Connections over Compliance Notes by Michael Perry https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections Hey Team! Here is where we can plug in any takeaways to share with each other. This will be an ongoing thing we will do as we read. I want us to be able to not only learn from the book but also learn from each other's perspectives. If you are already reading ahead, no worries! Just start off where you are or share some of the things you have been learning about. en-us 2021-01-08 19:50:08 UTC 2021-01-27 13:07:18 UTC hello@padlet.com Author's Preface #1 mperry65 https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1080894142 One thing that stuck out to me was the bottom paragraph on page ix. It discusses how true discipline begins with an adult who has a brain that feels safe, calm and still. It also says how the behaviors we should be giving the most attention to are the behaviors that we want to sprout and flourish. This shift in focus can be difficult for some because of their own mindset. 

This is also a great reminder that I need to check myself when I discipline my own kids. 

It also made me think about how I was disciplined and how it impacts how I discipline at school and at home. ]]> 2021-01-12 21:53:22 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1080894142 Author's Preface #1 cconway16 https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082703373 The middle paragraph on page X is what stuck out to me. It says "The most traumatic aspect of all disasters involve the shattering of human connections. And this is especially true for children..."

This paragraph reminded me of one of the main ideas I studied with my staff last year when we read Help for Billy. Relationships and connections have to be at the forefront of our school and our classrooms for our kids to truly be able to feel safe and be successful. Many of our students have been harmed by those who love them in the past and have issues trusting adults. Some of most challenging students do not open up right away and it takes a long time to make a connection with them. It has me pondering what I can do to help my teachers learn more patience and understand it is a journey to truly connect and build a relationship with kids that have been through so much trauma, it is not something that happens on day one or over night. The way they handle outburst or behaviors goes a long way in creating these connections and building these relationships.]]> 2021-01-13 12:34:47 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082703373 "Recovery from trauma and neglect is also all about relationships- rebuilding trust, regaining confidence, returning to a sense of security, and reconnecting to love." https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082834331 2021-01-13 13:17:30 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082834331 We also need to dive deeper into racism... https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082838317 2021-01-13 13:18:42 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082838317 The top part of page xiv reminds me so much of my nephew. He was in the foster system and lived in 7 homes during his first 7 years. https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082840629 2021-01-13 13:19:24 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082840629 "The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth." https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082843981 Probably my favorite quote in here...]]> 2021-01-13 13:20:24 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1082843981 You had me at.... scripe4 https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1084624417 "Children are the most honest barometers of the health of our communities.  Their disruptive behavior is a call to action to all of us- to tend to the broken links and suffering with compassion and wisdom." 

]]> 2021-01-13 19:14:38 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1084624417 "Emotions are contagious and brain-aligned relational discipline will need to begin with the adults." scripe4 https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1084796092 2021-01-13 19:53:56 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1084796092 pg. xii mperry65 https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1084817996 "This is the adult shift that we must lead for our disciplinary practices to be equitable, non-biased and steeped in social justice for all students. These protocols are not scripted social and emotional curriculums or after-thoughts; rather they are living practices that are embedded in every moment of our school day."]]> 2021-01-13 19:59:28 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1084817996 Chapter 1 cconway16 https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1129680331 Although I have heard it before when she points out the word discipline comes from the word disciple which means to teach always catches my ear. Anytime a student spends time with me my goal is for them to learn something, often a replacement behavior. The goal behind our "discipline" needs to be for the students to learn not to be punished. I also found it interesting on page 9 how she brought up Mississippi. I have a teacher who use to teach in Mississippi and the other day she told me she wanted her student to spend 30 minutes staring at a wall as a punishment. This lead to a good conversation between her and I about discipline and teaching replacement behaviors.]]> 2021-01-27 02:38:46 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1129680331 "Relationships provide the oxygen for connection." Boom! mperry65 https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1131357809 2021-01-27 13:07:01 UTC https://padlet.com/mperry65/Connections/wish/1131357809