The Power of Our Words by Angelique Masellis

Angelique-Session 3

masellia — 2020-04-06 19:33:54 UTC

OUGHT TO- you ought to be in your seat.

SHOULD-you should be listening to the directions

APPRECIATE-I appreciate the time you spent unloading the dishwasher.

stop- stop horsing around and pay attention

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eye contact- give me eye contact when you are talking to me

respect- thank you for respecting his opinion

2020-04-08 13:31:51 UTC

Fix it and right away. I expect you to fix your behavior right away.
Love and respect. I love when you speak to your peers with respect.

Michelle Nelson -Session 3

2020-04-08 13:38:11 UTC

right way- you need to sit in your chair the right way or you are going to get hurt.

should- you should be on your best behavior during the assembly.

appreciate- I appreciate how you got started right away on your morning work, that's very expected.

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:45:25 UTC

right way - you need to do it the right way.
ought to - you ought to listen to the teacher...or you ought to get your work done before...

love - I love the story you wrote...or I love what a good listener you are.

VABBing

2020-04-08 13:49:02 UTC

should - you should have done it this way
fix it - that's not what you were suppose to do - lets fix it
love - I love that you tried so hard!

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:51:43 UTC

Should- You should be following the directions.
wrong- You are doing it wrong.
appreciate- I appreciate you doing your best work.

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:51:51 UTC

should - "You should line up when I blow the whistle."

fix it - when kinders write their letters wrong and I help them 'fix it'

can relate - During recess when a students friend won't play with them.
"I can relate to how you are feeling lonely."

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:53:37 UTC

Should- You should be looking over here.
fix it - come here you need to fix-it.
love- I love what you did with that.

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:53:47 UTC

You should raise your hand when you have a question.

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:54:15 UTC

Should- Should you be on that website?
fix it- That was not the directions, you need to fix it.
appreciate- I really appreciate how hard you worked this period.

Session Three

2020-04-08 13:55:56 UTC

Negative: You should be paying more attention to your teacher. You were mean to your friend, fix it now.
Positive: I can relate that you think he cheated at the game, but let's take a moment to calm down before we talk about it.

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:56:15 UTC

right way- if you were listening you would of done it the right way.
Your way- your way wasn’t the way it was supposed to be done.

Value- I value how you expressed yourself in our discussion.

2 deficit words 1 validation term

2020-04-08 13:57:13 UTC

Why do you think that choice was wrong?
I should give you another chance to explain.
Now I can relate to what you were trying to tall me.

Session 3

2020-04-08 13:57:40 UTC

Wrong - it was wrong to cut in front of the line.
Should - You should bring home your notes to study for tomorrow's test.
Moved - I was moved by your determination to get the job done.

WRONG - your spelling is wrong

2020-04-08 13:58:29 UTC

FIX IT - you need to fix your spelling
GRATEFUL - I am grateful for all your help

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:00:59 UTC

Wrong - Your answer is wrong, fix it.

Fix it - Your answer is wrong, fix it.

Can relate - I can related to your answer.

Session 3 Reflection

2020-04-08 14:03:36 UTC

Negative:
Should - You should be quiet and listening to the teacher right now.

Your Way/Fix It - Your way of doing that problem is incorrect. Let's fix it now.

Positive:
Love - I love how you heard what I asked you to do and responded.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:04:49 UTC

Should-You should be listening to the teacher talking.
Right way-You need to walk down the hall the right way.
Moved-I am moved by the way you tried to make her feel accepted into the classroom.

Session #3

2020-04-08 14:05:58 UTC

Should- You should be able to figure this out!
right way- I already showed you the right way to do that.
Inspire- You inspire your classmates to interact the same way when they see the positive effect your actions have on others.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:07:03 UTC

Should - You should be writing all this down.
Ought to - You ought to listen when the teacher is talking.
Appreciate - I appreciate how you are focusing and paying attention to the lesson.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:07:07 UTC

Correctly: You need to learn to spell your words correctly.
Your way: You need to do your work the way I taught you, not your way.
Inspired: I am so inspired by the story you wrote!

Should

2020-04-08 14:09:22 UTC

I use “should” all the time. For example, “why are you out in the hallway, you SHOULD be in your classroom “ Instead I will say, “hello, it is nice to see you today, I appreciate that you have a reason to be out here, I wonder what it is... (wait for response).

VABBing

2020-04-08 14:09:30 UTC

Deficit:
right way-sit in your chair the right way so you don't get hurt.
should-you should follow the directions.
Validating:
grateful-I'm grateful you all followed the class rules and behaved for the sub.

Session 3 VABB

2020-04-08 14:10:54 UTC

Should- We SHOULD be walking in the hallways.

Correctly- Eat your lunch CORRECTLY, please.

Appreciate- I APPRECIATE all your help!

Session 3 VABB

2020-04-08 14:11:34 UTC

should - let me show you how you *should* do that.
fix it - can you go back and *fix it* so it is correct?
love - I love how Jane is following directions and doing her work quietly.

Deficit: should- We should try to remember...

2020-04-08 14:11:47 UTC

right way- The right way to pronounce this...
Validating:
value- I value your input...

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:13:39 UTC

Should - You should have put your coat in your locker.
Correctly- please put the library books away correctly.

Appreciate- I really appreciate all of the hard work you’ve put into this.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:14:56 UTC

Should-You should be listening...
Wrong-#3 is wrong, please fix it.
Appreciate-I appreciate the way you always raise your hand instead of shouting out.

Session 3 Reflection:Could/can you...eg could/can you pick up your coat?

2020-04-08 14:17:06 UTC

Deficit:
Next time you should...Next time you should try opening the door by yourself
Validating:
Thank you for...Thank you for sitting with a quiet body

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:17:27 UTC

should: You should not run in the hallway. correctly: Sit in the desk correctly. connect: I can connect with your story.

VABBing

2020-04-08 14:17:33 UTC

Wrong & Fix it - I noticed that your answer was. I need you to go back and fix it.
Inspired - I can see how all of your classmates are inspired by all of the hard work you put into your project.

VABBing

2020-04-08 14:17:54 UTC

Should- You should put your stuff in your desk.
Fix it- You broke it, so now you've got to fix it.
Grateful- I am so grateful for your help!

