TDV 2021 by Tessa Kuipers https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf en-us 2021-06-14 16:23:05 UTC 2025-03-16 08:21:53 UTC hello@padlet.com What is power? What do you think of when you think of power? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605515478 2021-06-14 16:24:54 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605515478 Is power good or bad? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605515609 2021-06-14 16:24:58 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605515609 Does having more power mean someone has less? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605516081 2021-06-14 16:25:09 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605516081 Should there be equal power in a relationship? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605516834 2021-06-14 16:25:28 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605516834 What is dominance? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605517192 2021-06-14 16:25:38 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605517192 Is dominance good or bad? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605518228 2021-06-14 16:26:01 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605518228 Should dominance be part of a relationship? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605518475 2021-06-14 16:26:07 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605518475 Are power and dominance the same thing? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605518962 2021-06-14 16:26:19 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605518962 What is empowerment? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605520715 2021-06-14 16:27:07 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605520715 What does being empowered look like to you? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605520879 2021-06-14 16:27:11 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605520879 Should empowerment be in a relationship? Who should be empowered in the relationship? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605521194 2021-06-14 16:27:19 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605521194 Does being empowered effect your partner? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605521898 2021-06-14 16:27:38 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605521898 Tik Tok about Healthy Communication tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605543870 https://www.tiktok.com/@anastasiaaantonova?lang=en]]> 2021-06-14 16:37:07 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605543870 Partner tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605605463 High self esteem
Accountability
Understanding- if you don't want to talk, they respect that. They also understand your emotions
Trust and security
Loyalty- they're there for you when needed
Respect to eachother and to your family and friends
Regulation- they can control their anger and emotions
Safety- they don't want to hurt you]]> 2021-06-14 17:03:57 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605605463 You tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605605571 Regulation/ you're in control
Trust in your partner
Happiness
You're comfortable being yourself
Safe
You're supportive of your partner and supported by your partner
You're motivated by your partner
Freedom

]]> 2021-06-14 17:04:00 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605605571 The Relationship tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605605629 Delight and happiness
Shared interests
Respect and interest in your hobbies- you guys are interested in learning more about hobbies or interests
Cooperation and understanding
Respect for your unique culture and background]]> 2021-06-14 17:04:01 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605605629 Partner tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605606036 Doesn't like your friends and encourages you not to be around them (isolation)
Fighting- gets physical or keeps picking fights (when is conflict OK and when is it not?)
Disrespectful
Arguing unnecessarily
Not respecting your boundaries
Not respecting if you end the relationship
Feels insecure and is clingy
Love bombing- moves really quickly really fast!
Personality switch- they go from nice to mean
They say bad things about their ex when it's their fault

]]> 2021-06-14 17:04:12 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605606036 You tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605606163 You stick around and hope they change
You stay in the relationship when you know it's over
You don't let the other person break up with you
You are being toxic in the relationship
You're not respecting boundaries
You're trying to be in control of the other person
You don't trust yourself- you might be looking outside of the relationship (interested in someone else or an ex)
You keep justifying their actions to others
You feel like you need to change to make them happy
You're insecure in the relationship]]> 2021-06-14 17:04:15 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605606163 The Relationship tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605606229 Constant communication
Lack of boundaries
Lack of trust- your partner is not OK with you having friends of the gender you are attracted to. Or you're not OK with this.
Lack of communication
The relationship is built on the feeling of being needed all the time
You don't have the same core values
Brings you more pain than joy
Holds you back and prevents you from growing

]]> 2021-06-14 17:04:17 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1605606229 Safety planning tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618072379 Create a Safety Plan - The Hotline]]> 2021-06-21 17:35:08 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618072379 Podmapping: figuring out who supports you tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618097497 https://transformharm.org/pods-and-pod-mapping-worksheet/]]> 2021-06-21 17:51:44 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618097497 Bystander intervention tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618099607 2021-06-21 17:53:02 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618099607 tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618213598 How To Give A Good Apology
https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2019/12/18/how-to-give-a-good-apology-part-1-the-four-parts-of-accountability/]]> 2021-06-21 19:12:04 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618213598 Quizzes! tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618214276 Is your relationship healthy? Is your partner changing? Are you a good partner? 

https://www.loveisrespect.org/quizzes/]]> 2021-06-21 19:12:38 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618214276 Accountability tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618215973 2021-06-21 19:13:54 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618215973 Feelings vs. Evaluations tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618216627 How to tell when a feeling is actually an evaluation

]]> 2021-06-21 19:14:21 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1618216627 What makes you feel powerless? How can we change that? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1640814969 2021-07-07 20:22:39 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1640814969 Our Contact Info tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646020204 Tessa Kuipers
312-747-5493
T.Kuipers@FamilyRescueInc.org
003rd District Police Department
7040 South Cottage Grove Avenue

 Cecilia Limon
 312-325-9304
 C.Limon@FamilyRescueInc.org
 Domestic Violence Circuit Courthouse
 555 W. Harrison Street

Quintrail Thomas
872-702-4397
Q.Thomas@familyrescueinc.org
Area South Police Station
727 E 111th Street
]]> 2021-07-12 14:41:32 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646020204 Presentation tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646020796 2021-07-12 14:42:03 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646020796 Examples of physical, sexual & digital violence tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646023142 2021-07-12 14:43:39 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646023142 Examples of emotional, psychological, financial violence? tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646023547 Gaslighting- victim brings up a specific concern and the abuser says they're crazy. 
Using their mental illness against them. 
Isolation- breaking down your support system
Jealousy
Threats
Financial- controls the money, taking the survivor's money and controlling their money, calling up to work]]> 2021-07-12 14:43:58 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646023547 What I think DV is https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646222797 I think domestic violence is when someone is being abused or mistreated by someone they are close to. ]]> 2021-07-12 18:01:45 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646222797 tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646223106 Privacy/ distancing yourself from people 
Abuse

]]> 2021-07-12 18:02:08 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646223106 tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646224227 Person who is committing violence is someone that the victim trusted with multiple things- especially their mental and physical health. Someone they thought they were safe with. Broken trust. ]]> 2021-07-12 18:03:31 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646224227 Examples Physical Domestic Violence https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646239694 Slapping, pinching, hitting
Additional: choking, not letting someone sleep or eat, shoving

]]> 2021-07-12 18:23:05 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646239694 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646242645 Examples of domestic violence 
Hitting,slapping,punching]]> 2021-07-12 18:26:27 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646242645 Electronic DV: https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646247734 Obligating someone/ your partner to send inappropriate fotos or text messages. 
Harassing over the phone
Threatening over the phone, messages, or social media

]]> 2021-07-12 18:32:23 UTC https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646247734 Sexual violence tkuipers5 https://padlet.com/tkuipers5/k1scuq94goi48ygf/wish/1646251355 Forcing someone to do sexual acts with you
Coercing someone into sex with money, housing, physical threats, etc. 
"Stealthing": removing a condom during sex without someone's knowledge
Forcing someone to not use protection


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