"I usually go to the gym to exercise to clear off the mind, go to nearby stadium to run, sitting in silence in my room to take in everything and organize my own thought process or listen to my favourite songs or listening to a on going podcast. "

" I also work more at my own part time job at starbucks to get myself distracted and kill time so that i do not the time to think about their stresses, i also cooking my favourite home cooked meal to enjoy."

" I also talk to my close friends in my polytechnic friend group for advice and to vent to them about my problems which helps me feel alot better mentally and more stable"

" I think parents like to dismiss our words. For example you go up to them and tell them that u have something to say or i have something that i am carrying heavy in my heart can u please listen to me, they dont really listen, they just end up bringing up their past like "back in my days i used to had it worser than you, i think you should be grateful for what you have right now" they dont really listen to your problems, they just dismiss it. So how is that going to make me trust them and tell them about any of my future problems or plans as i am always going to think of them negatively"

Mostly in my school, usually I feel stressed or like worried because um of my exams. Like, how am I gonna cope with my exam? How am I gonna pass my exams and then kind of be afraid, like, what if I don't get the grades I want? So a lot of pressure, and I don't really want to let somebody down also, especially my parents.

"I feel like the system, the education system, that the education system, um they will bring like say like counselors to come to Singapore, I mean, say come to school and give a talk that actually opens up students if they need help to approach them, but still, most students like still um, they're very reluctant to do personally, i feel and but they are doing their best to improve the students part. Still there are some students who find it very difficult lah, you cannot um i mean you can't the perfect solution for everyone so there are some gaps obviously i feel."

"I feel like er I hope that the system becomes more balanced. What I mean is less stress and then maybe hands on? To better ourselves in the job or coming industry. Okay? We are going to be working on and maybe focus on, not only the grades, maybe other stuff like as well."

RESPONSE: The main reason would be that, from a young age, I've, I've always been passionate about, you know, the inner workings of electronic devices, let's say your computer or smartphones, or even like your washing machine or fridge, like the I've been interested In, like the architecture of, you know, these, these electrical appliances, yeah.

" I would tell my younger old self that dont think too much about what others think about you or how they view you as it cannot be controlled, just be yourself. People will always pick out the flaws in you, be mean to you, but just never take it to heart and always know that you have to be proud of yourself and dont be too harsh on yourself."

Solutions:

1. Use Calm Check-In Times
   – Schedule conversations during peaceful moments (e.g., after dinner) instead of during conflict or stress.

2. Start With a Written Letter or Text Message
   – Express difficult thoughts in writing first to avoid emotional miscommunication or being cut off.

3. Use “I Feel” Statements
   – Practice using non-blaming language like: “I feel unheard when…” instead of “You never listen.”

4. Set Boundaries for Respect
   – Politely but firmly say, “I’d like to talk only if it stays respectful and calm.”

5. Ask for Listening Time Only
   – Say in advance, “I’m not asking for advice — I just need you to hear me today.”

6. Involve a Third Party if Needed
   – Speak to a school counselor, older sibling, or mentor who can help mediate or give advice on approaching parents.

   2. She needs a better way to balance her studies and other aspects important to her personal development

   ✅ Solutions:

   1. Use a Weekly Planner with Personal Goals
      – Block out time for rest, hobbies, and reflection, just like study sessions.

   2. Apply the “3-3-3” Method
      – Choose 3 academic tasks, 3 personal tasks, and 3 well-being tasks per week to stay balanced and avoid overload.

   3. Learn to Say “No” or “Not Now”
      – Avoid overcommitting by politely turning down activities that don’t support her goals right now.

   4. Create Morning or Evening Routines
      – Build structure that includes personal growth (journaling, meditation, reading, etc.) alongside study habits.

   5. Use a Time-Tracking App or Pomodoro Timer
      – Helps visually break up the day and include space for both work and self-care.

   6. Reflect Weekly
      – Ask: “Did I grow in more than one area this week?” Adjust next week’s plan based on what felt missing.

      3. She needs to understand her grades do not define her

      ✅ Solutions:

      1. Write a Personal Definition of Success
         – Define what “success” looks like beyond school (e.g., growth, happiness, relationships, self-discipline).

      2. Make a List of Strengths Unrelated to School
         – Acknowledge talents in creativity, kindness, problem-solving, or leadership.

      3. Keep a “Growth Journal”
         – Write down lessons learned, not just grades received. Celebrate effort and progress.

      4. Talk to Role Models Who Struggled in School
         – Gain perspective from real people who succeeded without perfect grades.

      5. Limit Comparison
         – Reduce social media or peer comparison and focus on her own self goals and journey.

      6. Practicing Self-Compassion
         – If a bad grade happens, ask: “What would I say to a friend in my situation?” and apply the same kindness inward.