Need to - you need to put that away

2020-04-08 14:17:56 UTC

supposed to - you're not doing what you're supposed to, you know better than that
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appreciate - I appreciate you listening and getting your work done

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:18:05 UTC

Should- You should be listening to the teacher.
ought to- You ought to be worried about yourself and not what everyone else is doing.
Appreciate- I appreciate you sitting so nicely and listening to the lesson

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:20:13 UTC

Should - you should do first that...
I think you are not true...
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Thank you for ... listening...help...
I appreciate...
I'm thankful for listening ...

VABBing

2020-04-08 14:21:52 UTC

Should - You should keep your hands to yourself

Fix - Look at the example, now let's fix your work.

Love - I love the way Patti is walking in a Green Line

Session 3:

2020-04-08 14:22:04 UTC

should- You should have placed the garbage bins facing the street.
fix it- You need to go and fix it so the garbage man doesn't have to get out for our garbage.
appreciate- I appreciate that you took the garbage out without being asked.

Session 3:

2020-04-08 14:24:53 UTC

Ought to- You ought to try listening instead of talking during my directions.
appreciate: I appreciate your taking the time to listen to my directions.

Not enough to speak validation. You must live and feel it. Being mindful of your words is a start. Compassion is needed to truly validate.

seymourd — 2020-04-08 14:25:23 UTC

VABBING

2020-04-08 14:25:42 UTC

Should - You should be done with your work.
Right way - why can’t you play on the equipment the right way.
Grateful - I am grateful for your cooperation

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:27:09 UTC

Wrong- you are doing it wrong
Your Way-Your way is not necessarily right
Moved- I am moved that you folded your clothes!!

VABBing

2020-04-08 14:27:42 UTC

Wrong & fix - I noticed a spelling error on your pa per( belelve should be believe)
I appreciate you when back and correct the mistake.

Don't words have different "powers" depending on context?

seymourd — 2020-04-08 14:29:35 UTC

session 3

2020-04-08 14:32:29 UTC

next time maybe next time think about others
wrong this is the wrong way to do this
appreciate I appreciate your help
I appreciate how you thought of your f

VABBing- a daily exercise in action modeling we are life long learners too. I wonder if the most powerful aspect of this technique is classrooms so safe that the students are using these very terms "deficit" & "Validating" in real time so we can constantly as a community stay on the front side of authentic inclusivity?? (Informal and genuine kindness in "word" & action).

2020-04-08 14:34:09 UTC

I overuse "ought" and "need"..... even "stop".
ex: "Stop rushing down the hall!." I will instead ask "(Student's name) Are you very excited to get to P.E.? This must be your favorite class.....
or " I love.." " You taught me a different perspective..." " Wow, I never considered that before....". great session:) _/\_

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:34:31 UTC

Right Way - You did not load the dishwasher the right way
Next Time - Next time load the dishwasher like this..
Appreciate - I appreciate you taking the time to load the dishwasher

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:34:50 UTC

Should-You should do it this way next time.
Ought to- You ought to listen to the teacher.

Appreciate- I appreciate you listening and doing your work.

VABBing

2020-04-08 14:34:52 UTC

Ought-You ought to know better.
Should-Should you be doing this now?
Empathize

Session 3

strenym — 2020-04-08 14:35:38 UTC

Your math problem is wrong please fix it.
This time I will help you with the problem.
I understand-I am so grateful that you understood the problem.

So are we just trying to find positive ways to correct behavior? Like instead of "No Running", we say "Walking"?

2020-04-08 14:36:51 UTC

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:38:52 UTC

Should-should you be doing that right now?
Wrong-this answer is wrong.

Appreciate-I appreciate how you are feeling right now.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:39:32 UTC

SHOULD- We should always walk in a quiet line to class. OUGHT TO- You ought to bring your homework to school. APPRECIATE-I appreciate you keeping your desk clean. It makes me happy.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:39:41 UTC

Should - You shuld be doing it this way.
Ought to - You ought to do it over again.
Appreciate/relate to -
I can relate to the way you were going about this problem and I appreciate all your hard work.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:39:56 UTC

1. You need to get to class RIGHT AWAY. 2. You SHOULD be quiet and in line. 1. I APPRECIATE you helping me carry the books.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:40:28 UTC

Right way - You need to sit in your seat the right way.
Correctly - Wear your seat belt correctly.
Appreciate - I appreciate you sitting on the bus correctly!

2020-04-08 14:41:17 UTC

This time- lets trying doing our best this time.
Another chance- I will give you another chance to make a better choice.
Love- I love how you and your sister played so nicely.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:41:28 UTC

Right way - Try to do things the right way
2. Should - You should have been done by now. 1. Can relate - I can relate to how you feel about this.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:41:49 UTC

Should - You should load the dishwasher the way I do.
Next time - Next time load the dishwasher like this..
Appreciate - I appreciate you taking the time to load the dishwasher

2020-04-08 14:43:24 UTC

Session 3
Ought to--You ought to pay attention to the directions
Should--You should be on time.
Appreciate--I appreciate how much your trying.

strenym — 2020-04-08 14:44:17 UTC

Your avatar Add comment more_vert Session 3 Session 3 1. You need to get to class RIGHT AWAY. 2. You SHOULD be quiet and in line. 1. I APPRECIATE you helping me carry the books. Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 SHOULD- We should always walk in a quiet line to class. OUGHT TO- You ought

