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My view

ecorn01 — 2018-08-21 00:59:40 UTC

I think that abstinence is very important for young people today and their future relationships, although this is each person's individual choice. This is very dependant on various factors in each individual's life, including: religion, culture, values and ethics. I am a Christian, so I believe that abstinence a very important part of my religion and part of the journey through Christ. Some other aspects of my life that affect my view are society (including movies and books) and my friends/family.

How my worldview has influenced this

ecorn01 — 2018-08-21 01:16:06 UTC

I think that my religion has been the main factor affecting my view. I have been brought up to understand that other people have different worldviews, but that does not make them wrong, and I should respect that. My worldview has enabled me to see other's views and opinions and take that on board. I think that because my worldview is very accepting of other people, I can be moved and change my view to fit with other influences

How I have been influenced by my spiritual/ religious beliefs

ecorn01 — 2018-08-21 01:28:06 UTC

My journey with God has influenced me by helping me to learn how to respect the time that I have before marriage and my body. My belief is that abstinence should be practiced, as is written in the Bible. Many articles agree with this, including How your premarital experiences can affect your future marriage. Even though my religion affects my view, this is not the only factor that influences my view.

How my spirituality/ religion impacts other people's decisions/views

ecorn01 — 2018-08-28 00:29:00 UTC

I am very accepting of other's views and am careful not to force what I think on them. I do present my views and show comparisons with others, so that other people can see what I believe and come to know and understand it better. Despite this, I feel that what I think doesn't strongly impact those around me because I am very welcoming of other views and opinions.

Views supporting and opposing my argument

ecorn01 — 2018-08-28 00:35:40 UTC

There are many views to support my view, including:
- My religion, which talks about abstinence and how it is very encouraged
- Various studies, such as How your premarital experiences can affect your future marriage (source of two later quotes), which refers to research supporting abstinence
- "Couples who 'slide' rather than 'decide' their way through life-changing transitions like having sex, living together and becoming pregnant are less likely to report high-quality marriages"
- "The researchers noted that past experience- notably sex, romantic ties and children- is linked to future marital quality and can impact it negatively."

Some views opposing my view are:
- Marriage isn't important
- "Any kind of sexual activity that takes place releases chemicals in our brains. For women, it is primarily the hormone oxytocin, and for men it is vasopressin...Some call it the “commitment hormone” or “monogamy molecule”. This hormone generates a desire for commitment and rouses loyalty." (The invisible effects of sex before marriage, 2016)
- Abstinence isn't relevant in society, more accepted in society, values in society changing (Ethan Gawley)
- Sex isn't a big thing anymore, marriage is just a piece of paper.
- If you love someone enough, marriage shouldn't be a problem
- Sex before marriage isn't a big problem, society has changed a lot (Cassandra Domingo)

Relevance of abstinence today

ecorn01 — 2018-08-28 01:04:00 UTC

I think that views today are very different and people have different views on what it is and what it means. Abstinence is usually though of as 'no sex until marriage' , as is encouraged in the Christian faith. However, abstinence may mean no sex, no drinking or any kind of relationship. Many young people do not understand what abstinence is or how it is relevant in society today, although it is still used in religions, including Christianity, Judaism, Islam and Hinduism. In most of these pre-marital sex is considered a strong societal taboo. The relevance of abstinence is really dependant on the person and their beliefs/ values.

Marriage in Ancient Egypt

ecorn01 — 2018-08-31 01:24:54 UTC

In Ancient Egypt, there was no idea of marriage, the partners simply moved in with each other. Women's rights were on par with their male counterpart (legal rights depended on their social standing). I think that these ideas are still relevant in today's society and is a good idea to build a healthy relationship on. The Ancient Egyptian ideas allowed equal rights and a free and open relationship for both impacted parties.

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ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:30:49 UTC

Dating in Central Europe

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:31:18 UTC

In Central Europe, it is common for groups of friends to go on dates together for movies or sleepovers. The bill for this is usually split one-to-one. I think that this is a good idea because it allows the old proverb of 'safety in numbers' to take action. This can also make dates less awkward because everyone knows everyone.

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:35:43 UTC

Dating in Japan and South Korea

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:36:15 UTC

Teenagers in Japan don't usually date, and prefer to keep their schooling years focussed in study and sport. In college, males ask girls out and pay for the dates. PDA is considered taboo. Men need to be subtle and tactful. I think that this is very important in a relationship, especially PDA and physical intimacy, as it allows the couple to get to know each other. However, in a world where feminism is growing, the idea of men controlling the relationship is becoming outdated.

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:45:46 UTC

Medieval Christian Marriage

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:46:51 UTC

Marriage was considered to be made in heaven, therefore could not be broken. Father of the bride gave a dowry to the groom. These people could marry anywhere, they only needed consent from both people and the priest. If unsuccessful, neither can remarry. Although some of these ideas are outdated, consent and marriage are both still relevant today.

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:53:56 UTC

Abstinence in Judaism

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 00:54:28 UTC

Some of Judaism's ideas are still relevant to most, as although premarital sex is not encouraged and doesn't strengthen faith, it is not discouraged either. This allows people to make their own decisions about the subject.

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 01:11:32 UTC

Dating in Australia

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 01:12:01 UTC

'Aussie' dating is well-known for it's lack of rules. Serious dating doesn't start until 18-19. I think that this could be a good idea as it gives teens time become mature. Dates are usually dinner parties and the beach, which allows relationships to be more casual and laid-back.

Bibliography

ecorn01 — 2018-09-04 01:24:00 UTC

The invisible effects of sex before marriage 2016, accessed 4 September 2018, .

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