I think that a question to which we seek the answer all our lives is "Who am I?". Thus, I decided to put in this padlet a part of the answers that helped me sketch my soul and mind.
Mihai Morar is one of the famoust radio presenters and moderators from Romania and, at the same time, the man who gave rise to the most beautiful podcasts called "Fain & Simplu". I think that I have always been in search of myself, and through these podcasts I understood that true discovery is the outcome of knowing other stories.

This podcast helped me understand the importance of family in my life and how it shaped me. Medicine talks about the connection between parents and children, about the genes, gestures, behaviors, thoughts and states that, through the mother, are transmitted to the baby. However, my curiosity related to the formation of the baby after birth was revealed by Dr. Raluca Anton, who talks about how every gesture, word or look and even the past of the parents finalize the character of the baby. Until they are two years old, babies are dependent on the presence of their parents or nannies, and depending on their presence in their lives, babies will have different types of attachment. Attachment is the way in which the future adult will react being in front of the people around him or in the circumstances in which he will find. Therefore, this was the first podcast that developed my curiosity to find out who I am: a part of my parents, of their presence, courage, joy, fears and even their past.

Thus, a part of the answer to my existential question was always with me: my parents.

"Whatever makes sense, we just have to have the openness and curiosity to understand the story." - Dr. Raluca Anton

Alexandra Olteanu is a psychotherapist, transformational coach and trainer. Her husband, Paul Olteanu, works as a Master Trainer and Executive Coach, specialized in communication, neuroscience and transformation processes.

In this podcast, Alexandra and Paul Olteanu talk about the deepest feeling, love, and how important it is to control the attachment into a relationship. Attachment is that feeling which define love in the mind of each person and establish the prototype of future relationships.

Thus, nothing is accidental especially when we discuss about the way in which even the deepest feeling is "programmed" from the first years of our life. We fall in love with a pattern made up of missing parts and known parts, known by our existence. The missing parts are the needs that parents failed to fulfill, and the known parts are the known behaviors, wherewith we grew up, to which we became attached, respectively the traits of our parents.

John Bowlby’s work on attachment theory dates back to the 1950’s. Based on his theory, four attachment styles were identified: anxious, avoidant, disorganized and secure. The person with a secure attachment easily moves from the needs of autonomy to those of dependence, the one with anxious attachment is dependent on the presence of another person, the one with avoidant attachment is autonomous, and the one with disorganized attachment becomes autonomous following a dependency conflict.
The two psychologists develop the subject of attachment based on their own relationship and try to emphasize real life, on the effort that must be made to know one's own person so that later one can know the wishes and needs of those around. Last but not least, this podcast helps you overcome your beliefs and even convince you to fight for what makes you happy, even if it seems like a losing battle. Most of the time, it is the attachment that prevents the development of interpersonal relationships because there are major differences between the needs of those involved in the relationship. Thus, for true knowledge we have to go through a whole journey which, in the end, can surprise us with valuable people and new feelings.

In this podcast he talks about knowing ourselves, our brains and our thinking. Reconnecting with the past and knowing the important moments in our lives are important steps towards knowing our needs and lacks. The entire speech is based on Paul's experiences that many people would find themselves in and I think I found myself in. He talks about his childhood in which there was a defining moment. Together with his family, Paul moved from their apartment where he grew up until the age of 14 to a house in the same town. However, for him it meant a very big loss because he left his friends, moved to another school, the place where he grew up representing a box of memories. Paul says that healing only came now, when he is an adult, because he felt that by reconnecting with the place where he grew up, it brought him stability. He understood that the memories are inside him, not just in that house. Thus, his advice is this: if a place has meant something positive in a person's life, reconnecting with that place or that memory should be done through the use of adult resources. By applying this method, the child in the affected adult will understand that that place no longer has any power over him.
So the whole podcast highlights going back to childhood and knowing history. The way in which a person reacts and experiences a certain feeling, an emotion, the way in which he makes choices whether it comes to professional or sentimental life, all these are related to the experiences and childhood he had. Our brain, specifically the prefrontal cortex, develops until the age of 25. Until then, he accumulates information and most of the time tries to find similar moments to associate with a single emotion. Two or more moments in his life will be represented by a single emotion. Thus, the occurrence of a moment similar to one of the moments in our history will trigger a certain feeling and indirectly a reaction, of acceptance or rejection.

