What is mentoring to us? by Aris Winger https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761 How do we define mentoring as a community? en-us 2023-08-06 14:18:39 UTC 2023-08-07 14:07:49 UTC hello@padlet.com Active and engaged listening, on both sides of the relationship https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657267751 2023-08-07 13:38:36 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657267751 Working with people from different backgrounds and cultures, and the variations in communication styles that can arise from these differences https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268256 2023-08-07 13:39:28 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268256 Understanding and meeting the individual needs of mentees https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268285 2023-08-07 13:39:31 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268285 Shared understanding of expectations https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268303 2023-08-07 13:39:32 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268303 Listening without judgement, reacting to each mentee differently https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268313 2023-08-07 13:39:34 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268313 Mentoring is a profoundly subjective experience both on the mentee and the mentor. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268332 2023-08-07 13:39:36 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268332 Discarding your personal biases https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268501 2023-08-07 13:39:53 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268501 Routinely prioritizing mentor's "to do" list over mentee's needs and goals https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268528 2023-08-07 13:39:56 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268528 Truly listening https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268716 2023-08-07 13:40:14 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268716 Taking as opposed to giving https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268757 2023-08-07 13:40:18 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268757 A former supervisor, who worked strategically with me to help me gain skills and position me for a promotion. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268848 2023-08-07 13:40:28 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268848 Erin is the best. She speaks highly of me in public to anyone willing to listen. Talks me past my impostor syndrome. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268952 2023-08-07 13:40:32 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657268952 Wanted too much involvement in my personal life! https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657269043 2023-08-07 13:40:42 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657269043 My PhD advisor, who mostly disappeared towards the end of my program and didn't provide timely feedback. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657269221 2023-08-07 13:41:02 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657269221 Highly driven person who put personal success over shared success https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657269819 2023-08-07 13:41:43 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657269819 Thinking I know how to solve peoples problems. Sometimes I just need to listen. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270020 2023-08-07 13:42:02 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270020 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270120 My thesis advisor - he pushed me and never expected less or treated me differently than other students.]]> 2023-08-07 13:42:12 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270120 My PhD advisor. I trusted him and he used that trust against me, sabotaging professional opportunities and making me decide on whether asking for a letter from him for applications was worth the risk. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270283 2023-08-07 13:42:31 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270283 Not taking time to understand where your mentee is coming from https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270337 "coming from" can mean either what they mean or more literally, as in what their background is]]> 2023-08-07 13:42:38 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270337 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270387 Ability to translate information
organization
focus]]> 2023-08-07 13:42:43 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270387 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270451 Having enough patience for each mentee.]]> 2023-08-07 13:42:51 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270451 Viewing students and mentees as only as good as the paper count they can output https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270775 2023-08-07 13:43:30 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270775 My undergrad mentor, he was real with me about the challenges of sexism https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270931 I think about this relationship when thinking about how to best serve mentees from different backgrounds]]> 2023-08-07 13:43:49 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657270931 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657271062 Being more invested in the research and process than the mentee.
Expecting the same amount of dedication as I did

]]> 2023-08-07 13:44:05 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657271062 My PhD advisor, who was very absent and didn't help me even when it would have been very easy for him https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657271380 2023-08-07 13:44:43 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657271380 Navigating the power differential from this side https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657271991 2023-08-07 13:45:35 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657271991 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657272535 Meeting to meet
Repeating same feedback at each meeting
Changing concepts each meeting]]> 2023-08-07 13:46:32 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657272535 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657273522 Wide range of Knowledge within discipline]]> 2023-08-07 13:47:48 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657273522 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657275430 My department chair self-appointed herself to be my mentor. I struggled with setting boundaries. I could not say no to what she asked of me, even when it was not related to my research interest.]]> 2023-08-07 13:50:59 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657275430 A lot of mentors were abused as mentees, and may not realize it. This impacts how they mentor others, often in negative ways. These mentors don't know any other way to mentor, and since they survived (and often thrived, according to academic metrics) they figure this is the "right" way to mentor. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657276010 2023-08-07 13:52:00 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657276010 I had a communication mismatch with my academic advisor. When I get excited I would raise my voice. My advisor thought my raised voice meant I disagreed. We ended up arguing when we were not. I figured out the problem too late and was never able to recover the relationship. https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657277953 2023-08-07 13:54:48 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657277953 How can a mentee get help with and possibly extract themself from a non-productive mentoring relationship? https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657282547 2023-08-07 14:02:26 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657282547 What mentoring skills should everyone have? https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657283016 Even if an advisor is not a mentor, a good advisor should still not do a lot of the things in the previous column]]> 2023-08-07 14:03:12 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657283016 How and when to end mentoring? iking41 https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657285831 2023-08-07 14:07:13 UTC https://padlet.com/ariswinger/mp94saddr2po2761/wish/2657285831