Marriage Facts P4 by Jodie Anttila https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q What surprised you? Have you seen this in your life with someone you know? Will you do anything different in dating because of one of these facts? What could be done to make sure you aren't a victim of this statistic? en-us 2021-03-19 20:01:41 UTC 2025-08-04 03:26:20 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/1f60d.png 179404 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571635 This is actually not surprising to me because when one is young that's when they are beginning to explore. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:43:13 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571635 I definitely feel like moving in together also changes the feeling of a person because that is where they actually get to know the other person and they start showing their true colors. 1801865 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571732 2021-03-19 21:43:16 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571732 1801354 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571759 At 18, there is so much room to grow and so many things you have to learn (often through experience). At this stage, most people are just starting to learn what its like to be on your own. Personally, I could never imagine being in a situation where I would be okay with getting married right now.]]> 2021-03-19 21:43:18 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571759 This price surprised me. I didn't think it was that expensive PER person to get a divorce. 179954 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571797 2021-03-19 21:43:19 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331571797 1796911 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331572194 This did not surprise me because I feel like this is how a relationship should be.]]> 2021-03-19 21:43:35 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331572194 181197 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331572893 I don't think this should really surprise anyone.You are so young making a decision that's supposed to be "forever".]]> 2021-03-19 21:44:04 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331572893 1796911 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331573289 I'm not surprised and especially with there being COVID you can't really meet people which leads into being single and you aren't really able to go places to maybe relive your stress.]]> 2021-03-19 21:44:20 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331573289 I did not know that it costed SO much to be divorced! No wonder some married couples tend to deal with it and stay together :( https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331573615 I mean what you can do is either A. do not get married or B. do your best to work it out with your partner. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:44:31 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331573615 i think all of these are great things to talk about and something else that is important is future goals 1812108 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331573839 2021-03-19 21:44:39 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331573839 Not a surprise. At 18 our brains haven't finished developing and probably won't make the best decisions. 1807501 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574486 2021-03-19 21:45:06 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574486 179404 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574708 I feel that if you want a healthy and strong relationship these topics should be discussed at all times.]]> 2021-03-19 21:45:15 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574708 1804941 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574762 This does not surprise me. Money is a big topic in all different types of relationships. Everyone feels different on what is important and what isn’t. Because of this, there is usually a lot of controversy on what does and doesn’t need to be bought. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:45:17 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574762 Another Topic - Deal Breakers! jodieanttila https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574834 I think "deal breakers" should be added to this list. Deal breakers for me would be a smoker or someone that hunts.

]]> 2021-03-19 21:45:20 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574834 1848181 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574918 It is not surprising because those who are 18 have a lot more in their life to do such as college before they get married.]]> 2021-03-19 21:45:24 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331574918 180558n https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575117 Im not surprised because now couples get into arguments over little things especially money. I would focus more in communicating and just talking to one another before one starts to make mistakes.]]> 2021-03-19 21:45:32 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575117 In my opinion this plays a huge part in a healthy relationship. Sometimes love and is all a person can offer, and that should be enough. 1801865 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575156 2021-03-19 21:45:34 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575156 I think all of these topics are definitely a big topic to discuss with your partner before getting married. I didn't think in-laws were that big of a topic or problem until now. 179954 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575338 2021-03-19 21:45:40 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575338 1811166 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575695 I agree with this because these topics are very crucial to a good relationship, and if you both don't agree on a topic it can lead to conflict and some problems.]]> 2021-03-19 21:45:53 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331575695 1796911 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331576554 I definetly think it will because if im not always "in love with you" i shouldn't be with you.]]> 2021-03-19 21:46:30 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331576554 179404 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331576626 I expected this to happen due to the pandemic.]]> 2021-03-19 21:46:33 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331576626 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331576684 This is not surprising as every relationship should be about focusing on things like quality time and good conversations. In the end it all has to do with sticking by your partner's side.]]> 2021-03-19 21:46:36 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331576684 I always thought that price was about 1k but I never actually looked it up and seeing this number scares me 1812108 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331577325 2021-03-19 21:46:58 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331577325 I wouldn't doubt that 2020 was the year of the most divorces. The pandemic kept everyone at home with their loved ones everyday so I wouldn't be shocked if this was true. 179954 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331577649 2021-03-19 21:47:11 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331577649 1811166 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331577835 This makes sense because 18 is a very young age to be making decisions on who you want to spend the rest of your life with, especially with things like school and life getting in the way.]]