https://padlet.com/ayxept/lifesamovie I'll write it all down read it out loud, again and again en-us 2019-11-03 12:23:15 UTC 2019-11-03 16:07:05 UTC hello@padlet.com https://padlet.net/icons/png/1f39e.png ayxept https://padlet.com/ayxept/lifesamovie/wish/405907309 Sometimes your eyes are opened to something that you've never really taken an interest about and then you realise how privileged you are to have not gone through that experience. 

But also some part of you dreads the feeling of not having gone through that experience. It would have made you so much more resilient. So much more sense. But you can't turn back the clock, can you? ]]> 2019-11-03 15:23:06 UTC https://padlet.com/ayxept/lifesamovie/wish/405907309 ayxept https://padlet.com/ayxept/lifesamovie/wish/405910957 We think you're a Slytherin Primary and a Burned Gryffindor Secondary.

Slytherin Primaries prioritize their own selves and loved ones first. Slytherins don't feel guilty or selfish about this-- they feel righteous and moral. The most important thing is to look after your own. Abandoning or hurting one of your own is the worst thing you can do.

A Burned Gryffindor Secondary might want to be honest, straight-forward, and authentic, but they feel like they are too scared, weak, or defensive. Acting with authenticity and purpose is the right way to achieve their goals, but Burned Gryffindors know that's not going to work within their capabilities or situation. So they take other paths and use other tools-- maybe a Hufflepuff's slow and steady dedication, a Slytherin's flexibility, or a Ravenclaw's collection of skills and tools.

You also may have a Hufflepuff Primary Model. You may have a Slytherin Secondary Model.

Hufflepuff House is the house of fairness and loyalty, and Hufflepuffs use those values to help them determine what the right thing to do is. If you model Hufflepuff Primary, you also value these things and like to live by them. You probably have a community, culture, or group that's really important to you-- but you wouldn't feel guilty for abandoning your community and its values in the service of other, higher priorities (whether that's sticking by your chosen family, following what your logic tells you, or crusading after a cause that calls to you). But you'd like to value the communal loyalty and even-handness of a Hufflepuff. It's good, solid, and satisfying. It would be nice if you could stick with people and help those in need-- but you have other, more important things to do sometimes, and you don't feel bad about that.

Slytherin secondary is the house of making it up as you go along. Slytherins find it better to keep their options open and see how things progress before making a decision, and tend to be quick on their feet. Whether or not they enjoy literal improv, they take their cues from the people around them, and respond to them and the situation on its own terms. This doesn’t feel dishonest or fake, it feels playful, effective, and adaptive.

There’s also a Slytherin secondary neutral state, which is a tell-it-like-it-is realist underneath the flexibility that’s aware of the layers in the performances. Sometimes confused with the Gryffindor secondary, the Slytherin secondary is the immovable object to the Gryffindor secondary’s unstoppable force. It tends to come out when a Slytherin feels safe, at home, or particularly apathetic.

If you feel like instead of a neutral state, there’s another method underneath your adaptive flexibility, then you might model Slytherin secondary. It's something you put on when it's useful, and take off when you're done.

If you model Slytherin secondary, then you are more likely to pull this skill out of your sleeve when you’re caught off-guard and need to think fast. It’s useful and maybe even fun, but it doesn’t feel genuine and true to your core. It feels a little like pretending.]]> 2019-11-03 15:43:06 UTC https://padlet.com/ayxept/lifesamovie/wish/405910957