AGONY AUNT by Yoerly https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721 Made with a wink and a smile en-us 2018-09-29 14:58:15 UTC 2025-11-17 22:58:47 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-uploads.storage.googleapis.com/194988540/8f65aba81dc5945782f50b613f630b74/AGONY_R.jpg 1. I have a serious crush on my teacher – should I tell her? yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287224077 I have a serious crush on my teacher – should I tell her? Q: I’m a 16-year-old student harboring ardent feelings for a teacher. She’s an absolutely wonderful (in my view, angelic) human being, who seems utterly devoted to what she does and is terribly cordial to us students. It is out of awe for her personality, and gratitude for how she’s made a mark in my life, that I feel so attached to her. She’s in her late 20s, I suppose, but I feel she could be 18. My feelings are not sexual, but my social circles make barely any room for this possibility. I can find little solace in my friends for fear that they’d mock me because she’s not considered a looker. I feel an urge to tell her how amazing and adored she is, but fear she’ll be threatened or affronted, or that she’ll feel pained for me and not know how to respond. ]]> 2018-09-29 15:24:14 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287224077 Answers to letter 1 yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287224149 According to what I have read from you first, we know it is highly important for you to express your feelings about her, but also you have to think about the way and the correct moment to admit you and say that you are deeply in love with her… you should have planned a form in which you reflect your true and real admiration that goes beyond the Physical and sexual attraction.If you want that your plans work, you will have to put yourself in her shoes and imagine how you will to be falling in love her, then obviously you will be able to think in a clearer idea of what you are going to do. One good idea could be write her a lettrer in wich you tell her that you have real feelings for her and she is free to not answer right at the moment. The idea is that the letter does not sound like you will be forcing her for a quick answer you should be patient..

Agony aubt
Merly Tatiana Coy]]> 2018-09-29 15:25:06 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287224149 2. My father is a womanizer. I’m terrified I’ll become one, too. yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287224253 I’m 22, single and very romantic, yet I can’t relate to women. I grew up with a womanizing father and ever since I can remember he has made comments about women and sex. No man in my family has ever achieved true love and they have all had multiple sex partners and lovers, betraying the confidence of wives and long-term girlfriends. My great grandfather, my grandfather, my uncle and my father share this and some of me thinks that I can’t fight it, that I will become the same. But I struggle. I just can’t talk to women; I can’t play charming around them even when I have a good relationship with them in spaces such as work or college. I have “female friends”, but I can’t break the confidence they have in me by playing the love card. So I’m often the friend of the women I like. My entire romantic concept has been built by culture, by movies like Gone with the Wind or Doctor Zhivago, books like A Farewell to Arms, For Whom the Bells Tolls and long sessions of the Smiths or the Cure.]]> 2018-09-29 15:26:17 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287224253 Hi dear and lonely young, 5 yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287226169 Do not worry, everything is part of life, feeling alone is good, you come from a different culture, and for you everything is new, everything depends on your attitude, you have to open your mind, and you should see things from another point of view.

You must remember, that you come from another culture and that the things that were right for you, are not for others, you can understand this and accept that you must change your way of thinking.

You should not judge that there is something wrong with you, and not blame yourself for this, you should talk more with people and learn more about new cultures, you should not isolate yourself at home you have to leave! and meet people, maybe it would help you meet people of your own nationality, and know their testimonies, this should help you a lot.

you can change your wardrobe, and do things you did not do, you do not have to worry much, remember if you chase the butterflies, they will go, but if you stay still they will come to you, good luck !!

With love.

