Social Toxicity Rain Clouds by Farima Pour-Khorshid

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-27 18:29:28 UTC

Sex education was ALWAYS hetero, never queer and never liberatory

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-27 18:29:28 UTC

being afraid to bring my delicious cultural foods to lunch because other kids would bully me

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-27 18:29:28 UTC

teachers/students not making an effort to remember my pronouns and consistently misgendering me

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-28 06:31:37 UTC

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Belittled for shopping at thrift stores or for the clothes I was wearing.

Made to feel invisible because of my age.

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I was always chubby and some of the “cool guys” in my grade school would make bets to see who could squeeze my cheeks the hardest. Never a sorry. Always laughs from them. I can still feel the pain in my cheeks and the humiliation when I think back on it.

2021-09-30 19:45:05 UTC

My boyfriend at school would always try to fight any guy who tried to talk to me or be my friend.

I was picked last to play on a team because I was a girl.

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Automatically assuming I was straight

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not fitting in with middle class norms or understanding their etiquette

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-30 19:45:32 UTC

never having accessible elevators for my paraplegic cousin at school

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-30 19:46:12 UTC

I hated when white ppl would say "ghetto" it was always racialized and code for meaning Black

Slut shamed for enjoying bodily pleasures

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I did a study abroad trip in high school and at the border in a foreign country, I clearly noticed being privileged as a white traveler, vs. the people of color behind me that were sent to a special room for further questioning and searching

Grew up in a home characterized by male domination and physical and emotional abuse

2021-09-30 19:46:25 UTC

never learning about indigenous people outside of their colonization

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-30 19:46:35 UTC

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I always hated history classes because they focused on positive portrayals of colonizers and colonial history and as an Indigenous person I felt so alienated and disrespected.

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always bombarded with European standards of beauty, religion, and ways of being

2021-09-30 19:47:09 UTC

being treated like I was too old for resources or to receive help at community college because at a certain age I guess we are supposed to have it all together or figured out?

2021-09-30 19:47:11 UTC

Picked on by white students at my middle school for being an immigrant into this country and having a language barrier.

English Only Movement in California

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-30 19:47:25 UTC

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Constantly correcting teachers' assumption that I had a boyfriend when I was openly queer.

2021-09-30 19:47:46 UTC

Growing up my father always expected me and my mom to cook and he or my brother never cooked for themselves or others. Even when I started college and was a full time student with 2 jobs, my brother was unemployed and I was still expected to cook for him.

tinasonrisa — 2021-09-30 19:47:47 UTC

I was cast to play a Black character in a play in high school. I played into a stereotype that was expected of me and felt ashamed for accepting this role.

2021-09-30 19:47:56 UTC

being challenged or told that i am too sensitive or overreacting anytime I would address disrespect toward me

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When I first arrived to this country, I was not accepted to school because I did not speak English in Kindergarten

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Being made to feel ashamed of my mom's station wagon when she picked me up from elementary school, which was private and other kids' parents had sports cars so they'd make fun of me.

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-30 19:48:12 UTC

I wanted to try out to be a cheerleader but when I was in line to sign up another student said I was too fat and I was going to get rejected

fpourkhorshid — 2021-09-30 19:48:48 UTC

My best friend would get policed by school security all the time for things that I always got away with because I was white and perceived a "good" kid

2021-09-30 19:49:06 UTC

At school was given feedback on my “accent” and was treated like it was a disability

"you're too young to understand"

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profjoneselac — 2021-09-30 19:50:14 UTC

Having my name being referred to as "ghetto" and being asked to go by a nickname to make others feel comfortable in pronouncing a name they are more familiar with.

2021-09-30 19:50:18 UTC

I watched gay boys get bullied all the time but at the same time, gay girls were sexualized as "hot"

2021-09-30 19:50:33 UTC

Emotional abuse by ex-boyfriend in school, all of his friends would do the same to their girlfriends too

2021-09-30 19:51:21 UTC

I was one of a handful of Mexican-American in a very white high school and was clearly treated differently than the other light skinned, white-passing Mexicans at the school.

