Teen Advice: "TEENTELLSTEENS" by Fiona Petite https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r Brought to you by Teen guru, Fiona Nicole! en-us 2016-07-21 03:10:14 UTC 2023-04-11 19:14:58 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet-assets.s3.amazonaws.com/icons/Apple.png Hello, welcome fellow teens to my blog, "TeenTellsTeens!" In case you didn't know, my name is Fiona Nicole. My goal in life is to make a difference in my world through even the littlest ways, and this is the reason why I do this teen Q&A lifeline every Wednesday. This evening, at 7 o’clock (as I write it is 6:50pm,) I will respond to the most voted three questions of the week. At the moment, I am still receiving votes for questions. In 10 minutes, you will not be able to make any more votes, and then I will answer the most wanted inquiries live today, so please cast your votes now! fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736126 2016-07-21 03:21:35 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736126 UPDATE:   fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736158 Alright, now we can start our live Q&A! 



Read this Left to right,. The BOLD text is Fiona Nicole's answer and the REGULAR text is the person's question.]]> 2016-07-21 03:22:39 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736158 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736233 Hello Fiona Nicole,
I am 16, but already a high school drop-out. My parents are not supportive, and have verbally abused me for as long as I have remembered. The only thing that has held me together was my Christian faith. One day, as I was walking down an alley, this strange man approached me and the next moment there I was, laying on the hard cement, with my virginity lost. I did the pregnancy test and I got positive results. If my parents find out I am pregnant, they literally will kill me, and I don't know who to talk to since I do not have any friends. As I am a strong Christian, I do not want an abortion, I would like to keep the baby. Please help me out, what can I do?
- Brianna H.

]]> 2016-07-21 03:24:30 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736233 Answer:                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Hello Brianna, I am sincerely sorry to hear about what happened to you and how your parents treat you. Before I say anything else, I would like to emphasize, please don’t be afraid to ask for help. Rape is a serious crime, and there are people out there who will help you. Call the 24 hour crisis line, (604) 872-8212, to report the sexual assault you have experience. You must be immediately tested for sexually transmitted infections, as you do not know the health status of this man who assaulted your. Afterwards, in viewing the links to rape crisis centres and women shelters in your area, please go to the one closest to you if no one at home can offer you support after this terrible occurrence. Moral support helps most through situations like the one you are experiencing yourself, but even without your parents or friends there for you, receiving help from your local church, school, and relatives are always available options. Please talk to an adult you can trust, like your youth pastor or a teacher you feel comfortable speaking with. Your experience is one not to be ashamed of, this is NOT your fault. By all means, do not blame yourself for anything. See a school counsellor or youth worker to let out how you feel, they will listen you, and will not tell anything to anyone else, but there are exceptions, like abuse or assault. This person cannot keep rape a secret, and will help you tell your parents if you have difficulty speaking to them. fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736273 2016-07-21 03:25:55 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736273 If you are no longer allowed to live with your parents, seek a place to spend the night, like your local women’s shelter or youth safe house. There, you can stay with the comfort of safety from troubles, and a place of temporary refuge. Speak with you counsellor for other housing options if it comes to that point.  As you mentioned that your pregnancy test results were positive, this means you are highly likely to be pregnant. I recommend paying a visit as soon as possible to the nearest health clinic. There, they will help you decide what to do with your baby, giving you more information, leading you to doctors and specialists who can help you. As you will be told at the clinic, foster-care, adoption, and motherhood are the other options besides abortion, as you are not for that. I will be praying for you and your child, and hope for the best! Feel free to email me if you have any other questions! fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736298 2016-07-21 03:26:35 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736298 Brianna, for more helpful information and access to the information I had used to answer your question, please visit these sites:                                                                   http://www.sexualityandu.ca/sexual-health/pregnancy                   http://www.rapereliefshelter.bc.ca/give/get-help/free-legal-clinic/free-legal-clinic-vancouver-rape-relief-womens-shelter                                                                                       http://kidshealth.org/en/parents/teen-pregnancy.html#                                                      http://www.pregnancy-info.net/teenage_pregnancy.html                                                 For health support and places to find help, please visit these sites:                                     Rape Crisis Center http://www.casac.ca/node/47                                                                                                     Teen Mom Programs- http://www.nsnh.bc.ca/youth_pregnant.php                                                   Teen/Women’s Shelter               http://www.bc211.ca/pdf/shelterlist/shelterlist.pdf                                                        Action Canada for  Sexual Health and Rights                    http://www.sexualhealthandrights.ca/ fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736356 2016-07-21 03:27:56 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736356 5,890 votes || Question #2 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736576 2016-07-21 03:31:13 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736576 3,547 votes || Question #3: fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736606 2016-07-21 03:31:47 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116736606 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116738681 Hello Fiona Nicole,
Today at school, the boy I like grabbed my arm and shook it. He and his friends were laughing at my arm because apparently “it jiggled like marmalade jelly.” I am aware of my obesity, and the excess fat I have on my body. Unlike other girls with my condition, I feel completely comfortable and secure with the body I have. Although I am fine with the skin I am in, I still am bullied for the size my body. The fact that people bully me hurts me more than anything. This boy has been teasing me because of my weight for about a month now. He has only called me names like “BIG MAC,” and poked my arm once. Today was the first time he has done anything physical. I am not sure about his intentions behind what he does, as he is usually nicer to me at school during classes we have together. I am worried about this becoming worst, but he isn’t seriously harassing me or anything. Even though, I want this to stop. How can I get him to stop teasing me? (P.S. I would not consider this bullying though.)
- Mria K.

