Question Bank - Zero Distance Parenting by Edo H.

2025-10-22 03:06:36 UTC

Assalamualaikum Habib, how do we teach adab and simple manners to a 5 year old with calmness even though some acts may trigger anxiety to mothers as they maybe unsafe and inappropriate e.g. crawling down the staircase and putting legs on the table etc. Thank you in advance

2025-10-22 03:10:32 UTC

Assalamualaikum. What is the best way to guide adolescents through the changes of puberty, particularly in helping them understand their bodies and manage their nafs (desires)? Jazakumullahu khayran.

2025-10-22 03:11:16 UTC

Assalammu’alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Our children might distance themselves from us parents as they grow up especially during their teenage and adult years. Please advise how do we continue to have close connection with our children? How to have them to continue bonding with us parents? Syukran

2025-10-22 04:03:38 UTC

Assalamualaikum Habib, we are from Singapore. What’s the link to your class? Date and time?

Syukran Habib.

2025-10-22 04:51:22 UTC

Assalamu Alaikum

For the family gathering, how does one incorporate activities and stories that are appropriate for children of varying ages? Eg. A teen, a 7 year old and a toddler?

2025-10-22 04:51:28 UTC

If by our(parents’) mistakes the self worth of a child is damaged how to recover it, when in even every little thing he/she shuts down to save his/her dignity and respect?

2025-10-22 05:12:27 UTC

Assalamu Alaykum. Where the children are much older like in their twenties, should the activity still be the same? Can the stories in the family gathering, be a mere conversation with the children?

2025-10-22 05:16:25 UTC

How do I deal with a young child that is having constant tantrums

2025-10-22 05:16:46 UTC

السلام عليكم شيخ حبيب باڬايمانا اونتوق ممبينا كلوارڬ سباڬاي ايبو بارو اڤابيلا سوامي مڠمبيل استري يڠ لا؞ين دان تيدق د سيني سڤنجڠ ماس بايي ماسيه مودا

2025-10-22 05:18:00 UTC

السلام عليكم يا شيخ حبيب، كيف تبنين أسرة كأم جديدة والزوج متزوج من أخرى وغير موجود طول الوقت والطفل صغير؟

2025-10-22 05:26:39 UTC

أهل زوجي يستبعدونني من كل شيء، لا أراهم إلا في العيد. دائمًا ما أرسل لهم الهدايا، ومع ذلك يعاملونني كأنني غير موجودة. أقدم الكثير من الخدمات لزوجي، وأشعر أن أهل زوجي لا يقدرونني. أخت زوجي أيضًا تقول أشياء سيئة عني رغم أنها غير صحيحة. كيف يُفترض بي أن أبني أسرة قوية وعائلة زوجي قاسية عليّ، ولا تدعمني ولا تُشركني في دعوتي؟ زوجي لا يقول شيئًا عن هذا حتى عندما أتحدث عنه بلطف ولا أجادله. لا ينتقد سلوك عائلته. ما هي مسؤولياتهم تجاهي كبنت وزوجة، وتجاه أطفالي؟

رانيا أشرف

2025-10-22 06:00:29 UTC

Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatulahie Wabarakatu Ustadh. My 37 yr old daughter is a single mother with a 7yr old boy n 12 yr old girl. Presently the children are not learning the true Islamic knowledge. How fo I encourage her without her drifting further away. I do have continued talks with her n kids in a kind and gentle way without judgement as Allah SWT knows our hearts. We are practicing Islam, following sunnan, listening to Athkars in our household and she sees all of this, but does not participate or encourage the kids to. JazaakAllahu Khairan.

2025-10-22 07:33:49 UTC

Asalamu alaykum habib

Im a Quran teacher

How do i deal with kids who has no motivation to learn their work ? What methods or techniques can i use to help motivate them better

2025-10-22 11:43:18 UTC

Assalaamu alaykum Habib, I am divorced my ex wife has remarried we have 2 daughters they spend part of the week by me and part of the week by their mother due to them not being constantly in my company tarbiyah has become difficult how do I nurture them so that they grow up right muslimahs when their mother doesn't give the same tarbiyah

2025-10-22 12:03:20 UTC

My toddler has picked up the habit of hitting from hadana. What is the correct response to discipline when she hits her mother when she is upset? I've been trying to stay calm, not yell, and put her on a tawba corner where I give her a subha and she does istighfar on her own then she comes back when she is done. But she has been enjoying this and when she does hit, she goes by herself and says i want my subha to start doing istighfar. I feel like she is enjoying the punishment more than learning to stop the behaviour. What do you advise to do?

2025-10-24 12:59:11 UTC

As salaamu alaikum Habib,

What does balance look like(between deen and dunya) when it comes to raising children in the west? How can we protect our children from the corruption of shaytaan when the food we eat, the technology we use and places we go all seemed to be influenced by a dajjalic system. (A system built on deception, materialism, and spiritual distraction)

2025-10-29 13:45:32 UTC

السلام عليكم Habib

I work with many young Muslim people who struggle with their identity such as gender identity. A lot of our youth are struggling with sexuality and the belief of being LGBTQ and it being acceptable amongst society and a lot of them are coming out with being Bisexual and transgender.

