational. For example, every Christmas, we go to my mothers' house. The women are found in the kitchen preparing dinner and organizing. The men are found sitting in the living room drinking beer and relaxing. Why is this the case? Because that is what my mothers' mom did, so she continued it and so on. I do not think it is right. I have two young boys, and I am trying to teach them the opposite. They are equally able to cook, clean and help out with things that are more common for "women" to do. Sometimes, I would like to sit down and have a drink and relax, and there is nothing wrong with that! Everyone should be equal, and there should not be certain roles of things we do because of our genders. 2. Is "just beating up another boy", just being boys? Develop and explain your answer. No, I don't think "just beating up another boy" is just being boys. I believe it is wrong to assume that just because you are a boy means you are going to go straight to being aggressive and fighting. How do you know a girl would not fight another girl? Just because they are female means that would not place their hands on another girl? Why do we assume something because of genders? It is just typical stereotypes that are so outdated and incorrect. Referring back to my two boys, they have been taught not to "beat up" one another. If they have any issues, they are to use their words. I do not want my kids growing up thinking because they are boys to be viewed as tough boys they need to be physical. 3. Should we have discussions about the pressures that men have in society and the label such as tough guise have on them? I feel we should discuss the pressures that men have in our society. My children are being taught; they do not have to be a certain way to be viewed as "manly". The pressure female and male children feel these days to be a certain way is unsettling. The media does not help what so ever. Men should be able to be themselves with no judgements or expectations. If this was more of a talked about subject, maybe men would not feel the need to act a certain way. ciaralawless222 https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820553207 2020-10-12 03:57:29 UTC https://padlet.com/drpsychology6862/rgu0zjjpuibomd71/wish/820553207