https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap en-us 2019-03-11 13:38:28 UTC 2025-10-23 09:49:58 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Lovecoffee.png 1089021 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340071454 From Hemingways and researchers alike, in the artiucle states that the social expectations of "men" would be to be able to ignore trauma from war as well as resistb being shellshocked. This would be impossible as during the war, society as a wholemwould have changed. War's back then would last years, leading for rapid social change especially in more independent women which proved for men to be difficult in being able to showing their traditional masculine traits such as resilience, aggresion, and sexual dominence. This wopuld be impossible to meet as society would always change it's norms meaning that these changes would have eventually happend with without the wars.]]> 2019-03-11 17:13:36 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340071454 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340085872 Trey McVey---the social expectations of the man are that they have to be masculine and violent and they need women around so they can assure their leadership.There can be a masculine female and feminine male in the authors opinion.The society changes and when the male enters back into the society they have to hide their emotions and weaknesses to maintain masculinity.

]]> 2019-03-11 17:39:28 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340085872 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340088009 Cecil Owusu: The social expectations of a man in "Hemingway's guide to masculinity" is that they have to hide their feelings, they have to hide their weaknesses and that they always have to be masculine. This would be impossible to meet as a society because not all men are like this. Some men show their weaknesses and some men cry. Not all men are aggressive and masculine. ]]> 2019-03-11 17:43:29 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340088009 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340093223 Delaney Brown: The social expectations of a man in this time period included ignoring mental trauma, and hiding their weaknesses. Men were also expected to need to go to women for reassurance of their man hood. However, a lot of these tasks were unreasonable and restrictive due them not being close to women for that support. Men having to hide their trauma is also a masculine trait that does not apply to all men. According to the essay, "In a world where masculinity meant resilience, dominance, and sexual aggression there was no room for men who were traumatized by battle in such a constructed gender dichotomy." The expectations are unrealistic as well as not accurate.]]> 2019-03-11 17:51:44 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340093223 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340096507 Izzie: The social expectations of a man according to Hemingway is that they have to hide their feelings. He makes it out to be that men must be masculine in society. Not all men follow Hemingway's guide because they like to show emotion instead. ]]> 2019-03-11 17:57:45 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340096507 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340098287 Daeja Cogdell-- The societal expectations of men that Hemingway supported pressure them to hide their emotions and expect them to always be strong. This expectation of men if harmful because it forces men to try to hide or be ashamed of perfectly human emotions, causing them to not deal with how they feel which can cause more damage. Masculinity in the eyes of hemingway meant that men couldnt deal with their own trauma.]]> 2019-03-11 18:01:09 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340098287 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340100374 The social expectations of what a "man" should/shouldn't be or can/cannot do are volatile, restrictive, and pretty much impossible because too much were expected of them. According to Hemingway men are expected to go through all this strife and trauma in war and in life then are supposed to be able to go on with their lives without psychological troubles or without being mentally weakened. To be "masculine" a man needed to be resilient, dominant, sexually aggressive, etc. Even though that is not the case for most men, that was their role they had to play, but only alone in nature is when a man has true masculinity and can be at peace.]]> 2019-03-11 18:04:56 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340100374 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340100421 Alex Rodriguez- The expectations of a man in society are being engaged with war, violence, and weapons. They are thought to be tough and non-emotional. They are not suppose to cry or show their feelings. They have no weakness and show pure masculinity. These expectations are basically impossible to meet because no man is purely masculine. Everybody cries and shows their feelings. Not all men go to war and know how to use guns and stuff like that. ]]> 2019-03-11 18:05:02 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340100421 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340100428 The expectations are to do hard tasks that a woman couldn't do or tasks that require for muscle work. Like the essay says, boxing, bullfighting and hunting giant fish. These expectations can be volatile, restrictive and impossible to meet because not every boy wants to do masculine activities. In a 2005 article published in the "Journal of Clinical Psychology"  Dr. Kupers says "toxic masculinity is more than an amalgam of socially constructed male traits such as the need for domination." Meaning that because of people's social toxicness and expectations men feel pressured to do these things, even if they don't want to. These expectations could be restrictive and impossible to meet. ]]> 2019-03-11 18:05:03 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340100428 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340101195 Javier Lopez: Social Expectations for men in "Hemingway's guide to masculinity" is that men cant express they re feeling, and they always have to be masculine. Men also need woman around them to show them therye leadership. This would be nearly impossible to meet because society is always changing.]]