Celebrate Winston "Ex" Extavour by https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg Please share a funny story, memory, or other uplifting sentiment about a man we all cherish. en-us 2023-07-08 14:20:11 UTC 2025-10-24 11:00:53 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/1f970.png Always clowning around https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2640863979 Dad was always laughing and trying to make others laugh. I remember going to the supermarket with him and he'd follow Kemba and me around with his pants pulled up to his chest -- just to embarrass us and make us laugh.]]> 2023-07-08 14:57:14 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2640863979 https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2640937400 What do you say about a gentleman who came into our lives with so much to offer than we could reciprocate. We thought he needed help, but we, in turn, ended up benefiting and getting blessed by his presence. Mr. Winston, Doc or buddy as we referred to him was full of humor and always ready to smile to take the stress off a situation. Many a time, he would remind us how he was a well learned lawyer who needed to get into his red  🚘 and go help his clients. He often would tell us over and over, how much his daughters meant to him, and always looked forward to those visits.  Mr. Winston, you have rested from our presence, but the many sweet moments we shared, will forever remain in our hearts, reminding us that you had a heart of gold, touching those who crossed your path with your love for a life of service, love for your family and an infectious smile that would brighten any dull day. Buddy you will be missed.]]> 2023-07-08 22:29:38 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2640937400 https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2640977369 2023-07-09 02:38:42 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2640977369 Distant loving family https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2641109039 Though we didn’t see Uncle Winston much he always found a way to make up for that time. During our last family gathering we sat down and he asked about everybody. He showed genuine interest in the wellbeing of all. He even handed out business cards. Still wanting to maintain a connection. Always offering assistance and encouragement. My mother (Annette) and the rest of the Henrys are so blessed to have known him and blessed to call him family. He was truly unique.]]> 2023-07-09 14:01:37 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2641109039 Good night dear friend, may a flight of angels carry you to your rest https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2641465656 As surely as there is a voyage away, there is a journey home. 
Colleen. ]]> 2023-07-10 03:24:18 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2641465656 From Amanda, Pamela's daughter https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2641886176 Words cannot describe the incredible human being this world lost last night. I met Winston one evening my freshman year of high school. He and my mom came and watched one of my high school tennis matches. He came up to me afterwards and handed me a Caramelo candy bar and told me he was impressed by my game. I was impressed he knew my favorite candy! It became a running theme for years that he would bring me chocolate whenever he came over. Winston was a proud and brilliant man. He immigrated to the US from Trinidad and practiced law in Camden, NJH. Able to speak seven languages, he was an amazing conversationalist and a great travel companion for my mom. He was an even better dancer! Whenever he heard music, he would whisk my mother up to the dance floor and twirl her around, both of them laughing and having fun. And he had moves! He has been there for every graduation, every family vacation, and holiday since I was a teenager. He became a pillar of our family. A year and a half ago, he and my mother were traveling to Cape Cod and my mom noticed that Winston was more forgetful than usual and seemed disoriented. When they got home from that trip, Winston went to the doctor and was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia. We have been losing Winston to his disease steadily over the last eighteen months. Last night, he died peacefully with his two daughters by his side. I love you Winston. Your infectious laugh and smile will be so missed. Rest in paradise. ]]> 2023-07-10 14:34:49 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2641886176 https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2645438633 Winston Conrad Extavour. 1942 - 2023

Winston: How much do I miss you; let me count the ways ( with apologies to Elizabeth Barrett Browning)
—I miss moves on the dance floor, or anywhere music played;
—I miss hearing your Mother’s words of wisdom on a daily basis;
—I miss the fast paced 3 mile daily walks, when we enjoyed 2 red/white strips mints;
—I miss watching you prepare delicious West Indian dishes, especially the plantains;
—I miss practising our French;
—I miss the tale of how you stole mangoes ( as a child, of course) with your little school mates;
—I miss your reflections about Geneva, which you enjoyed so much;
—I miss the travelling that we shared and thank you for coming to Côte d’Ivoire and Ghana to visit me;
—I miss you being there for my family events;
—I miss that booming voice and that big smile;
—I miss hearing about Toni and Kemba, whom you adored, and their families;
— I miss you telling me to ALWAYS lock the doors, even when we were inside.

I miss you and I still lock the doors!

With love,

Pamela]]> 2023-07-15 04:05:00 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2645438633 From Ben Cary https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653882984 My deepest condolences to Toni, Kemba and their families. I had the privilege of spending time with Dr. Extavour during the celebration of Kemba and Jason's wedding. And of course, the chance to learn more about him through the legendary stories shared with us each time we had an opportunity to visit with the Taylor family. 