strenym — 2020-04-08 14:44:26 UTC

Your avatar

strenym — 2020-04-08 14:45:21 UTC

Your avatar Your avatar Add comment Your avatar Add comment more_vert Session 3 Session 3 1. You need to get to class RIGHT AWAY. 2. You SHOULD be quiet and in line. 1. I APPRECIATE you helping me carry the books. Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 SHOULD- We should always walk in a quiet line to class. OUGHT TO- You ought Your avatar Add comment Session 3Ought t Session 3 Ought to--You ought to pay attention to the directions Should--You should be on t Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 Should - You should load the dishwasher the way I do. Next time - Next time load the dishwasher like this.. Appreciate - I appreciate you taking the time to load the dishwasher Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 Right way - Try to do things the right way 2. Should - You should have been done by now. 1. Can relate - I can relate to how you feel about this Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 Right way - Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 Should - You shuld be doing it this way. Ought to - You ought to do it over again. Appreciate/relate to - I can relate to the way you were going about this problem and I appreciate all your hard work. Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 1. You need to get to class RIGHT AWAY. 2. You SHOULD be quiet and in line. 1. I APPRECIATE you helping me carry the books. Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 SHOULD- We should always walk in a quiet line to class. OUGHT TO- You ought to bring your homework to school. APPRECIATE-I appreciate you keeping your desk clean. It makes me happy. Your avatar Add comment This time- lets tryi This time- lets trying doing our best this time. Another chance- I will give you another chance to make a better choice. Love- I love how you and your sister played so nicely. Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 Should-should you be doing that right now? Wrong-this answer is wrong. Appreciate-I appreciate how you are feeling right now. Your avatar Add comment So are we just trying to find positive ways to correct behavior? Like instead of "No Running", we say "Walking"? So are we just trying to find positive ways to correct behavior? Like instead of "No Running", we say "Walking"? Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Session 3 Should-You should do it this way next time. Ought to- You ought to listen to the teacher. Appreciate- I appreciate you listening and doing your work. Your avatar Add comment VABBing VABBing Ought-You ought to know better. Should-Should you be doing this now? Empathize Your avatar Add comment Session 3 Your math problem is wrong please fix it. This time I will help you with the problem. I understand-I am so grateful that you understood the problem.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:46:46 UTC

1. Should - You should make the car go on the road.
2. Fix it (& should!) - That tower of blocks is going to fall over. You should fix it.
Love - I love that you shared the food you made with me (in the classroom kitchen area).

strenym — 2020-04-08 14:46:46 UTC

with the problem. I understand-I am so grateful

should- you should do it this way

2020-04-08 14:46:55 UTC

need to- you need to be quiet
appreciate- say it and mean it

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:48:39 UTC

You SHOULD be sleeping during nap time.
You HAVE TO walk in line.
I APPRECIATE your help passing out the homework.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:48:42 UTC

Should - You should sit down.

Wrong - What is wrong with you?

Appreciate - I appreciate if you would sit down..

Have to-- You have to sit in the lunch room, you have to walk in a line

2020-04-08 14:48:42 UTC

Should- you should be reading now
I appreicate -- I appreciate that you are really trying to sit quietly and do your work

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:49:00 UTC

Isn't VABB (words) the same as PBIS(actions) PSIS focuses and identifies positive behaviors. VABB focuses on validating words and refrains from deficit words.
right way - Please walk down the hall the right way.
should be - You should be at your desk reading.
relate to - I can relate to your frustration with this math problem,

2020-04-08 14:49:01 UTC

Fix it - Let's work on fixing these mistakes
Right way - go back and show me how you walk down the hallway the right way

Appreciate - I appreciate your excitement, I appreciate how you care for your friends

schneidt1 — 2020-04-08 14:49:50 UTC

Our diction should also reflect the situation. If circumstances warrant, we must not "sugar coat" or debase our response if it requires fixing, or changes next time.
A term I love but does not always connect well with younger children is relate. Their cognition and experience is not typically developed to a point where they can evaluate and appreciate multiple viewpoints. It's really important, though, to keep their perceptions moving forward.

VABBing

2020-04-08 14:50:24 UTC

Right Way - That is not the right way to behave in the hallway.
Should - You should have your eyes on the teacher when she is speaking.
Appreciate - I really appreciate you helping your classmate.

You should have done it the right way the first time I asked.

2020-04-08 14:52:13 UTC

I am grateful that you took your time, the assignment looks great!

Amy- Session 3

2020-04-08 14:52:53 UTC

Should- You should be working quitely
Fix it- I use this in a sort of teasing way at recess when kids have social problems; explaining why someone might be upset, listening to what kids might do to make it better, then telling them to FIX IT.

Respect- I know that was hard for you. I have a lot of respect for the way you handled it.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:53:45 UTC

Should You should fold the towels this way.
You should go to bed it is very late
I appreciate your help with the word document.
I am very grateful you helped me wash and wax the car.

session 3

2020-04-08 14:53:50 UTC

should.....
you should be working on your assignment.
to be responsible....
you need to be more responsible towards your work.
I appreciate.....
I appreciate the way you were listening to the instructions

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:55:48 UTC

Can you - can you follow along.
No (this is a word I really use :) ) No
Thank you - thank you for that awesome input and helping me understand.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:56:06 UTC

I SHOULD learn to manage my time better.
You HAVE TO walk quietly in line.
I APPRECIATE your willingness to help with this task.

Fix it - if the belt is not on you lap, fix it.

2020-04-08 14:56:57 UTC

Wrong- Thats the wrong way to do it.
Grateful- Im grateful that you helped out today. also thankful is a good word.

Session three

2020-04-08 14:57:51 UTC

Should: You should be walking in the halls.
Right away: Put the phone away right away!
Appreciate: I would appreciate it if you walk in the halls.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:58:25 UTC

You SHOULD go over and apologize.
You OUGHT TO know that this is against the rules.
I am GRATEFUL for all the help you are providing.

Session 3

2020-04-08 14:59:28 UTC

Should - You should be taking out your folder
Ought to - You ought to be listening to the teacher
Appreciate - I would appreciate it if you would do as the teacher has asked you to do.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:02:18 UTC

Should- You should be following along.
Wrong- That is the wrong way to do that problem.
Love- I love how hard you are trying!

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:06:07 UTC

Need (should) You need to get your work done.
Next time you need to follow the directions (do it the right way).
Appreciate-I appreciate all of the work you’ve put into this assignment.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:07:27 UTC

fix it- The Teachers are giving you the correct way to do it, fix it for a better grade.

wrong- you are sometimes wrong, which isn't a bad thing, its a learning experience.

Grateful- i am grateful to have you in my life and able to spend this time with you.

#3

Cubbiefan — 2020-04-08 15:08:15 UTC

correctly-You should be paying attention so that you can do the assignment correctly.
fix it- I will help you fix the grammar and spelling, but first get the words written.
inspired- I am truly inspired by what you've done.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:08:28 UTC

right way- Please walk down the hall the right way.
should be - You should be at your desk reading.
relate to - I can relate to your frustration with this math problem.
Isn't VABB (words) and PBIS (actions) similar. PBIS recognizes positive behaviors.
VABB responds with validating words.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:09:06 UTC

the only way- This is the only way we can get there.
fix it- We can fix it together.
Appreciate - I appreciate your patience.