> 2019-03-11 18:06:30 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340101195 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340101361 Korayma RojasThe societal expectations of a "man" are that men have to be masculine and tough. War and psychological trauma is never directly related addressed, men just have to live with the trauma.  ]]> 2019-03-11 18:06:47 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340101361 079077 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340102696 It is impossible for men to meet what society wants because they constantly have to step in the role not only a father sometimes but as a mother as well. Men have to live with the physical trauma that is related and usually addressed to war. Men constantly told to hide their emotions and the way that they feel. Men are raised to always defend themselves and their loved ones if they have any.]]> 2019-03-11 18:09:06 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340102696 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340103153 The expectation of a man is to be masculine and brave. Men are supposed to hid their feelings because fear is considered weakness.  According to Refract Mag, "This was an era when psychological trauma was equated with weakness". The expectations of masculinity are very dangerous, hiding the truth can also effect ones mental.]]> 2019-03-11 18:10:05 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340103153 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340103216 society execpts men to be rough and masculine and often men are expected to strong they are also told to hid emotions and that they must always be strong and can never show truefeeling with ways on them and can lead to problems]]> 2019-03-11 18:10:11 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340103216 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340105380 Hassan Uddin - The social expectations of a man is to show masculinity and dominance. Men are usually percieved as strong and usually hide their weakness like crying, they can also be very aggressive. This would not be possible in a society because not all men are all strong, or can hide their weakness as others can. ]]> 2019-03-11 18:14:18 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340105380 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340114219 The social expectations of a man is to be masculine, strong, brave, and insensitive. Men are expected to provide for their family, and be dominant and take care of his family. Their not aloud to show they have feelings or show their weaknesses. These expectations are hard to meet for men because not all men are strong or brave, they can’t hide their feelings, or not have fear, men have feelings, and sometimes they are weak and scared they have fear,   and deep down men are sensitive. A man cant satisfy society with all of there social norms, it’s impossible for a man to meet these expectations and it’s not right.]]> 2019-03-11 18:31:00 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340114219 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340362533 Society's expectation of a man is that they must be strong, dominant, the money maker, dominant,etc.  These expectations can be harmful because little boys who might have a big heart, will be harassed into this ideal of masculinity. Hemingway spoke of how some forms of violence are more harmful than others. War is more violent, less pure than hunting. These ideals can impliment the idea of that there is a scale to violence, but with no line of stopping. Boys are told growing up that they must be a man, but what does being a man do to their psyche?  -G]]> 2019-03-12 12:19:08 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340362533 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340366252 Tyler Owens - The societal expectations of a man are that they are supposed to be strong and dominant throughout life. Men are not expected to show emotion or weakness at any time for any reason as written in the text, "...men are compelled to mitigate their emotions, hide their weaknesses, and deny that they have an abundance of either or else risk losing their manhood." This makes it more likely that men will have emotions built up inside themselves and this could result in men struggling emotionally with no help. This is what makes these expectations unrealistic; men are expected to not show emotion but not showing emotion can have a very bad impact on a person.]]> 2019-03-12 12:27:44 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340366252 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340367009 Hadaiba Ahad- The expectation of a man is that they don't have emotion, their mental illness are weak, and that they are the one to take care of everything. This is volitile because men can change and to meet up to these is hard. Restrictive, because as the essay said that in war that mental illness was showed as cowardice and it evolved over time that men don't express their emotions because the thought of masculinity being shattered easily. BAsically holding back is impossible because its all restricting how men feel.]]