He never knew it, but the wedding speech he delivered literally changed the course of my family's life. He said they chose to only have two children because it gave him the opportunity to give them both "the very best". After listening to his message, delivered in his truly unique and charismatic way, we quietly assessed the success of his two daughters....on all metrics. Character. Education. Values. Discipline. Family focus...we immediately agreed we'd be lucky if our two sons we just a fraction of this...and committed to try to do the exact same thing with them going forward. It made all the difference. 

Will keep the family in our prayers and reflect with gratitude on our chance to meet and learn from such a great example.  Love you all. 

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]]> 2023-08-01 02:16:00 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653882984 Pippa Scarlett https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653883253 Dear Toni and Kemba:

My heartfelt condolences to you and your families.  Your father was truly a one-of-kind, extraordinary person.  Such a big heart, sharp mind, warm disposition, fantastic dancer, and someone who really lived life with gusto!  It seems he packed four lifetimes into one.  What a life well-lived.  A great example to us all!  I am so happy to have known him-- from our times together in Brazil when you and I were small children and into our adulthood.  

With love to all of you always, 

Philippa (Pippa) Scarlett

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]]> 2023-08-01 02:16:30 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653883253 Randolph Peters https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653883705 Winston “Ex” Extavour and I were close friends from high school, St Mary’s College, a friendship that was cemented during our undergrad years in the UWI, St. Augustine and endured after, impervious to the vagaries of circumstances and the erosion of distance. He left Geneva where he was studying and at my request came to Bordeaux to be the godfather of my second daughter, and left New Jersey many times to spend weekends at my house in New Orleans. There was an auto ad that urged one to “grab life by the horns.” For me there was no greater embodiment of this exhortation than my friend and brother. He never settled: he always saw another goal beyond the horizon and went for it. ….. and succeeded by sheer grit and determination. He stood out in all the social circles he migrated to, his hyper energy, booming laugh and sharp intellect impacting all. I personally benefitted from these attributes through our friendship and it is with a sad heart that I bid farewell to my friend and offer the sincerest condolences of my wife Priscilla and myself to his family. RIP Ex.
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]]> 2023-08-01 02:17:15 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653883705 https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653883947 I loved you Dad’s spirit and joy and laughter. We laughed a lot together. God brings special people into your life and Winston was so special ! It has been a honor and joy to be your Dad’s friend! May God give you Toni and Kemba and your families strength and peace and love as y’all grieve ! Lots of love and hugs Lynda Northcutt
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]]> 2023-08-01 02:17:40 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653883947 The Scarletts https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653887499 We think often that as life goes we might have missed knowing this beautiful vibrant human being: Winston Extavour, the diplomat, the disciplined dancer, the scholar, the outspoken. 

We met Winston and his beautiful family in Brasilia, Brazil in 1980 where we both had diplomatic assignments: he representing Trinidad and Tobago, we representing the United States. Our kinship and zest for life made us instant friends. That trust took us on a two week road trip together through the vast Brazilian landscape , the eight of us crossed the rural states of Goias, Parana, São Paulo, finding ourselves frolicking in Rio’s Carnival , returning exhausted in hot pursuit to our abodes in Brasilia.  Our car radios belted out Bob Marley’s  ‘coming in from the cold’, as we ate Brazil’s finest roadside comida along the way.  And how we danced through this trip and our diplomatic tour always finding a way to insert Soca music in the Brazilian clubs and parties.

Winston helped us celebrate Earle’s big birthday in Atlanta, and memorably shared our farewell to Earle’s mother in New York with such stunningly precise remarks. 

We , Earle, Barbara, Philippa and Olivia will always appreciate  his spark and the life and family he helped create, and the beauty of Hazel and Pamela.  We will keep his dynamic persona close in our hearts,  Toni and Kemba.

With so much love,

The Scarletts

]]> 2023-08-01 02:23:40 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653887499 Michael Toney https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653888320 He gave me confidence in myself as a teenager struggling to survive in high school. For this I will be grateful. May he rest in eternal peace ☮️ ]]> 2023-08-01 02:25:01 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653888320 Verne Extavour https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653888546 I was saddened when to hear Uncle Winston's passing and immediately remember how he helped me through a difficult time no questions asked (save for the ones that were necessary). An Extavour that we can all feel pride in and know that we can only aspire to uphold his standards. Rest easy Uncle. Love you.]]> 2023-08-01 02:25:25 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653888546 Jean Ann Field-Ridley https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653888788 Warm embraces to those who feel the pain of Winston's passing. We remember that he's run a good race and has come to the end of the track as we all will. Rest in peace Ex.]]> 2023-08-01 02:25:50 UTC https://padlet.com/LAWSProf/ohv698c4nz4elmyg/wish/2653888788