> 2021-03-19 21:47:18 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331577835 1801354 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331578777 I think being in quarantine is a big factor in this too. Because you can't go anywhere, I'm sure a lot of people were forced to stay at home in relationships they never had the time to realize were incompatible.]]> 2021-03-19 21:47:52 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331578777 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579231 Quarantine definitely hit a lot of people, so I'm not surprised that the divorce rates increased.]]> 2021-03-19 21:48:12 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579231 1804941 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579322 This does not surprise me because some relationships only survive because of the routine they were on and due to COVID, routines were changed. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:48:16 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579322 Not a surprise. Everyone was used to ones routine( leaving the house, going to work school and social activities) but then they were told to stay in close quarters when you wanted space. Of course there were gonna be problems. 1807501 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579891 2021-03-19 21:48:38 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579891 180558n https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579997 Im not surprised with these results. Especially since our brain isn't fully developed before 25 years old we might do things that later on might regret doing.]]> 2021-03-19 21:48:42 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331579997 1809681 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580035 This wasn't really surprising because many couples lost their jobs and had to face many more challenges with the pandemic.]]> 2021-03-19 21:48:44 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580035 I am not surprised by this as I saw covid break up many relationships 1812108 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580076 2021-03-19 21:48:45 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580076 1811166 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580102 I never knew a divorce was this pricey. This is actually really sad since there so many unhappy marriages in the world, and it costs so much to just get a divorce. This price tag can lead people to avoid divorcing leading them to be stuck in an unhappy relationship for while.]]> 2021-03-19 21:48:47 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580102 181197 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580239 Not surprising considering how bad 2020 was financially and mentally for some people.I'm sure being in lock down for such a long time with someone and seeing a different side of them had a huge effect on divorce rates increasing.]]> 2021-03-19 21:48:53 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580239 This is honestly sad, there are some people that don´t deserve to put up with things their spouse does or put them through. I can only imagine how trapped people feel. 1801865 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580343 2021-03-19 21:48:58 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331580343 179799 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331581963 I am not surprised by this statement because due to the pandemic many people have lost their jobs and are now having economic problems which play a pretty big role in a relationship

]]> 2021-03-19 21:49:53 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331581963 I know somebody who has been married 3 times it is crazy to see people actually get married that many times 1812108 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331582701 2021-03-19 21:50:19 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331582701 180558n https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331582977 This is what a relationship should be and not based on money or popularity status. Just be happy with your significant other.]]> 2021-03-19 21:50:29 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331582977 1804941 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583430 I believe that quality time and doing the little things that used to be done are important. Doing things to remember why you guys are together could help a relationship a lot.]]> 2021-03-19 21:50:45 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583430 1848181 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583687 My brother's friend, he has gotten into a divorce twice. I wonder how people can get married after a divorce, its crazy. That is the most i have ever seen someone with more than one divorce.]]> 2021-03-19 21:50:54 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583687 179404 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583824 I feel that once you have gone through one divorce then you start to lose hope in staying in a marriage.]]> 2021-03-19 21:50:59 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583824 1801354 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583890 not to get too personal, but this statistic actually scares me bc I don't want to end up as part of the 50%. In reality, I feel like you just never know what's gonna happen in the future lol]]> 2021-03-19 21:51:02 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583890 183158 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583928 It's not too surprising since those under the age of 25-ish don't have fully developed brains. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:51:03 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331583928 1809681 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331584189 In my opinion the little details are what matter. So if the couple focuses on each other even for a minute they've made a difference in their relationship. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:51:15 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331584189 Well I see that once you get out of one marriage it might feel easy to get out of another, if you feel unhappy. 1807501 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331584994 2021-03-19 21:51:46 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331584994 183158 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331585945 This is not at all surprising because studies show that hedonic adaptation increases when you acquire materialistic items and that happiness comes from experiences, not items. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:52:24 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331585945 179799 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331586394 I feel like relationships should be like this because people get together because they can get along very well. Of course there are some people who wouldn't agree with me but if your are there at their highest then i feel like you should be there on there lowest.

