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2. The difference for me is that the magnitude of ‘hooking up’ is not realistic to the whole college or young adulthood population. There are a lot of people who aren’t necessarily obsessed with sex. In addition, the podcast doesn’t touch upon those in the LGBTQIA+ community. The similarities are how intense these fears and feelings of intimacy can be. 

3. Since ‘Labor of Love’ often retraces back within the centuries to compare and contrast the idea of ‘hooking up’, there are similarities in how those feelings as mentioned above are still evident and just as strong. The difference is the transparency, communication and education on ‘Hooking Up’. 

women of this kind of labeling by encouraging all women to embrace

their sexuality. 
T/F: men are congratulated by their male peers for sexual conquests.

3.   A difference from this and 
the during the time period of 1940’s/1950’s is that people from then and now start a new relationship very different. Back then teens were following the guidelines of going steady and now people tend to hookup and in some cases not take things slow. 

The video explains how having sex is not as, “bad,” as people make it seem to be. The stigma and stereotypes around sex are so negative and almost intrusive on one’s life that we are taught to just avoid it at all costs. The reading this week focuses on how sex was changed in the era of the beginning of Playboy as more of an activity for men. With this ideology, women at the time were being convinced more to be more free and give themselves more credit for their life and work. I think this is when the double standard was coined. Ironically, when women were trying to revolutionize their sexuality it seems like the double standard was set in place.

I think casual sex is something that is normal for whoever wants to join it. I would never say that everyone should participate in casual sex or that it is the right thing to do (because everyone is different). However, if someone would enjoy casual sex and do it to their own comfort and desires I think it is okay.

When it comes to double standards, I have so many first-hand experiences with this. (I guess I am attracted to ego-macho men). In all seriousness, the double standard amongst men and women definitely exists. I think in each situation it differs. I think that, like in the reading of chapter 6, men has this ideology to be MEN and then have this ideology that women should be just that: WOMEN. I think the double standard comes from our gender roles and expectations that have been set in place for generations. The man chooses his woman for marriage. Simple as that. You don’t see nearly as many women choosing their men for marriage. It’s almost like women are expected to serve the man properly to his expectation to win him over for lifelong monogamy and commitment (if you’re lucky enough to get even that at the bare minimum).

I find it interesting that Playboy could come out with all of this material objectifying women and turning sex into something as casual and smoking a cigarette for men. If men were to display emotion they were considered less masculine. The same applies in the hook up culture today. Although, I believe the double standard exists in both men and women. I think there are times where a man wants to find an emotional connection with a woman but she has been exposed to the objectifying of people for sex. I think that now both men and women use each other for sex. I think they both see sex as casual if they would like to. 

What hasn’t changed is the double standard on slut shaming. A man can sleep with an entire sorority and be seen as Godly but if a woman sleeps with an entire fraternity, she’s disgusting. Huh??? So the woman is now damaged goods but the man is not? I totally do not understand this ideology. I see it having no difference for men or women and their actions.

Chapter 6 focused on how college students in particular think about “hooking up” and the expectations surrounding it. The text adheres to the narrative that women want something different out of hook ups and hope to form long-term relationships and only few wanting casual sexual encounters. They state that women would prefer to have that instead of being considered a prude. It did bring up the fact that this might be because women are considered sluts by their peers if they participated to freely in this new “script” for relationships. 

The video on the other hand brings up some very good points about how women do what to have casual sexual relations, but they are unlikely to have good experiences because the men that more readily participate in hook ups are less likely to care if the women enjoy themselves and the men are more likely to consider the women a slut after. It brought of a very important point that the feelings, and double standard come down to societal distaste of sexually free people that is unwarranted. 

Casual Sex and Interview
One aspect I enjoyed was her interview with Lisa, a sophomore at a State University, which provided a relability regarding norms. This was able to answer the questions in how her responses only reiterated my personal reasons. However, my freshman year ideals differ from hers. My focus was primarily on education and my fear of missing out led to many false ideals of hooking up. As for the video, which is a much more modern view of standards, was very helpful in understanding the casualties of sex and sex at a young age. 

Reflection
Both of these sources confirmed the ideals and thoughts I already had about casual sex and double standards. However, it provided a much more scientific and backed up report on all those thoughts I had. An aspect that changed is how I the man’s perspective on these issues. However, I do wish that both sources talked or touched upon the LGBTQIA+ community more to accurately represent the population. 

2) In my opinion, the difference between the podcast and what life is actually like on a college campus is that a the majority of the college students I know are not going to college just for hooking up and having sex.

3) One difference between the podcast and "Labor of Love" is the difference of communication between the two generations. The styles of asking someone out on a date seems to change generation to generation. 

T/F:  A women can have the same sexual desires as a man can. 

The difference between this and real life? I do not know, maybe this podcast spoke some truth, people in Frats brag about hooking up with girls left and right but at the same time I hear a lot of guys talk about how they like girls and would like to be their “special someone” but are too afraid to pursue that relationship, maybe there are other factors as in losing a friendship or maybe they are afraid being rejected, The difference between this and the book, is the way people define relationships, now people tend to stay in the “talking” stage for a long time before actually “dating” and thats with dates, sex etc, but it never becomes “official” back then people went “steady” and eventually started hooking up, but now you can hookup before getting to know someones name.