https://padlet.com/2007010171/o7ubjij6kiyl7qfg Được tạo ra từ ♥ en-us 2022-04-11 16:36:52 UTC 2022-04-25 07:07:54 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/2007010171/o7ubjij6kiyl7qfg/wish/2156051196 I. Introduction                 
- Case of leg spreading
- Common pet peeves with body language
II. Types of Body Language Pet Peeves
1. Staring | Culture dominant in long we look at each other
- In US: staring at  1:28s is allowed
- In the Middle East: 4-6s.
- Culture is dominant in where we look at each other.
+ In a bus setting, look at this triangle between the eyes down to the mouth
+ In a social setting, descend all the way down to below the chin
+ In a bus setting, not permitted to go as low as the breast areas.
2. Pacing
- While waiting
- Why pacing?
+ Adults in walking behaviors and under stress helps us to calm down.
+ When pacing, we compel the feet to touch a surface over and over again à creates a form of novelty.
+ Gastric muscles of the legs, the calf muscle: the 2nd heartsqueezing to force blood up.
+ Both the real heart and the secondary heart work together to force that blood upward à beneficial for thought.
3. The bad handshake
- Examples: Weak, wet
- Why a handshake
+ primates
+All primates approach & touch each other = reaching out and touching their fingers.
+ Brain evolved =>we would retain negativity
+When experience bad handshake, this registers in your brain potentially for years
- The perfect handshake:
+fingers are down
+ squeezing at the same level as the other person does
+ quick shake
4. The close talker
- Depend on personal, cultural patterns: People have different special needs
- Avoid violating space
+Violating space makes people uncomfortable, causespsychological discomfort
+ When shaking hands, reach in and shake the hand; take a little step backward and assess what others do.
- Why close talkers ?
+ They may come from a culture
+ They prefer standing closer.
+ In that case, you may want to angle your body a little bit.
5. Touch phobia  
-  Why touch?
+ Habits 
+To squeeze others to emphasize, to make sure someone is paying attention.
- Reality
+ Some people don’t want to be touched
+ Not everyone appreciates it.
6. Manspreading  
- you’re entitled by social convention in some places
Why manspreading : Naturally, humans, when feeling strong, confident, tend to spread out.
Problem- It may infringe on other people
7. Verbal tics
- Why verbal tics?
+ The paralanguage, the hum, the coughs, the uh.
+The body’s way of creating psychological comfort
- Solution
+Checking ourselves and saying “Is this a distraction”
+ One of the easiest things: videotape yourself while you’re doing5m, 10m speech, have sb look at it and correct you.
8. Eye rolling
-Eye rolling shows both contempt and disdain.
- Disdain is tolerable but contempt is always hierarchical.
- Not acceptable
9. Tapping
- Why tapping?
+ Helps pass the time, deal w/ any situation in the moment.
+ Using repetitive behaviors to self-sooth.
- Why are repetitive behaviors so soothing?
+ Our brain always needs to be pacified+
+ Repeating behaviors by compressing and releasing the muscles. Or articulating the joint causes signals in the brain that serve to calm people into soothness.
Conclusion
- The human brain is the most complex thing in all of the cosmos. 
- Body language pet peeves are both social, cultural and personal.]]> 2022-04-25 07:07:54 UTC https://padlet.com/2007010171/o7ubjij6kiyl7qfg/wish/2156051196