Power of our words

2020-04-08 15:10:26 UTC

Should-we should wash our hands.
Wrong-Right or wrong the decision has been made.
Grateful-I'm very grateful for everything you've done.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:11:53 UTC

should- You should all be in your seats.
right way- I wish you would all stand in line the right way.

love- I love the way everyone is taking their seats.
appreciate- I appreciate how nicely you are standing in line.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:12:21 UTC

Wrong - that is the wrong answer
Should- you should have done that already

Appreciate - I appreciate all of your hard work and effort you put into this assignment!

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:12:24 UTC

Stop - Stop making these noises.
Wrong - This part is done wrong.
Inspired - I get inspired by your work in Art class.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:14:18 UTC

You are holding your pencil wrong.
You ought to be working instead of looking around the room.
I appreciate how hard you are working!

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:14:56 UTC

Wrong - commonly heard in today's environment "that is so wrong"
Should - You should be sure to get your rest!
Respect - often used to finish emails, the word "Respectfully"

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:15:23 UTC

Correctly- can you sit correctly in your chair?
The right way- can we practice lining up the right way?
Respect- I respect your thinking in the way you completed this assignment.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:15:27 UTC

Should - You should have gotten your work done.
Ought to - You ought to throw your garbage out.
Appreciate - I appreciate your effort in completing your assignment

2020-04-08 15:15:55 UTC

Should/need: You need to finish before you can...
Fix it/Correct it: Correct the problems to show you understand this.
Can relate: I don’t share enough of my life or thoughts.

session 3

2020-04-08 15:16:28 UTC

Right way--Sit on your chair the right way
Should- You should be doing your work and not talking.
Grateful- I am very grateful for all your help in the kitchen.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:16:35 UTC

2020-04-08 15:17:39 UTC

You ought to listen to your teacher.
Listen to the teacher right away.
I love how you are listing to the mom/teacher.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:17:48 UTC

Let's see if your way works out correctly.
You ought to be a little more kind.
I can relate to you finding this difficult!

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:19:13 UTC

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:19:44 UTC

Fix it - Take a thoughtful time to fix it, it means do not rush.
Right way - To practice over something like, go over math problems, or do over finger exercises on a music instrument is a right way to do it.
Love - It is important to determine the term love in a broader context in our lives.

right way- please do your homework the right way

2020-04-08 15:19:54 UTC

should- you should be doing the the extra work your teacher assigned you after your virtual learning lesson.
Appreciate- I appreciate ou doing your best and working hard

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:20:23 UTC

Value-based terms:
-Come on, you can do this. It is so EASY!
- Tomorrow's test will be HARD.

I really VALUE your opinion and LOVED the way you thought about your answer before speaking.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:21:45 UTC

right way - Please walk down the hall the right way.
should be - You should be at your desk reading.
relate to - I can relate to your frustration with this math problem.

Correctly- can you write your words correctly?

2020-04-08 15:21:59 UTC

Wrong- your answer is wrong.
Inspired- I always get inspired by a good piece of writing.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:22:28 UTC

should
correctly

appreciate

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:23:01 UTC

should - you should know by now you can only check out 3 books at a time
ought - you ought to be working independently right now
relate to - I can relate to your frustration that we have indoor recess today

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:25:41 UTC

wrong - you are doing it wrong, you need to listen and do it correctly.
fix it - you need to fix it right now!
grateful - I am grateful for you listen and have respect for me and everyone around you.

2020-04-08 15:26:07 UTC

Session 3
Last Chance - Please bring your homework tomorrow.

Fix it - You know better than to start with a lower case.

Appreciate - I appreciate how hard you worked today.

I often say "sit smart" which infers that they are not...

2020-04-08 15:28:42 UTC

Never thought about it this way before.
Also use "you can do this...it's easy. Meant to be an encouragement, but again if student is struggling sounds very demeaning.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:29:03 UTC

Should - Perhaps you should set an alarm rather than relying on mom, so you don't miss your bus.

Ought to - (To my college children at home) Just a suggestion, but perhaps you ought to study for that online test/quiz you have tomorrow.

Love - I love how hard you're working during this strange time.

session 3

2020-04-08 15:30:48 UTC

wrong,should
You are doing that wrong.
You should be listening.
I appreciate you trying harder to follow the rules.

Right way - I didn't do it the right way. (I'm usually hard on myself.)

2020-04-08 15:31:23 UTC

Respect - I respect you. I would appreciate your respect too.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:33:10 UTC

Should - You should be quiet when teacher taking.
Understand - If you don't understand, please raise your hand.
Grateful - I am grateful that all your help.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:34:28 UTC

should-you should know how to walk in the hallway by now.
right way- show me the right way to sit at your desk.
appreciate- I appreciate how hard you are working

Wrong...please do it this way....

2020-04-08 15:34:35 UTC

Fix it...this is how it should look...

Inspired... that just empowers me...

Session 3 - VABB

2020-04-08 15:34:58 UTC

Should - You should know how to stand in line by the time you’re in sixth grade.
Fix it - You are missing a capital letter. Can you please fix it?

Love - I love how you sounded out each part of that word!

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:35:59 UTC

should
You should be reading instead of playing video games.
allow
I will allow you to play your video games after you finish your homework.
appreciate
I really appreciated that you were very responsible on finishing your homework without being told.

ought to-you ought to do it this way.

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wrong-that is the wrong way to follow directions
understand-I understand it is
difficult.Let's try a way you can understand

Session 3

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Should-What should you be doing now?
Wrong-I see that this answer is wrong?
Appreciate-I really appreciate that everyone is sitting quietly.

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Should - You should be busy working at your desk.
Ought to - You ought to know how to solve this problem.
Grateful - I am grateful for your help cleaning the bathroom.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:40:50 UTC

"You should have you work done already."

"I appreciate your effort to get your work done."

"I am grateful for your hard work."

Session3

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Wrong - You spelled that word wrong, you better change it.

Fix it - I would fix it if I were you, then you'll get it right.

Love - I love how you tried your best at that assignment!

Session 3

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right way--You need to get this work done the right way like the teacher showed you.

should--You should be a better example for the younger kids.

inspired--I am inspired by the way you follow your heart.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:47:34 UTC

Should-You should be participating in your in your classroom chat.
Right Way-there is no right way to do this.
Appreciate-I appreciate you and the work you're doing.

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Wrong
Fix it - This problem is wrong fix it.
I can relate - I can relate to how you are feeling right now.This is what I learned from my experience.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:52:22 UTC

Please walk the RIGHT WAY in the hallway.
You SHOULD be listening to the teacher.
I LOVE that you made dinner tonight!