> 2019-03-12 12:29:20 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340367009 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340368641 Katelyn Thompson- Society's expectations are that men should hide their emotions and hide their weakness. Along with that they are expected to be aggressive and dominant, including sexually aggressive. These expectations teach men to have a difficult time acknowledge psychological imbalance. Men are taught that they shouldn't "cry like a girl" which causes a build up of emotions that can lead to mental illness according to "Hemingway's Guide to Masculinity". After the wars, many soldiers were traumatized but because of toxic masculinity there was no place for these man to turn. What the soldiers are going through can be defined as a mental illness and with out proper care it could have dangerous affects and may even lead to suicidal thoughts. The society creates a toxic environment by expecting men to not have emotions and so they hide what they feel in fear of their ego as a man being destroyed. ]]> 2019-03-12 12:33:23 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340368641 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340369557 Alex Tovar - The expectations that men face are unjust as you have to be masculine and tough in order to be a "Man". They were also in a time in which "psychological trauma was equated with weakness" as stated in the reading. This trauma caused many problems making men become alcoholics and live an aimlessness lifestyle. This is impossible to meet as this would cause many problems to men not only that but we are in times in which society is constantly changing. ]]> 2019-03-12 12:35:19 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340369557 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340370688 The social expectations of a man are to be dominant, resilient and strong. These expectations can be "volatile, restrictive or impossible to meet" due to the fact that these expectations can have men feeling vulnerable or pressured to meet these standards. They could also make men feel trapped like they can not show any sign of emotion in order to be masculine. According to "Hemingway's Guide to Masculinity", Hemingway states that men are compelled to mitigate their emotions, hide their weaknesses, and deny that they have an abundance of either or else risk losing their manhood. Men should not have to hide their emotions or weaknesses in order to have "manhood" or masculinity. We all have emotions and weaknesses, men or women, but that does not define who we are. - Kayla Chickadel]]> 2019-03-12 12:37:39 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340370688 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340372013 The social expectations are nearly impossible to meet since it's all based on the sense of going to headfirst and not having any emotions affect you and your work.-Kevin Ortiz-Ocampo]]> 2019-03-12 12:40:02 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340372013 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340372663 Geffen Stanhope - Previous societal expectations are different from today's and were much more demanding upon a man. It was widely accepted that a man should keep emotions and pain to himself, be an overall dominant person, and act with powerful and swift intentions. It is not through a vacuum that these traits developed but rather they developed through an evolutionary process. In the academic essay it was brought forth that a man in war who showed mental illness was disregarded as weak or a coward this at one point was beneficial to an earlier man who showed no fear in the eyes of danger. The controversy however, is that as civilization developed, this necessity to be overtly masculine is not needed as now we live in a world of luxury and in this world we understand that these expectations set upon a man are near impossible to fill and could be detrimental to the will of a male to go against the grain; to show emotion and to make sure that problems are carefully thought through instead of tackling them with brutish force.]]> 2019-03-12 12:41:09 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340372663 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340428917 The Social expectations of a man according to the article are for men to be resilient, dominent,and aggressive. Men usually would have to hide their post traumatic shock disorder when returning from war to broaden their masculine appearance. In today's society, men would usually have to go through many therapy sessions instead of just hiding it. This shows how much society has changed since then, and shows how much awareness for mental health has grown. This also shows why these expectations would be impossible too meet in today's society. - Elian Marquez-Lira]]> 2019-03-12 14:21:10 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340428917 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340432095 Rachel Gray - The social expectations, compared to today, would be considered to be extreme on a man in previous years. Men in the past were supposed to be emotionless. Hemingway's novels helped push this ideal on men seeing as his audience consisted of mostly men. "His novels of men boxing, bullfighting, hunting giant fish, and battling each other in war have perpetuated the concept of masculinity as an ideal that must be achieved through trial and tribulation, rather than exist as an inherent trait." (Reid, B.) Being masculine comes from pain and endurance instead of being born with it. These standards are almost impossible to meet because it's just not humane. When those who came back from war mentally ill, they weren't considered to be "men." Hemingway portrayed male characters as those who never show weakness or problems. They are always aggressive and dangerous. The entirety of this could be a result of how he was raised. In his childhood, he had to live almost an opposite life. In evolving culture, it has put a stamp on society how men are supposed to act and treat others. These standards are focused on certain levels and are restricted to certain standards. In society, men can't express themselves