Sorin Bontea is one of the best chefs in Romania. In this podcast, the story of this man highlights the work, effort, determination and simplicity with which life must be mastered in order for you, as an individual, to master it. Although he started working in the kitchen since he was little, even if he liked to sing, he never dreamed of something great, but took life as a story. The most important lesson that he gives to every person is the determination with which he started from cooking school, to international and even global kitchens, until opening his own kitchen. "If you want to learn, sit, watch and learn" is the reply he puts before every young person. Life is not just a journey where you let yourself be carried like a leaf in the wind, it requires work, courage, devotion, patience and generosity. Even though Sorin Bontea knew that the kitchen was the path he would follow, he made great efforts to become a chef. It's not just direction, it's fulfillment, curiosity and pleasure.

This podcast highlighted the beauty with which the great chef wrote a story with every day of his life. Although life was not always so favorable to him and he grew up in a modest family with four brothers, he never knew what depression was because he always wanted to see the beauty and joy in every situation. Therefore, is useful to know and to be able, but without a beautiful mind and soul you do not enjoy every stage and appreciate the opportunities.

Childhood is not always a beautiful and courageous impulse towards the fulfillment of a dream, but if you manage to find the strength to become your own dream, you will find the courage to make yourself happy and fulfilled.

We live in a world where more and more emphasis is placed on the outside, a lot of people have a wrong concept by which they judge you based on your appearance, the style of your clothes or the way you look. The physical aspect has always been a concern, but Andreea Raicu in this podcast focuses on the inner plane. She talks about her own change, about the transition she made in her professional life, from television to personal development to online.

Most of the time we tend to look towards the people around us more than towards ourselves. We are interested in the opinions of those around us, and our opinion seems to be the sum of the opinions of others. We grow up, we train ourselves to be attentive to the wishes of the people around us, and the way we are perceived becomes important. We may have a very good job that fulfills us, but outsiders manage to dim our happiness and fulfillment or self-esteem.

The distance between us, our desires and the way we present ourselves becomes so great that depression sets in. Where does depression come from? It appears from childhood. Children are very free to be as they want, they are free to express themselves, to love, they are not afraid of others. However, with growth comes the distance between attachment and authenticity. The child is checked, corrected and maybe even scolded by the parents for certain gestures that for the child are genuine and then he becomes suspicious and shy about expressing his own decisions, emotions and his own behavior.

We grew up, gave up authenticity for attachment, created a personality that covered our essence. Thus, the adult who experiences certain insecurities is the child who identifies so strongly with his personality that he no longer realizes who he really is.

Paul Olteanu and Andreea Raicu talk in the first part of the podcast about the reasoning of happiness. Being concerned with the neuroscientific and psychological side of people, the two say that unhappiness comes from people's focus on reducing unhappiness. Therefore, indirectly our attention turns to negative things and our thoughts become depressing.

When you see the cause from the outside, it is easier to defend yourself from something that is outside of you than from something that is inside of you. Awareness of the problem inside us is the hardest way because we see our shortcomings that we don't want to agree with at first. The internal analysis becomes painful because the problems that come from within consume a lot of energy. We live in a world of consumerism, lack of energy being the most common problem, but finding your own energy consumer brings peace and indirectly happiness.

We are educated to overcome any trauma and build an armor to be immune to some dangers. However, all these immunities are only on the rational plane, unconsciously accumulating all fears. Even if fear disappears from our thoughts, it is the body that brings all the feelings to the surface and transmits methods of healing. Thus, happiness arises from awareness and application of healing methods unconsciously transmitted by the body.

In the second half of the podcast with Mihai Morar, Andreea Raicu and Paul Olteanu talk about the importance of different types of relationships in the life of each person. The two state that the real joy and most of the memories we accumulate over the years are pictures of the important people in our lives. We will never remember happiness as a moment in our life when we won a prize, but the feeling will be related to an interpersonal interaction.

The course of our lives depends on the relationships we have. Our life is a summation of relationships with three categories of people: the people with whom you have fun, the people with whom you find solutions and the people with whom you dream and inspire you. Some people can help you in your evolution, and others you can stagnate and maybe even involute.

Social relationships thus produce different states and, therefore, we need to differentiate between attachment to certain relationships and healthy relationships. Changes in our life such as values, ideals, all these build us and lead us in different parts of life.

Acceptance is an important factor that guides you between healthy relationships because relationships are not always about life and what for someone represents friendship and sincerity, for someone else can mean compromise and self-denial. We must accept to let go of attachment and start looking for the health of the mind, of the soul, and thus the relationships around us will bring happiness and fulfillment.