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:53:07 UTC

Should - You should be waiting your turn. Love - I love the way you're waiting patiently.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:53:57 UTC

should - Where should your eyes be?
right way - Is that the right way to sit in your seat?
love - I love how you went back and reread that sentence when it did not make sense.

2020-04-08 15:54:13 UTC

Should- when teacher is talking you should be listening quietly.

wrong: it's wrong to assume abbreviations are easily understood by all;

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for example CLR

Thankful: I am thankful when words are spelled out and not abbreviated. I feel it shows respect for the learner.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:59:11 UTC

should - You should be following the line.
wrong,fix it - These answers are wrong,fix it.
I appreciate you telling me how you feel about your mom being sick. Let's talk about how we can help you feel better, while she is recovering.

Session 3

2020-04-08 15:59:33 UTC

Should you be talking right now?
Should you be playing video games right now?
Do you understand the math assignment?
Do you understand why you cannot run in the cafeteria?
I appreciate you helping
him with this math problem.
I appreciate the fact that you have been sick.

Deficit vs. Validating Terms

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(Examples are mostly from home as we don't use most of these words with our preschoolers who are in sped.)
Right way/Correctly - Telling my husband to please do something correctly or the right way; this usually means "do this my way!"
Grateful - I choose to start using this word more.
Love/thumbs up (to my students) - I love how you're listening to the story right now!
Thumbs up for being ready!

Love- I love how you respect others.

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Session 3

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should - You should know what to do by now
the only way - Your way is not the only way!
appreciate - I appreciate all of your hardwork!

2020-04-08 16:08:30 UTC

Session 3

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Should - Your eyes should be on the teacher.
Should be - You should be listening and not talking.
Love - I love how you used your book and looked back in the chapter for your answer.

Fix- you worked hard to fix your mistakes.

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Session 3

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Should- You should be doing your homework.
Ought to - You ought to clean your room.
Value- I value the time I get to spend with my family during this difficult time in society.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:11:36 UTC

SHOULD: You should always listen to what others have to say even if you may not completely agree with them all the time.

THE ONLY WAY: The only way to attain success is through hard work.

RESPECT: Show respect to all. If you show respect to kids they will respect you. They learn by seeing.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:16:10 UTC

Should, should, should...it is so easy to rely on "shoulds" to respond to a correction. As an addendum, I would say I often follow up with "the right way..."
I think I'm pretty good with the Neutral List, but the Validating Terms feel a little unnatural and will take some time to evolve naturally. Most easy to assimilate would be "appreciate" and "I can relate." (I think I do use those already.) So I will add to the list, "Respect" as a term to incorporate.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:22:09 UTC

The right way to do this is...
I can understand how you feel.
I appreciate your honesty.

Session 3

antona2 — 2020-04-08 16:22:23 UTC

"should"- You should be reading instead of talking!
"understand"-I understand your enthusiasm, but please move on to get to class.
"appreciate"- I appreciate your patience with me, and your cooperation!

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I understand what your saying.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:23:11 UTC

Should- you should know better!
Correctly- if you were listening, you would have done it correctly.
Grateful - I am so grateful you came to class with your homework finished!

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Correctly:You should be sitting correctly.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:25:45 UTC

Should, should - you should be listening to my instructions!

Correctly - you should be at your desk, sitting correctly before the bell rings.

Grateful - I am grateful you helped me prepare dinner.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:27:13 UTC

I respect your ideas,thanks for sharing them. That is wrong you should have done it this way. You should know what to do by now

Should - you should be reading every night

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Ought To - You ought to be practicing your math facts regularly
Can Relate To - I can relate to being too tired, having too many other commitments to....

Should: What should you be doing?

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Ought to: You ought to know better.
Appreciate: I appreciate your kindness.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:30:46 UTC

You might want to fix it before you turn that in.
You should pay attention when directions are given.
I appreciate the time you spent on your work

should-you should be listening right now

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fix it- can you fix the mistake?

appreciate-I appreciate when you try your best

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:36:25 UTC

Fix it- That work is messy. Please fix it
Correctly- That page needs to be done correctly.
Value- I empathize that this work is tricky for you.

Session #3

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should-You should come to school ready to work, Chromebook charged!
fix it-If you fix it your corrections will help your grade.
appreciate-I appreciate how hard you are trying.

Session 3

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Wrong- It's wrong to be standing.
Correctly- If you had been walking correctly you wouldn't have fallen down.
Appreciate- I am very impressed that you put on your own seat belt. I appreciate your helping me and thinking about staying safe.

Session 3

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Deficit:
Is that our way of doing things?
Is that how it's ought to be done?
Validating:
I appreciate how you chose to deal with this situation.

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Should - telling someone how to do something your way, not their way.

Correctly- giving someone the impression that their us only one way to do something

Grateful - show appreciation for someone's actions

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:44:38 UTC

Should - You should be listening so you know what to do.

Right way - Please sit in your chair the right way.

Appreciate - I appreciate you trying your best.

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Should – You should be working on your work.

Right way – You need to sit the right way.

Love – I love how much detail you put into your art project.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:48:31 UTC

Should-You should be listening to the speaker now.
Right way - Please sit the right way.
Respect-I respect that you enjoy talking with your friend; let's connect with what the teacher is saying.

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Understand - I understand what you are saying.
Love - I love the differences we have.
Respect - You've been very respectful by listening so well.

Session3

2020-04-08 16:52:07 UTC

Deficit:
should- it should take x amount of time
why don't you- giving preference of a certain way to do something
Validate:
can relate- understanding and compassion to different situations
grateful!!!

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:53:56 UTC

Deficit:
You need to stop talking.
You should pay attention.
Validating:
I am inspired by the kind words you say to others.

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Should -telling someone how to do something.

I respect that you are looking at this in a different way.

Session 3

2020-04-08 16:57:08 UTC

ought to: You ought to be doing...
right way: We should be doing this the right way
connect: I love the connection you made!

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Should - You should be following directions.

You ought to listen to the directions.

I understand that this is very challenging. Let's work on this together.

Session 3

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should- You should behave better.
wrong - It's wrong to pull your friend's hair.
appreciate - I appreciate your effort to clean the classroom.

Session 3

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Should you be doing that?

Is that the right way to put that away?

I love how hard you are working.

