What challenges do you most commonly encounter when it comes to giving feedback? by Jami Bailey

2025-06-18 17:56:05 UTC

Defensiveness ...or a fear of defensiveness.

Unsure if my feedback is accurate/valid

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Power dynamics

2025-06-18 17:56:30 UTC

I am conflict avoidant so if I think the other person won't like what I have to say or will argue with me, I avoid giving the feedback altogether.

2025-06-18 17:56:39 UTC

Worried about hurt feelings

2025-06-18 17:56:42 UTC

Self awareness in delivery

Feedback is unwelcome

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kavitanshah21 — 2025-06-18 17:56:45 UTC

power dynamics increasing the stakes of a conversation

2025-06-18 17:56:48 UTC

Peoples perception or reaction to whats being said. Defensive positioning without fully understanding why the feedback is coming.

Concerns on how I will be perceived if I am too direct

2025-06-18 17:56:51 UTC

Can't recall specific examples :(

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Thinking too much about how the other person might take it. Being too worried to hurt other's feelings.

taking the time to respond constructively rather than reactive

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Clarity, making sure that my feedback is actually aligned with what I asked of them

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kavitanshah21 — 2025-06-18 17:57:10 UTC

cultural discomfort w/ directness

2025-06-18 17:57:16 UTC

Would it make the person less receptive towards me? Would they take the feedback along with my identity and see it as polarizing?

Don't want to be the bad guy

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She was my supervisor and now I'm hers. The power dynamics feel a bit uncomfortable and it's hard for both of us to be in our roles

2025-06-18 17:57:23 UTC

A lack of feedback

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Spending too much time strategizing about the right way to give feedback.

Imbalance of positives, so the constructive feedback gets lost

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Did they hear what I wanted them to hear?

HR & Compliance

2025-06-18 17:57:59 UTC

You rock!

2025-06-18 17:58:00 UTC

I constantly providing feedback! I'm always telling you how amazing you are, to not despair, as we are a team!

2025-06-18 17:58:00 UTC

Disruption of damaging organizational traditions

Received as criticism and defensiveness

2025-06-18 17:58:03 UTC

Sometimes I feel super gaslit. They want more support and when I provide additional support, I'm told I'm micromanaging.

2025-06-18 17:58:04 UTC

Misogyny from two direct reports is making it hard to give feedback, knowing there will be automatic pushback

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No time to sit back and reflect about what worked well and what did not

w/ team members who I have some history specially around challenges not wanting to deal with their response (e.g. this is too much)

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kavitanshah21 — 2025-06-18 17:58:18 UTC

a supervisor who avoids giving feedback regularly and throws it all into a performance evaluation, as a surprise

Worried I will unintentionally trigger bad memories from previous managers.

2025-06-18 17:58:26 UTC

Avoidance

alopezpdx — 2025-06-18 17:58:27 UTC

Finding escape routes to avoid giving hard feedback.

2025-06-18 17:58:34 UTC

Ensuring the recipient of the feedback is in the right mindset to receive feedback - especially constructive feedback

Not being taken seriously

2025-06-18 17:58:35 UTC

Worried about being misunderstood

2025-06-18 17:58:38 UTC

I'm having a great experience and can't identify areas to improve !!

2025-06-18 17:58:45 UTC

Is it a disservice to my supervisor not giving her areas to work on or improve?

2025-06-18 17:58:50 UTC

taking the positives as given and only focusing on the negative

Unconstructive Criticism masking as Candor

2025-06-18 17:58:53 UTC

Power dynamics. Feedback not being taken seriously.

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I worry about retriggering workplace trauma from my direct reports' past bad managers...

already dealing with minimally motivated staff

2025-06-18 17:59:19 UTC

Don't want to repeat the bad experiences I've endured

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Trying to find the "right" way to provide the feedback in an objective manner

kavitanshah21 — 2025-06-18 17:59:31 UTC

feedback triangles -- people don't feel comfortable telling the person themselves, so instead tell their peers or their supervisor

Edy

eramirez306 — 2025-06-18 17:59:33 UTC

cultural discomfort. I think I see feed back is lack of. when it really is potential for growth

Defensiveness

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Are there existing dynamics that are at play that I'm not aware of?

2025-06-18 18:00:44 UTC

Being framed as aggressive

Finding ways to balance incentivizing

2025-06-18 18:02:03 UTC

I always want to give the "carrot" and positive incentives, but I'm most experienced and familiar with enduring the "stick" incentive