]]> 2016-07-21 04:06:51 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116738681 Answer:                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Hello Mria, I am happy to know you have good self-esteem and love the skin you’re in! I admire the acceptance you have of yourself and your confidence! I am not sure if you know the difference between teasing and bullying. The seriousness of the teasing depends upon the intention of the person teasing and how the victim reacts. Everyone teases others, including myself. Most of the time, teasing is good-natured. How the teasing is perceived by the victim changes the whole game. If they respond back teasingly, or remain neutral about it, there is not a problem, but if they are really offended or take it in as verbal harassment, that is bad and a completely different story. Keeping the latter in mind, teasing can lead into bullying. fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116742838

]]> 2016-07-21 04:52:47 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116742838 Back to your question, if this boy decides to tease you again, respond either by going along with the joke by saying something like “Oh ya, if I’m a BIG MAC, does that make you a French fry,” or confront him and say in similar words “I do not like the way you joke about my body. I love my body, and if you have a problem with that, fine, but don’t tease me like that because I do not like it.” I know this may be hard, with the extra nervousness of being around someone you like, but you need to take action. Usually, if you do either of the two, the teasing will continue to be good-natured and ongoing between you two or stop completely. You want this teasing to stop, so if this light-hearted teasing goes on, let him know you are not happy with it, and most likely he will quit his actions. If the teasing becomes worst and he begins to hurt you more, both verbally and physically, then he is bullying you with most likely malicious intentions. As soon as possible, tell a trusted adult at school, church, youth group, or at home about the bullying, and they will help you stop the bullying from continuing. Even if the teasing is not supposed to be offensive, joking about one’s body is not okay. If the victim is okay with the whole exchange, depending on the circumstances, technically this is okay, but on my personal opinion, no one should ridicule you for how you look, but instead accept you for who you are. True friends and nice people do so, so my extra, not completely relevant tip for you is to choose who you hang out with wisely! Good luck with that boy! fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116742999 2016-07-21 04:55:12 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116742999 For more detailed information, here are the sites I used to answer your question:                                                                   How to stop teasing-                                  https://www.quora.com/How-do-I-deal-with-teasing                                                                                                 Information on Teasing and Bullying- https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/thinking-about-kids/201010/teasing-and-bullying-boys-and-girls fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116743095 2016-07-21 04:57:04 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116743095 7,358 votes || Question #1 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116743226 2016-07-21 04:59:34 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116743226 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116743284 Hello Fiona Nicole,
A couple of days ago, my girlfriend dumped me after cheating on me with my best friend at a bush party I did not know she went to. I don’t have school, since it is the summer, but I usually go out to the court and shoot some hoops. For some reason, for the past few days, I have been stuck in my bed. I am very confused. Last month, I was incredibly happy, with girlfriend, popularity and all, until recently. Now, I feel really mopey and super tired, and this is surprising, as I am an athletic person. After watching Marley and Me, a movie I have repeatedly watched as a child, I was bawling my eyes out. I am always so sad and for the first time considered suicide. I know both people I love most in the world besides my family, my girlfriend and best friend, have betrayed me, but I feel so unhappy and worst than I should. It is not cool for a guy like me to overreact. What is happening to me?
- Ryder D.

]]> 2016-07-21 05:00:37 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116743284 Answer:                                                                                                                                   Hello Ryder, Wow, life has been pretty rough on you lately, but everyone has their ups and downs. At the moment, your life has gone downhill, and you perhaps are feeling very down. It is normal to feel sad or unhappy at times, and right now, there is a source occurring within you that may be playing a huge part of your sudden emotion. A life-changing phenomenon is happening live within you, and most know this as puberty! You probably knew that already, but a result of puberty is your changing hormones. The changing of hormones causes mood swings, which is self explanatory, but in case you didn’t know, your mood changes constantly from one end of the spectrum to the other. fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744836 2016-07-21 05:46:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744836 Feeling completely happy one day, then as blue as raindrops is totally normal, but now we need to look at the difference between sadness and depression. You have shown some symptoms of depression, but you could just be really sad. Depression is a long-lived low mood and can be caused by life events like the one you have recently experienced, and on the other hand, sadness is a short-lived low emotion. What happened to you occurred a few days ago, so right at this moment, it may to be able to tell if you have depression. If this dark feeling goes away soon, then you have just gone through a major mood swing, but if you still feel very low, go get help. You must speak with a trusted adult, then go to a doctor, who will diagnose you with depression or assure you your mental health is all good. Remember, only a doctor can actually give you the diagnosis of depression. The doctor will do so through gathering results of the patient’s symptoms, signs, and written surveys. The process of diagnosis is unique compared to a physical exam, but there is nothing to worry about. I hope you feel better soon! fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744861 2016-07-21 05:47:12 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744861 Ryder, for more information, visit the sources of my answer:                                                               How to control mood swings-  https://www.verywell.com/help-your-teen-control-mood-swings-2610554                             Difference between depression and sadness- http://www.differencebetween.com/difference-between-depression-and-vs-sadness/                                                             How doctors diagnose depression- http://www.psyweb.com/articles/depression/how-to-diagnose-depression fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744888 2016-07-21 05:47:42 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744888 Well, beautiful people, I guess this is the end of today's live blog entry of this Q&A. Thank you all for your questions and votes! You may begin to submit your questions and cast votes for next week. fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744912
Catch ya next time!
-Fions Nicole :)]]> 2016-07-21 05:48:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/116744912 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117036559 Fiona Nicole - Here to help you]]> 2016-07-27 00:55:29 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117036559 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117036930 2016-07-27 01:00:28 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117036930 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117037066 2016-07-27 01:02:45 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117037066 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117047802 2016-07-27 03:35:14 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117047802 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117047983 2016-07-27 03:39:58 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117047983 fionaoofficial https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117048605 2016-07-27 03:54:09 UTC https://padlet.com/fionaoofficial/kwt7wtcwe1r/wish/117048605