Agony aunt.                                Wrote by Nelson Valderrama]]> 2018-09-29 15:43:11 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287226169 5. I left my home for freedom in Europe but I’m terribly lonely. yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287226747 I am a 30-year-old guy and I am really lonely. I was born in Iran and was raised in a conservative family and society. I went to university there and graduated with a master’s degree in English language studies. I am now at university in Germany, but I am not able to make friends with girls. I have no proper job, no future and not even a friend. I tried online dating sites; they don’t work. What is wrong with me? I even think of ending my life. I do not have any future going back to a country which does not accept me when I do not believe in Islam.]]> 2018-09-29 15:48:23 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287226747 3. My daughter is dating a man more than twice her age. yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287227422  I have a 23-year-old daughter. Her mother and I split up when she was seven due to her mother’s infidelity. I still see my daughter regularly and she is close to my wife and the two other children we have. My daughter didn’t have a “proper” boyfriend until she was in her late teens. Last week I was informed that her new boyfriend is a little older than her. It transpires he’s 48! He also has a wife and two children who he is preparing to leave to be with my daughter. I am, in equal measures, furious, horrified, embarrassed, ashamed and desperate. This new boyfriend is older than my wife, who is 46. I am 55. My daughter wants me to meet this man, but I am too shocked and angry that a man of his age and with his responsibilities could behave in this manner. How should I handle this? I am too embarrassed to talk to my friends about it.]]> 2018-09-29 15:55:06 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287227422 Dear confused father, 3 yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287229261 irst, at all, you must keep calm. Your daughter isn't the first young woman to fall for a mature man, but you have to understand that your daughter may well be romantically naive but she's a grown-up, she's 23, and she can take her own decisions. Maybe, she lost her father's full -time presence and it could explain her eagerness to establish a family.

Definitely, you ought to know her boyfriend and need to work out exactly what your objections with respecting him. You should be able to create an environment where a calm and reasoned discussion about this situation. You should try to support your daughter while she is able to elect.

If the past was hard and left you old wounds, the future can be different.

Take care
Agony aunt
Magda Hernandez

]]> 2018-09-29 16:14:57 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287229261 A few words for a young man concerned about his status. 2 yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287229610
Relax dear friend, you can finds a practice or custom objectionable, others enjoys it and sees no basis for refuse it. People differ for many reasons. Brackgrounds vary greatly. Some, for instance, are acuately aware of their weakness with the women and they know have to live with that and they enjoy it.

People must understand that you don't share his view of this matter. Your family might have been deeply involved with women but you reasoned that you should put respect of the women ahead of our own, and that is very romantic.

Anyway you are not a mirror that should copy the actions of your father or grandfather, you can make a difference and you should have a lifestyle free of infidelity or lust.

I know that you feel fear of hurting a woman, it's not a disadvantage to want a cleansed conscience, rather, such affords you a marvelous opportunity to express your love only for a woman for ever.

So that, you can share special moments with your friends, forget to family of womanizer man, and you should began your life as a romantic man, that wish to change the history of his family.

Fondly...
Agony aunt
Yoerly Murcia

]]> 2018-09-29 16:18:18 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287229610 Dear good man, 4 yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287229769 You should not feel sad, you must be happy because you have a beautiful family and you can enjoy their love, you are not alone, you are able to share with them.

However, you have to remember that when a person marries, his life changes and he acquires other lifestyle, how you say the world evolves and therefore people need also evolve. You haven’t to be jealous because you see others at events; they will be forced to change their lifestyle too.

Though, you could organize your time, you ought to consider  that if you are a professional man, a good father and an excellent husband, of course, you can be a great friend and get true friendships! Of your same lifestyle to share with them, without disconnecting from your family and your work, so that you may take some time thus you might meet new friends and discover that you are able to make good friendships.

All the best!
Agony aunt
Maritza Leonor Lopez
]]> 2018-09-29 16:19:52 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287229769 4. My family is great, but I feel as though I have no real friends. yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287230129 I am 38, happily married with two children and have a job I enjoy. However, I have found myself plagued by anxiety about friendships and feelings of loneliness. Since having children I seem to have been on a roller-coaster of friendships. As our lives have evolved, people have drifted away. I now feel I am left with acquaintances (mainly school mums) rather than actual friends. I find WhatsApp groups stressful and can’t go on Facebook, as I feel jealous when I see events where I haven’t been included. Some of my pre-children friends remain, but busy lives and distance mean I only see them a couple of times a year. I’ve given up on phone calls, as people only seem to want to text! I just don’t know how I can get out of this spiraling anxious mindset. Will it improve when my children are older, or without play dates will my social life dry up altogether? ]]> 2018-09-29 16:22:56 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287230129 Some of me thinks that I can’t fight it, but I am different. yoerly_tj00 https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287233223 Help me!!]]> 2018-09-29 16:53:52 UTC https://padlet.com/yoerly_tj00/n3u11gzby721/wish/287233223