2021-09-30 19:52:29 UTC

As an Asian I was the only person that was chubby in my family and I was constantly criticized and punished for my weight. My family treated me the worse. They made fun of me and made me develop intense self consciousness.

2021-09-30 19:52:33 UTC

I was a chubby little kid. As I grew up, I felt the disdain and negative connotations of being overweight. So, I still am always weight-conscious and it is hard for me to not judge others who are overweight. I feel horrible about this.

2021-09-30 19:53:50 UTC

Bullied for having arm hair, something common in my culture

profjoneselac — 2021-09-30 19:54:30 UTC

When people use a lowercase b to discuss and/or describe Black people and always capitalize w for white people or any other letter for other races/ethnicities

fpourkhorshid — 2021-11-16 07:23:48 UTC

not being able to go to field trips because the costs were always too high for my single mom to afford so I missed out on a lot.

fpourkhorshid — 2021-11-16 07:34:54 UTC

There was no LGBTQ clubs or support groups or resources at all at my high school and the admin would not allow students to start their own on campus

fpourkhorshid — 2021-11-16 07:38:05 UTC

Not being allowed to try out for the foot ball team because I was a girl

fpourkhorshid — 2021-11-16 07:46:53 UTC

I never had one Black or Brown teacher in all of my K-12 school experience

fpourkhorshid — 2021-11-16 21:21:45 UTC

I struggled so much with anxiety in high school, especially with public speaking and my anxiety was never taken seriously. I would literally have panic attacks trying to present

witnessing students with mobility barriers empty to make it across campus and to classes || stuck, but reactionary to change how i supported my students with mobility barriers || yes, constantly aware of how ADA non-compliant places are and how i take up space and advocate for space for others

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fpourkhorshid — 2021-11-16 21:22:15 UTC

no one ever talked to me about my trauma in elementary school because they thought I was too young to talk about what happened to me

Sad to add to the abusive ex boyfriends from high school who socialized me, as a young girl, into thinking my role was to please him, agree with him, and not dream of my own life. This behavior was also modeled and supported by my own family through already existing toxic masculinity.

flourishagenda — 2021-11-16 21:25:09 UTC

At one of the public elementary schools I attended in Oakland, the staff would publicly punish the students for speaking Mandarin on the playground with one another. Even though the student body was predominantly Chinese.

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2023-11-14 01:04:40 UTC

Witnessing groups of students talk under their breath and say negative remarks about a gay boy in our school.

2023-11-14 01:04:48 UTC

The families of my students treating me differently because I am a young teacher. Second guessing my choices, and asking how often administration observed me through the year.

fpourkhorshid — 2023-11-14 01:06:27 UTC

Being called a terrorist because of my last name

2023-11-14 01:07:36 UTC

I went to a catholic high school and in my junior year the archdiocese essentially asked that teacher disclose their sexuality as a condition for signing their contract for the upcoming year. I watched so many amazing teachers quit because of this

2023-11-14 01:08:40 UTC

In high school my friend and I were speaking Armenian to each other and someone asked us “what terrorist language we were speaking?” They went on to remind us that “in the United States we speak English”

2023-11-14 01:10:34 UTC

Girls were held to a different academic standard that boys were.

2023-11-14 01:10:52 UTC

The boys in middle would play this “game” where they would see how many of the girls’ butts they could slap in a day. I felt super uncomfortable and told a teacher about it. The boys were only talked to and were mad at me for “telling”

2023-11-14 02:20:07 UTC

Both of my parents worked full-time and were unable to attend activities during the day at school (Field Trips, Talent Shows, Family Picnics, etc.) My classmates who had one working parent and one stay-at-home parent or classmates with a parent who worked part-time, were able to have a family representative for those important activities. It felt like shit and made me angry at my parents when they were doing their best.