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2020-04-08 17:04:23 UTC

Correctly - Your work needs to be done correctly.

Wrong - You work has been done wrong.

Appreciate - I appreciate you taking the time to get to know our new classmate.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:05:12 UTC

Deficit:
wrong - Your answer to that problem is wrong.
right way - You need to sit at your desk the right way.
Validate:
Appreciate - I appreciate how hard you were working today.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:06:51 UTC

should - You should know better by now.

Ought to - You ought to be getting your work done

Love - I love the way you are kind to your friends

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Correctly: You need to rewrite that correctly.

Right Way: The right way to begin that math problem is to.....

Appreciate: I appreciate your efforts in trying to work independently.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:14:19 UTC

Deficit:
ought to - You ought to be practicing at home.
should - What should you be doing right now?
Validate:
Love - I love your enthusiasm!

Should-you should do it this way.

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Fix it-fix what yu did and do it this way.

Can relate-I can relate because I think this is a tough problem, too.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:17:40 UTC

Should - Should you be playing right now?

Fix it - Lets fix it.

Awesome - Awesome!!! I love the way you got in line with your friends.

This need to be done right now.

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You need to fix it!
I love you being such a good friend!

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:23:39 UTC

Deficit:
Correctly- This test was not done correctly.
Should- Should you be watching that on your Chromebook now?

Validating:- I like how you connected these 2 thoughts together.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:24:56 UTC

Should - You should be listening and not talk to your friend.

Fix - You really worked hard to fix your mistake.

Love - I love how you are playing so nice with your friends.

Padlet question

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Is there a way to freeze the screen or have new comments not move the other boxes. I'm trying to read and often the box I'm reading jumps to the other side.

should-you should be following directions.

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correctly- do you think you did this correctly?

connect-I love how you connected all the ideas!

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:28:46 UTC

right way - let's try this the right way

should - you should be cleaning up

love - I love the way you are doing your work

You need to fix it!

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Do your work right now!
I love the way you are helping your friends!

Right way- sit down and follow directions

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Mistake- turning around and talking to friends
Fix it- turn the right way and engage with the teacher.
Bridge- I appreciate you trying your hardest.

Should - You should be listening right now

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Fix - You need to fix your behavior right now

Appreciate - I appreciate how hard that was for you

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:33:02 UTC

Fix it-Please reread your essay and fix it.
Our way-Our way is to report not fight!
Grateful-Let's write about what you are grateful for.

You should be listening right now because I'm going to ask you to state what I have just said.

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You ought to be sitting in your seat or you are going to fall.
I sincerely value your opinion as do your clasmates.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:34:30 UTC

2020-04-08 17:35:35 UTC

"You should not be doing that," "Number 3 is wrong," "Can you fix this sentence?" These are phrases I use often with my students when I should be using more validating terms like "I appreciate the effort you put into this problem" or "Thank you for making a safe choice". Being aware of my words can make a difference in the rapport I have with a student.

Session 3 question

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Should- You should be finishing that assignment.
Fix- Could you please fix this math problem?
Value- I really value your kindness toward others.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:50:19 UTC

Should- You should be sitting in your seat right now.
right way- Could you please hand me that paper the right way?
love- I love how you were sharing those toys with your friends.

Session 3

2020-04-08 17:51:51 UTC

should - You should be reading independently right now.
wrong - Number 3 is wrong, try again.
connect - Try to connect what you read with something that happened yesterday.

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Session 3
Respect each other and working hard with practice is the only way and right way to achieve the success.

Session 3

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right way - The right way to do this, is the way I told you already

fix it - I need you to fix it right now.

appreciate - I just wanted to tell you that I really appreciate the way you were listening to me as I read from our book.

right way- Can you sit the right way in your chair?

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should- you should be listening to the instructions.
love- I love the way you are reading on your own.

2020-04-08 18:05:53 UTC

Session 3
The only way is repect.
There is always another chance to start.
Always connect with love.

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:09:08 UTC

should- You should always obey the speed limit.

can't- You can't expect results if you make no effort.

excellent- You did an excellent job cleaning your room.

should-Should you be doing that right now?

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right way- That's not the right way to do that.

appreciate- I appreciate your help.

should- You should be staying in your house.

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the only way - The only way you are going to pass the test is by listening to your teacher.
Love- I love that you have your book open and you are ready to learn.

Session3

2020-04-08 18:14:21 UTC

Should-
You should finish your homework before you watch TV.

OUGHT TO-
You ought to know what chores need to be completed.

Grateful-
I’m grateful that you brought the laundry upstairs.

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:16:36 UTC

Should - Your eyes whould be on the teacher.
Right Way - Is that the right way to walk in the hallway?
Respect - Thank you for showing respect by listening.

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:16:45 UTC

Deficit words I use:
Should- as in 'You should be paying attention or listening, or working, etc, right now'
Next Time- as in 'Perhaps next time you will make a different choice'

Validating Term I look forward to using:
Respect- as in 'that was very respectful of you, I appreciated that'

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:18:14 UTC

Deficit word
should: You should not be talking but listening
corr3ect: The correct way to load the dishwasher is plates go this way
Appreciate: I appreciate you always take the dogs for a walk each day

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trying not to use should or right away

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trying to use apreciate or love that you finished your school work at this time

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:23:21 UTC

Should- you have the time, you should get that done.
Ought to- you ought to fold your clothes before they wrinkle
Love- I love the video that you posted

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:24:11 UTC

Deficit word
Fix it- Can you fix the copy machine.
Wrong- You are wrong, you are saying it wrong.
Validating term
Appreciate- I will appreciate to you, for your beautiful help.

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:29:20 UTC

Should - You should have followed the directions.

Right way - There is a right way to do that.

Appreciate - I really appreciate your help today.

2020-04-08 18:34:44 UTC

Session 3 You need to line up correctly before we can leave.

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:37:30 UTC

Should - You should be doing your homework right now.

Fix it - You did not make your bed right, fix it!

Appreciate - I appreciate you doing your chores without being reminded.

Session 3

2020-04-08 18:50:16 UTC

should- you should clean your room.

right away- do your homework right away.

I appreciate you helping your brother with his homework.

ought to - you ought to be eating when your actually hungry.

