https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby Unlike Snow White, we tend to keep the poison and expect a little magic to solve everything. en-us 2017-09-04 05:01:32 UTC 2017-09-10 05:34:23 UTC hello@padlet.com st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/184951931 Well, not literally poison. We mean poisonous emotions that are always present in relationships. Jealousy, anger, unrealistic expectations, lack of communication, and resentment. These are the common poisons we encounter and can not help but to let it take control of us when we're in a relationship. Some of them (jealousy, anger and resentment) are caused when we're uncomfortable knowing that our partner is with someone else. ]]> 2017-09-05 22:43:24 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/184951931 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/184956760 It is obvious why. This is because we're uncomfortable seeing our sunshine taken away by a storm (at least, that's what most of us feel) and never going to bring them back. Yes, some say it's cheesy but it's the real thing. Folks, there is also one thing that makes us feel this. We feel these poison because, believe it or not, we don't trust our partners. This also happens especially with fresh relationships. We always doubt things as well. Thinking about negative thoughts right away and find it hard to give the benefit of the doubt.]]> 2017-09-05 23:24:34 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/184956760 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/185360071 Giving someone the benefit of the doubt is similar to thinking positive to that person. For examples,  our partner is out with their friend and instead of us thinking that they're is cheating on us, we instead think that it's a great thing to let them be with their friends and give themselves some time-off. It is also trusting our partner which is also good in a relationship because we make them feel like even though they have a partner, they still have the freedom to do what they want (except dating some else) without hesitating to tell us.]]> 2017-09-07 02:06:15 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/185360071 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/185831878 2017-09-08 12:30:57 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/185831878 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186060851 We not only feel jealousy towards someone who has a beautiful car, house, fashion or even their successes in life. In relationships, we feel it towards the person who is with your partner. The feeling of being not good enough and thinking that your partner is slowly parting from you is what it is all about. Things like "That girl is flirting with my man!" or "Where is he?! He might be flirting with someone else!" are examples of showing jealousy.]]> 2017-09-09 03:05:00 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186060851 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186061461 We don't. There is a special treatment for jealousy and that is to give your negative thoughts the benefit of the doubt. "She might just need his help." or "He might've gone to somewhere important before arriving, oh well, it's okay" are some examples of giving the benefit of the doubt to jealousy. ]]> 2017-09-09 03:27:22 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186061461 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186062174 Anger is a common feeling that everyone feels towards someone or something that does not please us, a strong feeling of hatred. And in relationships, anger is caused by jealousy, resentment and sometimes unrealistic expectations. ]]> 2017-09-09 03:51:08 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186062174 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186062566 Aside from giving the benefit of the doubt, we calm ourselves and open our minds to listen to their (our partner's) explanation or reason. Then we sort things out. Most of the people don't do this and just stick to what they know which leads to unnecessary fights.]]> 2017-09-09 04:03:21 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186062566 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186063760 It is the bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly. For example in relationship, our partner doesn't want us to hang out with our friends but hangs out with his/her friends. This feeling of being treated unfair results to being angry for not having the freedom we still deserve.]]> 2017-09-09 04:45:18 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186063760 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186064876 Well, we can always talk to our partner about this. And if they don't listen or still makes things unfair for us, or even humiliate us, it is advised to leave this person. Still, do our best to make them stop what is making us resentful.]]> 2017-09-09 05:23:10 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186064876 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186067199 "Why can't he be like Edward?"... Yes, the one thing that guys just can't be for their ladies, especially when their lady partner is a fan of the supernatural beings. expecting something so unreal. This is usually the case of ladies in a relationship. "I wish he was the prince in that book", "I wish he was more of this guy I've read in this story". Silently, the male partners are offended. Sometimes, the ladies ask an unrealistic question to them which makes them feel bad about themselves and their partners may not notice this. Even if it is meant as a joke. It still hurts them. We can not always expect them to be who we want them to be. Otherwise, why did we love them for if they weren't who we wanted? This leads to lack of communication because this will make our partner not know how to start a communication with us for the reason that they feel that they're not good enough.]]> 2017-09-09 06:41:50 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186067199 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186068770 Don't talk to our partner about wanting them to be someone else. Unless they asked us for it. But if we feel like comparing them to someone, especially someone unreal, just keep it to ourselves so that we wouldn't offend our partner's feelings.]]> 2017-09-09 07:31:15 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186068770 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186068945 This happens if we tolerated one of the poisons in a relationship. As we all know, communication is needed for us to express how we feel aside from showing it through body gestures. Jealousy leads to lack of communication or it can be the other way around by restricting ourselves from talking to our partner because it is accompanied by anger. And if communication is missing in a relationship, the feelings will slowly disappear which will lead the relationship to a painful end.]]> 2017-09-09 07:36:22 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186068945 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186069261 Communication starts with us. We don't need to wait for our partner to start it. If you know that you've haven't been talking to your partner for a long time, you make the first move. We shouldn't be so caught up in our own pride that we forget how to talk things through. Remember, communicating with our partner is the best way to solve everything. If all else fails, then it is time to say goodbye.]]> 2017-09-09 07:46:23 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186069261 st17706 https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186069688 By now we realized that these poisons are all connected and are lit up by a little spark.  If we think we are not good enough, we feel jealous (Jealousy). and will lead to anger (Anger). Our partners will think it's unfair (resentment) because they don't know what's happening for the reason that we don't talk to them (lack of communication). Or if we push things real hard and compare our partners to someone and expect something unreal, all of these will light up a fight. 
This is the reason why we have ways to prevent the poison from spreading. ]]> 2017-09-09 07:56:38 UTC https://padlet.com/st17706/n6x701fpvwby/wish/186069688