The Pre cana seminar made me feel that before a couple decides to get married, they should always be open to the idea of change and acceptance. The idea that change is permanent and we have to accept it, that you should always be open to change no matter how flawed your future husband or wife may be, you will still accept that person because of Love. Love knows no boundaries because it has been proven by God already that with Him I our lives, His love for us will always have no boundaries, limitless and overflowing. If God is the center of every relationship, it will be blessed not just with abundance of financial needs and other needs but with Love as its own framework.

For the interview proper, I admire Maricar because no matter how hard life can get, she always stays strong for her family. She also considered the idea of getting married at some point but she chose to stay single because of the three major factors. In this case, I believe that our decisions are always based on our experiences. More often than not, what I do not like about our society nowadays is that they see the single people as people who are unworthy of love, someone who is not loved fully, someone who is not contented, someone who is longing but in the case of our interview with a single woman, I was able to realize that one`s happiness is not measured by someone`s civil status. Life is how you make it. If you want yourself to be happy, then you`ll be happy. If you want to be contented, you will be if you think you can and if you allow yourself to do so. I love how she said that it is God`s plan for her, that she remained single because God wanted her to be stronger than she really is. I am a keen believer that what Maricar said was true, I also believe that God has already planted our dreams and our path in our hearts, we just have to grow just like what He wanted us to be.

Whatever path a person may take, with the guidance of the Lord, those paths will always be blessed. God should always be the center of everything because God is love and we can never go wrong when God is there guiding us. I was able to realize that there are a lot of factors to consider on which path to take but I am a believer that God`s plans will always be the best for all of us and He will never give us the path that could harm us, instead He always gives us the special path that He thinks we deserve. Marriage is not something that can easily be gotten and easily be forgotten. It does not work like that. It has to be filled with love, The same goes with blessed singleness and becoming a priest or a nun because as it was defined in our lecture, “It is the will to extend one`s self for the purpose of nurturing one`s own or another`s spiritual growth” and I think that`s the greatest gift that God has given us- to live with the purpose of Loving.

I really enjoyed the interview because it made me see love in a whole new perspective. I saw  another person’s point of view regarding love and what she has been through in life to make such decisions.  I got to see and compare how different people’s priorities are from mine. I admire Maricar because she was able to determine what truly made her happy and what she thought was her purpose in life. I got to compare Maricar and I's point of view when it comes to love and relationships. I learned that compared to her, even though the love we both have for our family is priceless, I am still open and looking for a different kind of love.  In the interview we did, I also saw the importance of self love and contentment. I got to see how important it is to love yourself and be content with who you really are. That one of the first steps to love someone is to love yourself. I learned that it is not only important  to know what makes you truly happy but also pursue it as well as long as you are not hurting anyone in the process. 

My TREDFOR experience was definitely meaningful. I’ve always been that type of person who had a tough personality and never showed emotion. I’ve always been very cynical regarding feelings most especially love. I would always avoid talking about anything regarding the matter because I never actually fully believed in it. I was the type of person to give tough love or no love at all sometimes. I’m known as the girl with the high walls and whose guards are always up. So going in this subject and having people tell me all we were going to be talking about were love and marriage certainly frightened me. Despite my fears, I tried my best to fully be in the moment and open my mind to the things I will be learning in class. The discussions in class helped me realize so many things about my generation and myself. I have learned how important it is to learn from my mistakes, live every moment and love every part of myself. I have realized that my mistakes are what make me stronger, that every moment makes me tougher and that loving myself helps me become better. For years now, I personally struggle with self love and constantly comparing myself to others but because of what we have tackled in class, I realized how unhealthy it is and how it does not benefit my growth as an individual. I’ve learned that as long as I keep doing this, I will never be happy. I learned that loving myself needs to be my top priority and that I need to keep in mind that comparison is the thief of joy.