I have received your letter and let me tell you that I understand your feelings.  It is true that time changes and people around us may change as well.

First of all, you should focus on positive things you have got and you should value above everything. You say that you are happily married with two children and you enjoy your job. Congratulations, this is a proof that you are not alone. You can spend more time with your best friends, your mate and your children. You should try to have more intimate conversations with your mate. Also, you should not wait your children grow older to have a close friendship with them. Now it is the time you can share more time with them.

On the other hand, if you want to have more friends who to share different moments to search an advice or something like that, you should not underestimate those people who can be your friends, that is your “acquaintances”, I mean the school mums. You should give them an opportunity to get to know them, they can be your support not only at school but in your personal life because you might share things in common.

Finally, if you have friends that at the moment are too far, you can take the lead and phone call them and not wait they call you instead.

So dear friend I hope you consider those advices and remember you are not alone.

I recommend the next:

1- Be realist, you can search the possibilities that you have with your teacher for a relationship. Clarify if you love her, if she your soulmate, and take this option as a point of reference. Remember that she is older than you are, because this is other important aspect and remember that nowadays the love is limited, it can finish soon.

2- Let's start saying her that she is a great person, and you can say all the good things that you think about her. Nobody gets upset because other people tell him or her good things about their work or about their personality. However, be careful, you don’t go to say that you love her. Try to stablish a friendship with her.

3- Be patient, the best friendships or relationships need a lot of time to be strong. If you have a relationship with her, you will probably you have experience with a good woman, but if you build a friendship, you will get her for a long time and more constant in your life. Many times is better a long friendship than a short time with a woman.

 4- Take risks, we need take risks to gain our goals. If you don’t talk with her and don’t tell your feelings you can't to know how she go to react, how she will feel, many times we lose very value opportunities by shy and don’t take risks.

 
I understand when you say that you have fear by your friends’ comments and you have prefer to keep silence, but in these situations you will know who are really your friend and support you in the bad times and in the good times.

I hope I have helped!

 

To improve the personal relationship with women you have to be a safe man. We could talk about different types of men according to how they approach a woman: there is the insurance, the shy, the friendly, the cheerful, the insecure, and the conceited. Since you are romantic you have a point in your favor and you could use it to approach women in a nice way you must take the initiative you must break the ice, propel the conversation, you do not need to get a super interesting topic, just something that coincidentally that both share and enjoy. So the movies and books you read have many romantic guidelines for a banal and superficial conversation is enough to start the first contact to have a friendly interaction and be successful to interact with women, after this put into practice you will have many friends.

1. You should listen your daughter and know the reason why she falls in love with this man.

2. You should know the boyfriend and know the intentions that he has with your daughter.

3. You could understand that the people for love don’t need the age.

4. You could talk about things with your future son-in-law face to face, and express your agreements and disagreements with respect to the relationship between your daughter and him.

Best wishes.
Agony Aunt