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right way - Hold the pencil the right way.

love - I love how you stayed focused and on task. You did this all on your own.

session 3

2020-04-08 18:51:59 UTC

Deficit:
Should
Ought to
Validating:
Appreciate

SESSION 3

2020-04-08 18:56:14 UTC

Right way: This the right way to follow direction in school.
Should: You should do your home work every night.
Respect: You should respect your parents, teachers and friends.

Alma-Session 3

2020-04-08 19:00:26 UTC

Should- You should stop playing when your friends say stop.
Respect-They will respect you when you respect them.
Appreciate-I appreciate the way you listen when i re-direct you.
Love-I love it when you hug me because i feel loved.

Session 3

2020-04-08 19:02:16 UTC

You should call your Mom.
Fix it
I appreciate it that you washed the dishes.

Session 3

2020-04-08 19:02:21 UTC

Right away/should - This part of the assignment should be done right away.

Should - You should do it one step at a time.

Value - I value the effort you put into keeping your sentences organized.

Saimma -Session 3

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Fix it- Can you fix it for me please?
Correctly- Can you show me how to do this correctly?
Respect- WE should respect each other all the time.

Should- "Should you be doing that right now?"

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Next time- "Try to think before you act next time."

Value- "Even though we don't agree on this, I value your opinion."

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You should=I would like you to
That is wrong=let's try that again

Session 3

2020-04-08 19:20:23 UTC

in English/Spanish

No- No talking when the teacher or when an adult is talking

Need/necessity que- I need you to do your work/job or I need you to listen

I like/me encanta -I like that/I like how so and so is raising their hand/waiting their turn...

Need - I need you to sit in your chair. It's circle time. You need to stand on a circle before we can go outside.

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Deficit: Should

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fix it
right way
Validate: appreciate
can relate to
grateful

Deficit: should, correctly

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Validating: appreciate

Fix your legs. (common refrain regarding W-sitting)

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Saimma Session 3

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Fix it: Can you fix it for me please?
Correctly: Can you show me how to do this correctly?
Respect: We should respect each other all the time.

Session 3

2020-04-08 19:29:46 UTC

Deficit:
Should - You should know what should be doing at this time.
Ought - Do what you ought to be doing.
Validating:
Can Relate - I can relate with your reluctance to...

Validate:

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Love - I love the way you're ...

DEFICIT :

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Right Way : If someone did wrong, their is always a right way to convey them.
Wrong : Every human commit a mistake, but the right person are those who can fix it.

VALIDATING :

Appreciate : I appreciate all the heroes who are risking their life for the citizens during COVID19

2 Deficits & 1 validate

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2 DEFICITS:
* You need to: you need to look at the board, you need to listen..etc
* Stop: Stop talking and finish your work.
1Validate:
* Together: lets look at the problem together and think how to solve it.

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Deficit: Maybe you should.....
Our way is not to bully
Our way is to be inclusive (everyone can participate...)
Validate: We value your contribution, we value you being a part of...

SESSION 3

2020-04-08 19:52:56 UTC

I'm grateful for the way you always work hard.
Next time I will try to do better.

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Deficit: should , I should do that.
Fix it - sounds more like a command and less like a helpful term.
validating term: grateful, I am grateful for when you make dinner.

2 deficits:

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SHOULD: You should have done that.
RIGHT WAY: Don't know know this is the right way?

1 validate:
GRATEFUL: I'm so grateful for your help.

Deficits: You know better

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Validate: I know you have the potential to do much better.

The power of Positivity

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Fix it:
Could you please fix that?

Next time:
Next time, why don't you just ask for some help.

Empathize:
I'm so sorry, I can empathize with you.

2 Deficits:

wulffm1 — 2020-04-08 20:24:02 UTC

Should: You should stay in your seat.

Correctly: Let me show you how to correctly buckle your seat belt.

1 Validating:

Value: I value your opinion.

Session 3:

cavillk — 2020-04-08 20:24:55 UTC

I use "wrong" and "fix it" regularly and I see now how negative they sound in context. I will use "appreciate" a lot more, especially because it connects to gratefulness, which is really important for connection and mental health. - Kim Cavill

Session 3

2020-04-08 20:25:02 UTC

should: I should not touch my face.
fix: Can I fix that for you?
respect: I respect your need for privacy.

Session 3

anonymous6619 — 2020-04-08 20:29:33 UTC

wrong: this answer is wrong.
understand: if you do not understand the problem, you can always ask for help.
love: then you would love to see an "A" as your grade.

should: You should go to sleep earlier.

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wrong: It's wrong to be mean.

love: I love that you are such a good friend to Amy.

2020-04-08 20:37:28 UTC

I constantly tell my son how he put his toys away "wrong" and how he needs to do it the "right way"
I think I need to remind him more of how I would "love" to see him get all his toys in the box this time and see if it makes a difference.

session 3

2020-04-08 20:43:47 UTC

wrong: that is the wrong way to do that math problem
should: you should stay in line

inspired: I am inspired by your creativity

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Next time and Should: Next time you should or shouldn't do this or that.

Grateful: I am grateful for you. I am grateful for what you do.

Session3

2020-04-08 20:51:51 UTC

Should- you should following the Direction.

Fix it- Can you check the spelling and fix it?

Love- I love your work!

Session 3

olearym1 — 2020-04-08 21:12:36 UTC

fix it: Let's fix it so that it sounds right.
should: Everyone should be taking advantage of this time to re-connect with their loved ones.
value: Parents need to value their kids so that they grow up feeling appreciated.

Session 3

2020-04-08 21:28:34 UTC

Fix it: Fix this and give it back to me to earn points back.

Should: You should read the chapter before trying to answer the questions.

Appreciate: I appreciate all of your contributions to the class.

Session 3

2020-04-08 21:31:47 UTC

Correctly: you aren't doing it correctly.
Wrong: you're doing that wrong.
Appreciate: I appreciate how hard you're working on your project.

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Should: You should know this.
Fix it: You need to fix this.

Value: I value what you have to say.

Session 3

2020-04-08 21:53:23 UTC

should/need to -You need to stop talking and listen.
wrong - You are doing that the wrong way.

I appreciate the way you are raising your hand.

Should: You should know this.

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Fix it: You must fix it.

Value: I value what you have to say.

session 3

2020-04-08 22:14:39 UTC

SHOULD-you should be putting away your pencil box

LOVE-I love the way johnny is putting away his supply box

LA

Session 3-

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Should-you should do it this way
Ought to-you ought to think about....

