Do you remember the first time you knew there was a difference in the way fat and thin people were treated? Do you remember the first time someone made a comment about your body size? How old were you? How did your parents/caregivers talk about bodies? (Resilient Fat Goddex, 2018) by Heath Hayden

2024-09-16 21:50:38 UTC

When I was a child my nickname actually revolved around my weight, I must have been around 4yo when I really noticed that people were treated differently based on their body size

ajacksonpardo — 2024-09-16 21:57:33 UTC

In our family (Cuban) eating and size was never negative, it wasn't until I started seeing it in movies (Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory in particular) did I start to see it that way.

I was teased about my weight throughout grade school, my nickname in HS was Pardo Lardo. :\

Had a young mom in the 90's, who was into phen-phen and other fun weight loss fads... :\

2024-09-18 16:12:17 UTC

I was often told I was "chubby" as a kid and the baby weight would go away as I got older, thus illustrating its undesirableness.

I remember being called names like thunder thighs as a kid.

I went on my first diet at age 10.

There were diet commercials and infomercials as long as I can remember, first starting with Susan Powter and her no fat diet.

I remember many in my family saying things like, she would be so pretty if she lost weight about other people.

2025-02-13 18:01:31 UTC

When I hit puberty I gained a lot of weight, even though nothing else had changed in my diet or exercise. I was treated very differently by classmates and family alike. They'd be very open "wow, you've gained a lot of weight, you should probably diet". I was eleven.

2025-02-13 18:03:05 UTC

I can't remember how old, but elementary school. My mom was so worried about my sister being fat. Somehow I had more value because I was skinny. Somehow I was better. There was pride for myself and anger for my sister, who I wanted to protect.

2025-02-13 18:03:57 UTC

As a kid, I think I became highly aware about 4th grade when I had crushes on boys and they always had crushes back on the skinny girls.

I don't think I was ever made fun of for being fat, but I also wasn't made to feel included.

2025-02-13 18:05:52 UTC

Yes, when I was a child and my mom was always telling my brother eating too many cookies would make you fat. He was chubby and I was not.

I remember the first time someone commented: I was in my early twenties and I was in a stressful marriage, heading for divorce and I had been thin as a child so it was like "What has happened to you?"

The women in my family were totally obsessed about their weight it was in most every conversation.

2025-02-13 18:06:01 UTC

When I was still a child and not even overweight yet, my mother used to warn me to watch what I ate so I didn't gain weight. She said if I wanted a husband one day, I needed to stay thin.

2025-02-13 18:06:23 UTC

I remember my mom commenting negatively about her body for as long as I remember. She would often go on diets - my aunties and grandma too. It was just how things were in order to be considered likable and beautiful. I was self conscious about my body as a pre-teen and teen and into my early adult years. Feeling like I need to shrink and be skinny to be liked.

2025-02-13 18:07:56 UTC

I was nicknamed Deena the Dinosaur in elementary school. Yes, I was tall(er) than most, AND there was an impact on my self reflection on size.

2025-02-13 18:08:45 UTC

As a kid, I bought clothes in the "chubby section."

2025-02-13 18:08:51 UTC

I do not remember a specific age but I learned to know that fat was not good from a very young age. I have been inhabited a bigger body since as long as I can remember and remember being picked on in elementary school... I was also picked on by family members - my grandparents used to host family dinners and when it came time for dessert would offer it to everyone and when it got to me, tell me I didn't need any... they had me signed up for weight watchers at the age of ten... and throughout my teenage years told me that I had a pretty face and a beautiful heart, but that I needed to lose weight in order to find someone to love me...

2025-02-13 18:08:58 UTC

I have been "overweight" pretty much all of my life and I started noticing the difference in my body in elementary school. My grandmother was very focused on weight and got me the Barbie workout video when I was in first or second grade. She often talked about her being overweight and wanting to be thinner and that led to me also feeling like I should be. I was very self-conscious as a teen and never thought anyone would want to date me because of my body size.

2025-02-13 18:09:05 UTC

I think I became aware of size difference in middle school. I remember my grandma saying you just have to fight the fat Jenny. It was around that time she signed me up for Nurti system

2025-02-13 18:09:15 UTC

Growing up my oldest sister was larger than my other sister. Their bodies were always compared to each other. My thinner sister was supported by our mom when she did pageants and sports. My oldest sister was not supported at all.

The first time someone made a comment about my body size, that I can think of, was when I was 9. I was in a summer program that taught us how to swim. When I took my shirt off for swim lessons, the other boys made fun of the fact that I had "titties".

My mother was usually the first person to talk about someone's weight. My great-grandmother who raised me would talk about you being too skinny and too fat. There was never a balance with her.

2025-02-13 18:28:16 UTC

I was very young when I knew there was a difference in the way fat and thin people were treated. My family was "fat", so I saw how people out and about treated them, it made me uncomfortable as a child thinking "Why do people treat others differently for their weight?"

The first time someone commented about my body size, I remember I was probably 9 or 10. I have always fluctuated in weight my entire life. My mother tried to reassure me and let me know I was okay; people just can be nasty. I was called names not only by kids but from grown adults. It made me during that time to never go out besides school.

I noticed that both thin and fat people were treated differently. The "you're too thin, you need to eat more, are you sick?" then I also heard the "you're too chunky, you should work out more or eat less."

With fluctuations in my weight my entire life, I always get comments. My medications, work, stress, and life have caused me to gain some weight, and someone has to say they notice it. I worked out 5 days a week, ate small amounts, and lost weight, and someone had to say they noticed that. It feels like a losing battle with feeling safe in your own body. And with intimate partners, it really has put a damper on things because I feel like I am never {enough} for them....