https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories Sarah Woodward is an academic researcher, looking into the language and narratives of coercive and controlling behaviour and their impact on public policy. Please join in the research. If you have found examples in literature – in fiction and non-fiction – of the language and narratives of coercive control, please add them here. If you need help or support, please get in touch with the National Domestic Abuse Helpline: https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk/ en-us 2023-06-19 17:19:11 UTC 2026-01-03 09:17:48 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-uploads.storage.googleapis.com/2076482845/10957c1a1cf7f807881c4fc83798f655/alexandru_zdrobau_4bmtMXGuVqo_unsplash.jpg hiddeninplainhearing https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631088061 "Myself is a thing I must now compose, as one composes a speech. What I must present is a made thing, not something born."
(Margaret Atwood: The Handmaid's Tale (London: Vintage, 1996), p. 76.)

Victim survivors have to create versions of themselves in order to survive. ]]> 2023-06-23 14:47:47 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631088061 hiddeninplainhearing https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631093965 My father wore a fake Rolex that ran about four hours before it stopped.
"Get yourself a better watch!",  my mother railed at him, and he said, with perfect hatred pinching at his eyes,
"Better than a Rolex?"
(Sarah Manguso: Very Cold People (London: Picador, 2022), pp. 14-15)

Abusers play games with language.]]> 2023-06-23 14:58:02 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631093965 hiddeninplainhearing https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631106339 I know that attired in this manner, I am all set to play the part of the good housewife. Nothing loud, nothing eye-catching, nothing beautiful. I should look like a woman whom no-one wants to look at or, more accurately, whom no-one even sees.
(Mena Kandasamy: When I Hit You (London, Atlantic, 2017) p. 16)

Victim survivors try to make themselves invisible.]]> 2023-06-23 15:23:30 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631106339 hiddeninplainhearing https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631118735 I kept thinking how the five of us had had a really unhealthy family, but I saw then too, how our roots were twisted so tenaciously around one another's hearts.
(Elizabeth Strout: My Name is Lucy Barton (New York: Penguin, 2016), pp. 167-8)

Victim survivors are often bound around their abusers. ]]> 2023-06-23 15:50:22 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631118735 hiddeninplainhearing https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631126205 [After Terri's mother finds her diary which details the abuse she is suffering at the hands of her stepfather]:

She asked if I wanted to go to the police about what we'd talked about the night before, or just forget about it. I said I just wanted to forget about it.
She nodded, kicked the hoover  and it roared into life once more. We never spoke of it again.
(Terri White: Coming Undone (Edinburgh: Canongate, 2020), p.70)

The stories of abuse victim survivors disappear before they are even heard.]]> 2023-06-23 16:07:41 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2631126205 https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638980702 Mr Rochester and Jane]]> 2023-07-05 20:07:10 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638980702 https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638980793 Film about a woman in a coercive relationship with Anna Kendrick - survivor of a coercive relationship as the lead actor ]]> 2023-07-05 20:07:31 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638980793 https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638981104 Jeff is very emotionally manipulative]]> 2023-07-05 20:08:36 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638981104 alisahsaghir00 https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638981198 Colleen Hoover - It Ends With Us
Novel is extremely popular with young readers. ]]> 2023-07-05 20:08:53 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638981198 alisahsaghir00 https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638982040 Maid, Netflix shows and book by Stephanie Land ]]> 2023-07-05 20:11:26 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638982040 https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638983116 2023-07-05 20:15:05 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2638983116 https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2639442020 BBC - Killed by my boyfriend

I am Vicky 

Happy Valley ]]> 2023-07-06 06:49:48 UTC https://padlet.com/hiddeninplainhearing/soundless_stories/wish/2639442020