as freely as some would like. Even now, these standards men are chasing are nearly impossible, but many still try to chase them. Then, they pass these standards down to their children keeping the loophole we are stuck in. ]]> 2019-03-12 14:26:24 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340432095 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340432459 The societal expectations of a man is that men have to resilient, dominant and sexually aggressive. These expectations are impossible to meet because society is constantly having social changes, whether it's with modern urbanization or feminism. It's very hard for men to go against the social norms. If men tried to be dominant then they are called out for it, they are also expected to hide in their emotions and not show any emotion in public. Men can be vulnerable to little things that society puts against them such as referring to them as girl. In the article the author says "Like Barnes and the rest of Hemingway’s former soldiers, men in the 1920's struggled to meet traditional criteria – resilience, aggression, and sexual dominance" This shows that men are expected to act a certain way while still taking into consideration that society constantly changing which is nearly impossible due to the fact that it's hard to figure out where they would fit into society's expectations -Aamirah Alford]]> 2019-03-12 14:27:04 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340432459 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340436624 Chrisandrea Henry- The social expectations for men are impossible to meet. The social expectations for men are to have no emotion and be strong. For example in the article, "Hermingway's guide to masculinity", it said "men are compelled to mitigate their emotions, hide their weaknesses, and deny that they have an abundance of either or else risk losing their manhood". Basically saying men should not show their emotions but hide it. It's impossible because not all people are the same. Not all people can hide their feeling because their sensitive and emotional.]]> 2019-03-12 14:33:35 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340436624 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340447326 The social expectation for men is to be dominate,resilient, and aggressive.  These are nearly impossible to reach because if you are dominant it creates a complex where a aggressive dominant man can't be resilient.  When you are resilient means you take failure and move on, but if you are aggressive if you fail you don't take that lightly which contradicts the stereotypes.]]> 2019-03-12 14:50:25 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340447326 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340447953 Society expectations for men is that they should be emotionless and hide their weaknesses; these expectations can be volatile, restrictive and impossible to meet. These expectations can be seen as volatile and restrictive because they want men to not show their emotions as they can be seen as more feminine, which means that they are losing their masculinity. The expectations can be as impossible to meet because humans have emotions, which can be impossible for men to hide their emotions since they are only suppressing it. Statements that people tell when men show emotion, they are seen as a girl and are told to act like a man (Reid). This can then support how these expectations are causing an adverse effect on men and are convinced that acting a certain behavior will make them less masculine and more feminine. - Chelsee Castro]]> 2019-03-12 14:51:33 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340447953 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340541367 The societal expectations for men is for them to be big, strong leaders, and to be emotionless. This is not always true and honestly makes no sense because every human has emotion and expresses it. It should not be seen as feminine to do so. Also, these assumptions lead to the conclusion that women should be the opposite when there are woman leaders in the world.]]> 2019-03-12 17:29:49 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340541367 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340557719 The social expectations of a man have changed throughout time becoming less dependent on a man. The social expectations of a man are to be resilient, dominant, and aggressive according to the article. Men are supposed to keep their emotions and pain to themselves. Men who are told not to ¨cry like a girl" have a built up of emotions that leads to mental illness stated in ¨Hemingway´s Guide to Masculinity¨. In the article men who showed mental illness in war were viewed as weak and the men have no one to turn to. The expectations for men can be volatile, restrictive or impossible to meet because the expectations can pressure men and be too stressful. Society however is becoming less dependent on men to be seen as resilient, dominant, and aggressive so this would add to the idea that it is impossible for men to meet these standards as they are dying out. ]]> 2019-03-12 17:57:22 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340557719 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340685587 The social expectations for men can be quite absurd and stereotype for men can be quite annoying. The idea requiring men to have masculinity is just unrealistic. As a man to live in a world where i'm expected to be aggressive and emotionless? In my opinion that can be very difficult in todays generation because how times are and how they have changed. Some people grow up in different households where in most cases they don't have a father figure to grow up with and learn those masculine things a man should do. In other cases the mother plays that father and mother figure role but yet she's doing both roles and she's not emotionless or have to be big and strong which