https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv en-us 2018-03-16 12:44:56 UTC 2025-11-06 15:10:44 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243937310 As a looked after child - 
To be treated as part of the family
To have their own space
To have their own belongings - from home (familiar)
New things
To be open and honest
Respectful of birth family

As a birth parent -
To be treated fairly and to be included within the family
Communicate - respect contact and be helpful with this
Birth parents expect perfection - are often critical of foster parents
Expect family traditions, region and beliefs to continue and respected
Expect foster careers to make contact as easy as possible - with regards to encouraging child and organising appropriate times

As a social worker - 
Attend training - thorough understanding
Perseverance with the child when situations are difficult
Comply with care plan and encourage foster careers and child to do so
Expectations of foster carers to read child's chronology and life story book
To be available at short notice (especially when there are issues) 
Ensuring medical appointments are made and kept
Attending school
Position activities
Healthy eating
Making children welcome in their family
Build positive relationships with the children.]]> 2018-03-20 11:35:46 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243937310 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243937405
Good communication 
Be respectful
Respectful of cultural values 
Maintain routines (if there is any)
Contact with siblings
Not to ignore that they have birth parents - talk about me and my family. Positive things we did 
Maintain life story work - memory boxes 
Be on time for contact
To know that the child is safe 
Non judgemental 



]]> 2018-03-20 11:36:05 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243937405 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243937893 - Food
- Safe place
- Basic needs being met
- Acknowledgement of family
- ‘Wi-Fi, a comfy chair and a big telly’ (Shaw, 2018)
- Love
- Personal space 
- Sense of belonging 
- Someone to talk to 
- Consistency ]]> 2018-03-20 11:37:42 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243937893 j_street2 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243938323 Empathy
Time and space to adjust 
Home is safe place 
Leave school at school
Understanding 

]]> 2018-03-20 11:38:52 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243938323 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939206 - Non-judgemental 
- To know children are safe and happy 
- Involved / communication 
- Contact 
- Allow for continuity with regards to identity/culture 
- Mutual understanding 
- Recognition / not feeling like you have been forgotten/replaced]]> 2018-03-20 11:41:10 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939206 j_street2 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939332 Include me 
Speak positively of me 
Be open and honest 
Empathy 
Reassurance my child is ok 
Share milestones 
Try to understand me 
Tell me about you 


]]> 2018-03-20 11:41:33 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939332 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939448 ‘Wants’ and ‘expectations’ are different things:

Want:
Safety
Own space
Feel accepted/liked
Underlying want to be loved (even if they may struggle to recognise or articulate this)

Expect:
Rules
May not have any expectations 
Retain friends, school, contact with familiarity ]]> 2018-03-20 11:41:53 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939448 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939482 Stability 
Nonjudgemental 

]]> 2018-03-20 11:42:00 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243939482 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243940426 - Consistency 
- That it’s being done for the right reasons
- A safe, stable environment 
- Effective dialogue with foster carers 
- Honesty 
- Being skilled and knowing own limitations 
- Foster carers to attend training 
- For them to adhere to the rules]]> 2018-03-20 11:44:37 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243940426 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243940715 Some want to know everything that is happening e.g. milestones
Some will find any info painful to hear
Some may be apathetic to the process 
Some may expect the foster carer will keep the child (challenge of accepting this)
Very high or unrealistic expectations that the foster carer is a ‘perfect parent’]]> 2018-03-20 11:45:26 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243940715 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243941199 Fun.
Organised ]]> 2018-03-20 11:46:49 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243941199 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243941909 To engage with the process fully
To put the child first
Provide continuity, needs of the child
Be realistic, be patient
Attend appointments, meetings, be reliable
Be prepared for the child not to like you or try to run away and go home ]]> 2018-03-20 11:48:50 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243941909 j_street2 https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243942066 Professionalism
Honesty 
Flexibility 
Attend meetings/training 
Be aware of values 
Maintain life story work/memory boxes

]]> 2018-03-20 11:49:10 UTC https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243942066 c_simmonite https://padlet.com/e102751981fc447faa514139ef1e5aa4_63107_1/mvmza7pvixpv/wish/243942369 Respected
Included in the family
Space to be alone and adjust
Kept informed of any developments and included in choices
Not to be my mum or dad
Food
Tv
As Birth Parents
Opinions and views respected
Any cultural\ religious needs met
Involving the child in their family
Knowing they are loved by parents
Fun and caring
Someone to listen and talk to the child
Social worker 
Basic needs being met 
Security, consistency, care and protection 
Respecting parents views 
Communicating any problems and issues to social workers 
Being honest and open about their own feelings regarding the child 

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