Grateful-that you are working so hard

Session

2020-04-08 22:17:34 UTC

ought to- you ought to chew with your mouth closed

should- you should eat your sandwich before your cookies

appreciate- I'd appreciate it if you would share your cookies with me.

RIGHT WAY- are you doing your work the right way?

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APPRECIATE-I appreciate the way johnny is doing his work.

LA

Should - You should read read it first before you turn it in.

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Correct- that is not the correct way to sit.

Respect- I really respect the fact that you are fluent in two languages.

SESSION 3

2020-04-08 22:48:24 UTC

WRONG- Sorry you have a wrong answer.

should:You should be doing your work.

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ought to:You ought to be remain quiet unless it is your turn.

love:I always love to see your confidence while giving speeches in front of the audience!

session3

2020-04-08 23:01:23 UTC

HONOR- i feel honored that you have shared you have personal opinion with me .

SHOULD - it should be ready fast.

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Fix it - we need to fix it as soon as possible.

Respect - we need to respect our society and our culture.

Keep your eyes focused on the speaker

2020-04-08 23:12:54 UTC

should listen to your classmates
Respect each student in your class

session 3

2020-04-08 23:20:39 UTC

right way- I like that you are walking the right way in the hallway.

2020-04-08 23:31:13 UTC

SHOULD-You should be reading and doing your work
CORRECTLY-Do you work correctly
GRATEFUL :)

"Have to"

2020-04-08 23:42:25 UTC

This phrase was not on the deficit list but it is one that most people never learn. There are times and situations in life where we have to learn the meaning of "have to"

should: What should you be doing now?

2020-04-08 23:48:33 UTC

correctly: Always try to spell the word correctly.

respect: This classroom is based on respect.

2020-04-09 00:18:58 UTC

Should: You should be sitting quietly waiting for directions.

Wrong: That is the wrong answer try again.

Appreciate:
I appreciate how everyone is sitting nice and quiet waiting for directions.

SESSION 3

2020-04-09 00:31:31 UTC

Correctly-Make sue you follow the directions correctly.

Right way-Is that the right way to treat your friend?

Grateful-I'm so grateful for the people that help me.

Session 3

2020-04-09 00:40:33 UTC

Should: You should be kind to others.

Wrong: You were wrong to accuse her without proof.

Appreciate: I appreciate you helping me today.

2020-04-09 00:45:23 UTC

Should & correctly - You should behave correctly in the classroom.

Your way - You can't always have your way in school.

Can relate - I can relate to how you feel sitting in a classroom for so long.

Session 3

2020-04-09 00:52:32 UTC

Should - You should stay in your seat.

wrong/correctly - This is wrong. Please do your work correctly.

Appreciate - I appreciate your help. It help me tremendously!

Session 3

2020-04-09 01:30:13 UTC

Wrong - STOP making noise and banging on your desk!

Better way- Lets try a fidget right now. How can I help you?
Do you need a Zones Check in?

Appreciate - Thank you for using your words.

please be safe.

2020-04-09 01:51:19 UTC

2020-04-09 02:31:20 UTC

I understand you did it correctly and I appreciate that !

Should- You should sign out

2020-04-09 02:45:27 UTC

wrong- it is wrong to copy answers!

Session 3

2020-04-09 02:49:47 UTC

Should- you should do your bed right after you wake up

wrong- it is wrong to lie to your parents

Appreciate- I appreciate the hard work you have been doing around the house and appreciate spending the time with my family.

2020-04-09 02:55:19 UTC

You weren’t listening well...
Please do the assignment Correctly

Instead say...I love how you did this..

Session

2020-04-09 03:04:35 UTC

You need to stop

Please stop talking you need to listen

I really appreciated it when you did...or said...

Session 3

2020-04-09 03:35:22 UTC

1. You need to...
2. This is the right way to do...

Instead use: relate to or appreciate

Session 3

2020-04-09 17:55:26 UTC

Should you be hanging in the coatroom?
The way we learned is this way...
I love how you heard the instructions and got right to work!

Session 3

2020-04-09 19:02:01 UTC

Understand- Do you understand the directions that are on the board.

Appreciate- I appreciate all the hard work you do in school.

Correctly- I need you to sit down and correctly look at your word problems.

Session 3

2020-04-09 20:03:43 UTC

Deficit words - Fix it... "You're not making a good choice right now, you need to fix it." Should... "You should have done your work when I asked you to."
Validating- Appreciate " I appreciate that you are telling me how you feel"

Validating

2020-04-09 20:30:42 UTC

I appreciate you helping your partner with the project.

session 3

2020-04-09 22:01:53 UTC

do you understand its not safe to walk with your shoe laces untied . i appreciate that you stopped and tied your shoes.

2020-04-10 01:27:13 UTC

right way- Please do it again the right way.
should-should you be doing that?

respect-I respect that you made an effort and tried your best.

Session 3

2020-04-10 03:57:40 UTC

Fix it - Please fix it before moving on
Right way - Please do it the right way to get credit
Grateful - I am grateful you are trying your best

Session 3

2020-04-11 16:29:50 UTC

Should - you should stop talking and listen
Correctly - I need you to sit in your seat correctly
grateful - I am so glad you are grateful for your teacher.

Should

2020-04-13 00:22:19 UTC

You should focus and not draw right now.

Thank you for putting that away.

Session 3

2020-04-13 01:06:27 UTC

Stop correcting
Start appreciating
Then bring the two together.

try not to use the word "should" or "should of"

2020-04-13 01:12:50 UTC

Instead use "thanks for the effort" or "I appreciate how hard you tried"

Session 3

2020-04-13 15:34:08 UTC

I use a lot of neutral terms. (understand, next time)

A word I can use more - respect

Also, I would really appreciate more examples of converting non- VABB conversations into VABBing conversations

should

2020-04-13 20:53:11 UTC

should- You should be sitting at your desk

2020-04-13 20:53:32 UTC

fix it-

Session Three

2020-04-14 02:28:15 UTC

Affirming phrase:
Let's try this another way. (Recognizes team effort, doesn't put all the responsibility on one person.

I know you can do this because you've done it before .

2020-04-15 22:44:31 UTC

right way - hmm.. let's try it the right way.

fix it - that answer is not right, let's fix it.

love - I love how you solved this problem!

Session 3

2020-04-17 05:20:19 UTC

LOTS of affirmation!: For Example:
"I love how you solved this math problem all by yourself!"