what i am? by kestine kinyua

Realness is a way of seeing things in real life and it can’t be sometime false about the things we see. The way the world is designed to see realistic things in your life and also gives evidence to things you don’t believe. The way people see the world is that everybody is created equal. As a young child we were told that we were or as a girl or a boy and we change that. In church, people believe that God has created us to be a girl, boy or both. But sometimes our gender change because of the nature and we don’t know why. Some say that our physical change because of alcohol and drugs are used during pregnancy. One of the example is from janet Mock saying that it was difficult to come out because of what she was learned during her childhood. Her mother showed them that girls need to be behaved and know how to be gentle. THen Her brother is being taught to be rough and how how to protect himself if there is any danger. The society likes to separate identity because they were born right or wrong. Identity comes from what gender you were born to, how the environment you grew up to, what people you hang out with and ect. People are scared to reveal their identity to anybody because they don’t like to be judge by others or to die because of their identity. Many people believe that they should be not in there opposite sex because they are making a big sin ( in some people’s mind) and some thing it’s just wrong. The society is not seeing that many people are being raised in different environment that can change their identity at a young age and nobody knows that. When a guy is raised in a all girls househood then his personality will behave like a girl because he has nobody then his father who not around that much. She his mother and siblings had to teach him to be a guy or he has to do it alone. Not many boys learn a good way to be a guy. Today there is many crimes is being commuted by young guys because he was not being told that some things are wrong and it can make your life hard. There is others are grew up in a right home but the people he hangs out are making bad influence or him. THis goes to girls too because nobody came to this world to be perfect in the rest of their life. THis show that society is not ready to face the reality of others people life even there own family member. Even law doesn’t protect this because because they think this is a disease that they don’t want to get near to go give the same rights with other people. Bell hooks gives a perfect example of how parents teach them about identity. THe mother have a girl and a boy that are only apart few years apart. The mother allows the boy to do anything rough but the girl can’t because the mother say so. When they got a little older the girl became rough with things and the boy likes to be gentle with things around each other. There behavior came from what they see outside of there home and see what other people are behaving. People like to have a hope form the society to accept them like there our. Many people are becoming invisible because the are feared to be killed or be like nobody likes to be around them anymore. This shows that people still have the mindset of how God what things to be perfect but that is not true. It’s very hard for people to live there countries because they know that something will happen to them and their family because of the way people like to do there own things. Some countries accept this kind of identity into the society but some will not accept it because they have a big religion they believe in. I think that identity comes from what you want to do with yourself. Sometimes it comes from how you grew up, how your parents taught you, and how your parents used to dress you. People don’t realize that the community can affect of a person identity and how they see the world. For example, in africa they don’t know what the gender is and they want to guess but after they baby is born. The gender the guess was wrong and they don’t want to buy new outfit. So they dress their children the clothes they bought upto they used up all the clothes they bought. This world don’t want to realize that they are making this identity from early childhood and they don’t remember what happened. Some just use their belief from what they have been told from everybody around them. When i came to America i learned that everybody is different in beliefs, came from different background and culture. So i started to learn about LGBTQ community and started to ask my parents about it. And they told me that this LGBTQ community is making a big sin from God because they are disobeying God and that is not how God created us. THen my parents told us if me and my little sister become one of them we will be killed and even our family because we made a big sin and the community will not accept us. Being LGBTQ is a big decision for someone because they know that nobody from the community, friends and family will accept you and also make you feel like a stranger to them. Also the law will be different for them because the president is very agaist the LGBTQ community and will do anything to get rid of them and not knowledge them from the world. THis is sad because they are trying to fit into the society but the society is not accept them. They think this is a bit crime to them so will do anything like put them in jail for life time or kill them in front of everybody else. Am seeing that nobody know how it started and how it became a big problem in some world. Some world accepted them to the society because God accepted people who had a big sin then lable yourself as a LGBTQ. The society need to look at the history and their beliefs one more time and think how did God only created two people in this world and give them to have a big family. Then how did this family grew after there is no man around. There are a lot of question that the church don’t know how to answer them or even the parents don’t know the answer. So we need to stop judge this LGBTQ people and accept them as one of us not a stranger. Or we make a law saying that people who are against them should make them experience the same treatment the get. This is making me mad that God created us to accept each other even we are different from them. We have a lot of beliefs but we share the same God. There is no different in a person who have different belief but the same thought of things. Many people are not ready to accept the society and how it may change their future or how will they meet there God. In America there is a lot of culture that can influence people and also change their belief too.