ROADBLOCKS by Claire Rafferty https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks Record examples of roadblocks you have heard or said recently en-us 2022-02-21 01:36:01 UTC 2026-01-20 19:36:25 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078696065 One of the roadblocks I've heard my cousin talk about most recently is that her son does not like to study and likes to play video games all day. She communicated with him many times but failed to improve the situation.]]> 2022-03-04 22:26:11 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078696065 Judging, maybe criticising? https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078696346 Overheard in Woolies yesterday during the weekly grocery run:

Wife: Maybe we should head to Coles instead? (continues searching)
Husband: There's nothing you can get in Coles that you can't get in Woolies!

10 min later I saw them walking into Coles empty handed and walking back out with something that they probably couldn't find at Woolies... haha!]]> 2022-03-04 22:26:38 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078696346 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078696634 silence may be one of the biggest roadblocks ]]> 2022-03-04 22:27:04 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078696634 Shaming https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697022 I observed a teacher speaking to boys who had a physical incident at lunch time. She kept shaming them as the class listened in. "we expect better than this of you", "you can do better than this", Your parents would be so disappointed", "You are grade six, you should be role models for the younger students". 

She didn't listen to why they had a fight, there wasn't active listening to the students, just constant talking from the teacher. She had no idea why the boys were so upset that they took it to a physical level. ]]> 2022-03-04 22:27:36 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697022 yuanruis https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697039 When I once told my friend about my sadness, she said to me: Is it worth being sad?]]> 2022-03-04 22:27:38 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697039 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697057 In my primary school, my math teacher had a o2o with me after the exam results being released. I didn't get a good grade at the time and how she started the convo was like 'why you so stupid'. When I reflected back on this experience, I realised that this is definitely roadblock and it really did have a negative influence on my learning experience.]]> 2022-03-04 22:27:39 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697057 Someone else always has it worse…. zixliu7 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697157 I find it in life that my parents always use “you should be grateful that you only endured (blank), there are people starving/people who died/people who can’t go to school” whenever I feel down about my own experiences.

They’re under the misconception that comparing one’s difficulties to other peoples greater difficulties would make the situation seem better in comparison, it doesn’t. It actually invalidates the emotions of the sharer.]]> 2022-03-04 22:27:49 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697157 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697210 When my colleagues have spoken to me about their concerns at work, in the past I have agreed, reassured or given advice using statements such as "I know, I feel exactly the same way...", "Don't worry." or "Why don't you try..."

I can see that these statements may not be helpful.]]> 2022-03-04 22:27:53 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697210 zijliu https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697748 A few years ago when I was a child, sometimes me and my brother complain to our parents about  other people in school, like teacher or classmates, they would compare us to others and ask why other children don't have so many problems and let us stop gossiping, just work on our own stuff. It's very frustrating. I think that can be a kind of roadblocks for us to seeking help to our parents because sometimes those stuff do matter!]]> 2022-03-04 22:28:51 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078697748 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078698738 Not long ago, I had expressed to my parents that I was having a hard time for a number of reasons, but I didn't say it at the time, so they assumed I was sad because I couldn't study abroad. The first moment my dad heard my words, he criticized me directly that I was too fragile to bear such a small setback. I didn't want to talk about it anymore.]]> 2022-03-04 22:30:25 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078698738 Roadblock in my class this week cwilken2 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078698879 This week I had an incident with a student that was misbehaving in my class. He threw a marker at me and out of shock and I immediately said "get out" - ordering, directing, commanding- when reflecting on what happened I should rather have said "Zac, please can you step outside for a moment". We did attempt to have a restorative chat after I gave the rest of the class work to go on with but he was already so upset.

]]> 2022-03-04 22:30:38 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078698879 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699039 I have an experience of telling my friends about my concern. However, she was kind of ignoring my feeling and said: 'you are an adult and you need to solve the problem by yourself. Her words did not help with anything as I felt that I was unsupported.]]> 2022-03-04 22:30:53 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699039 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699100 My girlfriend told me why you've been hanging out with your friends all the time, but I don't think I've been out with my friends for a while. She had a different impression of me than what I actually did]]> 2022-03-04 22:30:59 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699100 Diagnosing, maybe prematurely https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699176 Student comes to me with a problem - and tries to share it with me

Being busy, I try to come up with a quick solution - ultimately unhelpful because I didn't take the time to listen]]> 2022-03-04 22:31:06 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699176 people get judged easily on even small points. Such as you are just start to doing something and still in a learning process, but people will easily judge that you are not good at it. https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699319 2022-03-04 22:31:20 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699319 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699681 people sometimes may say time can heal, but if time actually healed people no one in the world would be hurting.]]> 2022-03-04 22:31:54 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078699681 https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078704754 I had a teacher in high school who had a traditional idea of "masculinity" and would ignore or ridicule boys who didn't fit his idea. As a classmate, I felt unfair and hurt for them.]]> 2022-03-04 22:40:41 UTC https://padlet.com/crafferty17/Bookmarks/wish/2078704754