How do we support those who struggle with sexuality?

2025-10-30 11:03:33 UTC

Aslm Alkm wr wb Habib.

I have the opportunity to study deen Alhamdulilaah.

I also have a 1 year old baby girl.

What will be the better decission for me to make study and leave My baby under someone else's care or stay home with the baby.

2025-10-30 14:02:36 UTC

I have three children. Two daughters aged 4 and 2 years old, and a baby boy of 6 months. I am looking for book guidelines /resources on islamic parenting focussing on early years. I am planning to homeschool my children.

2025-10-30 14:09:29 UTC

Asalamualaikum, thank you for this session and for all the advice. I want to ask about whether there is an age when children should be taught certain stories which contain heavy concepts; such as what occured between Ismail AS and Ibrahim AS and being instructed to slaughter him or the incident between Habil and Kabil; I was reading a story aimed at children and it contained this story but I felt uncomfortable when it stated he killed his brother to say this to my child. But this is a Quranic story and then I wondered is this my own issue? And not necessarily about my child. My son is nearly 5 years old.

2025-10-30 14:16:10 UTC

Where can we access the recordings? Is there a link?

2025-11-03 08:11:57 UTC

How does one initiate the family meetings when all the children are rejecting it when it is communicated in advance (im not attending dome stupid dumb family meetings thats so dumb) and refusing to participate. Also when there is high levels of disrespect towards the parents and the parents themselves have different views, values and styles of parenting?

Where and how does one begin practically after dua and turning to Allah swt for help.

2025-11-03 08:17:25 UTC

This is a tough question for me. How do I model what I preach successfully? I myself play games and watch youtube reels on handphone. But i tell my teens not to do that. I know the dangers but i cannot disconnect myself. I find myself playing for long hours as well especially when they are asleep since I do not want to model the wrong thing. I know that kids learn more by example rather than by listening. (I kind of know the answer and dont really want to hear it but I know i need to)

2025-11-03 08:26:10 UTC

The way I met my wife is not islamic ideal. Dating etc. How do I tell my kids about how we met without encouraging it?

2025-11-06 01:20:32 UTC

Yaa Habib,

In these sessions, how does one initiate it and make it happen without feeling burdened or having children of varying ages (2, 8 and 16) who are not eager to participate?

Could you suggest a certain pre-session warmup and post-session cool down that can be done?

2025-11-06 11:58:35 UTC

Ya Habib

I am a grandparent and a mother of Adult children. I would like to know how I am able to discipline my grandchildren age 4 and 6 as my own children the parents leave their kids to be distructive breaking things and not telling the children when they are wrong or even disrespectful. So they allowed to do whatever they want in my home.. Also how much privacy am I allowed to have in my own home now that the Adults have left.. Are they Allowed to come into my space an just do and take over or am I allowed boundaries.. My husband does not like it when I tell them or correct a behavior I don't like.. PLS advise.. Jzk

2025-11-06 13:13:37 UTC

Assalamualaikum Habib, I'm a single parent juggling work and managing my 'Ilm, while trying to be a good role model for my 5-year-old daughter, especially when it comes to ibadah. However, I've noticed that when my ex-husband visits, my daughter becomes negative towards me, answering back and mirroring behaviors she picks up from him. I'm concerned that if this continues, it might impact my efforts to instill good values in her. How can I navigate this situation without speaking negatively about her father, and ensure she grows up with strong Islamic values? May Allah bless him and guide him to do his obligatory prayers.

2025-11-07 07:32:22 UTC

AslaamoAlaykum Habib. Bismillah. Over the past decade I have read a lot of literature on parenting and early childhood education. There are dozens of contradicting methods of raising kids. SubhanAllah you have gone straight to the heart of this very otherwise elaborate field of parenting with such superb clarity! Yes. Indeed it is the best thing I have never come across anywhere else. JazakAllahu khayran. Please make your books especially book of ideas available to English speaking audiences. May Allah Subhanahu Ta'aala grant us Ability to implement your teachings long term inshaAllah. Aamin.

2025-11-23 16:49:09 UTC

Aslm Alkm wr wb Habib.

My son is 9 years old and from infancy he has been exposed to money and what it can get.

Currently he has a very big love for money and I am scared as he gets older the love will grow with him.

How do we handle this situation?

2025-12-03 00:21:13 UTC

I have a sibling who has been unhappy in life for a long time. It’s hard to connect to her because she has no empathy for others, she can’t be happy for others. She’s extreme in her thoughts and judgments and this pushes everyone away from her. What do you advise?

alihashi94 — 2025-12-29 21:40:15 UTC

Asalamu 3alaykum Habib,

My daughters love drawing a range of different things living and inanimate. However we are unsure of how the ruling regarding drawing in light of the hadith

‏"‏كل مصور في النار يجعل له بكل صورة صورها نفس فيعذبه في جهنم‏"

"Every painter will go to Hell, and for every portrait he has made, there will be appointed one who will chastise him in the Hell."

JazakumAllahu Khayran