]]> 2021-03-19 21:52:40 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331586394 1848181 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331587483 Im not surprised because if someone were to spent their money on something else rather than bills or house payments, they will be most likely divorced.]]> 2021-03-19 21:53:23 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331587483 181197 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331588283 I definitely understand how this caused a likelihood of divorce causing a lack of trust between the couple.]]> 2021-03-19 21:53:54 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331588283 1809681 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331589032 The fact that these five topics should be discussed in a relationship isn't surprising. I've watched a marriage fail because of the lack of boundaries between the couple.]]> 2021-03-19 21:54:27 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331589032 1801354 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331590056 I think this is a good summarization of the main issues that could possibly lead to divorce in the future. These could potentially be huge disagreements between a couple, and I think its best to deal with them before the final commitment.]]> 2021-03-19 21:55:08 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331590056 183158 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331590612 This is ]]> 2021-03-19 21:55:29 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331590612 179799 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331591445 This does not surprise me because i have family members that argue quite often because the spouse thinks that the wife spends to much money on unnecessary things

]]> 2021-03-19 21:56:04 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331591445 183158 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331592958 This isn't that shocking to me because 2020, for a lot of people, was a year of seldom and "chaos". This leads me to believe that it had a major effect on people's well beings and relationships
. ]]> 2021-03-19 21:56:50 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331592958 Belem fabian https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331593463 It’s not surprising due too many young teens barely going into adulthood commit or believe they will stay forever when most times it won’t last that long ]]> 2021-03-19 21:57:10 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331593463 Belem fabian https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331602489 2020 is stressful for many people especially if you’re in a relationship some may take it out on there partners or some may just not know what to do in stressful situations that they just stop communicating with there partners ]]> 2021-03-19 22:02:51 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331602489 I didn’t know this that sad how expensive it is to divorce someone you once thought to have feelings for 1825702 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331607046 2021-03-19 22:05:52 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331607046 1794411 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331619502 I am not that surprised because there wasn't really anywhere to go or anything to do. ]]> 2021-03-19 22:14:46 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331619502 1812071 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331630424 Living together can go wrong in many ways. I think it can also allow both of them to grow together physically and mentally, which can cause them to realize that they made a mistake moving in with their partner. That's when problems can start. ]]> 2021-03-19 22:23:09 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331630424 1812071 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331636662 These topics are important to discuss because if not then later on in the marriage things and the marriage itself can go downhill. ]]> 2021-03-19 22:28:05 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1331636662 1826982 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332024500 Yes!!!! oh my god. I completely agree with this. This is definitely the most thing in a relationship. I feel without this the relationship would just be in a difficult situation where both partners don't understand each other.  ]]> 2021-03-20 05:38:18 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332024500 1826982 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332025264 Yes!!!! oh my god. I completely agree with this. This is definitely the most thing in a relationship. I feel without this the relationship would just be in a difficult situation where both partners don't understand each other.  ]]> 2021-03-20 05:39:24 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332025264 179749 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332083652 as would be expected when we are young we do not know our self full would be hard to figure who to spend the rest of life with ]]> 2021-03-20 07:13:25 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332083652 179749 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332086185 that's true in the after life we don't take things with us its important to make memories inside]]> 2021-03-20 07:17:18 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332086185 179749 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332088514 I feel like this also has to do with the mind overthinking since we have more time to spend me has more time to think]]> 2021-03-20 07:20:53 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1332088514 1830632 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1346101676 I think this is pretty much a given, love cannot be bought, at least what's supposed to be true. Good conversations and quality time allows you to grow as a person and enhances the relationship with your partner.]]> 2021-03-24 03:15:57 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1346101676 1830632 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1346110399 From what I hear from divorcees, it tends to be a "I didn't know this about my partner" and then it's too late. Too many people get caught in the puppy love phase and end up either being stuck or divorced.]]> 2021-03-24 03:20:17 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1346110399 1830632 https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1346121785 If you feel that your spouse being foolish about their spending's isn't necessarily the best when you have another person in your life. Filed marriages are just contracts, I think when getting married that is something important to be aware of. If you don't know how your partner spends their money and you end up not being comfortable with it, it obviously doesn't lead to a good conversation.]]> 2021-03-24 03:25:44 UTC https://padlet.com/oxnardunion/qz1wn8249wrskz5q/wish/1346121785