is why is believe the stereotype is very absurd and unlikely. - Davinson Ariza ]]> 2019-03-13 01:35:37 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340685587 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340980345 There is a societal expectation for men to be resistant to negative emotions while taking in all the hardships. There is a desire for men to be completely independent and to always help themselves, be strong, and being aggressive. Many more would be attributed to these traits as being an emotionless robot that can do everything. It's impossible to meet because just not everybody can handle those expectations. Some men need to express emotions and have help mentally and physically. There is a very huge reason why the vast majority of suicides, nearing 80%, are committed by men. Humans aren't made to take in such mental stress and burden without cracking. Some men also are passive and kind, rendering the idea of aggressive and tough mute. It's impossible to expect ALL men to take on the challenge of baring these traits while they simply weren't made to do so. - Michael Cline]]> 2019-03-13 16:58:58 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340980345 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340985422 Azhir Jones: The expectation of a man is to be masculine and brave, according to the article. Men are supposed to hid their feelings because fear is considered weakness. According to Refract Mag, "This was an era when psychological trauma was equated with weakness". The expectations of masculinity are very dangerous. For an example, hiding the truth can effect ones mental state of being and cause depression.]]> 2019-03-13 17:08:27 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340985422 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340987727 The societal expectations of a "man" and how  these expectations are "volatile, restrictive and impossible to meet" is that men can have those expectations of what it is to be man. In Hemingway case men boxing and hunting were things that men would do therefore he would consider himself a man. He was so conflicted with his own self because his mom would dress him in girl cloths which he would soon be conflicted by because in the back of his mind it would make him not feel masculine.  This idea of being a man and wanting to meet those standards is something that is very biased based because a man can comment " oh you're not a man because you do this" but why does his opinion  matter all because he is man and a man is suppose to be up for those standards. ]]> 2019-03-13 17:12:13 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/340987727 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/341001481 Isiah Joseph- The social expectation of a man in this society is to be mostly masculine and always dominate in nature. Men are always supposed to be head haunch o, strong, with lots of masculine energy; providing for family has always been for "Men" and never for women they usually stay at home and take care of the household. These expectations aren't feasible for everybody or rather every man cant always live up to this. "Boys will be Boys"is not a fair term because at the end of the day we still have feelings and feel things that happen to us to but we have to mask it because we are in fact "Men".  ]]> 2019-03-13 17:33:37 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/341001481 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/341006253 Jonathan Rodriguez; There are numerous expectations for men and are often seen as "restrictive and impossible to meet", true as it may be it is still it stands as the 'guide to masculinity'. In the case of Hemingway he actively tried to conform to this idealism. It, coupled with his past practice of gender fluidity, caused him to become conflicted as he later came to resent his mother as a result. He came so close to the idealism of masculinity that some would say that he was on the border of parodying it. This is how Hemingway was viewed as too masculine, he exhibited toxic masculinity. He would hunt, fish, and even shadowbox.    

]]> 2019-03-13 17:41:42 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/341006253 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/341164329 Danvi Pandey- The societal expectations for men is to be strong, emotionless, aggressive, and dominating. For instance, in the article, "Hemingway's guide to masculinity", it stated, " men are compelled to mitigate their emotions, hide their weaknesses, and deny that they have an abundance of either or else risk losing their manhood." It is basically telling us us that men shouldn't show their emotions. Which I think is absolutely impossible because no one can just live with not expressing themselves. Some men usually tend to hide their feelings and they don't communicate well enough. Whereas, they should be able to open up and not keep their emotions hidden. ]]> 2019-03-14 03:56:31 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/341164329 083710 https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/342746863 The social expectations of a man are resilience, aggression, and sexual dominance. Resilience could not be held up, because during post war men were experiencing psychological trauma. Since men had to be resilient they did not deal with it, and instead they drank alcohol. The men also did not concede their mental illnesses, because that showed a weakness of character. Aggression also could not be held up, because after the use of gums in the war there was no more fighting. The men had to remain helpless from the bullets and bombs. Sexual dominance couldn't hold up, because during the war while all the men were gone women had to do the jobs that them men usually took care of. When the men got back from the war the women were more independent.   ]]> 2019-03-19 09:20:35 UTC https://padlet.com/feeley/kytzc7narlap/wish/342746863