Addressing Emotional Social Needs Strategies for teachers by Dawn https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62 How to Help a Traumatized Child in the Classroom BY JOYCE DORADO, VICKI ZAKRZEWSKI | OCTOBER 23, 2013 en-us 2018-11-12 10:02:59 UTC 2020-01-07 01:45:28 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Planets.png WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE? cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169705 2018-11-12 10:02:59 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169705 WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE? cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169706 2018-11-12 10:02:59 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169706 WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE? cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169707 2018-11-12 10:02:59 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169707 WHAT'S HAPPENING HERE? cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169708 2018-11-12 10:02:59 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303169708 TRIGGERS cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170647 2018-11-12 10:06:16 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170647 TRIGGERS cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170648 2018-11-12 10:06:16 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170648 TRIGGERS cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170679 2018-11-12 10:06:24 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170679 TRIGGERS cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170866 2018-11-12 10:07:01 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303170866 ML cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303171837 2018-11-12 10:10:05 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303171837 Triggers cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303171892 2018-11-12 10:10:17 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303171892 I see your cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303172277 2018-11-12 10:11:37 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303172277 I see your having trouble. 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That feeling of “uh oh, what’s going to happen next” can be highly associated with a situation at home cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303175247 2018-11-12 10:21:37 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303175247 Some teachers will play music or ring a meditation bell or blow a harmonica to signal it’s time to transition. The important thing is to build a routine around transitions so that children know: a) what the transition is going to look like, b) what they’re supposed to be doing, and c) what’s next. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303175428 2018-11-12 10:22:17 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303175428 Complex trauma, getting in trouble can sometimes mean either they or a parent will get hit. And for others, “I made a mistake” can mean “I’m entirely unlovable.” cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303178216 2018-11-12 10:30:59 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303178216 When you need to re-direct the behavior, do so privately and in as calm a voice as possible. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303178972 2018-11-12 10:33:17 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303178972 8. Effective Consequences: Consequences, if given, should be as logical and natural as possible, and also short-term. If an older child is irresponsible with their electronics, then they should lose them for a day. Two weeks is difficult to comprehend and will leave the child feeling defeated. For a young child, the toy can go into time out for ten minutes or so. Or, for slightly older children, they can do something to make up for who they hurt. We had good success with the rule that if you hit your sister you do her chore for the day to make it up to her. It can also be really helpful to have kids “practice” the right behavior in order to make up doing it wrong before, this is also called “do overs.” Make as much as you can into a game. Saying, “I’ll bet I can count to ten before you get into your bed!” cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303499913 2018-11-12 22:20:59 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303499913 10. Do not use any form of touch as discipline. This includes spanking and holding. However you feel about physical discipline generally speaking, it is not helpful and actually pretty harmful for kids with trauma and/or attachment challenges. If you spank a traumatized child they will be triggered, see you as the abuser, and it will harm their attachment to you. You want your touch to be comforting, not triggering. Also, be very careful about touch if the child is triggered or upset. Some therapies recommend holding kids if they are really out of control, but I would caution against this; it can really be triggering for kids and it likely won’t help them calm down. If holding must be used to prevent a child from engaging in serious self-harming you can, but it should be clear it’s about safety, not discipline. This is also a very serious psychiatric situation, if your child engages in serious self-harm that requires this kind of intervention you must talk to a therapist, crisis line, or ER before they can be left alone. For some kids any touch can be upsetting, and especially so if they’re triggered. A child could automatically lash out with a punch if you touch their arm when they’re triggered, even if touching her arm is an attempt at soothing. Withholding food should also never be used as a punishment. For kids with a history of food trauma this will leave them feeling not safe. Discipline should not be mean, overpowering, punitive, shaming, or triggering. Do not make the mistake of assuming what works with non-traumatized kids will work with traumatized kids, usually you need to use some different techniques. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303500417 2018-11-12 22:23:39 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303500417 ODD is not personal even though it may feel like it sometimes. It’s easy to get our feelings hurt when a child is reacting aggressively in physical and verbal ways. Remember they’re suffering from a disorder and patience is the ultimate tool in a parent’s toolkit. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303502185 2018-11-12 22:32:45 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303502185 As you need to remain consistent with discipline, an ODD child has difficulty accepting any type of authority, therefore you need to stay vigilant and only choose the battles that are worth pursuing and let go of the small things and avoid power struggles. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303503238 2018-11-12 22:38:36 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303503238 Calmly Discipline In Three Steps cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303503836 2018-11-12 22:41:24 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303503836 For example, if you asked your child to do a task, but they continue to play video games, it’s ok to remind them to please turn off the video game. You have reiterated your command and done so politely with a calm tone. The next step is to allow time for a response. If your child argues and begins to escalate, stay calm and do not engage. Remind them of the consequence laid out in the behavior plan. For example, you could say, “We agreed you have two minutes to respond to my request, I’m setting a timer now.” cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504339 2018-11-12 22:44:22 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504339 The final step is to enforce the consequence. This is where things can get a little dicey, but it is important to remember to stick to the behavior plan. To continue with our example, let’s say the timer does go off and they have not stopped playing video games, or they have continued to argue. You could calmly say, “Ok, the timer has gone off, and according to the behavior plan we both agreed to, this action has a consequence. I am turning off the video game, and it will be off limits for the time agreed.” cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504576 2018-11-12 22:45:40 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504576 At this point, you have remained calm, clear, and concise with your requests. Your child will either choose to continue to fight or accept the consequences. Being consistent with discipline is key to building the skill in your child. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504792 2018-11-12 22:46:56 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504792 the importance of getting everyone on board. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504907 2018-11-12 22:47:36 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303504907 At home, it’s crucial to get everyone involved with the behavior plan. This involves your spouse, relatives, the child’s siblings, and the child’s friends. Behavior plans only work when everyone is on the same page, and consistency will build memory pathways in the child’s mind allowing them to rethink the way they react to situations. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505073 2018-11-12 22:48:36 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505073 Away from home, it is a little harder to tell complete strangers how you discipline your child or to explain their disorder. One place that is extremely beneficial to be on the same page is at school. Your child’s teacher will want to know the behavior plan in place so they may use the same style and techniques to keep things uniform. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505158 2018-11-12 22:49:17 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505158 learn about dealing with good behavior. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505231 2018-11-12 22:49:43 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505231 Parents of children with oppositional defiant disorder quickly get to the end of their rope when dealing with the issue. Reacting to negative behavior is easy. What is difficult is paying attention to their behaviors to react to the positive behavior. Positive action should lead to quick feedback. One of the surest ways to deliver this positive feedback is through praise. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505470 2018-11-12 22:50:57 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505470 Think of it as filling a bucket. The first praise will enter the empty bucket and may not mean much. When you get angry or react negatively, it will remove the praise from the bucket and begin to fill it with negative feelings and emotion. Avoid this by playing down the bad behavior and playing up the good. Fill the bucket with positive praise and eventually it will spill over. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505542 2018-11-12 22:51:23 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505542 essential for every parent to indulge in a bit of self-care. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505641 2018-11-12 22:51:57 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505641 take some time for yourself, as you deserve it and need a break sometimes too. Managing a child with ODD takes a tremendous amount of time, energy, and effort, as any parent of these bright, energetic children know, therefore it’s worth it to invest in yourself sometimes too. Indulge in your favorite hobby or try a new activity such as writing, painting, dancing, yoga, playing a sport, running, hiking — essentially, any activity that destresses you, eases your mind and helps you feel rejuvenated. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505843 2018-11-12 22:52:56 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505843 keep your relationship healthy and strong without all the constant worrying and stress that comes with living with a child with ODD. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505956 2018-11-12 22:53:22 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303505956 why it may be necessary to reach out for help. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506118 2018-11-12 22:54:02 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506118 Specific programs, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, can help both parents and their child with problem-solving skills, while Social Skills Training can increase a child’s ability to communicate and socialize with their peers effectively. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506283 2018-11-12 22:54:56 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506283 different treatments that are available when it comes to living with an ODD child.BACK(10 o cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506386 2018-11-12 22:55:36 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506386 different treatments that are available when it comes to living with an ODD child.BACK(10 o cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506408 2018-11-12 22:55:43 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506408 Considering ODD and ADHD are closely related, it makes perfect sense that if you are going to treat your child with ODD, you should start by controlling symptoms of ADHD. Medications for ADHD have proven to help reduce a child’s impulsiveness, inattention, and hyperactivity, which can greatly help with improving symptoms of ODD. cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506560 2018-11-12 22:56:36 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/303506560 cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/304245464 2018-11-14 12:57:03 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/304245464 cbcastner https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/305600240 2018-11-17 23:49:49 UTC https://padlet.com/cbcastner/ocwhtr070o62/wish/305600240